Ukuqonda Ukukhathala Kwesinqumo

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• Isebenza kanjani
• Izibonelo zansuku zonke
• Ukuhlela isidlo
• Ukuphatha izinqumo emsebenzini
• Ungayibona kanjani
• Izimpawu zokukhathala kwesinqumo
• Okufanele ukwenze ngakho
• Gxila ekuzinakekeleni
• Yenza uhlu lwezinqumo okufanele zize kuqala
• Yiba nefilosofi yomuntu siqu yezinqumo ezinkulu
• Nciphisa izinqumo zamanani aphansi
• Gcina imizila engaguquki
• Khetha ukudla okulula okunempilo
• Vumela abanye bakusize
• Gcina amathebhu esimweni sakho sengqondo nesomzimba
• Gubha izinqumo zakho ezinhle
• Okubalulekile

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Sibhekana namakhulu wokukhetha nsuku zonke - kusuka kokuzokudla isidlo sasemini (ipasta noma i-sushi?) Kuya ezinqumweni eziyinkimbinkimbi ezibandakanya impilo yethu engokomzwelo, yezezimali neyomzimba.

Akunandaba ukuthi uqine kangakanani, amandla akho okwenza izinqumo ezinhle kakhulu angagcina ephelile ngenxa yokukhathala kwesinqumo. Lelo yigama elisemthethweni lalowo muzwa lapho ucindezeleke ngokweqile ngesilinganiso esingapheli sezinqumo obekufanele uzenze usuku lonke.

“Ukuyibona kungaba yinkohliso ngoba imvamisa izizwa ingumuzwa okhathele wokujula,” kusho umeluleki onelayisense, uJoe Martino, ongeza ukuthi mhlawumbe kusithinta kakhulu kunalokho esake sakucabanga.

Ukufunda ukuthi ungakulawula kanjani ukuthatha kwakho izinqumo kungakusiza ukuthi ugweme ukuzizwa ukhathele futhi wonge amandla akho engqondo. Nakhu okufanele ukwazi.

Isebenza kanjani

Kuhlanganiswe isazi sezengqondo sezenhlalo uRoy F. Baumeister, ukukhathala kwezinqumo kungukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo okubangelwa umthwalo wokukhetha.

"Lapho abantu becindezeleke ngokweqile, siyashesha noma sivale ngokuphelele, futhi lokho kucindezeleka kudlala indima enkulu ekuziphatheni kwethu," kusho uTonya Hansel, PhD, umqondisi weDoctorate of Social Work eTulane University.

Uyachaza ukuthi lolu hlobo lokukhathala luholela kumphumela owodwa kwemibili: ukuthatha izinqumo okuyingozi noma ukugwema izinqumo.

Ngamanye amagama, lapho amandla akho engqondo eqala ukwehla, awusakwazi ukukhipha izifiso eziyisisekelo futhi ube sethubeni lokuthola noma yini elula.

Izibonelo zansuku zonke

Ukukhathala kwesinqumo kungabonakala ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene. Nakhu ukubheka izimo ezi-2 ezivamile:

Ukuhlela isidlo

Zimbalwa izinto ezicindezela njengokuhlala ucabanga ukuthi uzodlani nsuku zonke. Lokhu kungenxa yenani elikhulu lezinqumo ezithintekayo (ngiyabonga, i-inthanethi).

Isibonelo, mhlawumbe uskrola inqwaba yezindlela zokupheka, ulinde eyodwa ukuthi ivelele. Ngaphandle… konke kubukeka kukuhle. Ukhungathekile, ukhetha okungahleliwe eyodwa ngaphandle kokubhekisisa ukuthi yini ehilelekile.

Ngemuva kokwenza uhlu lwakho, uya esitolo, bese ubheka izinketho ezingama-20 noma ngaphezulu zobisi kuphela.

Ufika ekhaya futhi uqaphele ukuthi ngeke ube nesikhathi sokudlula kuleyo recipe kuze kube yile mpelasonto. Nalolo bisi oluthengile? Akuyona inhlobo iresiphi ebizelwe yona.

