Ingabe Ukwelashwa Kwabantu Kukufanele?

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• Isebenza kanjani?
• Ngabe iqhathaniswa kanjani nezinye izinhlobo zokwelashwa?
• Yiziphi ezinye izibonelo zokwelashwa kwabantu?
• Ukwelashwa kwe-Gestalt
• Ukwelashwa okugxilwe kumakhasimende
• Ukwelashwa okukhona
• Ubani umuntu ofanele ukwelashwa ngabantu?
• Ngimthola kanjani umelaphi wobuntu?
• Okubalulekile

Ukwelashwa kwesintu kuyindlela yezempilo yengqondo egcizelela ukubaluleka kokuba uqobo lwakho ukuze uhole impilo enelisa kakhulu.

Kususelwa esimisweni sokuthi wonke umuntu unendlela yakhe ehlukile yokubuka umhlaba. Lo mbono ungathinta ukukhetha kwakho nezenzo zakho.

Ukwelashwa kwabantu kuhlanganisa nenkolelo eyinhloko yokuthi abantu banezinhliziyo ezinhle futhi bayakwazi ukuzenzela izinqumo ezifanele. Uma ungazibambi kakhulu, kunzima ukuthuthukisa amandla akho aphelele.

Funda ukuze ufunde kabanzi mayelana nokwelashwa kwabantu, kufaka phakathi ukuthi kusebenza kanjani namathiphu wokuthola owelapha.

Isebenza kanjani?

Ukwelashwa kwabantu kuhilela ukuqonda kangcono umbono wakho wezwe nokwakha ukuzamukela kwangempela.

Lokhu kufezwa ngokwengxenye ngokuthuthuka kwenhlonipho engenamibandela, evela kwabanye nakuwe. Lapho ukholwa ukuthi abanye bakuhlonipha kuphela uma wenza into ethile, kulula ukuwela ogibeni lokuhlala uzizwa sengathi awenele.

Lo muzwa wokungabi nalutho, nawo, ungaba nomthelela omubi endleleni ozibheka ngayo wena nomhlaba okuzungezile. Khumbula, ngokwemigomo eyisisekelo yokwelashwa kwabantu, indlela ozibheka ngayo kanye nezwe elikuzungezile kunomthelela omkhulu emicabangweni nasezenzweni zakho.

Ukwelashwa kwabantu kungakusiza ukuthi nobabili nithuthukise ukuzamukela futhi ninqobe ukugxekwa noma ukungamukelwa abanye ngokunikeza indawo ephephile yokusebenza ekukhuleni komuntu siqu. Kunezindlela zokwenza lokhu, esizodlula kuzo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Ngabe iqhathaniswa kanjani nezinye izinhlobo zokwelashwa?

Ukwelashwa kwabantu kuhlukile ezindleleni zendabuko eziningi, njenge-psychoanalysis noma ukwelashwa kokuziphatha.

Ukuqala, ukwelashwa kwabantu kuvame ukugxila kakhulu empilweni yakho yamanje yansuku zonke. Lokhu kwehluke kakhulu kwezinye izindlela ezivame ukugxila kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwangaphambilini, kufaka phakathi lezo okungenzeka ungazazi.

Ngokufanayo, ukwelashwa kwabantu kubuye kugxile kakhulu ekusizeni lowo muntu ngokuphelele, kunokuba welaphe ukuxilongwa okuthile. Udokotela osebenza ngabantu uvame ukukwenza lokhu ngokulalela okusebenzayo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi bazowalalela ngokucophelela amazwi akho, baqiniseke ukuthi bakuqonda ngokugcwele okushoyo. Bangakuyekisa ukubuza imibuzo elandelayo.

Ochwepheshe abangabantu basebenza besuka emcabangweni wokuthi ungungoti ezinkingeni zakho. Bazosekela ukuqondiswa okwenzayo iseshini ngayinye, bakuthembele ekwazini ukuthi yini okudingeka ukhulume ngayo ukuze ukwazi ukusebenza ngezinto ezikuletha ekwelashweni.

