UKerry Washington Wenze Ukuqhathanisa Okuqhakazile Phakathi Kwezokwelapha Nokuqeqeshwa Komuntu

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Ukwelashwa kwakuyisihloko esiyindabamlonyeni — esasingakwazi ukuvela kalula engxoxweni ngaphandle kokungezwani noma ukwahlulela.

Ngenhlanhla, ukucwaswa okuzungeze ukwelashwa kuyaphuka kulezi zinsuku, sibonga kakhulu osaziwayo abavula ngempi yabo yezempilo yengqondo futhi basebenzise amapulatifomu abo ukwenza lezi zingqinamba zijwayelekile.

Muva nje, uKerry Washington noGwyneth Paltrow bahlala phansi ukuze baxoxe ngoPaltrowI-Goop podcast ukukhuluma ngokuthi ukwelapha kubasiza kanjani ukuthi bahlale bephilile ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo. (Okuhlobene: UKristen Bell Wabelana Ngezindlela Zokungena Nawe Phakathi Kwemizabalazo Yakhe Yempilo Yengqondo)

Bobabili laba besifazane baphawule ukuthi ngenkathi bekhula, babenikezwa umyalezo — yimindeni yabo kanye nomphakathi wonkana — ukuthi ukuba nemizwa, ingasaphathwa eyokuyiveza, kwakuyinto "embi". Eqinisweni, uWashington wenza ihlaya ngokuthi umama wakhe wamthumela esikoleni semidlalo yaseshashalazini esemncane ngoba wayenemizwa "eminingi kakhulu". "Umyalezo engiwutholile wawuthi: 'Ungabi nayo imizwa, futhi uma unayo, qamba amanga ngayo, futhi ungasondelani nemizwa yakho,'" kusho uWashington etshela uPaltrow.

Kepha manje, iWashington ithe isebenza ngokufunda "ukuhlala ebunzimeni bayo" kunokuthi icindezele leyo mizwa kude. "Siwumphakathi ophunyuka kakhulu," etshela uPaltrow. "Sifuna ukulungisa ngokushesha, asifuni ukuzwa imizwa, sifuna ukweqa imizwa, sifuna ukuyisusa. Sifuna ukwenza konke esingakwenza ukuze singabi sengozini."

UWashington ubonge ukwelashwa ngokumsiza enze lolu shintsho empilweni yakhe yengqondo. "Ngithole ukwelashwa ekolishi, futhi ngicabanga ukuthi bengikudinga ngempela," utshele uPaltrow. "Kubaluleke kakhulu. Bengilokhu ngingena ngiphuma ekwelashweni ingxenye enkulu yempilo yami." (Okuhlobene: Kungani Wonke Umuntu Kufanele Azame Ukwelashwa Okungenani Kanye)

Kodwa-ke, iWashington ithe umuntu othile usanda kubuza okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ngezokwelapha. Umuntu ubuze ukuthi ngabe "kuyinkinga" yini ukuthi uWashington useneminyaka eminingi kangaka ebonana nomelaphi nokuthi lokho kungasho ukuthi udinga ukubona omunye.

"Ngangithi, 'Hhayi, angikho [ekwelapheni] okufanele ngikwenze,'"Ihlazo inkanyezi yathi ngempendulo yakhe kulowo muntu. "Lesi yisipho engizinikeza sona. Indlela enginomqeqeshi ngayo umzimba wami-lona umqeqeshi wami wengqondo. Ngoba empilweni yami, ngihlale ngifaka ubungozi obusha. Ngifuna ukufunda nokukhula. Ngifuna ukupha ngokwami ​​ukuxhaswa ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo ukuze ngihlale ngimi kahle ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo — ngokwami, ngomsebenzi wami, ngomndeni wami. Ngiyayithanda [ukwelashwa], futhi ngicabanga ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu. "

I-BTW, iWashington ilungile impela ngokufana kokwelashwa kokuvivinya umzimba. Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi ukukhuluma nodokotela kuhlotshaniswa nezinguquko ezilinganisekayo, ezinhle ebuchosheni, njengokuthi ukuvivinya umzimba kungaholela kanjani ekushintsheni okubonakalayo, komzimba emzimbeni wakho. Nakuba umqeqeshi womuntu siqu angase akusize ufunde ifomu elifanele le-squat, udokotela angakufundisa izinto ezifana namasu okuxazulula izinkinga, izindlela ezinempilo zokubhekana nazo, kanye nendlela yokubona nokugqashula imikhuba emibi-konke okunezinzuzo zesikhathi eside engqondweni yakho. impilo. (I-FYI, noma kunjalo: Akuwona umqondo omuhle ukuthembela ekusebenzeni njengokwelashwa kwakho - yingakho.)

Endimeni kaWashington njengomzali, uthe manje "uzama ukuba nemizwa yangempela" phambi kwezingane zakhe, u-Isabelle noCaleb, ezitshela ukuthi "sonke sinemizwa, futhi sithola ukuhlala kuyo ndawonye futhi sikuxoxe futhi. yibani khona komunye nomunye." (Okuhlobene: UJessica Alba Wabelana Ngesizathu Sokuba Aqale Ukuya Ekwelashweni Nendodakazi Yakhe Eneminyaka Eyishumi)

Buka ividiyo engezansi ukubona uPaltrow noWashington bexoxa ngokwelashwa, impilo yengqondo, nokuningi:

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