Ukuthi ‘Umsebenzi Ongenakwenzeka’ Kukuthinta Kanjani Ukukhathazeka - nokuthi Yini Ongayenza Ngayo

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• Uyini ‘umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka’?
• Umugqa phakathi kobuvila obujwayelekile ‘nomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka’
• Ngenkathi labo abangazange babhekane nomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka ngokwabo bangaba nenkinga yokuqonda, ukukwazi ukuqamba lokho engikuzwayo kwabanye kuye kwaphawuleka ngempela.
• Izindlela zokunqoba lo msebenzi ongenakwenzeka
• Ekupheleni kosuku, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi akukhona ukuthi 'uyavilapha'

Abantu abanexhala bajwayelene kakhulu nalesi simo. Ngakho-ke, yini ongayenza ngakho?

Wake wazizwa usindwa ngumqondo wokwenza okuthile okubonakala kulula kakhulu ukukwenza? Ngabe kukhona umsebenzi owake wakusinda usuku nosuku, uhlala phambili engqondweni yakho, kodwa awukakwazi ukuziletha ukuwuqedela?

Empilweni yami yonke izimpendulo zale mibuzo zinguyebo, kepha angikwazanga ukuqonda ukuthi kungani. Lokhu kwakusasebenza ngisho nangemva kokuthola ukuxilongwa kwesifo sokuphazamiseka.

Impela, ukuqhubeka nezindondo namasu okubhekana nokubhekana nesimo kwangisiza ngaphesheya kwebhodi. Kepha lolu daba luqhubeke nokuvela ngaphandle kwesizathu. Kwafika njengokuthile okuqinile kunobuvila. Le misebenzi ebonakala incane ibibona sengathi ayinakwenzeka ngezinye izikhathi.

Kwathi ngonyaka odlule, umuzwa engingasoze ngawuqonda wanikezwa igama elichaza ngqo indlela engangizizwa ngayo isikhathi ngasinye lapho kuvela: umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka.

Uyini ‘umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka’?

Ihlanganiswe nguM. Molly Backes kuTwitter ngo-2018, leli gama lichaza indlela okuzwakala ngayo lapho umsebenzi ubonakala ungenakwenzeka ukukwenza, noma ngabe kufanele kube lula kangakanani. Lapho-ke, njengoba isikhathi sihamba nomsebenzi ungapheli, ingcindezi iyakha ngenkathi ukungakwazi ukukwenza kuvame ukuhlala.

"Imisebenzi edingekayo iba nzima, futhi ukuba necala kanye namahloni ngomsebenzi ongaphelele kwenza umsebenzi uzizwe umkhulu futhi unzima ngokwengeziwe," kusho u-Amanda Seavey, isayikholoji enelayisense futhi ongumsunguli weClarity Psychological Wellness, etshela abeHealthline.

Ngakho-ke, kungani abanye abantu behlangabezana nomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka kanti abanye bangadideka ngokuba khona kwawo?

"Kuhlobene nokuntuleka kwesisusa, okuyisibonakaliso nomphumela ongemuhle wezinye izidambisi," kusho u-Aimee Daramus, PsyD, etshela abeHealthline.

"Ungase futhi uthole into efanayo, yize kungenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukene, kubantu abanokulimala kwengqondo okuhlukumezayo, ukuphazamiseka kwengcindezi (kufaka phakathi i-PTSD), kanye nokuphazamiseka kwe-dissociative, okubandakanya ukuphazamiseka kwenkumbulo nobunikazi," kusho uDaramus. "Kodwa-ke, ikakhulukazi indlela abantu abanokucindezeleka abuchaza ngayo ubunzima bokwenza imisebenzi elula kakhulu."

Umugqa phakathi kobuvila obujwayelekile ‘nomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka’

Uma ufana nokuthi ngangiyingxenye yokuphila kwami ​​konke, ngibona lokhu ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuthi kungani, konke kulula kakhulu ukuba phansi kwakho noma uzizwe uvila ngokungabi nogqozi lwakho. Kodwa-ke lapho ngihlangabezana nomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka, akukhona ukuthi angifuni ukwenza okuthile noma anginakukhathazeka ukuthatha isenzo.

Esikhundleni salokho, ukubeka kalula nje, kuzwakala sengathi ukwenza leyo nto kungaba yinto enzima kunazo zonke emhlabeni. Lokho akubona ubuvila nganoma iyiphi indlela.

Njengoba uDaramus echaza, “Sonke sinezinto esingafuni ukuzenza. Asibathandi. Umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka uhlukile. Ungahle uthande ukukwenza. Ungayazisa noma uze uyijabulele uma ungacindezelekile. Kodwa umane nje awukwazi ukuvuka ukwenze. ”

Izibonelo zomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka kungenzeka kube nokulangazelela okukhulu kwekamelo elihlanzekile kodwa uzizwe ungakwazi ngisho nokwendlala umbhede wakho, noma ukulinda iposi ukuthi lifike kuphela lapho kuhanjwa khona ebhokisini leposi ukuze kubonakale kukude kakhulu uma sekwenzekile.