Yiziphi ezinye izibonelo zokwelashwa kwabantu?

Izindlela zokwelapha ezingabantu zifaka izindlela eziningi. Okuthathu okuvame kakhulu ukwelashwa kweGestalt, ukwelashwa okugxile kumakhasimende, kanye nokwelashwa okukhona.

Ukwelashwa kwe-Gestalt

Ekwelashweni kweGestalt, okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kungukhiye, kanye nokuchaza ukuthi uhlangabezana nani ngamagama akho. Kususelwa kumqondo oyisisekelo wokuthi izingxabano ezingaxazululeki nabanye - kufaka phakathi amalungu omndeni noma abalingani bezothando - kuholela ekuhluphekeni.

Ukwelashwa kwe-Gestalt kunikela ngesimo "sesimo esiphuthumayo esiphephile" lapho ungahlola khona, okwamanje, izinto ezikukhathazayo. Isibonelo, ungahlola inkolelo yokuthi imibono yakho ayinandaba nozakwenu.

Abelaphi basiza ukudala umoya "walapha namanje" ngokubuza ukuthi yini okwaziyo njengamanje noma ukuthi imizwa ethile ikwenza uzizwe kanjani. Ungahle usebenzise amasu amaningi ukwenza lokhu, kufaka phakathi:

• ukulingisa
• ihaba lokuziphatha
• ilingisa isimo

Isibonelo, ungacelwa ukuthi ubone ngeso lengqondo umuntu onengxabano nokuhlala esihlalweni esingenalutho phesheya kwakho. Ngemuva kwalokho, uzoqhuba ingxoxo sengathi umuntu ubehleli lapho.

Ukwelashwa okugxilwe kumakhasimende

Eyaziwa nangokuthi ukwelashwa okugxile kumuntu kanye nokwelashwa kweRogeria, le ndlela ibhekwa njengohlobo oluphambili lokwelashwa kwabantu.

Kususelwa emcabangweni wokuthi ukumunca ukugxekwa noma ukungamukelwa kwabanye kungaphazamisa indlela ozibona ngayo. Lokhu kuvimba ukukhula komuntu siqu futhi kukuvimbele ekubeni uphile impilo egculisayo, okuholela ekucindezelekeni kwengqondo.

Njengoba igama liphakamisa, kubuye kugxile kakhulu ekwakhiweni kobudlelwano obuqinile bamakhasimende nabelapha.

Umelaphi ogxile kwiklayenti uzokwamukela ngaphandle kwemibandela, noma ngabe engavumelani nesici esithile sokuziphatha kwakho. Ukuzizwa wamukelekile ekwelashweni, noma ngabe wabelana ngani, kungakusiza ugweme ukuzibamba ngenxa yokwesaba ukwamukelwa.

Uzoqondisa inkomba yokwelashwa ngenkathi umelaphi wakho elalele ngaphandle kokwahlulela.

Ukwelashwa okukhona

Ukwelashwa okukhona kudonsa okuningi kwifilosofi kunezinye izindlela eziningi zokwelashwa kwezempilo yengqondo. Inhloso yale ndlela ukukusiza uqonde ukuthi ubukhona bakho - umqondo wakho njengomuntu ophelele - kuthinta kanjani ukubuka kwakho umhlaba okuhlukile.

Abelaphi abakhona bakusiza ukuthi uqonde futhi uhlole incazelo oyinikeza ezintweni ezenzeka empilweni yakho. Ngokuholwa yibo, uzofunda ukwamukela umthwalo wezinqumo ozenzayo futhi ubone inkululeko onayo yokwenza ushintsho oluzonikeza impilo yakho injongo enkulu.

Njengezinye izindlela zobuntu, ukwelashwa okukhona kubhekene nezinkinga obhekene nazo njengamanje, kunezinto ezivela esikhathini esedlule. Kepha kuyabheka ukuthi imicabango yakho - eyazi noma engazi lutho - iyithinta kanjani impilo yakho nezinhloso zakho.

Ubani umuntu ofanele ukwelashwa ngabantu?

