Indlela Ubudlelwane Bakho Obushintsha Ngayo Ekwindla

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• Isizini sokuganga (nokugaxa okuningi)
• Kukhona 'ubuqiniso' ebuhlotsheni bakho
• Sekuyisikhathi ‘sokuhlangana nabazali
• Ezothando zisemoyeni
• Buyekeza kwe-

Ekwindla isikhathi soshintsho, njengoba isimo sezulu siba sesipholile nesipholile futhi, impela, amahlamvu aba mahle, aguquke asuke emithunzini eluhlaza okotshani abe yimibala egqamile kabomvana negolide. Iqiniso ukuthi, ngocwaningo ngalunye, ubudlelwano bethu baziwa futhi ngokuthola ukuvela.

Isizini saziwa ukukhuthaza ukusondelana phakathi kwezithandani, ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene, kufaka phakathi ukufika kwamaholide agxile emndenini, njenge-Thanksgiving. Lokho okwake kwaba yisikhathi "sokubuyela esikoleni" sekuyisikhathi "sokubuyela ekugayeni" njengoba sibuyela esimweni esigcwele emisebenzini yethu ngemuva kwehlobo. Lokhu kuphumela ekubeni "ngokoqobo" maqondana nokuvela kobudlelwano bethu, kuchaza uDkt. Jenn Mann, udokotela wezifo zengqondo waseLos Angeles, ongumxhumanisi oholayo ku "Couples Therapy ye-VH1" noDkt Jenn, "nombhali wencwadi entsha, Ukulungiswa Kobudlelwano: Umhlahlandlela Wezinyathelo Ezi-6 ZikaDkt.

Lapha, sicela uDkt. Jenn-uchwepheshe uma kuziwa ekuzulazuleni ama-ebbs / flow of coupledom-mayelana nezindlela esingalindela ngazo ukuthi ubudlelwane bethu bukhule ekwindla:

Isizini sokuganga (nokugaxa okuningi)

Kukhona izifundo (kufaka phakathi lokhu okuvela ku- Ijenali Yocwaningo Lwabathengi) okubonisa ukuthi, uma ugodola, ufuna ukufudumala "ngokwengqondo", okuwumphumela wokugona. (Ngoba ubudinga isifundo ukukuqinisekisa.) Kukhona ukusondelana okwenzekayo lapho isimo sezulu sibanda, futhi bekungeke kube ngcono ebudlelwaneni obudala / obusha. Ithuba lokuba nengxoxo (njengokuthi, ube nengxoxo ngempela) liyamangalisa, njengamathuba okuhlanganyela emisebenzini eyamukela ukusondela, njengokudlala umdlalo we-Scrabble.

"Isimo sezulu siqala ukuphola, ngakho-ke isimo sezulu esibi kakhulu, futhi isikhathi esithe xaxa sokubamba indawo yomlilo sihlale sibe nezingxoxo ezinde," kusho uDkt Jenn. "Kuyithuba lokwenza imisebenzi eminingi 'ethokomele'."

Kukhona 'ubuqiniso' ebuhlotsheni bakho

Ubudlelwano obuqale entwasahlobo / ehlobo bujabulisa kakhulu: bukhona emhlabeni ogcwele ukuvakasha, onamathuba okuphumula. Kepha ekwindla, kukhona "ukuba ngokoqobo" okwenzekayo. Lesi yisikhathi esiveza ithuba lokuqonda ukuphakama nokwehla kokuxhumana nomlingani wakho. Yisikhathi sokuqaphela njengoba ubuyela ezindleleni zakho, isikhathi lapho ungakwazi ukuhlola ukujula kobudlelwano bakho.

"Enye yezinto ezinhle ngokuwa ukuthi, ehlobo, kuyisikhathi 'sesikhathi sesiqhingi'," kusho uDkt. "Siya emaholidini, sizozulazula olwandle, futhi sibeka eceleni kwechibi. Senza le misebenzi eminingi yesiqhingi esithandekayo. Kufana neBachelor, lapho beya khona Kuwo wonke lawo maholide. Kodwa, lapho kufika ikwindla, kwenza ubuhlobo bethu bube ngokoqobo ngendlela eyakhayo ngempela. Asazi noma ubuhlobo bungasebenza kuze kube yilapho sikuzama 'empilweni yangempela.' Uma unezingane, uziyisa esikoleni futhi ubhekene nazo zonke lezo zingcindezi. Umatasa usebenza. Impilo yangempela leyo. "

Sekuyisikhathi ‘sokuhlangana nabazali

Lesi sikhathi sigcwele imicimbi egxile emndenini, kufaka phakathi i-Thanksgiving kanye noKhisimusi noHannukah, futhi kubalulekile ukuqonda abazali bomlingani wakho nobuhlobo babo nabo. Imvamisa, ukuhlangana nabazali kuyithuba lokuzwa ikusasa elingaba khona. Yebo, kungaba khona ukwesaba ukuthola isibusiso sabo, kepha lokhu kukhulu mayelana nolwazi lwakho njengabo. Ngabe umndeni womlingani wakho kanye namasiko abo, njll. afana kanjani nowakho? Thatha ithuba - leli yithuba lokuxhumana.

"Kuhlala kuyisinyathelo esikhulu ukwenza leso sinyathelo sokuqala ngamaholide nokuhlangana nomndeni," kusho uDkt Jenn. "Yinto esiza ngempela ukuqhubekisela phambili ubudlelwano."

Ezothando zisemoyeni

Amahora ambalwa okukhanya kwelanga achaza isizini alungele ukushona kwelanga kanye nesibopho sangemuva kokushona kwelanga. Gxila othandweni lwakusihlwa okumnyama ngemisebenzi eqondene nomuntu ngamunye, njengesidlo sakusihlwa, futhi wamukele ubulili besizini!

Uthi: “Ubusuku bujabulisa kakhulu kunesasemini, ilanga lisheshe lishone, okwenza kube nokushona kwelanga okumnandi, kwasekuseni kanye nezidlo zakusihlwa zothando ngoba awukwazi ukukhanyisa amakhandlela lapho ilanga lisavaliwe.

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