Ngisakhula, abazali bami babengicela ukuthi ngenze izinto ezifana nokuhlela ukuqokwa kukadokotela noma ukugeza izitsha. Ngangingenayo indlela yokusho ngomlomo ukuthi zingenakwenzeka kanjani lezi zicelo kwesinye isikhathi.

Ngenkathi labo abangazange babhekane nomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka ngokwabo bangaba nenkinga yokuqonda, ukukwazi ukuqamba lokho engikuzwayo kwabanye kuye kwaphawuleka ngempela.

Ngokwethembeka konke, noma kunjalo, okuningi kakhulu kokunqoba lo msebenzi ongenakwenzeka kube ngokuzikhulula kunembeza engangizizwa nginawo. Manje sengikwazi ukubheka lokhu njengolunye uphawu lokugula kwami ​​kwengqondo - esikhundleni sokuthi kube yiphutha lomlingiswa - okungivumela ukuthi ngisebenze ngalo ngendlela entsha, eqhutshwa yizixazululo.

Njenganoma yiluphi uphawu lokugula ngengqondo, kunezindlela ezahlukahlukene ezingasiza ukukulungisa. Okusebenzela umuntu oyedwa kungahle kungasebenzi komunye.

Izindlela zokunqoba lo msebenzi ongenakwenzeka

Nawa amathiphu ayisikhombisa angakusiza, ngokusho kukaDaramus:

1. Uma ukwazi, kulihlukanise ngemisebenzi emincane. Uma unephepha ozozibhala, bhala isigaba esisodwa noma ezimbili okwamanje, noma usethe i-timer isikhathi esifushane. Ungenza inani elimangazayo lokuqoqa ngemizuzu emibili.
2. Yibhangqe nento emnandi ngokwengeziwe. Dlala umculo bese uzamazama ngenkathi uxubha amazinyo, noma ubuyela ocingweni ngenkathi uqoqwe nesilwane.
3. Zivuze kamuva. Yenza iNetflix ibe ngumvuzo wemizuzu embalwa yokuziqoqa.
4. Uma ubujabulela umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka, hlala isikhashana bese uzama ukukhumbula ukuthi kunjani ukuwuthokozela. Wawuzizwa unjani umzimba wakho? Yayithini imicabango yakho ngaleso sikhathi? Uzizwe kanjani ngokomzwelo? Bona ukuthi ungaphola kancane kulowo muzwa ngaphambi kokuzama ukukwenza.
5. Yini embi kakhulu engenzeka uma ungayekela okwanamhlanje? Kwesinye isikhathi ukwelula umbhede kuzwakala kukuhle ngoba kubukeka kuhlanzekile futhi kuhle.Kwesinye isikhathi, noma kunjalo, kusiza ngokwengeziwe ukubona ukuthi ukubaluleka kwakho njengomuntu akuboshelwe ekwenzeni umbhede.
6. Khokha umuntu ukwenza umsebenzi othile, noma ukuhweba imisebenzi nothile. Uma ungakwazi ukuyothenga, ungaletha igilosa? Ungakwazi ukushintsha ukushintshana komsebenzi weviki nomuntu ohlala naye?
7. Cela uxhaso. Ukuba nomuntu okugcina unenkampani ngenkathi wenza, noma ngabe kufoni, kungenza umehluko. Lokhu kungisizile impela uma kukhulunywa ngokwenza izinto ezifana nezitsha noma ukuwashwa. Ungaphinda ufune ukusekelwa ngumelaphi noma umngani osondelene naye.

“Zama ukwehlukanisa lo msebenzi owenziwayo ngezinyathelo ezincane. Sebenzisa ukukhuluma okukhuthazayo kunokwahlulela wena. Nikeza [isimo sempilo yakho yengqondo] igama bese usikhomba uma sithinta impilo yakho, ”kusho uSeavey.

Ungazama futhi i- "The Impossible Game" echazwa nguSteve Hayes, PhD, ku- Psychology Today: Qaphela ukumelana kwakho kwangaphakathi, uzwe ukungaphatheki kahle, bese uthatha isinyathelo ngokushesha okukhulu. Ukuze uthole induduzo, kungasiza ukuzama lokhu ezintweni ezincane kuqala ngaphambi kokuzama ngokumelene nomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka.

Ekupheleni kosuku, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi akukhona ukuthi 'uyavilapha'

"Ukuba nomusa nokuzwela kuwe nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kubalulekile," kusho uSeavey. "Qaphela ukuzisola nokuzigxeka, okungenzeka ukuthi kwenza umsebenzi uzizwe unzima kakhulu."

"Ngamanye amazwi, [khumbula ukuthi] inkinga akuyena, yiyona [isimo sempilo yengqondo]," uyanezela.

Ezinye izinsuku zingaba lula ukukunqoba kunezinye, kepha ukuba negama lazo nokwazi ukuthi awuwedwa - lokho kuyenza izwakale ukuthi kungenzeka kancane.

USara Fielding ngumbhali waseNew York City. Ukubhala kwakhe kuvele kuBustle, Insider, Men's Health, HuffPost, Nylon, nase-OZY lapho ehlanganisa ubulungiswa bezenhlalo, impilo yezengqondo, ezempilo, ezokuhamba, ezobudlelwano, ezokungcebeleka, ezemfashini kanye nokudla.