Imfashini kanye ne-Autism zihlobene kakhulu nami - Nasi isizathu

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• Imfashini njengesithakazelo esikhethekile
• Izingubo ezihlekisayo manje sezisebenza njengendlela yokwamukela nokunakekela wena
• Lokho okwake kwaba yindlela yokubhekana nakho kwaphenduka ukuzichaza

Ngamukela zonke izici ze-autism yami ngezingubo zami ezimibalabala.

Impilo nokuphila kahle kuthinta ngamunye wethu ngokuhlukile. Le yindaba yomuntu oyedwa.

Esinye sezikhathi ezimbalwa zokuqala ngigqoke ingubo enemibala egqamile - {textend} enamasokisi othingo lwensimbi amade ubude nedolo elibubende - {textend} Ngiye enxanxatheleni yezitolo nabangane bami abakhulu.

Ngenkathi singena sidlula ezitodlwaneni ezahlukahlukene zobucwebe nezitolo zezingubo, abathengi nabasebenzi baphenduka bangigqolozela. Kwesinye isikhathi bebengincoma ngengubo yami ngamazwi, kwesinye isikhathi bangiklolodele futhi bathukise ukukhetha kwami ​​kwesitayela.

Abangani bami bamangala, bengasetshenziswanga ukunakwa kakhulu njengabafundi abaphakathi, kepha kwaba sengathi ngijwayelene. Kwakukude nesikhathi sokuqala engabhekwa ngaso.

Kwatholakala ukuthi ngine-autism ngiseyingane. Impilo yami yonke, abantu bangibukile, bakuhlebela ngami, futhi bangiphawula (noma abazali bami) esidlangalaleni ngoba bengishaya izandla zami, ngijikelezisa izinyawo zami, nginenkinga yokwehla ngenyuka ezitebhisini, noma ngibukeka ngilahlekile ngokuphelele esixukwini.

Ngakho-ke ngenkathi ngifaka lokho kuhlangana kwamadolo wothingo, bengingahlosile ukuthi babe yindlela yokwamukela ukuba yi-autistic ngazo zonke izindlela zayo - {textend} kodwa umzuzu lapho ngabona khona ukuthi abantu babengibuka ngenxa yendlela engangigqoke ngayo , kwaba yilokho-ke.

Imfashini njengesithakazelo esikhethekile

Imfashini bekungabalulekile njalo kimi.

Ngaqala ukugqoka izingubo ezimibalabala lapho ngineminyaka eyi-14 njengendlela yokudlula ezinsukwini ezinde zebanga lesishiyagalombili engizichithe ngihlukunyezwa ngokuphuma njengolindelo.

Kodwa izingubo ezikhanyayo nezimnandi ngokushesha zaba isithakazelo esikhethekile kimi. Iningi labantu abane-autistic linentshisekelo eyodwa noma ngaphezulu ekhethekile, okuyizintshisekelo ezinamandla, ezinothando entweni ethile.

Ngenkathi ngihlela ngokucophelela izingubo zami zansuku zonke futhi ngiqoqa amasokisi amasha anephethini namasongo akhazimulayo, ngangijabula ngokwengeziwe. Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi lapho izingane ezikwi-autism spectrum zikhuluma ngezintshisekelo zazo ezikhethekile, indlela eziziphatha ngayo, ukuxhumana kwazo, kanye namakhono azo kwezenhlalo nangokomzwelo ayathuthuka.

Ukwabelana ngothando lwami lwefashini eyingqayizivele nomhlaba ngokuwugqoka nsuku zonke kwenza futhi kusangilethela injabulo.

Njengasebusuku lapho ngangibamba ipulatifomu yesitimela ngiya ekhaya, owesifazane osekhulile wangimisa wangibuza ukuthi ngabe ngiyasebenza yini.

Noma isikhathi lapho othile aphulukundlela ngengubo yami kumngane wakhe oseduze kwabo.

Noma ngisho nezikhathi eziningana abantu engingabazi bacele isithombe sami ngoba bayakuthanda engikugqokile.

Izingubo ezihlekisayo manje sezisebenza njengendlela yokwamukela nokunakekela wena

Izingxoxo zokuphila kahle kwe-Autistic zivame ukugxila ekwelashweni nasekwelapheni, njengokwelapha emsebenzini, ukwelashwa ngokomzimba, ukuqeqeshwa emsebenzini, kanye nokwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo.

