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Ziyanda izintokazi ezivulekayo ngobulili bazo, ngokusho kocwaningo lukazwelonke olwenziwe yiCenters for Disease Control and Prevention olukhishwe ngenyanga edlule. Bangaphezu kwamaphesenti amahlanu abesifazane abathi bathanda ubulili obubili kulokhu, uma kuqhathaniswa namaphesenti angu-3.9 lapho ucwaningo lugcina ukwenziwa ngo-2011. Kodwa ukuba nobulili obubili kusengaba nzima. "Uma umuntu ekhomba ukuthi uqondile noma uyisitabane, kulula ukuthola umphakathi owamukelayo, kepha uma uhlangana nabesilisa nabesifazane, mancane amathuba," kusho u-Aron C. Janssen, MD, uprofesa osizayo emtholampilo e-NYU Langone Medical Center, ogxile kwezobulili ucansi. "Abantu bobulili obubili bavame ukuthola ukucwaswa nokuchema kuwo womabili amaqembu."

Ngaphezu kwalokho, abacwaningi abavela eLondon School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine bahlola abesifazane ababalelwa kwabangu-1 000 abesilisa nabesifazane kanye nabesifazane abangaphezu kuka-4 500 base-UK futhi bathola umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwabantu phakathi kwala maqembu womabili - okungukuthi abesifazane abesilisa nabesifazane babemncane futhi benciphile ngokwezimali kunabongqingili. Ukwahlukahluka okukhulu kwezempilo yengqondo kwavela futhi. Uma kuqhathaniswa nabathandana nobulili obufanayo, abesilisa nabesifazane babenamathuba angamaphesenti angama-64 okubika izingqinamba zokudla, amaphesenti angama-26 amathuba okuthi azizwe edabukile noma ecindezelekile, kanti amaphesenti angama-37 kungenzeka ukuthi azilimazile ngonyaka odlule. (Ingabe bewazi ukuthi inhlanganisela yokuzivocavoca nokuzindla kunganciphisa ukucindezeleka?)

Kunzima ukwenza ukwenziwa okucacile kokuthi kungani lezi zinkinga zithinta abesilisa nabesifazane kakhulu kunabesilisa abathandana nabobulili obufanayo noma abesilisa abesilisa nabesifazane ngoba iningi labesilisa abesilisa nabesifazane bajabule ngokuphelele. Kepha ukubandlululwa okuphindwe kabili okuqhamuka emiphakathini yomibili eqondile nongqingili kudlala indima enkulu. "Kunomqondo obizwa ngokuthi yi-minority stress lapho ukuba yingcosana kwabantu ababencishwe amathuba kuholela ekwandeni kwengcindezi futhi lokho kungaholela emiphumeleni emibi kwezempilo yezengqondo nasezikhungweni zezokwelapha," kusho uJanssen.

Ezimweni eziningi, lokhu kucindezela kungalandelwa emuva ebusheni. Ubungqingili, ngisho nangaphezu kobungqingili, kungaholela ekuhlukunyezweni esikoleni. "Ngokuvamile, ukuhlukumezeka kwasebuntwaneni kungaqagela izinto ezihlukumezayo lapho sebekhulile," kusho uJanssen. "Uma uhlukunyezwa usemncane, maningi amathuba okuthi uqhubeke nalo mjikelezo lapho usumdala futhi uzithole usebudlelwaneni lapho uyisisulu sokuhlukunyezwa." Abesifazane abangaphezu kwamaphesenti angama-46 abesilisa nabesifazane bathola ukudlwengulwa empilweni yabo, ngokusho kocwaningo lwakamuva lweNational Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey oluvela eCenters for Disease Control and Prevention. Lokho kukhuphuka okuphawulekayo kusuka kumaphesenti ayi-13.1 abesifazane besifazane abathandana nobulili obufanayo kanye namaphesenti angu-17.4 wabesifazane abesilisa nabesifazane abenza ubungqingili.

