Ungasinqanda Kanjani Isizungu Ngenkathi Umhlaba Ukwi-Lockdown

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• Ukuzizwa uwedwa vs. ukuzizwa unesizungu
• Ukugwema isizungu ngenkathi uhlehla ekhaya
• Hlala uxhumekile futhi uxhunyiwe
• Iya emibuthanweni yokuzijabulisa ebonakalayo
• Volontiya cishe
• Khuluma nesazi sezempilo yengqondo
• Finyelela usizo
• Usizo lukhona lapho

Sifaka imikhiqizo esicabanga ukuthi ilusizo kubafundi bethu. Uma uthenga ngezixhumanisi ezikuleli khasi, singathola ikhomishini encane. Nansi inqubo yethu.

Ungahlala wedwa, usebenze wedwa, futhi uhambe wedwa ngenkathi uzizwa unokuthula ngokwakho. Isizungu sishaya ngendlela ehlukile.

Mina nomyeni wami siqhele ngamakhilomitha ukusuka endaweni esiyibiza ngokuthi “ikhaya.”

Siphume ezweni ngonyaka odlule ngoshintsho lwendawo. Kanye nalolo shintsho kweza ukuzidela okukhulu: ukusuka kubathandekayo bethu abaseduze.

Njengoba isikhathi sihamba, siyabona ukuthi ikhaya akuyona nje indawo. Yilapho abantu bakho bekhona.

Ngenkathi ukuqhelelana ngokomzimba kwehlise umthelela wokuqubuka kwe-COVID-19, akunikezi usizo kwisizungu esibhekene naso futhi.

Ubhadane lwesizungu luvele kahle ngaphambi kwesidingo sokuziqhelanisa nomzimba. Abantu sebenesikhathi eside belwa nesizungu, ngisho nalapho izinto “zisajwayelekile” emhlabeni.

Imikhombandlela yokuqhelelana ngokomzimba ivele ikhulise umthelela, ikakhulukazi ngokwanda kwemiphakathi eyalwe ukuba ikhosele endaweni.

Ngokwami ​​ngiyayizwa imiphumela ngesikhathi salesi sikhoselo esikhona. Ngikhumbula abangane bami, umndeni wami, nenkululeko yokuphuma ngiyohlangana nabantu abasha.

Ukuzizwa uwedwa vs. ukuzizwa unesizungu

Ukuzizwa uwedwa nokuba nesizungu yizinto ezimbili ezihluke ngokuphelele. Kuthonywe ukungabi bikho kobungane, isizungu sidala izinga lokuzihlukanisa elingalimaza impilo yakho yengqondo nenhlalakahle yakho.

Njengesingeniso, ngithola amandla ami ekubeni ngedwa. Ngiwumuntu wasekhaya ojwayele ukusebenza ekhaya. Yingakho ngikwazi ukubhekana kahle nalesi sikhathi sokuhlukaniswa. Ngasohlangothini lwe-flip, ngincamela ukuba nokulinganisela phakathi kokuba wedwa nokuxhuma komphakathi.

Ungahlala wedwa, usebenze wedwa, futhi uhambe wedwa ngenkathi uzizwa unokuthula ngokuphelele kuwe. Isizungu, nokho? Ishaya ngokuhlukile.

Imvamisa kukwenza uzizwe ungo "uyinqaba ukuphuma" ezimweni zenhlalo, futhi lowo muzwa ungakuholela emgwaqeni obuhlungu ngokomzwelo.

Imiphumela yesizungu ingenza kube nzima kuwe ukusungula ukuxhumana nobuhlobo obuseduze nabanye. Ezikhathini lapho uvikeleka kakhulu khona, kungabonakala sengathi awunandawo ephephile yokuhlala ngokusekelwa ngokomzwelo.

Ukuzizwa unesizungu kungaba nomphumela kunoma yisiphi isigaba sempilo yakho, kusukela ebuntwaneni kuze kube semdala. Izikhathi ze-episodic zesizungu zivamile. Ngokunokwenzeka, uzoyizwa imiphumela yayo ngesilinganiso esincane.

