Ukuziqhenya Kwezingane: Ukuqonda Ukuqashelwa Kosaziwayo

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• Yini Okujwayelekile?
• Kungakanani Okuseqile?
• Kuthiwani Uma Ungamthandi Usaziwayo?

Ukubuka konke

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Izingane ezibabaza osaziwayo akuyona into entsha, futhi akuyona into engavamile ukuthi izingane - ikakhulukazi intsha - zithathe ubuqili ziye ezingeni lokuthatheka. Kepha ngabe kunephuzu lapho ukukhathazeka kwengane yakho u-Justin Bieber kufanele kukunikeze ukukhathazeka?

Nakhu ukuthi ungahlukanisa kanjani ukuthi ukuthakazelisa kwengane yakho ngodumo kungaba ngaphezulu.

Yini Okujwayelekile?

Akukho ukuxilongwa kokukhathazeka kosaziwayo, futhi ezimweni eziningi, ukuthakazelisa kwengane yakho noma kwentsha ngeqhawe lakamuva kuyinto ejwayelekile ngokuphelele.

“Kungokwemvelo ukubabaza abantu, futhi yonke ingane inalokhu ngezinga elithile,” kuchaza uDkt. Timothy Legg, uN.P.P., udokotela ongumhlengikazi ongumhlengikazi oqinisekiswe yibhodi lomndeni. "Osaziwayo baphumelele futhi bakhulu ukwedlula impilo, futhi izingane aziqondi njalo ukuthi kungamabhayisikobho."

Ngisho nezingane ezincane kungenzeka zikhathazeke ngeqhawe noma umlingiswa wekhathuni, kepha entsheni, ukukhulekelwa kwamaqhawe komculi noma isihlabani se-movie cishe kuyisiko lokuhamba.

Njengomzali, kungahle kube lula ukucabanga ukuthi ukunconywa kwengane yakho kunqamula ekuthambekeleni okungenampilo, ikakhulukazi uma ungathandi osaziwayo ababathandayo. Kepha ezimweni eziningi, okukushaya njengokuziphatha okweqisayo kungenzeka kujwayelekile.

“Ukugqoka njengosaziwayo nokushintsha isitayela sakho sezinwele ukuze ubukeke njengosaziwayo kuyindlela ejwayelekile yokuzama ubunikazi obuhlukile nokuthola ukuthi ungubani,” kusho uDkt Legg. Lokho kuziphatha akuyona into okufanele ukhathazeke ngayo.

UDitto ngokujoyina amakilabhu wabalandeli, ngekhanda inhlebo, nokuchitha isikhathi esiningi ecabanga futhi ekhuluma ngosaziwayo. Kuphela uma intshisekelo yengane yakho kosaziwayo iqala ukuphazamisa impilo yansuku zonke lapho kungahle kube khona isizathu sokukhathazeka.

Kungakanani Okuseqile?

Yize kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi ingane yakho ichithe isikhathi esiningi icabanga ngeqhawe layo, kunomkhawulo.

Ukuze ukuthatheka kosaziwayo kuthathwe njengokugula, kudinga ukuhlangabezana nenqubo yokuphazamiseka okuphoqelela ngokweqile.

“Umbuzo uthi usabalele kangakanani,” kusho uDkt Legg. "Ingabe kuphazamisa ikhono lengane lokwenza imisebenzi ebalulekile yansuku zonke?" Njengomzali, uma ukhathazekile ngokuthakazelisa kwengane yakho, thembeka ekuhloleni kwakho ukuthi kuthinta kanjani impilo yengane yakho.

Uma ingane yakho yenqaba ukwenza imisebenzi yasendlini futhi izilahla ukuze ibuke ividiyo kaJustin Bieber esikhundleni salokho, kungenzeka ukuthi u-Justin Bieber akanacala. Noma ngabe ingane yakho ithathe isinqumo sokuyeka imisebenzi ebikade imthakasela ngoba incamela ukuchitha isikhathi ixoxa nabangane bayo ngosaziwayo ebathandayo, leso akusona isizathu sokukhathazeka. Kujwayelekile ukuthi intsha ibe nezintshisekelo ezishintshashintshayo ngokushesha, ngakho-ke ukulahlekelwa inzalo eyodwa ukuyibuyisela ngenye akuyona into ebangela izifo.

