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• Wonke umuntu unendaba yebele
• Akulula ukukhula njengomuntu wesifazane eNdiya

Iphrojekthi etholwe yisixuku ku-Instagram ihlinzeka ngendawo ephephile yabesifazane yokukhuluma ngamabele abo.

Nsuku zonke, lapho umculi waseMumbai u-Indu Harikumar evula i-Instagram noma i-imeyili yakhe, uthola inqwaba yezindaba zomuntu siqu, imininingwane esondelene nezimpilo zabantu, kanye nama-nudes.

Abazicelile, noma kunjalo. Sekuyinto ejwayelekile kuHarikumar ngemuva kokuthi aqale i-Identitty, iphrojekthi yobuciko obubukwa ngabantu abaningi emema abesifazane ukuthi babelane ngezindaba zabo nemizwa yabo ngamabele abo.

Njengomuntu ohlale enezingxoxo eziku-inthanethi mayelana nobulili, ubunikazi, nomzimba, uHarikumar unamaphrojekthi amaningi atholwa yisixuku.

Eyakhe yokuqala, # 100IndianTinderTales, ifaka imifanekiso yakhe ekhombisa okwenzeka kumaNdiya asebenzisa uhlelo lokuphola iTinder. Ubuye futhi waqala iphrojekthi ebizwa nge- # BodyofStories egxile ezingxoxweni mayelana nokuhlazeka komzimba nokuzethemba komzimba.

Akumangazi ukuthi u-Identitty uvela engxoxweni eyodwa enjalo. Umngani utshele uHarikumar ngokuthi ubhasikidi wakhe omkhulu wamthola kanjani ukunakwa okungafuneki nokuthi uzizwa kanjani ngokuphendula kwabantu namazwana angacelwanga. Wayehlala “eyintombazane enezinsumpa ezinkulu.” Babeyinto eyihlazo; ngisho nomama wakhe wamtshela ukuthi ayikho indoda engafuna ukuba naye kwazise izibunu zakhe zazinkulu kakhulu futhi zinomunyu.

UHarikumar, naye, wabelane ngolwazi lwakhe lokukhula enesifuba esicwebezelayo, elandisa ukuthukwa nokuphawula ayejwayele ukukuthola kwabanye. “Besisezinhlangothini ezehlukene ze-spectrum [ngokobukhulu]. Izindaba zethu bezihluke kakhulu kanti futhi ziyefana, ”kusho uHarikumar.

Indaba yalo mngani yaba isiqeshana esihle sobuciko, uHarikumar abelana ngaso ku-Instagram, kanye nendaba yomngani wakhe ngamazwi akhe kumagama-ncazo. Nge-Identitty, uHarikumar uhlose ukuhlola ubudlelwano besifazane namabele abo kuzo zonke izigaba ezahlukene zokuphila.

Wonke umuntu unendaba yebele

Lezi zindaba zikhombisa imizwa ehlukahlukene: amahloni nokululazeka ngosayizi webele; ukwamukelwa ‘’ kwemithetho ”; ulwazi namandla ekufundeni ngamabele; ithonya ababengaba nalo ekamelweni lokulala; nenjabulo yokubukisa ngayo njengezimpahla.

AmaBras ngesinye isihloko esishisayo. Owesifazane oyedwa ukhuluma ngokuthola ukulingana okuphelele eneminyaka engama-30. Omunye ulandisa ukuthi uthole kanjani ukuthi o-brashi abagwedliwe ngaphandle kwe-underwire bamsiza ukuthi angafundi ukuthi kunjani "ukufakwa i-ayina."

Futhi kungani i-Instagram? Ingxenyekazi yezokuxhumana inikeza isikhala esisondelene nokho esavumela uHarikumar ukuthi agcine ibanga lapho izinto ziba nzima. Uyakwazi ukusebenzisa isici sombuzo wesitika ezindabeni ze-Instagram ukuqala ingxoxo. Ube esekhetha ukuthi yimiphi imilayezo azoyifunda futhi ayiphendule, ngoba uthola okuningi.

Ngesikhathi ebiza izindaba, uHarikumar ucela abantu ukuthi bahambise isithombe sombala wokugcwala kwabo nokuthi bangathanda ukuthi kudwetshwe kanjani amabele abo.

