Izindaba Ezinhle! Izinyembezi Ezijabulisayo Zifeza Inhloso

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• Ukukhala kusiza ukulawula imizwelo eyeqisayo
• Inkulumo ye-dimorphous
• Ukuthola ibhalansi
• Izinyembezi zikusiza ukuxhumana nabanye
• Ukukhala ngokoqobo kukwenza uzizwe ungcono
• Ama-hormone ajabulisayo
• Ukukhululwa ngokomzwelo
• Ingqondo yakho ingahle nje idideke kancane
• Okubalulekile

Ukukhala lapho udabukile? Kuhle kakhulu. Cishe uke wakwenza lokho isikhathi noma ezimbili ngokwakho. Mhlawumbe nawe uke wakhala ngokufutheka noma ukukhungatheka ngesikhathi esithile - noma wabona ukukhala komunye umuntu ngentukuthelo.

Kodwa kukhona olunye uhlobo lokukhala ongahle ube nokuhlangenwe nakho okuthile nalo: ukukhala okujabulisayo.

Mhlawumbe ukubonile lokhu kunoma yiliphi inani lama-movie nezinhlelo ze-TV, kepha uma ngabe uke wezwa ukunqotshwa injabulo noma impumelelo, ungahle ukhale ngezinyembezi zakho zenjabulo.

Izinyembezi zenjabulo zingadida ngandlela thile, ikakhulukazi uma uhlobanisa ukukhala nemizwelo engafuneki. Kepha zivamile ngokuphelele.

Izinyembezi ezijabulisayo azichazwanga ngokweminyaka noma ubulili, ngakho-ke ngombono, zingenzeka cishe kunoma ngubani ohlangabezana nemizwa.

Kepha kungani zenzeka? Akekho onempendulo ecacile, kepha ucwaningo lwesayensi lunikeza izincazelo ezimbalwa ezingaba khona.

Ukukhala kusiza ukulawula imizwelo eyeqisayo

Iningi labantu licabanga ngokudabuka, intukuthelo nokukhungatheka njengokungekuhle. Ngokuvamile abantu bafuna ukujabula, futhi mhlawumbe ubuyoba nobunzima ekutholeni umuntu obheka injabulo njengembi. Ngakho-ke, yini enikezayo ngezinyembezi ezijabulisayo?

Awu, injabulo kuyakwenza yabelana ngokufana okunye neminye imizwelo: Eqondile noma emibi, zonke zingaba namandla kakhulu.

Ngokuya ngocwaningo lwango-2015, izinyembezi zenjabulo zenzeka lapho uhlangabezana nemizwelo enamandla iba engalawuleki. Lapho le mizwa iqala ukukuhlula, ungahle ukhale noma umemeze (mhlawumbe bobabili) ukuze usize ukukhipha leyo mizwa.

Ngemuva kokudabula uvule incwadi yakho yokwamukela ekolishi, ngokwesibonelo, kungenzeka ukuthi wamemeza (ngokuzwakala okukhulu umndeni wakho ucabanga ukuthi uzolimala kakhulu) bese ukhala izinyembezi.

Inkulumo ye-dimorphous

Izinyembezi ezijabulisayo ziyisibonelo esihle senkulumo efiphele. Lapha, i-dimorphous isho “izinhlobo ezimbili.” Lezi zinkulumo zivela endaweni eyodwa kepha zivela ngezindlela ezihlukile.

Nasi esinye isibonelo: Wake wayibona into emnandi kangaka, njengesilwane noma ingane, owaba nesifiso sokuyibamba uyikhame? Kukhona ngisho nomusho ongase uzwe, mhlawumbe kusuka kumuntu omdala kuya enganeni encane: "Ngingakudla nje!"

Vele, awufuni ukulimaza leso silwane noma ingane ngokuyikhama. Futhi (iningi?) Abantu abadala bafuna nje ukugona nokubamba izingane, hhayi ukuzidla. Ngakho-ke, le nkulumo ethile enolaka yemizwa ingabonakala ingajwayelekile, kepha inencazelo eqondile: Imizwa inamandla kakhulu kangangokuba awazi ukuthi uzisingatha kanjani.

Ukuthola ibhalansi

Ubunzima bokulawula imizwa kwesinye isikhathi bungaba nemiphumela emibi. Abanye abantu abahlala benenkinga enzima ngokulawulwa ngokomzwelo bangaba nokushintshashintsha kwemizwelo noma ukuqhuma okungahleliwe.

Ngandlela-thile, lezi nyembezi zenjabulo ziyakuvikela ngokunikeza ukulinganisela emizweni eyeqile engahle ibe nomthelela empilweni yakho engokomzwelo. Ngamanye amagama, ukukhala kungasiza lapho uzizwa unqotshiwe ungazi ukuthi ungaqala kanjani ukwehlisa umoya.

Izinyembezi zikusiza ukuxhumana nabanye

Uma ukhala nganoma yisiphi isizathu, uthumela umyalezo kunoma ngubani ongakubona (noma ngabe uyafuna noma cha). Isenzo sokukhala senza abanye bazi ukuthi imizwa yakho isikunqobile, okungabonisa ukuthi udinga ukwesekwa noma induduzo ethile.

"Impela," ungacabanga, "ngubani ongafuni ukududuzwa lapho ezizwa edabukile noma ecindezelekile?"

Kepha uma ujabule ngokuphelele, ungahle ufune nokusekelwa okuthile. Ngokuqondile, ucwaningo lwango-2009 lukhombisa ukuthi ufuna ukuzihlanganisa nabanye ngaleyo mizwa eyeqile obhekene nayo, kusukela enjabulweni kuya enjabulweni kuze kube ngisho nasothandweni.