Ngikhula njengengane okuwukuphela kwayo kamama, ngathola isizungu kusenesikhathi. Ngangingenabo abafowethu abalingana nami engingadlala nabo, ukulwa nabo, noma ukuxazulula izingxabano nabo. Ngezinga elithile, lokhu kuphazamise impilo yami yomphakathi.

Ukwenza abangane kwakungakaze kube yinkinga kimi, kodwa kwangithatha iminyaka ukuba ngibe nekhono lokuxhumana nokulungisa izingxabano. Ubudlelwano mancane amathuba okuthi buhlale lapho kunokushoda kwalezi zinto ezimbili, futhi ngakufunda kabuhlungu lokhu.

Isizungu sesikhathi eside yindawo eyingozi ongafuni ukuyifinyelela, njengoba ibeka ingozi yezempilo ephakeme kakhulu.

Ukugwema isizungu ngenkathi uhlehla ekhaya

Njengabantu, singabantu ngokwemvelo. Sasingenazintambo noma sidalelwe ukuhlala impilo yodwa. Yingakho sifisa ukuxhumeka lapho kunokuntuleka kwakho ezimpilweni zethu.

Ukuzihlukanisa kunezinzuzo zako. Isibonelo, ungakuthola kulula ukugxila lapho usebenza noma wenza izinto uwedwa. Lesi ngesinye sezimo lapho kukhona khona ubuhle bodwa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, inezithiyo zayo njenganoma yimuphi omunye umkhuba.

Njengomuntu wobuciko, ngisebenza kahle kakhulu uma kungekho muntu oseduze. Ngincamela ukuba ngedwa lapho amasondo ami ejikeleza futhi ngikuleso sikhala sobuso sokudala. Kungani? Iziphazamiso zingaphazamisa ukuhamba kwami ​​kalula, okungikhipha emgodini wami futhi kungenze ngihlehlise.

Angikwazi ukuzivumela ukuthi ngisebenze usuku lonke, noma ngingahlala ngisesimweni sokuhlukaniswa njalo. Yingakho ngivimba isikhathi ohlelweni lwami lokusebenza kumaphrojekthi wokudala.

Ngale ndlela, ngiyakwazi ukukhulisa isikhathi sami futhi ngibe nokulinganisela okunempilo emsebenzini nokuphila. Ngezinye izikhathi, ngenza isiqiniseko sokuxhuma kubantu bami.

Lapho sichitha isikhathi esiningi sodwa, izingqondo zethu kwesinye isikhathi zingazula emgodini wonogwaja wokucabanga okungalungile. Ungaweli kulolu gibe. Ukuzabalazela amalungelo kubalulekile.

Ngokusho kwe-American Psychological Association (APA), ukuhlukaniswa komphakathi okubonakalayo kungadala izinkinga eziningi ezehlukene zezempilo. Imiphumela ingahle isuke ekucindezelekeni nasekukhathazekeni iye ekuzivikeleni komzimba.

Ngezikhathi zenhlekelele, kungcono ukuthi uhlale unamazinga futhi ugxile kokukwazi ukukulawula. Ukugxila kulokho ongakwenza kuzokusiza ukubhekana neqiniso lakho elisha.

Hlala uxhumekile futhi uxhunyiwe

I-APA iphawula ukuthi isizungu esedlulele singaba nomthelela omubi empilweni yakho. Njengoba sikhuthazelela le nkinga, kufanele sihlale sixhumene nabanye ngenkathi sikuso.

Ubuchwepheshe benza kube lula ukuxhumana nabantu ngaphandle kokubakhona ngokomzimba. Umndeni, abangane, nabantu obathandayo bahlala nje beshayela ucingo - ngaphandle uma uhlala nabo vele.

Uma uzwa sengathi awuxhumani nalabo osondelene nabo, manje kungaba yisikhathi esihle sokuxhuma kabusha. Ngenxa yamapulatifomu asuselwa engxoxweni afana ne-FaceTime ne-GroupMe, ungabheka obathandayo kalula usuka ekhaya.

Akugcini lapho. Imithombo yezokuxhumana isebenza injongo yayo ngezindlela ezingaphezu kweyodwa. Ngokuyinhloko, kuyithuluzi elihle ongalisebenzisa ukwenza ukuxhumana okusha.

