Ukuhlanekezelwa kwengqondo: ziyini, ziyini nokuthi zenzeni

-Delile

• 1. Inhlekelele
• 2. Ukucabanga okungokomzwelo
• 3. Ukwehlukaniswa
• 4. Ukukhipha okukhethiwe
• 5. Ukufunda ngengqondo
• 6. Ukubhala izincwadi
• 7. Ukunciphisa kanye nokukhulisa
• 8. Okusetshenziswayo
• Okufanele ngikwenze

Ukuhlanekezelwa kwengqondo kuyizindlela ezihlanekezelwe abantu okufanele bahumushe ngazo izimo ezithile zansuku zonke, ezinemiphumela emibi empilweni yabo, okudala ukuhlupheka okungadingekile.

Kunezinhlobo eziningana zokuhlanekezelwa kwengqondo, eziningi zazo ezingabonakala kumuntu ofanayo futhi, yize kungenzeka ezimweni ezahlukahlukene, kuvame kakhulu kulabo abahlushwa ukucindezeleka.

Ukutholwa, ukuhlaziywa nokuxazululwa kwalezi zimo kungenziwa kusetshenziswa amaseshini we-psychotherapy, okungukuthi ukwelashwa kokuqonda-kokuziphatha.

1. Inhlekelele

Ukubhidliza kungukuhlanekezelwa kweqiniso lapho umuntu engenathemba futhi enombono omubi ngesimo esenzekile noma esizokwenzeka, ngaphandle kokubheka eminye imiphumela engenzeka.

Izibonelo: "Uma ngiphelelwa umsebenzi, angisoze ngakwazi ukuthola omunye", "ngenze iphutha esivivinyweni, ngizohluleka".

2. Ukucabanga okungokomzwelo

Ukucabanga okungokomzwelo kwenzeka lapho umuntu ecabanga ukuthi imizwa yakhe iyiqiniso, okungukuthi, ubheka lokho azizwa njengeqiniso eliphelele.

Izibonelo: "Ngibona sengathi ozakwethu bakhuluma ngami ngemuva kwami", "Ngibona sengathi akasangithandi".

3. Ukwehlukaniswa

Ukwehlukaniswa, okwaziwa nangokuthi konke-noma-lutho ukucabanga, ukuphambuka kwengqondo lapho umuntu abona khona izimo ngezigaba ezimbili kuphela ezikhethekile, izimo zokuhumusha noma abantu ngamagama aphelele.

Izibonelo: "Konke akuhambanga kahle emhlanganweni owenzeke namuhla", "ngenze konke kabi".

4. Ukukhipha okukhethiwe

Futhi kwaziwa njengombono womhubhe, ukukhishwa okukhethiwe kunikezwa ezimweni lapho kugqanyiswa khona kuphela isigaba esisodwa sesimo esinikeziwe, ikakhulukazi esibi, singazinaki izici ezinhle.

Izibonelo: "Akekho ongithandayo", "Usuku aluhambanga kahle".

5. Ukufunda ngengqondo

Ukufundwa kwengqondo ukuqondisisa okuqukethe ukuqagela nokukholelwa, ngaphandle kobufakazi, kulokho abanye abantu abakucabangayo, ukulahla eminye imibono.

Izibonelo: "Akanaki lokhu engikushoyo, yingoba akanantshisekelo."

6. Ukubhala izincwadi

Lokhu kuphazamiseka kokuqonda kuqukethe ukufaka ilebula kumuntu nokumchaza ngesimo esithile, sisodwa.

Izibonelo: "Ungumuntu omubi", "Lowo muntu akangisizanga, uyazithanda".

7. Ukunciphisa kanye nokukhulisa

Ukuncishiswa nokukhuliswa kubonakala ngokunciphisa izici zomuntu siqu kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho nokwandisa ukukhubazeka kanye / noma izici ezimbi.

Izibonelo: "Ngithole amamaki amahle esivivinyweni, kodwa bekukhona amamaki angcono kunawami", "ngikwazile ukwenza isifundo ngoba besilula".

8. Okusetshenziswayo

Lokhu kuphazamiseka kokuqonda kuqukethe ukucabanga ngezimo njengoba bekufanele ngabe kunjalo, esikhundleni sokugxila ekutheni izinto zenzeka kanjani empeleni.

Izibonelo: "Bekufanele ngihlale ekhaya nomyeni wami", "Bekungamele ngize emcimbini".

Okufanele ngikwenze

Ngokuvamile, ukuxazulula lezi zinhlobo zokuhlanekezelwa kwengqondo, kuyalulekwa ukuthi kwenziwe ukwelashwa kwengqondo, ikakhulukazi ukwelashwa kokuziphatha.