Ngine-OCD. Lezi Zeluleko Ezi-5 Zingisiza Ngisinde Ekukhathazekeni Kwami Kwe-Coronavirus

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• Ngokuthile okubucayi njengobhadane, i-OCD yami iyasebenza manje yenza umqondo omkhulu.
• 1. Ngiyibuyisela ezintweni eziyisisekelo
• 2. Ngiziphonsela inselelo yokuphumela ngaphandle
• 3. Ngibeka kuqala ukuhlala ngixhumekile ngaphezu 'kokwaziswa'
• 4. Angiyibeki imithetho
• 5. Ngiyakwemukela ukuthi empeleni ngingaqhubeka ngigule

Kunomehluko phakathi kokuqapha nokuba yimpoqo.

“Sam,” kusho isoka lami buthule. “Impilo kusamele iqhubeke. Futhi sidinga ukudla. ”

Ngiyazi ukuthi baqinisile. Besizibambele ngokuzihlukanisa isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka. Manje, sibheke phansi amakhabethe acishe angenalutho, bekuyisikhathi sokusebenzisa ukuqhelanisa nomphakathi nokwenza kabusha.

Ngaphandle komqondo wokushiya imoto yethu ngesikhathi ubhadane uzwakale njengokuhlushwa okungokoqobo.

"Ngincamela ukulamba, ngokuthembeka," ngiyabubula.

Ngibe nokugula okucindezela ngokweqile (OCD) iningi lempilo yami, kepha kufinyelele kumkhuhlane (i-pun engahlosiwe) ngesikhathi sokuqubuka kwe-COVID-19.

Ukuthinta noma yini kuzwakala njengokubeka isandla sami ngokuzithandela phezu kwesitofu. Ukuphefumula umoya ofanayo nanoma ngubani oseduze kwami ​​uzizwa uthanda ukuhogela isigwebo sentambo.

Futhi angisabi nje abanye abantu, futhi. Ngoba abathwali begciwane bangabonakala bengenazimpawu, ngesaba ngisho nangokwengeziwe ukulisabalalisa kuNana othandekayo noma kumngane ongakwazi ukuzivikela.

Ngokuthile okubucayi njengobhadane, i-OCD yami iyasebenza manje yenza umqondo omkhulu.

Ngandlela thile, kufana nokuthi ubuchopho bami buzama ukungivikela.

Inkinga ukuthi, akusizi empeleni ukwenza - isibonelo - ukugwema ukuthinta umnyango endaweni efanayo kabili, noma wenqabe ukusayina irisidi ngoba ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ipeni lizongibulala.

Futhi nakanjani akusizi ukuphikelela endlaleni kunokuthenga ukudla okuningi.

Njengoba isoka lami lasho, impilo kusamele iqhubeke.

Futhi ngenkathi kufanele silandele ngokuphelele imiyalo yokukhosela endaweni, sigeze izandla zethu, futhi sizijwayeze ukuqhela komphakathi, ngicabanga ukuthi babenokuthile lapho bethi, "Sam, ukuthatha umuthi wakho akuyona into ongayikhetha."

Ngamanye amagama, kunomehluko phakathi kokuqapha nokukhubazeka.

Kulezi zinsuku, kungaba nzima ukusho ukuthi yikuphi ukuhlaselwa kwami ​​kokwesaba "okunengqondo" nokuthi yikuphi okunye okunweba kwe-OCD yami. Kepha okwamanje, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthola izindlela zokubhekana nokukhathazeka kwami ​​kungakhathalekile.

Nakhu ukuthi ngilugcina kanjani uvalo lwami lwe-OCD:

1. Ngiyibuyisela ezintweni eziyisisekelo

Indlela engcono kakhulu engiyaziyo yokuqinisa impilo yami - kokubili ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba - ngukuzigcina ngondlekile, ngiphuzwa ngamanzi futhi ngiphumule. Yize lokhu kubonakala kusobala, ngihlala ngimangazwa ukuthi izisekelo ziwela kangakanani endleleni lapho kuvela inkinga.

