Izinzuzo Zokucabanga Ngokufanele, nokuthi Ungakwenza Kanjani

-Delile

• Ukubuka konke
• Ungayicabanga kanjani imicabango emihle
• Gxila ezintweni ezinhle
• Prakthiza ukubonga
• Gcina incwadi yokubonga
• Zivulele amahlaya
• Chitha isikhathi nabantu abahle
• Zijwayeze ukukhuluma ngokwakho
• Khomba izindawo zakho zokunganaki
• Qala nsuku zonke ngenothi elihle
• Ungacabanga kanjani uqinisekile lapho konke kungahambi kahle
• Imiphumela emibi yokucabanga okungalungile
• Ungalufuna nini usizo lwezokwelapha
• Ukudla okudlela endlini

Ukubuka konke

Ingabe uyiglasi elingenalutho noma elingenalutho eligcwele? Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi womabili angayithinta impilo yakho engokwenyama nengokwengqondo nokuthi ukuba ngocabangayo okuhle kungcono kulokhu.

Ucwaningo lwakamuva lulandele abesifazane abangu-70 000 kusukela ngo-2004 kuya ku-2012 futhi bathola ukuthi labo ababenethemba babenobungozi obuphansi kakhulu bokufa ngenxa yezimbangela ezinkulu zokufa, kubandakanya:

• Isifo senhliziyo
• unhlangothi
• umdlavuza, kufaka phakathi umdlavuza webele, we-ovari, wamaphaphu nowebala
• ukutheleleka
• izifo zokuphefumula

Ezinye izinzuzo ezifakazelwe zokucabanga kahle zifaka:

• impilo engcono
• amazinga aphezulu wamandla
• impilo engcono ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba
• ukululama ngokushesha ekulimaleni noma ekuguleni
• imikhuhlane embalwa
• amazinga aphansi okudangala
• ukuphathwa kangcono kwengcindezi namakhono okubhekana nesimo
• isikhathi eside sokuphila

Ukucabanga okuhle akuyona imilingo futhi ngeke kwenze zonke izinkinga zakho zinyamalale. Lokho ezokwenza kuzokwenza izinkinga zibonakale zilawuleka kalula futhi zikusize ubhekane nobunzima ngendlela eyakhayo nenomkhiqizo.

Ungayicabanga kanjani imicabango emihle

Ukucabanga okuhle kungafinyelelwa ngokusebenzisa amasu ambalwa ahlukene okufakazelwe ukuthi asebenza kahle, njengokuzikhulumela okuhle nezithombe ezinhle.

Nawa amanye amathiphu wokuqalisa ongakusiza ukuqeqesha ubuchopho bakho ukuthi ucabange kanjani ngokuhle.

Gxila ezintweni ezinhle

Izimo eziyinselele nezithiyo ziyingxenye yempilo. Uma ubhekene neyodwa, gxila ezintweni ezinhle noma ngabe zibonakala zincane noma zibukeka zingabalulekile. Uma uyifuna, ungathola njalo ulayini wesiliva oyisaga efwini ngalinye - noma kungabonakali ngokushesha. Isibonelo, uma othile ekhansela izinhlelo, gxila ekutheni sikukhulula kanjani isikhathi sakho sokubamba umdlalo we-TV noma omunye umsebenzi owuthandayo.

Prakthiza ukubonga

Ukuzilolonga ngokubonga kukhonjisiwe ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka, ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba, nokukhuthaza ukuqina ngisho nasezikhathini ezinzima kakhulu. Cabanga ngabantu, izikhathi, noma izinto ezikulethela uhlobo oluthile lwenduduzo noma injabulo bese uzama ukukhombisa ukubonga kwakho okungenani kanye ngosuku. Lokhu kungaba ukubonga umuntu osebenza naye ngokusiza ngephrojekthi, othandekayo ngokugeza izitsha, noma inja yakho ngothando olungenamibandela abakunikeza lona.

Gcina incwadi yokubonga

uthole ukuthi ukubhala phansi izinto ozibongayo kungakhuphula ithemba lakho kanye nomuzwa wenhlalakahle. Ungakwenza lokhu ngokubhala kumagazini wokubonga nsuku zonke, noma ubhale phansi uhlu lwezinto ozibongayo ngezinsuku onenkinga ngazo.

Zivulele amahlaya

Ucwaningo luye lwathola ukuthi ukuhleka kwehlisa ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka nokudangala. Iphinde ithuthukise amakhono okubhekana nesimo, imizwa, nokuzethemba.

Yiba namahlaya kuzo zonke izimo, ikakhulukazi lezo ezinzima, futhi uzinike imvume yokuhleka. Ngokushesha ikhanyisa imizwa futhi yenze izinto zibonakale zinzima kancane. Noma ungazizwa; ukuzenzisa noma ukuziphoqa ukuba uhleke kungathuthukisa imizwa yakho kanye nokwehla kwengcindezi.

Chitha isikhathi nabantu abahle

Ukunganaki kanye nokuzethemba kukhonjisiwe ukuthi kuyathathelana. Cabanga ngabantu ochitha isikhathi nabo. Uke waqaphela ukuthi umuntu onesimo esingesihle angawisa kanjani cishe wonke umuntu osekamelweni? Umuntu ovumayo unomphumela ophambene kwabanye.

