Ungamthola Kanjani Umelaphi Wokubhekana Nezinkinga Zakho

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Uma wehla ngomphimbo obuhlungu, ubuhlungu bamazinyo, noma isisu, wazi kahle ukuthi hlobo luni lomhlinzeki wezokwelapha odinga ukulibona. Kepha kuthiwani uma uzizwa ukhathazekile noma ucindezelekile? Ingabe kwanele ukukhipha umngani noma kufanele ngabe ukhuluma nochwepheshe? Kanti unjani thola owelapha?

Masibhekane nakho: Usuvele wakhungatheka futhi wehla ezindaweni zokulahla. Umqondo wokuthola uhlobo lochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo okulungele wena ungazizwa ungaphezu kwamandla akho (noma ufuna ukuwaphatha). Siyayithola-yingakho sikwenzele umsebenzi. Qhubeka ufunde umhlahlandlela wakho wesinyathelo ngesinyathelo wokuthola usizo oludingayo. (PS Ngisho nefoni yakho ingakhuphuka ekucindezelekeni.)

Isinyathelo 1: Tshela othile-noma ubani.

Ukwazi ukuthi ungalufuna nini usizo nakho kubalulekile. Kunezimpawu ezimbili ezibalulekile ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthola usizo kochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo, kusho uDan Reidenberg, uPyy.D, umqondisi omkhulu weSuicide Awareness Voices of Education (SAVE). "Okokuqala ukuthi uma ungakwazi ukusebenza ngendlela obukade usebenza ngayo futhi akukho lutho ozamayo olusizayo," usho kanje. Okwesibili yilapho abanye abantu beqaphela ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle. "Uma othile ethatha isinyathelo sokusho okuthile kuwe kusho ukuthi sekudlulele phambili futhi kuthathe isikhathi eside - futhi mhlawumbe kubucayi kakhulu - kunalokho ongase ukucabange," usho kanje.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi omunye obalulekile, umngane, ilungu lomndeni, noma osebenza naye, ukufinyelela usizo kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Imvamisa, izifo zengqondo-ngisho nokudangala okuncane noma ukukhathazeka-kungenza kube nzima kuwe ukuthola ukuthi kubi kangakanani, kusho uReidenberg. "Ukwazisa umuntu ukuthi uyazabalaza kungenza umehluko omkhulu."

Isinyathelo sesi-2: Vakashela udokotela wakho.

Awudingi ukuqalisa kusesho lokuncipha. Ukuhambela kwakho kokuqala kungaba udokotela wakho wokunakekela oyinhloko noma i-ob-gyn. “Kungase kube nezici zebhayoloji, zezokwelapha, noma zamahomoni ezenzekayo ezingatholwa lapho kuhlolwa elebhu,” usho kanje. Isibonelo, izinkinga ze-thyroid zihlotshaniswa nezimpawu zokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka futhi ukwelapha inkinga engaphansi kungakusiza uzizwe ungcono. "Udokotela wakho angakuphakamisa ukuthi ukhulume nomuntu okwamanje njengoba imithi iqala ukusebenza noma uma ingasebenzi," kwengeza uReidenberg. Uma udokotela wakho enqabela isimo sezokwelapha, cishe uzokudlulisela kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. (Thola: Ingabe Ukukhathazeka Kwezakhi Zakho Zofuzo?)

Isinyathelo 3: Bheka isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.

"Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo singumuntu ongcono kakhulu ongaya kuye uma ulwa noshintsho kwimizwa yakho noma emimoyeni yakho, awunantshisekelo ezintweni owawukade unazo, akukho okubonakala kukujabulisa, noma imizwa yakho inyuka futhi phansi noma ngokungaguquguquki phansi, "usho njalo. "Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo singakusiza ufunde ukuthi ungasebenzisana kanjani nemicabango yakho kanye nokuziphatha kwakho ukukulungisa ukubuyele endaweni ephathekayo."

Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo azihlinzeki ngemithi (odokotela bengqondo, abangodokotela bezokwelapha, bayakwenza). "Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo siqeqeshwe ngezindlela eziningi ezahlukene," kusho uReidenberg. "Lapho abantu bezihlalele bakhulume endaweni ephephile, engenakwahlulela kungaba usizo ngendlela emangalisayo ekuhleleni imicabango nemizwa. Kwehlisa izinga labo lokukhathazeka."

Isinyathelo 4: Isazi sakho sezengqondo singakudlulisela kudokotela wezifo zengqondo.

Cishe kuzo zonke izimo, ngeke ubone udokotela wezifo zengqondo ngaphandle kokuthi i-pscyhologist yakho icabange ukuthi iyadingeka, uma ungabi ngcono noma unezinhlungu eziningi ongazisingatha wedwa. Inzuzo enkulu kunazo zonke mhlawumbe ingukusebenza nabo bobabili, uyanezela uReidenberg. "Udokotela ngamunye uzofuna ukwazi ukuthi ngabe unemiphumela engemihle yini, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukene." Udokotela wezifo zengqondo uzofuna ukuvalelwa ngaphakathi ukuze azi ukuthi isilinganiso noma umuthi awulungile, kanti udokotela wezengqondo angakusiza ukubhekana nemiphumela emibi ngokulungisa impilo yakho nombono wakho, kusho uReidenberg. "Ngokusebenzisana, bazokwabelana ngolwazi mayelana nentuthuko yakho ukuze ukwazi ukubuyela emzileni ngokushesha okukhulu." (Kepha xwayiswa-Ukucindezeleka Okungafanele Ukuthola Ukuqonda Kungathumela Ngokujulile Ngobuchopho Bakho.)

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