Abantu, ngokuvamile, izidalwa zomphakathi. Le nhlalo yomphakathi ingabamba iqhaza esifisweni sokwabelana ngokuhlangenwe nakho okukhulu futhi ifune ubumbano nokunethezeka ngezikhathi ezinhle nezimbi. Ukukhala okujabulisayo-ke kungaba ngenye yezindlela zokuthi, "Sicela wabelane ngalo mzuzu omuhle kangaka."

Ababhali besifundo esishiwo ngenhla baphinde baveza ukuthi izinyembezi zingakhombisa ubukhulu noma ukubaluleka kwemicimbi ethile ebalulekile, njengokuthweswa iziqu, imishado, noma ukubuyela ekhaya.

Ukukhala utshela wonke umuntu oseduze kwakho, "Okwenzekayo njengamanje kusho lukhulu kimi." Ngale ndlela, ukukhala kusebenza umsebenzi obalulekile kwezenhlalo, ikakhulukazi uma uzizwa unqotshwe kakhulu ukubopha umusho ndawonye.

Ukukhala ngokoqobo kukwenza uzizwe ungcono

Abantu abaningi abakuthandi ukukhala, ngisho nangenxa yenjabulo. Impumulo yakho iyagijima, ikhanda lakho lingahle libuhlungu, futhi-ke, kukhona ukubukwa okungenakugwenywa okuvela kubantu ongabazi lapho unenhlanhla yokunqotshwa umuzwa emphakathini.

Kodwa ukukhala empeleni kunezinzuzo eziningi.

Ama-hormone ajabulisayo

Uma ukhala, umzimba wakho uyadedela. La mahomoni angasiza ekunciphiseni ubuhlungu, athuthukise imizwa yakho, futhi athuthukise inhlalakahle ejwayelekile.

Futhi njengoba izinyembezi zingakusiza ukuheha induduzo nokusekelwa kwabanye abakuzungezile, ukukhala kusiza ukukhulisa umuzwa wakho wokuxhumana, okungathuthukisa imizwa yakho kanye nokuphila kahle kwakho konke.

Ukukhala ngokudabuka nentukuthelo kungasiza ukukhulula le mizwa futhi kungenza isimo sakho sibonakale sifiphele kancane.

Kepha uma ukhala ngenjabulo, i-oxytocin, i-endorphin, kanye nokwesekwa kwezenhlalo kungakhulisa ulwazi futhi kukwenze uzizwe ungcono kakhulu (futhi mhlawumbe ukhale kakhudlwana).

Ukukhululwa ngokomzwelo

Kuyafaneleka futhi ukuqaphela ukuthi izikhathi eziningi ezijabulisayo aziveli nje ngokungahleliwe. Ukushada, ukubeletha, ukuphothula esikoleni esiphakeme noma ekolishi, ukuqashwa ngomsebenzi wakho wamaphupho - lokhu okufeziwe akuveli kalula. Ukufeza lezi zinyathelo ezinkulu, kungenzeka ufake isikhathi esiningi, ukubekezela nokuzikhandla.

Akunandaba ukuthi lo msebenzi wawuzuzisa kangakanani, kungenzeka ukuthi kwabangela ukucindezeleka. Ukukhala-ke kungaba yi-catharsis yokugcina, noma ukukhululwa, kulokhu kucindezeleka okuhlala isikhathi eside.

Ingqondo yakho ingahle nje idideke kancane

Okunye ngokukhala okujabulisayo kusikisela ukuthi lezi zinyembezi zenzeka ngoba ubuchopho bakho bunenkinga yokuhlukanisa phakathi kwemizwa enamandla.

Lapho uzwa umuzwa onamandla njengosizi, intukuthelo, noma injabulo, isifunda ebuchosheni bakho esaziwa ngokuthi izingodo ze-amygdala lowo muzwa futhi sithumela isiginali ku-hypothalamus, enye ingxenye yobuchopho bakho.

I-hypothalamus isiza ukulawula imizwelo ngokusayina uhlelo lwakho lwezinzwa. Kepha ayitsheli isistimu yakho yezinzwa ukuthi imuphi umuzwa ohlangabezane nawo, ngoba awazi. Kuyazi nje ukuthi umzwelo wawudlulele kangangokuthi ungaba nenkinga yokuwulawula.

Omunye wemisebenzi eminingi ebalulekile yesistimu yakho yezinzwa ihilela ukukusiza uphendule ekucindezelekeni. Uma ubhekene nosongo, igatsha elinozwela lohlelo lwakho lwezinzwa likulungiselela ukulwa noma ukubaleka.

Ngemuva kokuthi usongo seludambile, igatsha le-parasympathetic lesistimu yakho yezinzwa likusiza wehlise umoya.

Lapho isistimu yakho yezinzwa ithola leso siginali esivela ku-hypothalamus ethi “Hheyi, sikhungathekile lapha,” iyazi ukuthi idinga ukusukuma.

Enye indlela elula yokwenza lokhu? Khipha izinyembezi, ezikusiza ukuthi uveze imizwa enamandla, ejabulisayo nenosizi, futhi ikusize ukuthi ululame kuzo.

Okubalulekile

Izinyembezi ziyimpendulo ejwayelekile yomuntu emizweni enamandla. Ngenkathi ungahle ukhale ngokuphendula ukudabuka, izinyembezi zenjabulo akuyona into engajwayelekile. Kuyavela, empeleni basiza kakhulu.

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