Ungayala Kanjani Ingane Eneminyaka Engu-2

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• Ungabanaki
• Ahambe
• Banikeze abakufunayo ngokwemibandela yakho
• Phazamisa futhi uphendule ukunaka kwabo
• Cabanga njengomntanakho
• Siza ingane yakho ihlole
• Kepha beka imingcele
• Bafake ngesikhathi sokuvala
• Ukuthatha

Cabanga ngalokhu: Usekhaya, usebenza etafuleni lakho. Indodakazi yakho eneminyaka emibili iza kuwe nencwadi eyithandayo. Ufuna umfundele. Umtshela kamnandi ukuthi awukwazi okwamanje, kodwa uzomfundela ngehora. Uqala ukukhala. Okulandelayo uyazi, uhlezi emilenzeni ekhaphethi, ekhala ngokungalawuleki.

Abazali abaningi badidekile uma kuziwa ekubhekaneni nentukuthelo yengane yabo. Kungabonakala sengathi awuyi ndawo ngoba ingane yakho ayikulaleli.

Manje yini okufanele uyenze?

Intukuthelo yesikhashana iyingxenye evamile yokukhula. Bayindlela yengane yakho eneminyaka emibili yokuveza ukukhungatheka kwabo lapho bengenawo amagama noma ulimi lokukutshela abakudingayo noma abakuzwayo. Kungaphezu nje kokuthi "ngababili abesabekayo" Kuyindlela yokufunda kwengane yakho ukubhekana nezinselelo ezintsha nokudumazeka.

Kunezindlela ongaphendula ngazo ekuqhumeni noma ekuziphatheni okubi ngaphandle kokuthinta kabi ingane yakho eneminyaka emibili nokukhula kwayo. Nawa amathiphu ambalwa ngezindlela ezisebenzayo zokuyala ingane yakho encane.

Ungabanaki

Lokhu kungabonakala kubukhali, kodwa enye yezindlela ezibalulekile zokuphendula ekuthukutheleni kwengane yakho ukungazibandakanyi nayo. Lapho ingane yakho eneminyaka emibili isiqala ukuthukuthela, imizwa yabo ibathole kakhulu, futhi ukukhuluma nabo noma ukuzama ezinye izindlela zokuyala kungenzeka kungasebenzi ngaleso sikhathi. Qiniseka ukuthi baphephile, bese uvumela intukuthelo iqede. Lapho bezolile, bange bese uqhubeka nosuku.

Izingane ezineminyaka emibili azivamisile ukuba nezinhloso ngamabomu, ngaphandle kokuthi zifunde ukuthi ukuba nentukuthelo kuyindlela elula yokuthola ukunakwa kwakho. Ungahle ufune ukubazisa, ngokuqinile, ukuthi uziba ukucasuka kwabo ngoba lokho kuziphatha akuyona indlela yokuthola ukunakwa kwakho. Batshele kanzima kodwa ngomoya ophansi ukuthi badinga ukusebenzisa amagama abo uma befuna ukukutshela okuthile.

Kungenzeka bangabi nesilulumagama esigcwele abangakutshela sona, noma ngabe bayawazi amagama, ngakho bakhuthaze ngezinye izindlela. Ungafundisa ingane yakho ukukhuluma ngezandla ngamagama anjengokuthi “Ngifuna,” “ngilimaza,” “ngaphezulu,” “ngiphuze,” futhi “ngikhathele” uma bengakakhulumi okwamanje noma bengakhulumi kahle. Ukuthola ezinye izindlela zokuxhumana kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukuqhuma futhi kukusize wakhe isibopho esiqinile nengane yakho.

Ahambe

Ukuqonda imingcele yakho kuyingxenye yokuyala ingane yakho eneminyaka emibili. Uma uzizwa uthukuthela, hamba uhambe. Adonse umoya.

Khumbula ukuthi ingane yakho ayiyimbi noma izama ukukucasula. Kunalokho, bayacasuka ngokwabo futhi abakwazi ukuveza imizwa yabo ngendlela yabantu abadala. Uma usuzolile, uzokwazi ukuyala ingane yakho ngendlela engeke ibe yingozi.

Banikeze abakufunayo ngokwemibandela yakho

Ingane yakho encane ibamba isitsha sejusi bese izama kanzima ukusivula. Ucabanga wena ukuthi lokhu kuzophela kabi. Ungakhokhisa ingane yakho ukuthi ibeke phansi ijusi.

Esikhundleni salokho, thatha isitsha ngobumnene kubo. Baqinisekise ukuthi uzovula ibhodlela bese ubathela ingilazi. Ungasebenzisa le ndlela kwezinye izimo, njengokuthi uma befinyelela okuthile kukhabhinethi noma uma belahla amathoyizi abo nxazonke ngoba banenkinga yokufinyelela kuleyo abayifunayo.

Ukwelula isandla ngale ndlela kubazisa ukuthi bangacela usizo lapho benenkinga esikhundleni sokuzama bodwa nokwenza ingxabano. Kepha uma ungafuni ukuthi babe naleyo nto, sebenzisa izwi elithambile ukuze uchaze ukuthi kungani uyisusa futhi unikele ngesinye.

