Umhlahlandlela Womuntu Okhathazayo Wokuxoxisana Ngomsebenzi

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• Ngaphambi kokuthi uhambe: Yamukela 'okuphezulu' kwengcindezi
• Yini i-heck 'eustress'?
• Isikweletu esingeziwe!
• Isikhathi sokubonisa: Nakekela impilo yakho engokomzimba
• Ukucabangela? Kuzwakala kungamanga, kodwa KULUNGILE.
• Ngidinga ukukhululeka kokukhathazeka. NGOKUSHESHA.
• Umphumela: Ungakhohlwa ngozwela
• Ukwamukela? Angikaze ngizwe ngakho.
• Khumbula ukuthi ukukhathazeka kungenye yezimo ezivame kakhulu laphaya. Awuwedwa!

Ngubani empeleni odinga ukukhokhelwa, noma kunjalo?

Uhleli egumbini lokulinda lebhilidi, ulalele ukuthi igama lakho libizwe.

Ugijimisa imibuzo engahle ibe khona engqondweni yakho, uzama ngamandla ukukhumbula izimpendulo ozijwayeze. Yini obekufanele uyisho uma bebuza ngaleyo minyaka phakathi kwemisebenzi? Yiliphi lelo buzzword umqashi wakho ayelokhu elisho - ukusebenzisana? Yini ngisho kuyinto ukusebenzisana?

Usula izintende zezandla zakho ezijulukile ebhulukweni lakho unethemba lokuthi umuntu ozobuza imibuzo ngeke abone ukuthi zinomswakama kangakanani lapho uzoxhawula (obukwenza futhi). Bakungenisa egumbini lezingxoxo futhi wonke amehlo akubhekile. Njengoba uskena igumbi ngokuthola ubuso obuqinisekisayo, uzithola ukhungathekiswe yi-imposter syndrome, isisu sakho singamafindo.

Ngokungazelelwe umqondo wokubuyela ngaphansi kwezembozo ubuke iNetflix ubukeka njenge- okuningi ukukhetha impilo engcono kunokuxoxisana nalo msebenzi. Ngubani empeleni izidingo ukukhokha noma kunjalo?

Ukuxoxisana ngomsebenzi akulula neze. Kepha kubantu abahlushwa ukukhathazeka, ukuxoxisana nomsebenzi kungaphezu kokucindezela. Eqinisweni, kungakhubaza ngokuphelele, kuvimbele abanye bethu ekuboniseni nhlolokhono nhlobo.

Manje wenzani? Lo mhlahlandlela uzokwephula izingxoxo zangaphambili, phakathi nangemva kwengxoxo yomsebenzi, ukuze ukwazi ukuphatha ukukhathazeka kwakho futhi ukubophele - futhi ngokuprakthiza, uwuthole umsebenzi!

Ngaphambi kokuthi uhambe: Yamukela 'okuphezulu' kwengcindezi

Ungayicindezeli kude: Ukukhathazeka kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi uyayikhathalela inhlolokhono futhi ufuna ukwenza kahle. Ukuzitshela ukuthi ungakhathazeki empeleni kungenzeka ukuthi kukwenze ukhathazeke ngokwengeziwe.

Ngakho-ke “ukwamukela” ingcindezi eqhuma ngaphambi kwengxoxo yakho, nokuzilungiselela ngokwengqondo ngakho, kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukukhathazeka ozizwa ngakho ngenxa yalokho.

“Nakuba kuzwakala kuhlekisa, ukutolika ukukhathazeka kwakho ngokuthile okuzokusiza ukuba uzilungiselele kangcono kungasiza kakhulu,” kusho uDkt. Jacinta M. Jiménez, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nomqeqeshi wobuholi oqinisekiswe yibhodi.

Eqinisweni, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseStanford uKelly McGonigal wenze ucwaningo ukukhombisa ukuthi ukwamukela ukucindezeleka kubaluleke kakhulu ukukunciphisa. "Ingcindezi ayilimazi ngaso sonke isikhathi," kusho i-athikili yeStanford. Uma nje usubonile ukuthi ukubhekana nokucindezeleka kukwenza ubhekane nakho kangcono, kungaba lula ukubhekana nenselelo ngayinye entsha. ”

Esikhundleni sokuba yisibonakaliso sokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngempilo yakho, ukuzizwa ucindezelekile kungasitshela ukuthi senza imisebenzi nobudlelwano obubalulekile kithi - okuyinto enhle ekugcineni!

