Ukuhamba Izintaba Ngokudabula IGrisi Nabantu Abangabazi Abangifundile Kungifundise Ukuthi Ngingaziduduza Kanjani Ngami

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Ukuhamba kuphezulu ohlwini olubalulekile kunoma iyiphi inkulungwane yeminyaka kulezi zinsuku. Eqinisweni, isifundo se-Airbnb sathola ukuthi izinkulungwane zeminyaka zinentshisekelo yokusebenzisa imali kokuhlangenwe nakho kunokuthola ikhaya. Ukuhamba kweSolo nakho kuyanda. Ucwaningo lwe-MMGYGlobal lwabantu abadala base-U.S. abangu-2,300 lwembula ukuthi amaphesenti angu-37 ezinkulungwane zeminyaka ayehlose ukuthatha okungenani uhambo olulodwa lokungcebeleka yedwa phakathi nezinyanga eziyisithupha ezizayo.

Akumangazi ukuthi abesifazane abakhuthele bayangena esenzweni, futhi. "Ngaphezu kwekota yabo bonke abahambi emaholidini ethu abambe iqhaza bebambe iqhaza bodwa," kusho uCynthia Dunbar, umphathi jikelele we-REI Adventures. "[Futhi] kubo bonke abahamba ngabodwana, amaphesenti angama-66 ngabesifazane."

Yingakho lo mkhiqizo uthumele ucwaningo lukazwelonke ukuthola ngempela ukubandakanyeka kwabesifazane emhlabeni wezintaba. (Futhi izinkampani ekugcineni zikhiqize amagiya okuhamba izintaba ikakhulukazi abesifazane.) Bathola ukuthi amaphesenti angaphezu kwama-85 abo bonke abesifazane okwaxoxwa nabo bakholelwa ukuthi ngaphandle kuthinta kahle impilo yengqondo, impilo yomzimba, injabulo, kanye nenhlalakahle jikelele, kanti amaphesenti angama-70 abika ukuthi ukuba ngaphandle iyakhulula. (Izibalo engivumelana nazo ngenhliziyo ephelele.) Babuye bathola ukuthi amaphesenti angama-73 abesifazane afisa ukuchitha isikhathi esithe xaxa-noma nje ngaphandle kwehora.

Mina, ngingomunye walabo besifazane. Ukuhlala eNew York City, kunzima ukusuka ehlathini likakhonkolo-noma ngisho nasehhovisi-ukuthatha umoya opholile ongagcwele intuthu nezinye izinto ezingcolisa amaphaphu. Leyo yindlela engazithola sengibuka ngayo iwebhusayithi ye-REI kwasekuqaleni. Lapho ngizwa ukuthi sebethule imicimbi engaphezu kwengu-1 000 eyenzelwe ukukhiphela abesifazane ngaphandle, ngacabanga ukuthi bazoba nayo okuthile khuphuka umhubhe wami. Futhi ngangiqinisile: Phakathi kwamakhulu amakilasi Esikole Sangaphandle kanye nezigigaba ezintathu ze-REI Outessa zokuhlehla, izinsuku ezintathu zabesifazane kuphela-ngibone ukuthi nginezinketho eziningi engingakhetha kuzo.

Kodwa empeleni, ngangifuna okuthile okunamandla ngaphezu kokubaleka kwezinsuku ezintathu. Uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, izinto eziningi "zokuphila" zazithikameza injabulo yami yonke, futhi ngangidinga okuthile okuzonikeza ukusethwa kabusha ngokweqiniso. Ngakho-ke ngaya ekhasini le-REI Adventures, ngicabanga ukuthi olunye lohambo lwabo olusha olungu-19 lomhlaba wonke luzodonsa iso lami. Abangaphezu koyedwa abakwenzile, kodwa ekugcineni bekungelona uhambo lwendabuko lwama-Adventures olungiyengile. Kunalokho, bekungohambo lokuqala lwabesifazane kuphela eGrisi. Angizukuhamba kuphela eziqhingini zaseTinos, eNaxos, nase-Insta-perfect Santorini, ohambweni lwezintaba lwezinsuku eziyi-10 kanye nomhlahlandlela we-REI Adventures, kodwa ngizoba nabanye besifazane abathanda nokuthwebula intaba entsha emoyeni njengoba ngenza.