Kepha empeleni, lezi zingxoxo kufanele zithathe indlela ephelele. Futhi kimi, imfashini iyingxenye yale ndlela. Ngakho-ke lapho ngihlanganisa izingubo zokuzijabulisa futhi ngizigqoka, kuyindlela yokuzinakekela: Ngikhetha ukwenza into engiyithandayo engangiletheli umuzwa wenjabulo kuphela, kodwa nokwamukelwa.

Imfashini futhi iyangisiza ekutholeni ukulayishwa ngokweqile kwezinzwa. Isibonelo, njengomuntu one-autistic, izinto ezinjengemicimbi yobungcweti zingaba nzima kakhulu. Kunokufaka okuningi kwezinzwa okunzima ukuhlwaya, kusuka kumalambu akhanyayo namakamelo aminyene kuya ezihlalweni ezingathandeki.

Kepha ukugqoka ingubo entofontofo - {textend} kanye ne-whimsical encane - {textend} kungisiza ukuthi ngizijwayeze ukucabanga futhi ngihlale ngizinze. Uma ngizizwa ngiphelelwe amandla, ngingabheka ingubo yami yasolwandle nesongo lenhlanzi bese ngizikhumbuza izinto ezilula ezingilethela injabulo.

Ngomcimbi wakamuva lapho bengizokwenza khona ezokuxhum bukhoma komjikelezo wasendaweni waseBoston, ngidonse ingubo enemigqa emnyama nemhlophe ebude obuphakathi nendawo, i-blazer eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka embozwe izambulela, isikhwama sefoni esijikelezayo, namateku e-glitter glitter bese eyophuma ngomnyango. Ubusuku bonke ingubo yami nezinwele ze-ombre ezibubende zaheha izincomo ezivela kubasebenzi abangenzi nzuzo nokunikeza amalungu embuthano abekhona.

Kungikhumbuze ukuthi ukukhetha okunginikeza amandla, noma kuyinto encane njengezinwele ezimibalabala, kungamathuluzi anamandla okuzethemba nokuziveza.

Akudingeki ukuthi ngikhethe phakathi kokuba yimi kanye nokubonwa njengokutholakala kwami ​​kuphela. Ngingaba yibo bobabili.

Lokho okwake kwaba yindlela yokubhekana nakho kwaphenduka ukuzichaza

Ngenkathi imfashini iqala njengendlela yokubhekana, yahamba kancane yaba yimodi yokuzethemba nokuzikhulumela. Abantu bavame ukungabaza ukukhetha kwami ​​kwesitayela, babuze ukuthi ngabe lo ngumyalezo engifuna ukuwuthumela umhlaba - {textend} ikakhulukazi umhlaba okhokhelwayo - {textend} mayelana nokuthi ngingubani.

Nginomuzwa wokuthi anginakho okunye engingakwenza ngaphandle kokuthi yebo.

Ngine-autistic. Ngizohlala ngigqame njalo. Ngihlala njalo ngibona umhlaba futhi ngixhumana ngokuhlukile okuhlukile kunabantu abangenayo i-autistic abaseduze kwami, noma ngabe lokho kusho ukuvuka phakathi nokubhala le ndatshana ukuthatha ikhefu lokudansa lemizuzu eyi-10 bese ushaya izandla zami nxazonke, noma okwesikhashana ukulahlekelwa amandla okukhuluma ngamazwi lapho ubuchopho bami bucindezelekile.

Uma ngizohluka noma ngabe kunjani, ngincamela ukwehluka ngendlela engilethela injabulo.

Ngokugqoka ingubo embozwe ezincwadini zothingo, ngiyaqinisa umqondo wokuthi ngiyaziqhenya ngokuba ne-autistic - {textend} engingadingi ukuguqula ukuthi ngingubani ukuze ngilingane namazinga abanye abantu.

U-Alaina Leary ungumhleli, umphathi wezokuxhumana nomlobi waseBoston, eMassachusetts. Njengamanje ungumsizi womhleli we-Equally Wed Magazine futhi ungumhleli wezokuxhumana wenhlangano engenzi nzuzo Sidinga Amabhuku Ahlukahlukene.