Phazamisa futhi uphendule ukunaka kwabo

Imvelo yethu njengabazali ukuqola ingane yethu futhi siyisuse kude kunoma iyiphi into engaba yingozi esiqonde kuyo. Kepha lokho kungadala intukuthelo ngoba uyabasusa entweni ababeyifuna. Uma bengena engozini, njengomgwaqo ophithizelayo, lokho kulungile. Bonke abantwana abaneminyaka emi-2 bazoba neziqubu ezithile lapho besendleleni yokufunda lokho abakwaziyo nabangakwazi ukukwenza; akuyona yonke intukuthelo engavinjelwa.

Enye indlela lapho ukuphepha kungekho engcupheni ukuphazamisa nokuphambukisa. Biza amagama abo ukuze ubabambe. Uma sebekulungele, babizele kuwe ubakhombise okunye abazokuthanda okuphephile.

Lokhu kungasebenza futhi ngaphambi kokuba intukuthelo iqale ukubaphazamisa kulokho abacasuka ngakho kwasekuqaleni.

Cabanga njengomntanakho

Kulula ukucasuka lapho ingane yakho yenza ukungcola. Namuhla, badwebe zonke izindonga ngamakhrayoni abo. Izolo, balandelele ukungcola ngenxa yokudlala ngemuva kwendlu. Manje ususele ukuyihlanze yonke.

Kodwa zama futhi ucabange njengomntanakho. Babona le misebenzi njengemnandi, futhi lokho kuvamile! Bafunda futhi bathola ukuthi yini okubazungezile.

Ungabasusi emsebenzini, ngoba kungahle kuqubule umsindo. Esikhundleni salokho, linda imizuzu embalwa futhi kungenzeka ukuthi baqhubekele kokunye. Noma ungajoyina futhi ubaqondise ngokwakhayo. Isibonelo, qala ukufaka imibala kwamanye amaphepha bese ubamema ukuthi nabo benze okufanayo.

Siza ingane yakho ihlole

Ingane yakho encane, njengabo bonke ojahidada, ifuna ukuhlola umhlaba.

Ingxenye yalokho kuhlola kuthinta konke ngaphansi kwelanga. Futhi nakanjani uzokhungatheka ngokubamba kwabo ngokuxhamazela.

Esikhundleni salokho, basize bathole ukuthi yini ephephile nengaphephile ukuyithinta. Zama "ukungathinti" izinto ezingavunyelwe noma ezingaphephile, "ukuthinta okuthambile" kobuso nezilwane, kanye no- "yebo ukuthinta" ngezinto eziphephile. Futhi jabulela ukucabanga ngezinye izinhlangano zamagama ezinjengokuthi “touch hot,” “touch touch,” noma “owie touch” ukusiza ukuthambisa iminwe yengane yakho ezulazulayo.

Kepha beka imingcele

“Ngoba ngishilo kanjalo” nokuthi “ngoba ngithe cha” akuzona izindlela eziwusizo zokuyala ingane yakho. Esikhundleni salokho, beka imingcele bese uchazela ingane yakho ukuthi kungani.

Isibonelo, uma ingane yakho idonsa uboya bekati lakho, susa isandla sayo, mtshele ukuthi kuyalimaza ikati lapho ikwenza lokho, bese uyikhombisa esikhundleni salokho ukuthi kufanele uphekele kanjani. Futhi beka imingcele ngokugcina izinto zingafinyeleleki (cabanga isikele nemimese ekudwebeni okukhiyiwe, umnyango wepantshi uvaliwe).

Ingane yakho ingakhungatheka lapho ingakwazi ukwenza lokho ekufunayo, kodwa ngokubeka imikhawulo uzoyisiza ifunde ukuzithiba.

Bafake ngesikhathi sokuvala

Uma ingane yakho iqhubeka nokuziphatha kwayo okungekuhle, ungahle uthande ukuyifaka esikhathini sokuvala. Khetha indawo eyisicefe, njengesihlalo noma iphasi lokungena.

Yenza ingane yakho encane ihlale kuleyo ndawo bese uyilinda ukuba yehlise umoya. Isikhathi sokuvala kufanele sihlale cishe umzuzu owodwa onyakeni ngamunye ngeminyaka (ngokwesibonelo, ingane eneminyaka emibili ubudala kufanele ihlale isikhathi sokuvala imizuzu emibili, kanye nomntwana oneminyaka emithathu ngemizuzu emithathu). Buyisela ingane yakho endaweni yokuphuma uma iqala ukuzulazula ngaphambi kokuphela kwesikhathi. Ungaphenduli kunoma yini abayishoyo noma abayenzayo kuze kuphele isikhathi. Uma ingane yakho isizolile, chaza ukuthi kungani uyifaka esikhathini futhi nokuthi kungani ukuziphatha kwayo kwakungalungile.

Ungalokothi ushaye noma usebenzise izindlela zokulawula ispani ukuyala ingane yakho. Izindlela ezinjalo zilimaza ingane yakho futhi ziqinisa nokuziphatha okungafanele.

Ukuthatha

Ukuyala ingane yakho encane kudinga ukuthi ulinganisele ukuqina nokuzwela.

Khumbula ukuthi intukuthelo iyinto ejwayelekile ekukhuleni kwengane yakho. Intukuthelo yenzeka lapho ingane yakho ingazi ukuthi izokuveza kanjani okuyicasulayo.

Khumbula ukuhlala upholile futhi uzolile, futhi uphathe ingane yakho ngozwela ngenkathi uxazulula inkinga. Eziningi zalezi zindlela zizosiza futhi ekuvikeleni ukucasulwa okuzayo.