Okungenani, yimi lowo ithemba laba besifazane babe. Kepha bengazi ukuthi-laba bantu bebengabazi nhlobo, futhi ukubhalisela i-solo bekusho ukuthi ngiyobe ngiyeke ukukhwabanisa ngokuba nomngane noma okunye okubalulekile engizohlangana naye uma izinto zibheda. Angazi ukuthi ukhona yini omunye ophumelelayo ngomuzwa ogeleza kuwe lapho imisipha yakho ivutha futhi ucishe usekupheleni kokukhuphuka kanzima lapho ukhuphuka. yazi kukhona ukubukwa okumangalisayo okulindile esiqongweni. Ingabe bangangithola ngicasula ngokufuna ukudlula ebuhlungwini, noma bahlanganyele nami ekuhlinzeni phezulu? Futhi, ngokwemvelo ngiyisethuli-umuntu odinga kakhulu isikhathi sedwa sokuzivuselela. Ingabe ukweqa kwami ​​eqenjini ngesikhashana esithulile sokuzindla kungacasula? Noma wamukelwa njengengxenye yokujwayelekile?

Yonke le mibuzo yazulazula ekhanda lami lapho ngangigxalaza phezu kwenkinobho yokubhalisa, kodwa-ke ngathola ukukhahlela okusheshayo ebhulukweni, yiqiniso, isilinganiso engisibonile ku-Instagram. Lithe, "Kunoma yimuphi umzuzu, sinezinketho ezimbili: Ukuqhubekela phambili ekukhuleni noma ukubuyela kwezokuphepha." Ilula, impela, kepha ifike ekhaya. Ngabona ukuthi, ekupheleni kosuku, nganginethuba elikhulu lokuthi ngizozwana nalaba besifazane kunalokho, ukuthi sasizobopha ngenkathi sihamba emizileni futhi sifaka ubuhle bendawo, nokuthi sizoba nolwazi empeleni kwasenza safuna ukuba abangani isikhathi eside ngemva kokuphela kohambo lwethu.

Ngakho, ekugcineni, ngenza njengoShonda Rhimes futhi ngathi "yebo." Futhi ngenkathi ngingena esikebheni esikebheni e-Athene ukuqala uhambo lwami, ngiphefumula umoya omusha onosawoti woLwandle i-Aegean, noma ikuphi ukukhathazeka enganginakho ngalokhu kwakungelutho ngaphandle kohambo olwejwayelekile olusukile. Ngesikhathi ngigibela indiza ngibuyela eDolobheni laseNew York, ngase ngifunde okuningi ngami, mayelana nokunqamula iGreece, kanye nokujabula lapho ngizungezwe abantu engingabazi nhlobo. Lezi bekungukudla kwami ​​okukhulu kakhulu.

