Wonke Umuntu Wahlulela Izintombi Ezabantu Abadala-Ngisho Nabantu Abadala

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Kunezindinganiso ezithile ezimile isikhathi eside: udumo, ukwethembeka nokwethembeka. Kepha umqondo wokuzijezisa-noma ikakhulukazi, ubuntombi-njengobuhle bugudlukile muva nje, ikakhulukazi esikweni lapho ucansi lwangaphambi komshado seluyinsakavukela. Cabanga ngalokhu: Ingabe ushadile? Uke waya ocansini? Uma uphendule ngoyebo kukho kokubili, yimuphi ofike kuqala? (Omunye wesifazane uyahlanganyela: "Engakufunda Eminyakeni Eyishumi Yokuma Kobusuku Obunye.")

Iqiniso liwukuthi, ngokwengeziwe kwethu siswayipha ama-v-card ethu ngaphambi kokuthi sithi "Ngiyakwenza" - ngakho-ke iqembu labaphenyi abavela e-Indiana University laqala ukubona ukuthi ngabe kukhona yini ukucwaswa kokuhlala uyintombi nto, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ekusungulweni ubudlelwano bothando. Abakutholayo ukuthi abenzi izintombi kuphela buka njengoba becwaswa, empeleni bayacwaswa yilabo abachithe isikhathi esakeni.

Ukuza kule miphumela, esanda kushicilelwa ku Ijenali Yocwaningo Lwezocansi UDkt.U-Amanda Gesselman, Ph.D., nababhali asebenza nabo basebenzise imibuzo ebazibuzayo ukuqedela izifundo ezintathu ezincane-eyodwa ukuhlola iminyaka elindelekile yokuqala kocansi kanye nemibono yokubukelwa phansi, enye ukubukeza ukuthi lokho kungabi nalwazi kwezocansi kuvimbela amathuba okuthandana nowesithathu ukuqhubeka nezimbongolo ukuthi ngabe ulwazi lwezocansi luyakuthinta yini ukuheha komuntu njengomlingani ongaba naye.

Imiphumela yabo ikhombisile ukuthi isilinganiso seminyaka lapho abantu abadala eMelika belahlekelwa ubuntombi babo sineminyaka eyi-17; Amaphesenti angama-90 abantu abangama-22 kuya kwangama-24 abaya ocansini. Futhi leyo nto yonke yangaphambi komshado? Amaphesenti angu-75 wabantu abaneminyaka engu-20 baya ocansini ngaphambi kokubopha ifindo likasofasilahlane. (Ziqhathaniseka Kanjani Izinombolo Zakho Zobulili?) Lo mbiko waqhubeka wabonisa ukuthi ukuba yintombi nto, ikakhulukazi kamuva ekuphileni, kungase kunciphise amathuba omuntu okuhileleka ebuhlotsheni bothando. Ngokusobala, abantu abangenalwazi ngokocansi babengathandwa kakhulu njengabalingani bobudlelwano. Futhi, isifundo sathola ukuthi, abantu abadala abangenalwazi ngokocansi ngokwabo akazange athole abanye abantu abadala abangenalwazi ukuba babe abalingani abakhangayo bobudlelwano. Le miphumela emibi yokusebenzelana nabantu ihluke kakhulu ezinzuzweni ezingokomzimba zokuba yintombi nto, njengokuvikelwa kuzo zonke izifo zocansi kanye nokukhulelwa okungafunwa.

Mhlawumbe isiphetho esingcono kakhulu sokususa kulokhu konke? Yeka ukwahlulela kakhulu-kunokuningi kothile kune-v-card yakhe. (Futhi qiniseka ukuthi ufunda ukuthatha kwalo wesifazane "Iseluleko Sezocansi Ngifisa Ngabe Ngangazi Eminyakeni Yami engama-20.")

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