Ukushintsha inkhulumomphendvulwano ebuchosheni bethu kungasisiza sivumelane nezimo, futhi sinciphise izimbangela ezingakhuphula ukukhathazeka kwethu.

Yini i-heck 'eustress'?

Uma ubheka ukusebenzisa "ukucindezeleka okuhle," kukhona umhlahlandlela okufanele uwubheke lapha.

Yenza ukuhlolwa komcabango: Ngosuku olungaphambi kwengxoxo yakho, kungasiza ukubhala phansi imicabango eqhubeka engqondweni yakho. Lokhu kusiza ukukhipha imicabango yakho ekhathazayo futhi uyenze ibambeke kakhudlwana.

Okulandelayo, hamba emcabangweni ngamunye bese uzibuze, ‘Ingabe lokhu kuyiqiniso? Ingabe bukhona ubufakazi bangempela balo mcabango? ’

Ukuzibuza le mibuzo kungakusiza ukuthi uphume engqondweni yakho yemizwa uye kweyakho enengqondo, kukushiye ugxile kakhulu. Futhi uma le micabango ivela ngesikhathi sokuxoxwa kwakho, uzokwazi ukuyixazulula ngaphakathi ngokushesha futhi uphinde ubheke kabusha.

Isikweletu esingeziwe!

Uma ufuna izindlela zokuhlela imicabango yakho nemizwa engadingeki, lo msebenzi ungasiza.

Isikhathi sokubonisa: Nakekela impilo yakho engokomzimba

Usuku lwenhlolokhono yakho selufikile. Uzijwayeze esibukweni, uzilungiselele ukukhathazeka. Manje yisikhathi sokubonisa. Uma unakekela impilo yakho yomzimba ngobusuku bangaphambi nangosuku lwayo, kungenzeka ubone imiphumela emihle ngesikhathi senqubo yangempela yokuxoxisana!

Zijwayeze ukucabanga: Khulisa ukuqwashisa ngezimpawu zomzimba emzimbeni wakho lapho uzizwa ukhathazekile. Uyazikhumbula lezo zintende ezijulukayo zangaphambilini? Zingasebenza njengesikhumbuzo sokuzibeka phansi kumzuzu wamanje ngokuthulisa umzimba wakho.

Isibonelo, uma uzwa ifindo esiswini sakho, ukuqina esifubeni sakho, ukungezwani entanyeni noma emahlombe, umhlathi oboshiwe, noma inhliziyo yokujaha, sebenzisa lokho njengesikhumbuzo sokubuyisa ukunaka kwengqondo yakho lapha nakalokhu.

Ukucabangela? Kuzwakala kungamanga, kodwa KULUNGILE.

Uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani ukucabanga, zama la macebo okucabanga ngokukhathazeka.

Nakekela kahle impela: Lala ubuthongo obuningi futhi uqiniseke ukuthi udla ibhulakufesi elinomsoco elingakunikeza amandla isikhathi eside.Cabanga ngento enoshukela omncane kanye ne-carbs ukugwema ukuphahlazeka kwamandla ngokuhamba kosuku! Eqinisweni, uma ungakwenza, yeqa inkomishi yekhofi ngaphambi kwengxoxo. Cabanga ngenkomishi yekhofi njengokwelashwa kwakho ngemuva kokuphela kwengxoxo.

Pakisha uwoyela obalulekile kuwe, njenge-lavender, engaqeda ukuthula okwesikhashana. Beka amachashazi ezihlakalweni nasemapulseini ngaphambi kokungena. Uma i-CBD isebenza ukukudambisa, thatha i-gummy ye-CBD bese uyisebenzisa.

ukuthi ukulalela umculo ngaphambi kokucindezelwa okujwayelekile kungasiza uhlelo lwezinzwa ukuthi lusheshe lusheshe, kanye nempendulo yokucindezeleka kwengqondo. Cabanga ukwenza uhlu lwadlalwayo lokumpompa, noma ulalele umculo osiza ukukuthambisa njengoba ushayela noma uya engxoxweni.