Abesifazane abahamba ngezinyawo nge-badass. Esifundweni se-REI engisifunde ngaphambi kohambo lwami, abesifazane bakhulume kakhulu ngokuthanda ingaphandle. Kodwa amaphesenti angama-63 abo avumile nokuthi abakwazi ukucabanga ngomuntu wesifazane ongaphandle oyisibonelo, kanti abesifazane abayisithupha kwabayishumi bathi izintshisekelo zabesilisa emisebenzini yangaphandle zithathwa kakhulu kunabesifazane. Ngenkathi lokho okutholakele kungamangalisi konke, ngikuthola kungukuphela kwenkunzi. Omunye wabesifazane ohambweni lwami ubengubufakazi obuphilayo bokuthi abesifazane basabeka kanjani ngaphandle-lapho eqala ukubhalisela lolu hambo, uzibekele umgomo wokwehlisa amakhilogremu ayi-110 ezinyangeni eziyisithupha. Lowo umgomo omkhulu nganoma yiliphi izinga, kepha yilokho obekudingeka akwenze ukuze abe nempilo eyenele yokwakha izintaba ebesizobhekana nazo. Futhi uqagele ini? Wakwenza ngokuphelele. Ngenkathi ekhuphuka iNtaba iZeus (noma i-Zas, njengoba amaGreki esho), uhambo olucishe lube ngamamayela angu-4 ekhuphuka endaweni ephakeme kakhulu esifundeni saseCyclades, uyena engangibheke kakhulu kuye. Izintaba zinendlela yokuzithoba kakhulu, futhi yize ukuhamba izintaba kungumsebenzi olula - unyawo olulodwa phambi kolunye, ngithanda ukusho ukuthi - ingakhahlela imbongolo yakho kalula uma uyivumela. Lona wesifazane wenqaba ukuvumela lokho kwenzeke, futhi ungomunye nje wabesifazane abaningi abafakazayo lokho lapho kukhona oyisibonelo ehlane. (Ufuna ulwazi olwengeziwe? Laba besifazane bashintsha ubuso bemboni yokuqwala izintaba, futhi lona wesifazane waqopha irekhodi lomhlaba lokuheha emhlabeni wonke.)

Ukuhamba wedwa akusho ukuba wedwa. Ukuhamba ngeSolo kunezinzuzo eziningi-njengokukwenza kahle lokho okufunayo, lapho ufuna khona, kwabaqalayo - kepha ukuphuma uye ohambweni wedwa bese uhlangana neqembu labantu ongabazi yilokho kanye mina, nabesifazane abaningi kulokhu uhambo, oludingekayo. Sonke besilapho ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene, noma ngabe ukusebenza-, ubudlelwano-, noma okuhlobene nomndeni, nokuhamba ngezinyawo nabantu esingabazi kuvumela ngamunye wethu ukuthi avule futhi akhulume izindaba zethu ngendlela ebesingeke sikwazi ukwenza ngayo nabangane noma, awu, uma besizihambela sodwa. Njengoba sasihamba cishe amakhilomitha angu-7 sigudla iCaldera e-Santorini, cishe kwaba nokuhlanzwa kwemizwelo okwenzeka. Abaningi bethu babekhathele kusukela ezinsukwini ezintathu ezedlule zokuhamba izintaba, okusibeka esimweni sengqondo esisengozini esimba ngempela emithwalweni engokomzwelo iningi lethu ebesibhekene nayo ezimpilweni zethu ekhaya. Kodwa ukuba nabangane abasha kwakuyisikhumbuzo sokuthi kwakungafanele sithwale lezo zingxabano sodwa, futhi kwasivumela nokuthi sizibone izimo zethu ngenye indlela, ngoba lokho, futhi, sonke sasingabazi nhlobo. Njengoba ilanga lishona, thina abayisithupha safika ekungeneni kwedolobhana lase-Oia (elibizwa nge-ee-yah, BTW) futhi sabukela buthule njengoba izibani emahhotela, emakhaya nasezitolo zokudlela zikhanya. Kwaba umzuzu wokuzola, ngathi ngimile ngicwile ngaphakathi, ngabona ukuthi ukube angizange ngibe nalezi zintokazi, kungenzeka ukuthi nganginekhanda lami ukuthi ngime ngibonge ubuhle obufanele. phambi kwami.