Ukwelashwa kwesintu kufanele ukudutshulwa uma ufuna izindlela zokwenza impilo yakho yanelise ngokwengeziwe, noma ngabe unesimo esingaphansi sempilo yengqondo. Kuyafaneleka futhi ukubheka ukuthi ngabe wake waba nenkinga yokwakha ubudlelwano nabelaphi.

Ukubuyekezwa kocwaningo luka-2002 lwezifundo ezingama-86 kutholakale ukuthi izindlela zokwelapha ezingabantu ziphumelele ekusizeni abantu benze ushintsho oluhlala njalo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Abantu abakwelashwa kwabantu bakhombise ushintsho oluningi kunabantu abangalutholi nhlobo unyango, ngokusho kokubuyekezwa.

Abantu bezinye izinhlobo zokwelashwa bakhombise ushintsho olufanayo, basikisela ukuthi kuningi ngokuthola uhlobo lwezokwelapha oluthandayo nozozibophezela kulo.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukubuyekezwa kocwaningo olukhona ngo-2013 kuphakamisa ukuthi izindlela ezigxile kumakhasimende zingasiza ku:

• ukuhlukumezeka
• ubunzima bobudlelwano
• i-psychosis
• ukudana
• ukubhekana nezinkinga zezempilo ezingamahlalakhona

Kodwa-ke, bekungaphumeleli kangako njengokwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo ekubhekaneni nokukhathazeka nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.

Ukuthi indlela yabantu ihlangabezana nezidingo zakho kungancika kulokho ofuna ukukuthola ekwelashweni. Izindlela zokwelapha ezenzelwe abantu ngokuvamile azenzi ukuxilongwa kube yinto eza kuqala futhi kungenzeka zingasebenzeli izinhloso ezithile zokwelashwa.

Uma unezimpawu ezithile noma izindlela zokuziphatha ongathanda ukubhekana nazo noma ufuna ukwelashwa okunomgomo ocacile wokuxilongwa nokwelashwa, ungathola enye indlela ewusizo kakhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kungahle kube nokulingana okuhle uma umane uzizwa "unamathele" noma uthambile.

Khumbula ukuthi ezinye izinhlobo zokwelashwa zivame ukufaka izici zokwelashwa kwabantu, njengokumukelwa okungenamibandela nokulalela okusebenzayo.

Ngimthola kanjani umelaphi wobuntu?

Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthola umelaphi ofanele. Lapho ufuna i-humanistic Therapist, qala ngokubheka ongathanda ukusebenzela kukho. Lokhu kungaba yinkinga ethile noma umqondo ongaqondakali.

Futhi cabanga nganoma yiziphi izici ongazithanda kumelaphi. Ngabe ungathanda ukusebenza nomelaphi wobulili bakho? Isibopho se-Therapist-client sibaluleke kakhulu ekwelashweni kwabantu, ngakho-ke uzofuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi owelapha nguyena ozozizwa ukhululekile ngaye.

Lapho ufuna owelapha, futhi ufuna ukuqaphela ukuthi umeluleki ngamunye ongaba khona ukhokhisa malini ngeseshini ngayinye. Abanye abelaphi bathatha umshuwalense, kepha abanye abawuthathi. Futhi abanye banganikela ngohlelo lokulinganisa olushelelayo olukuvumela ukuthi ukhokhe ongakukhokhela.

Funda kabanzi mayelana nokuthi ungakuthola kanjani ukwelashwa okungabizi.

Okubalulekile

Ukwelashwa kwabantu kuyindlela yokwelashwa kwezempilo yengqondo okugxila kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okuhlukile nombono wakho. Ochwepheshe abangabantu banikela ngozwela, ukukhathalela kwangempela ngawe nangolwazi lwakho, kanye nokubheka okuhle okungenamibandela.

Yize kungahle kungabi yindlela engcono kakhulu yokuthola ukuxilongwa okuphathekayo kwengqondo, kungaba yindlela enhle uma umane ufuna izindlela zokuphila impilo enenjongo.