Abesifazane abaningi bacela ukudonswa njengonkulunkulukazi u-Aphrodite; njengesifundo somculi waseNdiya uRaja Ravi Varma; phakathi kwezimbali; ngezingubo zangaphansi; esibhakabhakeni; noma nqunu, no-Oreos emboza izingono zabo (kusuka kokuthunyelwe “ngoba mina ngiwukudla okulula, kufakiwe izingwe”).

UHarikumar uchitha cishe izinsuku ezimbili eguqula ukuthunyelwa kwesithombe ngasinye nendaba kube isiqeshana sobuciko, ezama ukuhlala eyiqiniso ngangokunokwenzeka esithombeni somuntu ngenkathi efuna ukukhuthazwa kwakhe kubaculi abehlukene.

Kulezi zingxoxo ezimayelana namabele nemizimba yabo, abesifazane abaningi baphinde baxoxe ngomzabalazo wokuvumelanisa noma "wokukhama" amabele abo emabhokisini wokufisa okuchazwe yisiko elidumile, nokuthi bafuna ukwehlukana kanjani nengcindezi yokubukeka njengekaVictoria Amamodeli ayimfihlo.

Umuntu ongeyena owokuthula ukhuluma ngokufuna isitho somzimba ngoba “ukuba khona kwamabele ami kuyangihlupha.”

Kukhona abesifazane abasindile ekuhlukunyezweni ngokocansi, kwesinye isikhathi benziwa umuntu emndenini wabo. Kunabesifazane asebeluleme ekuhlinzweni. Kukhona omama nezithandwa.

Iphrojekthi iqale ngaphandle kwe-ajenda, kepha i-Identitty yaphenduka indawo yozwela, ukuba nezingxoxo, nokubungaza ubuhle bomzimba.

Izindaba ezabiwe ku-Identitty zivela kwabesifazane bazo zonke izizinda ezihlukene, ubudala, inani labantu, kanye namazinga ahlukahlukene wezipiliyoni zocansi. Iningi lazo limayelana nabesifazane abazama ukudlula eminyakeni yobukhokho, ukunganakwa, amahloni, kanye nengcindezelo ukwamukela nokubuyisa imizimba yabo.

Okuningi kwalokhu kuhlobene nomphakathi wamanje kanye nesiko lokuthula eligcwele imizimba yabesifazane eNdiya.

"Abesifazane babhala bethi," Yile ndlela engizizwe ngayo impela 'noma' Kungenze ngazizwa ngingeyedwa. 'Kunamahloni kakhulu, futhi awukhulumi ngakho ngoba ucabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu unalolu hlobo. Kwesinye isikhathi kufanele ubone izinto ezikhulunywa ngomunye umuntu ukuze ubone ukuthi uzizwa kanjani nawe, ”kusho uHarikumar.

Ubuye athole nemiyalezo evela kwabesilisa abathi lezi zindaba zibasiza ukuthi baqonde kangcono abesifazane nobudlelwano babo namabele abo.

Akulula ukukhula njengomuntu wesifazane eNdiya

Imizimba yabesifazane eNdiya imvamisa iphoyisa, ilawulwa, futhi ihlukunyezwa kakhulu - iyahlukunyezwa. Kunezinkulumo eziningi ngalokho abesifazane okungafanele bakugqoke noma okungafanele bakwenze kunokuthi izimpahla aziholeli ekudlwengulweni. Ama-neckline agcinwa ephezulu neziketi ziphansi ukuze zifihle umzimba wowesifazane futhi zinamathele ezimisweni “zesizotha” osekuyisikhathi eside ziphethwe.

Ngakho-ke, kunamandla ukubona i-Identitty isiza ukuguqula indlela abesifazane ababona ngayo amabele nemizimba yabo. Njengoba omunye wabesifazane (umdansi wase-Odissi) etshela uHarikumar, “Umzimba uyinto enhle. Imigqa yayo namajika ayo nemijikelezo yayo kufanele kubongwe, kujatshulelwe, kuhlalwe kuyo, futhi kunakekelwe, hhayi ukwahlulelwa. ”

Thatha udaba lweSunetra *. Ukhule enamabele amancane futhi kwadingeka ahlinzwe kaningi ukuze kususwe izigaxa kuwo. Ngenkathi ekuqaleni engakwazanga ukuncelisa izibulo lakhe - izinsuku eziyishumi ngemuva kokubeletha, akakwazanga ukugcwala - wagcwala ukungazethembi nokuzithemba.