Amadoda awadingi ukumenywa. Mina ngizimele ngemvelo yokubandakanya izintaba ebandakanya wonke umuntu ngoba, empeleni, izintaba azikhathali ukuthi uyini ubulili bakho. Kepha lolu hambo lungisizile ngabona ukuthi kungaba lusizo kanjani ukuba nabesifazane kuphela. Ezingxenyeni eziningi zohambo olunjengalapho sithatha isigaba sokupheka saseMedithera kumpheki wendawo esiqhingini saseTinos, noma lapho siphazanyiswa uhambo olungamamayela angu-7.5 emizaneni yasesiqhingini-amahlaya amaningi angaphakathi, amazwi okukhuthaza, kanye isimo sengqondo sokunganaki saphonswa phakathi kweqembu. Umqondisi wethu, uSylvia, uze wawubona umehluko, njengoba eqondise amaqembu iminyaka eminingi. Izikhathi eziningi, amadoda aphathelene nesici sokufaneleka sohambo lokuqwala izintaba, wangitshela, futhi alapha ukuze afinyelele esiqongweni sentaba futhi yilokho. Abesifazane bangaba njalo, nami-impela bengifuna ukuphoqa imingcele yami kulolu hambo - kepha futhi bavulekele kakhulu ukuxhumana nabanye abaseqenjini, ukuzihlanganisa nabantu bendawo, nokumane nje uhambe nokugeleza lapho izinto zingahambi ' hamba ngokohlelo. Kwenze kube nohambo oluphumulele, oluvulekile, nolumemayo—futhi inhlebo yomfana namahlaya ocansi ayehlile awazange abe buhlungu. (Hey, singabantu.)

Isizungu sikulungele. Lapho ngiphuma kulolu hambo, ukuba nesizungu akuyona into eyake yafika engqondweni yami. Ngikufanele ukuhlangana nabantu abasha futhi ngisize wonke umuntu azizwe ekhululekile ngomunye nomunye (futhi ungabheja ngizoba owokuqala ukuqhulula ihlaya ngemali yami). Ngakho-ke ngamangala lapho, cishe phakathi nohambo, ngizithola ngilahlekile ekhaya. Kwakungahlangene nakancane nokuthi ngangikuphi-izinto esasizibona, abantu esasihlangana nabo, nezinto esasizenza zazimangalisa-kepha kunalokho engangikushiye ngemuva. Njengoba ngishilo, izingcindezi eziningi bezinqwabelana emuva ekhaya, futhi ngabona ukuthi yize ngangifuna kakhulu ukweqa ngenkathi ngibekisa lolu hambo, ngangizizwa kabi ngokushiya lezo zingxabano kumyeni wami owayesele emuva.

Kodwa-ke, iqembu lami lafingqa iNtaba iZas, futhi umoya wokuthula wehla phezu kwami ​​- ikakhulukazi lapho, kubo bonke abantu ababephezulu kwentaba, izimvemvane ezimbili zathola indlela yazo kimi, ziphumula ngokudlala ekhanda lami. Futhi endleleni eya phansi, iqembu lami lathola indawo eseceleni eyayiqhelelene nomkhondo-indawo eyayinkulu ngokwanele ukuba sonke singene. Sahlala phansi futhi, okwemizuzu embalwa nje, sahlala ekuzindleni okuqondisiwe okuholwa ngomunye wabahlanganyeli bohambo okwakungaba ngumfundisi weyoga. Ukwenza lokho kwangisiza ukuba ngikhululeke ngemizwa engakhululekile-ukuzizwa nginecala nokukhathazeka, ikakhulukazi-futhi kwangivumela ukuthi ngigxile esikhathini samanje futhi. Imisindo, iphunga, nemizwa konke kungisizile wangibuyisela esikhungweni sami, futhi kulapho ngabona khona ukuthi akukho ebengingakwenza ngezinto ezenzeka ekhaya. Kunesizathu ebengiludinga lolu hambo ngalesi sikhathi. Ngaphandle kwalowo mzindlo-futhi ngaphandle kwalowo mhelo wokuqala wesizungu-anginasiqiniseko sokuthi ngangiyoze ngifinyelele kulezo zikhathi zokuthula.

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