Ngaphezu kwakho konke, cishe ikota yabantu abathandana nabesifazane abanawo umshuwalense wezempilo, uma kuqhathaniswa namaphesenti angama-20 wabantu abathandana nobulili obufanayo nabesilisa kanye nabesilisa abathandana nabobulili obufanayo, uthola umbiko ovela kuKaiser Family Foundation. Lokhu kungenzeka ngenxa yokwehluka kwemali engenayo noma ukumane kungazi ngezinketho zomshuwalense laphaya, kusho u-Alina Salganicoff, Ph.D., iphini likamongameli kanye nomqondisi wenqubomgomo yezempilo yabesifazane eKaiser Family Foundation.

Ngenhlanhla, abesifazane abesilisa nabesifazane bangathatha izinyathelo eziningana zokuzivikela bona-kanye nempilo yabo-kulezi zingcuphe.

Thola Umshuwalense

Izindaba ezimnandi isenzo sokuthola umshwalense sesithole ukubonga okulula kuMthetho Wokunakekelwa Okungabizi kakhulu nokuchithwa koMthetho Wezokuvikela Umshado, kusho uSalganicoff. Manje kuphambene nomthetho ukwenqaba umshwalense osekelwe esimweni esivele sikhona-njengesifo sengqondo noma ukutheleleka nge-HIV. Futhi abathanda ubulili obubili manje baye banda ukusabalala phakathi kwabalingani bobulili obufanayo nabaqashi; ukuchithwa koMthetho Wokuvikela Umshado kusho ukuthi abantu bobulili obufanayo abashadile bangazuza kumshwalense wezempilo wabalingani babo. Futhi umbono wabangaqinisekisiwe kungenzeka ungabi mubi njengoba kubonakala. Imininingwane esinayo ivela ngaphambi koMthetho Wokunakekelwa Ongabizi kakhulu kanye nokwenqatshwa koMthetho Wezokuvikela Umshado kube nomthelela impela, kusho uSalganicoff. Kulezi zinsuku, kulula ukuthola umshuwalense, ngakho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi kunabesifazane abambalwa abangaqinisekisiwe abesilisa nabesifazane abangaqinisekisiwe kunangonyaka ka-2013.

Vikela Impilo Yakho Yengqondo

Thatha elinye igxathu futhi uzivikele nangokwengqondo. "Inhloso nganoma yiluphi uhlelo lokwelashwa komuntu ngamunye ukuthi luqondene nomuntu ngamunye," kusho uJanssen. Lokho kusho ukuthi welashelwa impilo yengqondo, noma ngabe ungowabesilisa nabesifazane, uqondile, noma ungungqingili, kufanele kusondele ukunakekelwa komuntu siqu okufanayo. Kukhona nezindlela zokukhulisa impilo yakho yengqondo ngaphandle kwehhovisi likadokotela. Abantu abathandana nobulili obubili mancane amathuba okuthi baphumele obala baye kubangani nomndeni wabo ngoba bazizwa becwaswa kakhulu, ngokusho kwabacwaningi base-UK. Ukuphuma kubangani nomndeni kungaba isenzo esihle-futhi kusize umphakathi wabantu bobulili obubili ezingeni elikhudlwana. "Ukuqhubekela phambili ngithi, 'Ubuyena lobu,' kuzosiza ekuqedeni leyo mingcele," kusho uJanssen. "Ukwakha umphakathi wabantu bobulili obubili kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu, futhi kubalulekile ukuthi uvuleke futhi uthembeke ngokuthi ungubani." (Ikhathazekile Ngezempilo? Izinhlelo Ezingcono Kakhulu Zokusekela Ku-inthanethi.)

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Abesifazane abesilisa nabesifazane abahlukunyezwa esikhathini esedlule kufanele baphathe ubungozi babo obandayo bodlame lwasekhaya ngendlela abesifazane abanohlu lozalo lomdlavuza webele abenza ngayo: ngokubona ubungozi nokuthatha izinyathelo zokuphepha ukuze bahlale bephephile, kusho uSalganicoff. Uma ubudlelwano obunodlame busivele bukhona, abesifazane abaqondile, abathandana nabobulili obufanayo ngokufanayo kufanele bashayele inombolo yocingo lwasendlini ngo-800-787-3224 ukwenza uhlelo lokuphepha luqale ukusebenza.

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