Uma ulwela ukuhambisana nesondlo sakho esiyisisekelo sabantu, nginezeluleko ongazitholela zona:

• Uyakhumbula ukudla? Ukungaguquguquki kubalulekile. Ngokwami, ngihlose ukudla njalo emahoreni ama-3 (ngakho-ke, ukudla okulula oku-3 nokudla oku-3 usuku ngalunye - lokhu kuyindinganiso enhle kunoma ngubani olwa nokudla okungahambi kahle, njengoba ngenza). Ngisebenzisa i-timer efonini yami futhi isikhathi ngasinye lapho ngidla, ngiyisetha kabusha ngamanye amahora ama-3 ukwenza inqubo ibe lula.
• Uyakhumbula ukuphuza amanzi? Ngiphethe ingilazi yamanzi ngakho konke ukudla kanye nokudla okulula. Ngaleyo ndlela, akudingeki ngikhumbule amanzi ngokwehlukana - isibali sami sokudla bese sisebenza njengesikhumbuzo samanzi.
• Ingabe ulele ngokwanele? Ukulala kungaba nzima kakhulu, ikakhulukazi lapho ukukhathazeka kuphezulu. Kade ngisebenzisa i-podcast Ukulala Nami ukuze ngibe nesimo sokuphumula ngokwengeziwe. Kepha empeleni, awukwazi ukungahambi kahle ngokuvuselela okusheshayo kunhlanzeko yokulala.

Futhi uma uzithola unengcindezi futhi unamathele emini futhi ungaqiniseki ukuthi wenzeni? Le mibuzo exhumanayo isindisa impilo (ibhukumaka!).

2. Ngiziphonsela inselelo yokuphumela ngaphandle

Uma une-OCD - ikakhulukazi uma unokuthambekela kokuzihlukanisa - kungalinga kakhulu "ukubhekana" nokukhathazeka kwakho ngokungaphumi ngaphandle.

Kodwa-ke, lokhu kungalimaza impilo yakho yengqondo, futhi kungaqinisa amasu okubhekana nokuhlukumezeka okungenza ukukhathazeka kwakho kube kubi kakhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Inqobo nje uma ugcina amamitha ayisithupha ebanga phakathi kwakho nabanye, kuphephe ngokuphelele ukuthatha uhambo lokuzungeza indawo yangakini.

Ukuzama ukufaka isikhathi esithile ngaphandle bekuyinkohliso kimi (ngike ngabhekana ne-agoraphobia esikhathini esedlule), kepha bekuyinkinobho ebaluleke kakhulu "yokusetha kabusha" ubuchopho bami noma kunjalo.

Ukuzihlukanisa akukaze kube yimpendulo lapho ulwa nempilo yakho yengqondo. Ngakho-ke noma nini lapho kunokwenzeka, yenza isikhathi sokuphefumula umoya ohlanzekile, noma ngabe ungeke uye kude kakhulu.

3. Ngibeka kuqala ukuhlala ngixhumekile ngaphezu 'kokwaziswa'

Lokhu kungenzeka ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ohlwini kimi. Ngisebenza enkampanini yemidiya yezempilo, ngakho-ke ukwaziswa nge-COVID-19 kwelinye izinga empeleni kuyingxenye yomsebenzi wami.

Kodwa-ke, ukugcina "usesikhathini" ngokushesha kwaba yimpoqo kimi - ngesinye isikhathi, ngangibheka imininingwane egciniwe yomhlaba wonke yamacala aqinisekisiwe kaningi ngosuku ... okwakungabonakali ukuthi ibingangisebenzisi noma ubuchopho bami obukhathazekile.

Ngiyazi ngokunengqondo ukuthi angidingi ukubheka izindaba noma ukuqapha izimpawu kaningi njengoba i-OCD yami ingenza ngizizwe ngiphoqelekile (noma noma yikuphi lapho ngisondele khona). Kepha njenganoma yini ephoqelelayo, kungaba nzima ukuyigwema.

Yingakho ngizama ukusetha imingcele eqinile ezungeza nini futhi kangaki ngalezo zingxoxo noma isimilo.

Esikhundleni sokubheka ngokweqile ukushisa kwami ​​noma izindaba zakamuva, ngigxile ekugxileni ekuxhumaneni nabantu engibathandayo. Ngingakwazi yini ukurekhoda umlayezo wevidiyo kumuntu engimthandayo esikhundleni? Mhlawumbe ngingasetha iphathi yeNetflix enebestie ukugcina ingqondo yami imatasa.