Zama ukugxila kwimantra enhle. Wenze umsebenzi. Ufanele lo msebenzi. Zikhumbuze ngalokho.

Ngidinga ukukhululeka kokukhathazeka. NGOKUSHESHA.

Ufuna amathuluzi wokubhekana ngokushesha wokukhathazeka? Sinomhlahlandlela walokho, futhi!

Umphumela: Ungakhohlwa ngozwela

Halala! Uphumelele ngokusebenzisa ingxoxo. Manje phefumulela phezulu ngoba ingxenye enzima isiphelile. Ingxenye elandelayo, ukulinda, kudinga ukubekezela, nokuzwela okuningi kuwe.

Prakthiza ukwamukelwa okukhulu: Ngamanye amazwi? Yazi lokho uzobe ulungile kungakhathalekile umphumela. Kwesinye isikhathi umsebenzi wokuqala noma owesihlanu ovelayo awulona ilungelo elifanele, kepha lokho akusho ukuthi umsebenzi ofanele awukho kuwe!

“Lapho uthola okunamathiselwe emphumeleni, maningi amathuba okuthi ubambe, unamathele, futhi ulwele ukuthola lowo mphumela, wandise amathuba okuhlupheka kwakho uma umphumela ungahambi ngendlela yakho,” kusho uJoree Rose, umelaphi onelayisense womshado nomndeni. "Ngakho-ke ngena ngokuzethemba nangokulungiselela, futhi makulunge uma ungakutholi."

Ukwamukela? Angikaze ngizwe ngakho.

Awuqinisekile ukuthi "ukwamukela ngokuphelele" ukukhathazeka kwakho? Sinamasu amahlanu wokuzama.

Bungaza noma yini: Kuyasiza ukuba nohlelo lokugubha kungakhathalekile ukuthi inhlolokhono ihambe kanjani. Yenza uhlelo nomngane wakho ukuze nidle isidlo sakusihlwa noma iziphuzo ngemuva kwengxoxo.

Ukwenza okuthile okuhle noma ngabe isipiliyoni sihambe kanjani kungakunika okuthile ongakulindela, futhi ukuba nomngane otholakalayo ukukunikeza umbono kuzosiza ukunciphisa ukukhathazeka kwakho. Into yokugcina ofuna ukuyenza ukuya ekhaya wedwa futhi ube nengxoxo ekuphindweni ekhanda lakho ubusuku bonke!

Ungakucabangi ukulandelela kwakho: Ukuthumela i-imeyili "Ngiyabonga" kunoma ngubani okhulume naye kuyindlela enhle uma kukhulunywa ngezingxoxo zomsebenzi, kodwa ungavumeli ukuthi ikwengeze ekucindezelekeni kwakho. Asikho isidingo sokucabanga ngokweqile nge-imeyili!

Kalula, “Ngiyabonga kakhulu ngesikhathi sakho. Ngiyalijabulela leli thuba. Kube yintokozo ukuhlangana nawe futhi ngilangazelele ukuzwa kuwe, ”kuzokwenza.

Khumbula ukuthi ukukhathazeka kungenye yezimo ezivame kakhulu laphaya. Awuwedwa!

"Esikhundleni sokuzigxeka njengoba uqhubeka nale nqubo, zama ukubandakanya futhi uphendule izwi lakho langaphakathi ngendlela efanayo obuzokhuluma ngayo nomngane osondelene naye noma othandekayo," kusho uDkt Jiménez.

Labo abaqhuba ingxoxo yakho bonke bake baba nababuzwa imibuzo ngesikhathi esisodwa, futhi bayazi ukuthi ingxoxo ikhiqiza ukukhathazeka kangakanani. Amathuba ukuthi, bazoba nozwela noma ngabe ingxoxo yakho ihambe kanjani.

Yiba nomusa kuwe - uma ungeke ubeke phansi umngani ngemuva kwengxoxo, kungani ungazibeka phansi? Ziqhenye ngokwazi ukuthi isikhathi ngasinye lapho ubhekene nokwesaba kwakho, uya usimama ngokwengeziwe kubo, noma ngabe uyini umphumela.

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