Iseluleko Sobudlelwano Esinempilo: Sondela

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• Umumo wabelana ngezingcezu ezine zeseluleko sobudlelwano samahhala ukukusiza usondele - futhi uhlale useduze - kumfana wakho.
• Iseluleko Esengeziwe Sobudlelwano Bamahhala: Sondela
• Thola ezinye izindlela ezintathu ezinhle kakhulu zokwakha nokugcina ubudlelwano obunempilo nomlingani wakho.
• Umumo ineseluleko sobudlelwano samahhala esizoqinisa ubudlelwano bakho.
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Umumo wabelana ngezingcezu ezine zeseluleko sobudlelwano samahhala ukukusiza usondele - futhi uhlale useduze - kumfana wakho.

1. Thola izindlela ezingasho lutho zokuxhumana nomlingani wakho ngemuva kokulwa.

Mlethele isiphuzo esibandayo, ngokwesibonelo, noma umange nje. Ngokusho kukaPatricia Love, Ed.D., noSteven Stosny, Ph.D., ababambisene nabo Ungawuthuthukisa Kanjani Umshado Wakho Ngaphandle Kokukhuluma Ngayo, imizwa yokwesaba nehlazo kukhipha igazi endaweni yobuchopho elawula ulimi, kwenze kube namathuba amancane okukuveza ngokusobala okushoyo.

2. Yenza okuthile okuhle kumndeni nabangane bomunye wakho obalulekile.

Ungahle, ngokwesibonelo, usize udadewabo ukuthola i-internship noma umeme abazali bakhe ukuzodla isidlo sakusihlwa. Lena indlela yokuxhumana enamandla ngoba ikhombisa umfana wakho ukuthi uyabakhathalela abantu ababalulekile kuye, kusho uDaniel G. Amen, M.D., umbhali wencwadi ethi Ucansi kuBongo.

3. Hlala usesikhathini samanje.

Ukuhlale ucabanga ukuthi yini engenzeka uma ubeka ubudlelwano bakho kwelinye izinga kungase kukuphuce injabulo, kusho u-Elina Furman, umbhali wezincwadi. Qabula ugijime. Esikhundleni salokho, zibuze, "Ngabe ngithola engikufunayo ebudlelwaneni ngalesi sikhathi?" Uma impendulo inguyebo, ukuya phambili kungase kungabi yingozi njengoba ucabanga.

4. Thatha u-10.

"Vala umnyango ngengcindezi yosuku-hlala phansi ufunde isahluko senoveli, phuza iwayini, noma ukhulume nomngane wakho womshado," kusho uPepper Schwartz, Ph.D., isazi socansi kanye nomnikeli we- perfectmatch.com . "Unekhono lokuguquka njengalesi-ukusho, uma ube nokusa okunesiphithiphithi emsebenzini futhi kufanele uziqambe ngaphambi komhlangano obalulekile - kufanele usebenzise isu elifanayo ebudlelwaneni bakho."

Funda ezinye izindlela zokwakha nokugcina ubudlelwano obunempilo nomuntu wakho. [Header = Ubudlelwano obunempilo: Umumo unikeza iseluleko sobudlelwano osifunayo nosidingayo.]

Iseluleko Esengeziwe Sobudlelwano Bamahhala: Sondela

Thola ezinye izindlela ezintathu ezinhle kakhulu zokwakha nokugcina ubudlelwano obunempilo nomlingani wakho.

5. Yeka ukonga ukwenza uthando okokugcina.

"Esinye sezizathu abesifazane abaningi abathi, 'Hhayi kulobubusuku, sithandwa,' yingoba abakwazi ukungena emoyeni emva kosuku olude begijima," kusho uHilda Hutcherson, MD "Zama ukuya ocansini okokuqala ekuseni esikhundleni salokho. Isikhathi esihle kakhulu sosuku kwabesilisa ngoba izinga labo le-testosterone liphezulu kakhulu, futhi uzozizwa uphumule kahle futhi uqabulekile. " Ubuye futhi asikisele ukuhlela i-alamu yakho imizuzu eyi-15 ngaphambili. "Kuzoba isimanga esikahle kuye bese usetha usuku lwakho."

6. Yisebenzele.

"Ukuvivinya umzimba kwehlisa izinga lakho le-hormone ye-stress cortisol, omunye wababulali ababi kakhulu kwabesifazane," kusho uLaura Berman, Ph.D., umbhali we Ubulili Bangempela Abesifazane Bangempela. "I-cortisol eyengeziwe ibangela ukuthi ugcine amafutha phakathi nendawo." Ngisho nokusebenza okuncane, njengokuhamba nenja yakho noma ukuhlanza indlu yakho, kungakukholisa futhi kukwenze uzizwe uthanda kakhulu.

7. Ungakugodli ukuxhumana naye.

"Uma unalolo hlobo losuku, ukuvumela umlingani wakho akubhucunge amahlombe noma ukuphulula ingalo yakho kungakuphumuza," kusho u-Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D. "Akudingeki ukuthi iholele ocansini - kodwa uzothola njalo, ngoba ukuthinta kuyaduduza, kuyaduduza.

Umumo ineseluleko sobudlelwano samahhala esizoqinisa ubudlelwano bakho.

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