Ngiphinde ngazise abantu engibathandayo uma ngilwa nobunzima bezindaba, futhi ngiyazibophezela ekubadedeleni "bathathe izintambo zokubusa."

Ngiyethemba ukuthi uma kunemininingwane emisha engidinga ukuyazi, kunabantu abazolula isandla bangitshele.

4. Angiyibeki imithetho

Ukube i-OCD yami ibinendlela yayo, besizogqoka amagilavu ​​ngaso sonke isikhathi, singalokothi siphefumule umoya ofanayo njenganoma ngubani omunye, futhi singashiyi indlu okungenani iminyaka emi-2 elandelayo.

Lapho isoka lami lisiya esitolo, sasibafaka nge-hazmat suit, futhi njengenye indlela yokuqapha, sasigcwalisa ichibi lokubhukuda ngezibulala-magciwane bese silala kulo njalo ebusuku.

Kepha yingakho i-OCD ingenzi imithetho ezungeze lapha. Esikhundleni salokho, nginamathela ku:

• Zijwayeze ukuqhela kwezenhlalo, okusho ukugcina izinyawo eziyisithupha zesikhala phakathi kwakho nabanye.
• Gwema imibuthano emikhulu nokuhamba okungadingekile lapho kungenzeka khona ukuthi igciwane lisabalale.
• Geza izandla zakho ngensipho namanzi afudumele imizuzwana engama-20 ngemuva kokuba ubesendaweni yomphakathi, noma ngemuva kokushaya amakhala, ukukhwehlela, noma ukuthimula.
• Hlanza futhi ubulale amagciwane ezindaweni ezivame ukuthintwa kanye ngosuku (amatafula, izinkinobho zeminyango, amaswishi alula, amatafula, amatafula, izingcingo, izindlu zangasese, ompompi, amasinki).

Okusemqoka lapha ukulandela le mihlahlandlela futhi akukho okunye. I-OCD noma ukukhathazeka kungafuna ukuthi udlule ngokweqile, kepha kulapho-ke ungahle uwele endaweni ephoqelelwe.

Ngakho-ke cha, ngaphandle kokuthi ufike nje ekhaya uvela esitolo noma usanda kuthimula noma okuthile, awudingi ukugeza izandla futhi.

Ngokufanayo, kungaba yisilingo ukugeza kanzima kaningi ngosuku bese ukhipha lonke ikhaya lakho… kepha kungenzeka ukhulise ukukhathazeka kwakho uma ukhathazeka ngokweqile ngenhlanzeko.

Ukusula ukubulala amagciwane okushaya izindawo ozithinta kaningi kungaphezu kokwanele ngokuya ngokuqapha.

Khumbula ukuthi i-OCD iyingozi enkulu empilweni yakho, futhi, futhi ngenxa yalokho, ibhalansi ibalulekile ukuze uhlale kahle.

5. Ngiyakwemukela ukuthi empeleni ngingaqhubeka ngigule

I-OCD ayikuthandi ngempela ukungaqiniseki. Kepha iqiniso liwukuthi, okuningi kwalokho esidlula kukho empilweni akuqinisekile - futhi naleli gciwane nalo lihlukile. Ungathatha konke ukuqaphela ongakucabanga, futhi usengagcina ugula ngaphandle kwephutha lakho.

Ngizijwayeza ukwamukela leli qiniso nsuku zonke.

Ngifunde ukuthi ukwamukela ngokuphelele ukungaqiniseki, njengokungakhululeki njengoba kungaba njalo, kuyindlela yami engcono yokuzivikela ekuqapheleni. Endabeni ye-COVID-19, ngiyazi ukuthi kuningi kuphela engingakwenza ukuzigcina ngiphilile.

Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokuqinisa impilo yethu ukuphatha ukucindezeleka. Futhi lapho ngihleli nokungahambi kahle kokungaqiniseki? Ngiyazikhumbuza ukuthi isikhathi ngasinye lapho ngiphonsela inselelo i-OCD yami, ngizinikeza ithuba elihle kakhulu lokuhlala ngiphilile, ngigxile futhi ngilungele.

Futhi uma ucabanga ngakho, ukwenza lowo msebenzi kuzongizuzisa esikhathini esizayo ngezindlela isudi ye-hazmat engasoze. Ukuthi nje.

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