Ukuba phakathi kwabantu abahle kukhonjisiwe ukuthi kuthuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakho futhi kwandise amathuba akho okufinyelela izinhloso. Zizungeze ngabantu abazokuphakamisa futhi bakusize ubone uhlangothi olukhanyayo.

Zijwayeze ukukhuluma ngokwakho

Sivame ukuba ngabanzima kakhulu kithi futhi sizigxeke ngokwedlulele. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lokhu kungadala ukuthi wakhe umbono ongemuhle ngawe ongaba nzima ukuwuzamazama. Ukumisa lokhu, kuzodingeka uqaphele izwi ekhanda lakho bese uphendula ngemiyalezo evumayo, eyaziwa nangokuthi ukuzikhulumela okuhle.

Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ngisho nokushintsha okuncane endleleni okhuluma ngayo kungathinta ikhono lakho lokulawula imizwa yakho, imicabango, nokuziphatha kwakho ngaphansi kwengcindezi.

Nasi isibonelo sokuzikhulumela okuhle: Esikhundleni sokucabanga ukuthi "Ngikudidile impela lokho," zama ukuthi "Ngizokuzama futhi ngenye indlela."

Khomba izindawo zakho zokunganaki

Bheka kahle izindawo ezahlukahlukene zempilo yakho bese uthola lezo othambekele ekubeni ezingezinhle kakhulu kuzo. Angiqiniseki? Buza umngane othembekile noma osebenza naye. Amathuba ukuthi, bazokwazi ukunikeza ukuqondisisa okuthile. Umuntu osebenza naye angaqaphela ukuthi uvame ukuba nombono omubi emsebenzini. Oshade naye angase aqaphele ukuthi uthola kabi kakhulu ngenkathi ushayela. Thatha indawo eyodwa ngesikhathi.

Qala nsuku zonke ngenothi elihle

Dala isiko oqala ngalo usuku ngalunye ngokuthile okukhuthazayo futhi okuhle. Nayi imibono embalwa:

• Zitshele ukuthi kuzoba usuku oluhle noma okunye ukuvuma okuhle.
• Lalela ingoma ejabulisayo nevumayo noma uhlu lwadlalwayo.
• Yabelana ngokuzethemba ngokunikeza ukuncoma noma ngokwenza okuthile okuhle kumuntu othile.

Ungacabanga kanjani uqinisekile lapho konke kungahambi kahle

Ukuzama ukuba nombono oqondile lapho usosizini noma uhlangabezana nokunye ukucindezeleka okungathi sína kungabonakala kungenakwenzeka. Ngalezi zikhathi, kubalulekile ukususa ingcindezi kuwe ukuthola ulwelwesi lwesiliva. Esikhundleni salokho, shayela lawo mandla ekutholeni ukwesekwa kwabanye.

Ukucabanga okuhle akukhona ngokungcwaba yonke imicabango emibi noma imizwa onayo noma ukugwema imizwa enzima. Amaphuzu aphansi kakhulu ezimpilweni zethu imvamisa yilawo asikhuthaza ukuthi siqhubekele phambili futhi senze izinguquko ezinhle.

Lapho ubhekene nesikhathi esinjalo, zama ukuzibona sengathi ungumngane omuhle odinga induduzo nezeluleko ezinengqondo. Ungathini kuye? Kungenzeka ukuthi uyayiqonda imizwa yakhe futhi umkhumbuze ukuthi unelungelo lokuzizwa edabukile noma ecasukile esimweni sakhe, bese unikeza ukuxhaswa ngesikhumbuzo esimnene sokuthi izinto zizolunga.

Imiphumela emibi yokucabanga okungalungile

Ukucabanga okungekuhle nemizwa eminingi engakuphelezela, njengokuphelelwa yithemba, ingcindezi nentukuthelo, kungadala izimpawu ezithile zomzimba futhi kwandise ubungozi bezifo nempilo emfushane.

Ingcindezi neminye imizwa engemihle idala izinqubo eziningana emizimbeni yethu, kufaka phakathi ukukhishwa kwe-hormone yokucindezela, imetabolism, kanye nokusebenza komzimba. Izikhathi ezinde zokuxineka zandisa ukuvuvukala emzimbeni wakho, nakho okuye kwathinteka ezinombolweni noma ezifweni ezinzima.

Ezinye zezimpawu zokuxineka zifaka:

• ikhanda
• Ubuhlungu bomzimba
• isicanucanu
• ukukhathala
• ubunzima bokulala

Ukugxeka, ingcindezi, intukuthelo nobutha kuye kwaxhunyaniswa nengozi enkulu yoku:

• Isifo senhliziyo
• isifo senhliziyo
• unhlangothi
• ukuwohloka komqondo

Ungalufuna nini usizo lwezokwelapha

Uma uzizwa udliwe yimicabango emibi futhi unenkinga yokulawula imizwa yakho, bheka udokotela. Ungasizakala ngosizo lwezokwelapha, olufana nokusebenza kwengqondo okuhle noma ukwelashwa. Imicabango emibi eqhubekayo ingadalwa yisimo esingaphansi kwesifo sengqondo esidinga ukwelashwa.

Ukudla okudlela endlini

Ngeke ukwazi ukuhlehlisa iminyaka yokulahla ithemba nemicabango engemihle ngobusuku obubodwa, kepha ngokuzijwayeza okuthile, ungafunda ukuthi ungazibheka kanjani izinto ngombono oqondile.