Abantu emhlabeni wonke basebenzisa imithombo yezokuxhumana ngalesi sizathu. Unethuba elingcono lokusungula ukuxhumana nomuntu uma ukwazi ukuxhumana naye ngandlela thile.

Njengoba sonke siyizwa imiphumela yalesi simo esibucayi, lokhu kungaba yindawo enhle yokuqala ukuthola indawo esivumelana ngayo.

Kukhona ne-Quarantine Chat, uhlelo lokusebenza olusha lwabantu abalwa nesizungu njengoba sithambisa ijika le-COVID-19.

Iya emibuthanweni yokuzijabulisa ebonakalayo

Njengoba singeke siphume futhi sihlangane nabantu abasha ungaxhunyiwe ku-inthanethi, kungani ungaqambi ngendlela ohlangana nabo ku-inthanethi?

Kanye ne-intanethi kuza inzuzo yomphakathi oku-inthanethi. Kunamathani emiphakathi ngokuhle kakhulu kuzo zonke izindlela zokuphila. Eziningi zitholakala emphakathini mahhala.

Ungaqiniseki ukuthi uzoqala kuphi? Bheka amaqembu e-Facebook ahambisana nezinto ozithandayo kanye nezinto ozithandayo.

Eminye imiphakathi isingatha imibuthano ebonakala ngokuphelele, futhi isebenza kakhulu manje. Ngikubone konke, kusuka kubusuku obubonakalayo bama-movie nabaxube kuya kuma-book book amakilabhu nezinsuku zekhofi. Futhi cishe lonke uhlobo lwekilasi lokuqina ongalucabanga.

Ungesabi ukuzama izinto ezintsha. Kuzoba yindaba yesikhathi kuphela ngaphambi kokuthola isizwe sakho, ngisho naku-inthanethi.

Volontiya cishe

Wake wafuna ukunikela entweni enkulu kunawe? Manje yithuba lakho lokwenza lowo mphumela obonakalayo emphakathini.

Kunezindlela eziningi ongayikhokha ngazo phambili ngaphandle kokuphuma endlini. Ukusiza abanye kungasusa isizungu engqondweni yakho bese kugxila kokuhle kakhulu.

Ungasiza ngisho nabacwaningi be-COVID-19 abavela ekhaya.

Kuyimpumelelo kuwena nakubantu.

Khuluma nesazi sezempilo yengqondo

Kuningi ukwelashwa okungenza impilo yakho yengqondo. Kokunye, uchwepheshe onguchwepheshe angakuhlomisa ngamathuluzi owadingayo ukuze ubhekane ngokuphumelelayo nesizungu.

Ukwelashwa ngaphakathi komuntu akutholakali okwamanje, kodwa awuphumile ngokuphelele kokukhethwa kukho. Izinhlelo zokusebenza ezinjengeTalkspace neBethelhelp zikwenze kwaba lula ukuthola ukwelashwa online.

"Izinsizakalo zokwelapha eziku-inthanethi zingasiza ekwelapheni izimpawu zokuphazamiseka kwengcindezi, kufaka phakathi isizungu," kusho uDkt.

Noma isipiliyoni singahluka kunalokho okujwayele, ukwelashwa okuku-inthanethi kungasebenza njengokwelashwa komuntu uqobo.

"[Inikeza abantu ikhono] lokuxoxa ngezimpawu zabo, ukudala uhlelo lokwelashwa, nokusebenza ngokubambisana nomhlinzeki wokwelashwa," kusho u-Ivanov.

Finyelela usizo

Kulabo asebebhekene nesizungu sesikhathi eside amasonto, izinyanga, noma iminyaka ngesikhathi, ukuziqhelanisa nomzimba kuvele ngesikhathi esingesihle.

Uma njengamanje ulwa nesizungu, sikukhuthaza ukuthi usebenzise izinsizakusebenza ezikhona. Ngempela akudingeki uhambe wedwa.

Usizo lukhona lapho

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Ngenkathi ulinde usizo ukufika, hlala nabo futhi ususe noma yiziphi izikhali noma izinto ezingadala ingozi.

Uma ungekho ekhaya elilodwa, hlala nabo ocingweni kuze kufike usizo.

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