Ukuphatha izinqumo emsebenzini

UHansel uthi: “Ukufuna izimpendulo kungenza isihlahla esilula sesinqumo sibe yingcindezi nomthwalo,” kusho uHansel.

Ake sithi uxoxisana nabantu ukuze ugcwalise indima entsha. Uthola ithani labafundi abafanelekile futhi uzithole ulwela ukunciphisa uhlu lube yinombolo ephathekayo.

Ekupheleni kosuku, awukwazi ukubagcina beqonde bese ukhetha nje abafakizicelo abathathu amagama abo owakhumbulayo ukuze ube nengxoxo. Ukwenza ukukhetha kwakho ngale ndlela, ungahle ungabanaki abanye babaqokelwe ukuqina.

Ungayibona kanjani

Khumbula, ukukhathala kwezinqumo akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukubona. Kodwa uHansel unikeza ezinye izimpawu zokuxoxa ezingase zisikisele ukuthi uya ekutubeleni.

Izimpawu zokukhathala kwesinqumo

Izimpawu zakudala zokukhathala kwesinqumo zifaka:

• Ukuhlehlisa izinto. "Ngizobhekana nalokhu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi."
• Ukungafisi. “Eeny, meeny, miny, moe…”
• Ukugwema. "Angikwazi ukubhekana nalokhu njengamanje."
• Ukunganqumi. “Uma ungabaza, ngimane ngithi‘ cha. ’”

Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lolu hlobo lwengcindezi lungaholela ekucasukeni, ukukhathazeka okwandayo, ukudangala, kanye nemiphumela yomzimba, njengokuqaqanjelwa yikhanda nezinkinga zokugaya ukudla.

Okufanele ukwenze ngakho

Indlela engcono yokugwema ukukhathala kwesinqumo sokunciphisa amandla ngokuqondisa ngokuqonda imicabango nezenzo zakho.

Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuqalisa:

Gxila ekuzinakekeleni

“Njenganoma ikuphi ukuphendula kwengcindezi, lapho uhlelo lomuntu lukhokhiswa intela eyeqile, ukuzinakekela kubaluleke kakhulu,” kusho uHansel.

Thatha isikhathi sokuphumula ngokubeka eceleni amakhefu wemizuzu eyi-10 phakathi kwemisebenzi usuku lonke.

Ukuthola futhi kusho ukuthi uqiniseka ukuthi uthola ukulala ngokwanele ebusuku, uqiniseke ukuthi uthola ukudla okunomsoco ekudleni kwakho, nokubuka ukuphuza kwakho utshwala.

Yenza uhlu lwezinqumo okufanele zize kuqala

Nciphisa ukuthatha izinqumo ngokungadingekile ngokubhala phansi izinto eziza kuqala osukwini bese uqinisekisa ukuthi ubhekana nalezo kuqala. Ngale ndlela, izinqumo zakho ezibaluleke kakhulu zenziwa lapho amandla akho ephezulu kakhulu.

Yiba nefilosofi yomuntu siqu yezinqumo ezinkulu

Ngokusho kukaMartino, umthetho omuhle wesithupha lapho ubhekene nezinqumo ezinkulu ukuzibuza ukuthi ukhathele kangakanani kulesi simo esikhona. Ngabe wenza isinqumo sokumane uxazulule into ephambi kwakho?

"Ngicabanga ukuthi umbuzo okahle kakhulu ongawubuza ukuthi: Lesi sinqumo sizoba namthelela muni empilweni yami?" Uthena.

Uma impendulo ithi izoba nomthelela omkhulu, thuthukisa ifilosofi yokwenza izinqumo ekuvumela kuphela ukuthi wenze lezo zinqumo lapho unayo ukuzenza noma lapho uzizwa uvuselelekile.

Lokhu kungasho ukubeka eceleni isikhathi esilinganiselwe inyanga ngayinye sokuhlola ubuhle nobubi obuhambisana nezinqumo ezinkulu.

Nciphisa izinqumo zamanani aphansi

Nciphisa ukukhishwa kwesinqumo ngokuhlela kusengaphambili futhi uthathe izinqumo ezincane kakhulu ku-equation. Isibonelo, thatha isidlo sakho sasemini uye emsebenzini ukuze ugweme ukuthi kufanele unqume ukuthi iyiphi indawo yokudlela ozo-oda kuyo. Noma wendlale izingubo zakho zomsebenzi izolo ebusuku.

