Okufanele ukwenze ukulwa nesizungu

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• 1. Yamukela ukuthi kukhona okudinga ukuguquka
• 2. Ungavumeli okwedlule nokudabuka
• 3. Yiba umuntu ovumayo
• 4. Ungazihlukanisi
• 5. Thola umdlalo wokuzilibazisa
• 6. Bhalisa esifundweni
• 7. Funa usizo kochwepheshe
• Ungasigwema kanjani isizungu lapho usugugile

Isizungu senzeka lapho umuntu eyedwa noma ezizwa eyedwa, okuholela emuzwa ongemuhle kanye nokuzizwa engelutho. Ukulwa nalesi simo, kubalulekile ukuthi abantu bamukele ukuthi abasendleleni eyiyo, futhi babheke ukuthi yiziphi izinyathelo nezimo zengqondo ezingathathwa ukushintsha lesi sikhathi empilweni.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubalulekile ukuba nesimo sengqondo esihle bese uqala ukuba nemikhuba evumela abantu ukuthi basondele, njengokuya ezifundweni noma emaqenjini lapho kunezingxoxo khona, ezemidlalo noma imisebenzi ababambisene nayo. Ezinye izenzo ezingathathwa yilezi:

1. Yamukela ukuthi kukhona okudinga ukuguquka

Uma kukhona umuzwa wesizungu, kungaba ngenxa yokushoda kwabangane, noma ukuntuleka kokusondelana nabantu abaseduze, kubalulekile ukucabanga ukuthi isimo asenele bese uzama ukuthola ukuthi yini okungenzeka ukuthi ayikho emgqeni.

Ukuzivocavoca okuhle ukubhala phansi ephepheni izizathu zokuthi kungani ucabanga ukuthi uwedwa, njengomuntu onamahloni, onenkinga yokuxhumana, noma abangane sebehambile bese ubhala phansi okungenziwa ukuxazulula isimo ngasinye.

Ngakho-ke, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi isinyathelo sokuqala sokulungisa ukuthi okuthile akulungile ukucabanga nokwamukela ukuthi inkinga ikhona bese ubheka ezinye izindlela, ngaleyo ndlela ugweme iqhaza lesisulu.

2. Ungavumeli okwedlule nokudabuka

Imicimbi eminingana ingahle ibe nomthelela kumzuzu wamanje wesizungu, noma kunjalo, akusizi ngalutho ukuhlala esikhathini esedlule uma ngabe isikhathi samanje sikhona ukuze uthathe igxathu eliya phambili. Ukuma okusha kufanele kuthathwe, futhi kudalwe amathuba amasha namathuba ukuze, ngakho-ke, uphilele okukhona nekusasa, hhayi lokho okudlulile.

3. Yiba umuntu ovumayo

Yeka isithombe esibi sakho nezimo zakho, bese uqala ukuba nesimo sengqondo sokukhanya, ngokugxeka okuncane nokusolwa. Ukulinda ukwenqatshwa njalo kuzokuqhelisa kubantu, ngakho-ke hlala ulindele okuhle kubantu nasezimeni.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukunqoba isizungu, kubalulekile ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba, uvumele ukuzethemba okukhulu kuwe.

4. Ungazihlukanisi

Zama ukukhuluma nabantu kakhulu noma, uma lokhu kunzima, ziveze uvulekele engxoxweni, ugcine ukumamatheka futhi ubheke phambili, esikhundleni sokubheka phansi noma ngezingalo eziwele. Ngakho-ke, zivumele wenze abangane abasha, kepha lokhu kuzokwenzeka kuphela uma unesimo sengqondo sokuhambahamba noma ukuxoxa nabantu abasha.

Enye indlela enhle yokwenza abangane ukujoyina amaqembu ezokuxhumana anentshisekelo efanayo. Kepha, kufanele uqaphele ukuthi ungazibandakanyi nabantu abangalungile, ngoba ukwenza abangane ababi kungaba kubi kakhulu, futhi kulethe imiphumela emibi empilweni yakho.