Kodwa-ke, uma ingane yakho ikhathazeka kakhulu ngosaziwayo ukuthi ithatha yonke imisebenzi yabo, kungahle kube yisikhathi sokukhuluma nodokotela.

"Uma umsebenzi wesikole wengane ushibilika futhi banikela bonke abangane babo ukuba bahlale egumbini labo usuku lonke benamathiselwe esikrinini sekhompiyutha bebuka amakhonsathi, kufanele uxhumane nochwepheshe ukuze ahlolwe," kukholwa uDkt Legg. Lokho akusho ukuthi udinga ukukhathazeka uma ingane yakho ichithe ngoMgqibelo odlule ibuka umjaho obukhoma wekhonsathi - kuphela uma ukuziphatha okunjalo kungaguquguquki futhi kujwayelekile.

Futhi-ke, uma ingane yakho ikhuluma ngokudangala okukhulu noma isho imicabango yokuzibulala ehlobene nosaziwayo, sekuyisikhathi sokuxhumana nochwepheshe ngokushesha. Uma ingane yakho ibonakala ikholwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi iqhawe layo liyabazi mathupha noma iphikelela ukuthi uthando lwayo lubuyiselwe, lokho kungaba inkomba yokuthi inenkinga yokuhlukanisa phakathi kwenganekwane neqiniso.

Kuthiwani Uma Ungamthandi Usaziwayo?

Noma ngabe indlela yokuziphatha kwengane yakho iwela ebangeni lokunconywa okujwayelekile, ungahle ube nokunye okukhathazayo okungasuselwa ezingeni lokuthambekela kwengane yakho, kodwa ohlotsheni lomuntu ingane yakho ekhethe ukumthanda.

Kodwa “abazali bahlale bezonda ukuziphatha kosaziwayo,” kusho uDkt Legg. Ukuthi ingane yakho ilalele umculo mayelana nokudutshulwa ngemoto akusho ukuthi ukuthanda kwabo umculi we-rap akunampilo. “Abazali kufanele babuze ukuthi siyini isizathu salokho,” kusho uDkt Legg. “Xoxa ngezinto ezikukhathazayo nezingane zakho, kodwa ngendlela engeyona ingozi.”

Esikhathini esiningi, ingane yakho izokubuka ngokunengeka futhi ikuqinisekise ukuthi abasoze bacabanga ukulingisa indlela yokuziphatha emculweni abawulalelayo - bayazi ukuthi ubuciko, hhayi impilo.

Uma ingane yakho eyishumi nambili noma encane ikhangwa yiqhawe elingahlali nabantu, asisekho isidingo sokugxumela ekuxilongweni, kodwa kuwumqondo omuhle ukuthi usebenze kakhulu ngokuxhumana kwakho. Izingane ezincane zingaba nesikhathi esinzima sokuhlukanisa okuyiqiniso nalokho okucatshangelwayo, ngakho-ke khuluma nengane yakho ukuthola ukuthi imiphi imibono yayo ngomculo.

Isikhathi esiningi, ukukhathazeka kwengane yakho ngosaziwayo akuyona into okufanele ikhathazeke ngayo. Eqinisweni, ingaba ithuluzi elihle kuwe njengomzali. “Yisebenzisele inzuzo yakho,” kuncoma uDkt Legg. "Abazali akufanele basabele ngokushesha ngokushesha, ngoba ungakusebenzisa njengethuluzi lokuxoxisana."

Vele uzame ukusikisela ukuthi ingane yakho ingazuza amathikithi ekhonsathi ngemisebenzi eyengeziwe noma amamaki amahle, futhi uzomangala ukuthi ingane yakho ishesha kanjani ukuwashwa.