"Lokho abantu abangaqapheli ukuthi izinto ezinomthelela omncane kakhulu ezimpilweni zethu empeleni zingathatha amandla amaningi esinqumo," kuchaza uMartino. "Zama ukukhawulela labo ngokubakhetha kubusuku obandulele."

Gcina imizila engaguquki

Setha usuku lwakho ukuze wenze i okumbalwa kakhulu izinqumo ezingenzeka.

Lokhu kusho ukuba nemithetho eqinile necacile mayelana nezinto ezithile, njenge:

• lapho uzolala khona
• izinsuku ezithile uzoshaya ejimini
• uyothenga ukudla

Khetha ukudla okulula okunempilo

Ukuba nomsoco ofanele kungasiza ukonga amandla akho. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ukudla isidlo esisheshayo esine-glucose kuthuthukisa ukuzithiba kwethu futhi kugcina ushukela wegazi lakho ungaconsi phansi.

Awuqinisekile ukuthi ungadla ini? Nazi izinketho ezingama-33 ohambeni.

Vumela abanye bakusize

Ukwabelana ngomthwalo wengqondo wokwenza izinqumo kungasiza ekuvikeleni imizwa yokukhungatheka.

Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa zalokho ongakuphathisa abanye:

• Uma ukuhlelela ukudla okunzima, vumela umlingani wakho noma umuntu ohlala naye ukuthi eze nemenyu. Ungasiza ngokuthenga.
• Cela umngani oseduze ukuthi akusize unqume ukuthi yimuphi oplamba ozomshayela ucingo.
• Vumela osebenza naye akhethe ukuthi iziphi izithombe azisebenzisayo esethulweni sakho esilandelayo somsebenzi.

Gcina amathebhu esimweni sakho sengqondo nesomzimba

UHansel uthi: “Yazi ukuthi wonke umuntu ucindezelwa izinqumo ngezinye izikhathi. Naka izimpendulo zakho ezingokomzwelo nezingokomzimba.

Ngabe wenza izinqumo eziphambene kaningi ngoba uzizwa ukhungathekile? Ingabe uzithola wenza umkhuba wokudla ukudla okungenamsoco ukuze ugweme ukwenza izinqumo mayelana nesidlo sakusihlwa?

Ukugcina ithrekhi yokuphendula kwakho kungakusiza uqonde ukuthi imiphi imikhuba edinga ukuthuthukiswa.

Gubha izinqumo zakho ezinhle

Uthatha izinqumo ezincane kakhulu emini unganakile. Futhi lokho kuphezu kwakho konke okukhulu, okubonakalayo.

UHansel uncoma ukugubha ngenhloso umsebenzi wokwenza isinqumo esinolwazi noma esihle.

Uma ubethele isethulo sakho noma ukwazile ukulungisa leyompompi evuzayo, zishaye emhlane ubungaze ikhono lakho lokuxazulula inkinga nokwenza ngaphansi kwengcindezi. Iya ekhaya kusasele imizuzu engu-15 noma uzinike isikhathi esithe xaxa sokuphumula lapho ufika ekhaya.

Okubalulekile

Uma uzizwa uthukuthele, ukhungathekile, noma ungenawo amandla, ungahle ubhekane nokukhathala kwesinqumo.

Bheka zonke izinqumo ezinkulu nezincane ozenzayo nsuku zonke bese ucabanga ukuthi ungazikhipha kanjani kulesi sibalo.

Ngokushintsha imikhuba yakho nokuhlela izindlela ezifanele, unganciphisa ukukhathazeka futhi ugcine amandla akho ngezinqumo ezibaluleke kakhulu.

UCindy Lamothe yintatheli ezimele ezinze eGuatemala. Ubhala kaningi ngemiphambanandlela phakathi kwezempilo, inhlalakahle, nesayensi yokuziphatha komuntu. Ubhalelwe i-The Atlantic, New York Magazine, Teen Vogue, Quartz, The Washington Post, nezinye eziningi. Mthole ku-cindylamothe.com.