5. Thola umdlalo wokuzilibazisa

Thola umdlalo wokuzilibazisa noma umsebenzi owuthandayo, okuyindlela enhle yokuhlangana noma ukusondela kubantu. Kunezinketho zezinsizakalo zomphakathi noma amaqembu emihlangano yamasonto onke, ongathintana nawo emtholampilo wezempilo womndeni oseduzane. Okunye ongakhetha kukho ukwenza umdlalo othile eqenjini, noma ukujoyina iqembu lokufunda, ngokwesibonelo.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunemisebenzi esiza ukuba nolwazi olwengeziwe nokuqonda imizwa, njengemithi ne-yoga, ngokwesibonelo, okusiza ukuqonda kangcono imingcele namakhono akho, ngaphezu kokuthola ukuzithiba okungcono.

6. Bhalisa esifundweni

Funa imisebenzi emisha bese unikeza injongo entsha empilweni, ukuthola ulwazi olusha, futhi ngaphezulu kwalokho, kuqinisekisa umbuthano omusha wabangane abangaba khona. Ngakho-ke, cwaninga ngezifundo ongathanda ukuzenza, njengolimi olusha, ukuthuthuka kwezobuchwepheshe noma ukuzilibazisa, njengethuluzi elithile noma ingadi, isibonelo.

7. Funa usizo kochwepheshe

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo noma i-psychotherapist bangabahlanganyeli abahle kakhulu bokuthola izindlela zokunqoba izithiyo ezibanga isizungu, ngaphezu kokusiza ukunqoba imizwa engemihle. Uma umuzwa wokuba nesizungu uhambisana nezinye izimpawu, ezinjengokudabuka, ukulahlekelwa yintando, kanye nokushintsha kwesifiso, ngokwesibonelo, kubalulekile ukubonisana nodokotela wezifo zengqondo, ukuphenya ezinye izimbangela zezimpawu ezingezinhle, ezinjengokudangala.

Ungasigwema kanjani isizungu lapho usugugile

Isizungu sabantu asebekhulile kungaba nzima kakhulu ukusigwema, ngoba kulesi sikhathi sempilo umbuthano wabangane uvame ukuncipha, njengoba izingane zingaba kude nasekhaya, kukhona ukulahleka kwamalungu omndeni, ophathina, ngaphezu ukulinganiselwa okubangelwa ubunzima bokwenza imisebenzi nokuphuma endlini.

Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwamukela izindlela zokugwema isizungu kubantu asebekhulile, ngoba zingaba nemiphumela emibi yezempilo futhi zikhuthaze ukuthuthukiswa kwezifo, ezinjengokudangala. Funda kabanzi ngemiphumela yesizungu.

Ukulwa nomzwangedwa kubantu asebekhulile, kunconywa ukuthi:

• Zijwayeze ukuzivocavoca umzimba, okusiza ukuthuthukisa imizwa nenhlalakahle;
• Phakamisa imihlangano ngezikhathi ezithile namalungu omndeni, njengesidlo sasemini njalo ezinsukwini eziyi-15, ngokwesibonelo;
• Ukuzinikela, okungaphezu kokuthuthukisa impilo yezenhlalo, kungasebenzisa amakhono okuthunga noma kunakekele izitshalo, isibonelo;
• Bhalisa esifundweni, esingasiza ekwenzeni abangane, ngaphezu kokuhlala engqondweni nokunikeza injongo entsha empilweni;
• Ukufunda imisebenzi emisha, njengokusebenzisa ikhompyutha kanye ne-inthanethi kungavumela asebekhulile ukuthi baxhumeke kakhulu kwabanye abantu nasezindabeni;
• Ukwamukela isilwane kungasiza ekukhanyiseni usuku nosuku futhi kunikeze ugqozi kumuntu.

Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi abantu asebekhulile balandelele udokotela womndeni noma udokotela wezokwelapha, ukuthola ukwelashwa okulungile noma ukukhonjwa kusenesikhathi kwezinguquko kwezempilo, ukuqinisekisa iminyaka eminingi yokuphila, amandla nokuziphatha.