Angazi Uma Ngifuna Ukuthatha Igama Lomyeni Wami

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Ezinyangeni ezintathu nje ezimfushane, u-I-Liz Hohenadel-angahle angabe esaba khona.

Lokho kuzwakala sengathi kuyisiqalo sentsha elandelayo ye-dystopian thriller, kepha ngimane ngibe yisimanga kancane. Izinyanga ezintathu azimaki ubhadane lwe-vampire noma ukuqala kwe Imidlalo Yendlala, kodwa umcimbi wokulingana okulinganayo: umshado wami. Ngemuva kwalelo phuzu ngizophoqeleka ukuthi ngithathe isinqumo esikhulu esingahle noma esingadala ubuyena, njengoba sengazi manje, ukuthi sinyamalale. I-conundrum yami: Ingabe kufanele ngigcine igama lami lentombi, u-Hohenadel? Noma kufanele ngithathe igama lomyeni wami, uScott? (Kukhona inketho yesithathu yokuhlanganisa, kodwa lokho bekulokhu kungekho etafuleni kithi-i-Hohenadel iyi-twister-twister njengoba injalo!)

Ngakho-ke kulapha ukulwa kwami. Uma ngifika eminyakeni yobudala ye- "Girl Power" maphakathi no-'90s, bengihlala ngicabanga ukuthi ngizogcina igama lami lokugcina-ngokwami ​​nangokomsebenzi-ngemuva komshado. Kungani ngingavumi? Ngingumuntu wesifazane phela. Nginikele ku-Planned Parenthood. Ngivotele u-Hillary Clinton. Ngifundile (iningi lazo) Thembela Ku! Kungenzeka kanjani ukuthi ngithathe igama lomyeni wami ngiziqondanise nesiko elingene shí ebunini bezinzalamizi?

Kepha-ke, kwesinye isikhathi, ngiyayeka ngicabange: bengingakwazi kanjani?

Ephepheni kusobala. Izinjongo zabesifazane eceleni, isinqumo sokugcina igama lami lobuntombi sibonakala silula. Ngizwile ukuthi ukuphathwa kwamagama ngokushintshwa kwamagama asemthethweni kubuhlungu obukhulu. Ngangiphethe ilayisense yokushayela ephelelwe isikhathi cishe unyaka wonke ngoba nganginqena ukukhathazeka ngokuyivuselela, ngakho-ke angazi ukuthi nginawo yini amandla adingekayo ukubhekana nakho konke lokho okubhalwe phansi nered tape. Futhi, konke engikwenzile kuze kube manje ekutholeni impilo iziqu zami, ukuqala umsebenzi wami, nokusayina isivumelwano sokuqasha efulethini lami lokuqala eselikhulile-konke sekwenziwe njengeHohenadel. Futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ngamazwi kaMarlo Stanfield omkhulu, i-kingpin yezidakamizwa ezesabekayo nakuba eqanjiwe evela kwa-HBO's. Intambo: "Igama lami igama lami!" Ngiqonde ukuthi, yebo, ubhekisa ubunkimbinkimbi bomdlalo wezidakamizwa wase-Baltimore ngenkathi ngisacabanga kabanzi mayelana nokushintsha isibambo sami se-Twitter (oh shit, kungase kudingeke ngishintshe isibambo sami se-Twitter!), kodwa ngifika lapho evela khona. ; ubunikazi bethu bugoqwe emagameni ethu futhi ukushintsha okwami ​​kuzwakala njengokukhaphela ubumina uqobo. Impela, ukuba noScott njengesibongo kungaba lula ukupela (futhi kumnandi kangakanani uqweqwe olungenhla Ngabe u-Elizabeth Scott uyezwakala?) kepha ngabe kufanele ngabe ngilahla ubunikazi bami ngekheli elifushane le-Gmail? Kuyangabaza.

Ngangicabanga ukuthi ngifinyelele esinqumweni. Ngase ngibona isitsha.

NgoKhisimusi odlule, umzala wami oshadile nomkakhe bafike endlini yethu bephethe isengezo sabo esidlweni sakusihlwa somndeni, isaladi yequinoa endishini enkulu emhlophe ebhalwe amagama athi "The Hohenadels" ngokubomvu okukhanyayo, okujabulisayo. Futhi yize ngingakaze ngitholwe okuthile empilweni yami yonke, ukubonwa kwegama labo okwabelwana ngalo-lelo elinesibindi, elisobala lokuthi "singumndeni" langihlaba umxhwele. Bengifuna ukuthi leyo ndishi imeleni: ama-potlucks, amapikiniki, izingane, umndeni.

Iqiniso lokuthi angikwazanga ukuyeka ukucabanga ngesitsha langimangaza ngokuphelele. Bengihlala ngicabanga ngebhizinisi lonke lokushintsha ibhizinisi ngokwalokho okulahlekile, kunalokho okungatholwa. Ukuthi ukuthatha igama lomyeni wakho kusho ukunikela ngobunjalo bakho, ube ngumuntu (ethuthumela) uNkk. Kodwa leso sitsha sembula enye indlela yokubheka amagama; hhayi njengokuthi "okwakhe" nokuthi "okwakhe" noma "okwami" nokuthi "okwakho" kepha "njengokwethu," njengegama lomndeni.

Ngiyazi ukuthi isitsha siyisitsha futhi igama elihlanganyelwe aliqinisekisi umndeni ojabulayo, kodwa ngithanda iyunithi ehlangene eliyimele. Futhi lapho ngibheka izizathu zami zokushada, enye yezinto ezihamba phambili lowo mqondo wokuba yunithi. Izimpikiswano eziningi ezizungeze lesi sinqumo zigxile emcabangweni womuntu ngamunye, kepha, iphuzu lonke lomshado ukuthi akusona isenzo somuntu ngamunye. Ngithanda noma ngingathandi, ukushada nomuntu kuyabushintsha ubuwena. Ngeke ngisaba umdlali ohamba yedwa. Umshado umdlalo weqembu. Futhi ngicabanga ukuthi ngingahle ngifune ukuthi iqembu lami libe negama elifanayo.

Lo mbhalo uqale ukuvela ngokubhukuda futhi waphinde washicilelwa lapha ngemvume.

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