Kwathi ngolunye usuku, ngomlingo, wanamathela, futhi uSunetra wakwazi ukumondla, imini nobusuku, izinyanga eziyi-14. Uthi kwakubuhlungu futhi kuyakhathaza, kepha wayeziqhenya ngaye futhi esenenhlonipho entsha ngamabele akhe ngokondla izingane zakhe.

Ngomfanekiso weSunetra, uHarikumar wasebenzisa iHokusai's "The Great Wave" ebonakala emzimbeni weSunetra sengathi ukukhombisa amandla aqukethwe ngaphakathi kwamabele akhe.

"Ngiyawathanda amabele ami amancane ngenxa yalokho abakwenzile kumatotoshe ami amancane," kubhala uSunsra kimi. “Ubukhazikhazi bunikeza abantu ithuba lokuthi balahle imikhuba yabo futhi bakhulume ngezinto abebengeke benze ngenye indlela. Ngenxa yokufinyeleleka, maningi amathuba okuthi bathole umuntu okhomba ngendaba yakhe. ”

USunetra ubefuna ukuxoxa indaba yakhe atshele abanye besifazane ukuthi yize izinto zingase zibe nzima manje, ekuhambeni kwesikhathi konke kuzoba ngcono.

Futhi yilokho futhi okungenze ngabamba iqhaza kwi-Identitty: ithuba lokutshela abesifazane izinto can futhi kuthanda ube ngcono.

Nami ngikhule ngikholwa wukuthi kumele ngimboze umzimba wami. Njengowesifazane waseNdiya, ngifunde kusenesikhathi ukuthi amabele angcwele njengobuntombi, futhi umzimba wowesifazane uzobanjwa. Ukukhula ngamabele amakhulu kwakusho ukuthi kufanele ngiwagcine eyisicaba ngangokunokwenzeka futhi ngiqinisekise ukuthi izingubo azilethi ukunakwa kuwo.

Lapho ngikhula, ngaqala ukulawula umzimba wami ngokwengeziwe, ngazikhulula ezinkingeni zomphakathi. Ngaqala ukugqoka obhuti abafanele. Ukuba ngowesifazane kungisizile ngashintsha imicabango yami yokuthi abesifazane kufanele bagqoke futhi baziphathe kanjani.

Manje ngizizwa ngikhululekile futhi nginamandla uma ngigqoka iziqongo noma amalokwe akhombisa amajika ami. Ngakho-ke, ngazicelela ukuthi ngidonswe njengowesifazane ovelele, ngiveze amabele akhe ngoba nje kungukukhetha kwakhe ukuwabonisa umhlaba. (Ubuciko busazoshicilelwa.)

Abesifazane basebenzisa imifanekiso nokuthunyelwe kukaHarikumar ukunikeza uzwela, uzwela, nokusekela labo ababelana ngezindaba zabo. Abaningi babelana ngezindaba zabo esigabeni sokuphawula, njengoba i-Identitty inganikeza indawo ephephile lapho kukhulunywa nabangane noma umndeni akuyona into engenzeka.

Ngokuqondene noHarikumar, uthatha ikhefu lesikhashana kwa-Identitty ukugxila emsebenzini oletha imali. Akazamukeli izindaba ezintsha kodwa uhlose ukuqedela okusebhokisi lakhe lokungenayo. Ukukhonjwa kungahle kube ngumbukiso eBengaluru ngo-Agasti.

Amagama ashintshelwe ubumfihlo.

UJoanna Lobo yintatheli ezimele eNdiya obhala ngezinto ezenza impilo yakhe izuze - ukudla okunempilo, ukuhamba, ifa lakhe, nabesifazane abaqinile, abazimele. Thola umsebenzi wakhe lapha.