Ngafunda Kanjani Ukuthemba Umzimba Wami Futhi Ngemva Kokuphuphunyelwa Kwesisu

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• Phumula.
• Zijabulise ngokwengeziwe.
• Yakha umkhuba wokuzindla.
• Yondla umzimba wakho.
• Cabanga ngekusasa lakho.
• Buyekeza kwe-

Ngosuku lwami lokuzalwa lwama-30 ngoJulayi odlule, ngathola isipho esihle kunazo zonke emhlabeni: Mina nomyeni wami sathola ukuthi sikhulelwe ngemuva kwezinyanga eziyisithupha sizama. Kwakuwubusuku baphakathi kwehlobo elinezibishi, futhi silele kuvulandi wethu we-Edison okhanyayo sibuka okhanyikhanyi futhi siphupha ngekusasa lethu. Ngangicabanga ukuthi kwakungumfana, kanti uhubby wayeqagela intombazane. Kepha bekungenandaba - besizoba ngabazali.

Cishe emva kwesonto, ngaphaphama phakathi kobusuku nginezijaja ezicijile ngagijimela endlini yangasese. Ngabona ichashaza legazi elibomvu bhá ephepheni lasendlini yangasese, futhi ngisenhliziyweni yami wayazi, Ngazama ukubuyela embhedeni.

Emahoreni amabili alandelayo ngangivuka ngijikijela, ubuhlungu buba nzima nokopha kakhulu. Lokhu kwaqinisekisa ukwesaba kwami ​​okukhulu: ngangiphuphunyelwa yisisu. Njengoba ngilele lapho ngikhala futhi ngiqhaqhazela ngokungalawuleki, umyeni wami wangibamba wangiqinisa ethi, "Kuzolunga."

Kodwa ingabe kwakunjalo? Ngazizwa ngindikindiki, futhi ingqondo yami yagcwala imicabango nemibuzo engapheli. Ingabe kwakuyiphutha lami? Ngabe ngenze okuthile okuhlukile? Ingabe bekuyileya ngilazi yewayini ebenginayo ngesonto eledlule? Kungani mina? Ngangiyisimungulu ukusheshe ngijabule, bekufanele ngabe ngisebenza kangcono. Izingxoxo ebenginazo ekhanda lami bezingapheli futhi okokuqala ngqa empilweni yami, ngizwe ngiphuka inhliziyo impela.

Lokhu ukusabela okungokwemvelo okubizwa ngokuthi "yicala likamama," kusho u-Iffath Hoskins, M.D., onguprofesa osebenzisana naye emtholampilo eMnyangweni Wezokubelethisa Nokubelethisa Kwabesifazane eNYU Langone Health, olapha ukukhulelwa kwesisu okuphindelela.

"Kukhona isici sokudabuka, kodwa awukwazi ukuzisola," kusho uDkt Hoskins. Uchaza ukuthi iningi lokuphuphunyelwa yizisu empeleni kubangelwa ukungahambi kahle kwechromosomal. "Kuyindlela kaMama Yemvelo yokusho ukuthi lokhu kukhulelwa kwakungahlosiwe, futhi ezimweni eziningi, ayikho into obungayenza," kusho uDkt. Hoskins. Ngokwethemba, uthi ithuba lokuqhubeka nokukhulelwa okuphumelelayo liku-90%.

Ngenkathi ngivulela ulwazi lwami kubangani nomndeni, ngabona ukuthi ukuphuphunyelwa yizisu kuvame kakhulu kunalokho ebengikucabanga. Ngokusho kwe-American Pregnancy Association, amaphesenti ayi-10 kuye kwangama-25 okukhulelwa azophela ekukhulelweni kwesisu, ukukhulelwa ngamakhemikhali (ukulahlekelwa ngemuva nje kokufakwa) kubalwa ngamaphesenti angama-50 kuye kwangama-75 azo zonke izisu.

Ngisho nabesifazane engibheke kubo ngempilo ebukeka iphelele futhi imindeni iveze izindaba zabo eziyimfihlo zokulahleka. Kungazelelwe, angizange ngizizwe ngingedwa. Ngezwa umuzwa onamandla wokuxhumana, udadewethu, kanye nokubonga ngokukwazi ukwabelana ngendaba yami, ngenkathi ngikhuthaza abanye abantu besifazane ukuthi nabo babelane ngeyabo. (Okuhlobene: UShawn Johnson Uvula Okuphathelene Nokuphuphuma Kwesisu Kwividiyo Engokomzwelo)

Ngalesi sikhathi, bengazi ukuthi umyeni wami uqinisile: Bengizolunga.

Sanquma ukuthatha ikhefu lezinyanga ezimbalwa ekuzameni ukukhulelwa ukuze ngilulame ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Lapho kufika uSepthemba, kwaba yisikhathi esihle sokuqala ukuzama futhi. Njengoba ngake ngakhulelwa phambilini, ngangicabanga ukuthi kuzoba lula kithina ngalesi sikhathi. Inyanga ngayinye ngangimane nje "ngazi" ukuthi ngikhulelwe, kodwa ngabingelelwa olunye uvivinyo olungenalutho lokukhulelwa olulandelwa u-Anti Flo 'omuhle.

Ngibala imidwebo ebanzi yokuthi ngingawutshela kanjani umndeni wami inyanga ngayinye. NgoNovemba, ngangihlela ukusabalalisa izindaba ngesikhathi somkhuba wethu wokubonga wonyaka wokubonga. Ngenkathi wonke umuntu ezungeza itafula ehlanganyela lokho ayekubonga ngakho, ngangithi "Ngidla ababili," bese kulandela ukuhleka, ukwanga, namathosi. Ngeshwa, angizange ngiphile ngalezi zimo.

Ngemuva kwezinyanga ezintathu zokuhlolwa kabi kokukhulelwa, ngaqala ukulahla ithemba futhi ngazibuza ukuthi ngabe yini engalungile ngami. Ngakho-ke ekupheleni kukaNovemba, nginqume ukuzama okuthile kancane laphaya-futhi ngenza i-aphoyintimenti noJo Homar, isithunywa somoya esicacile kanye nomphilisi onembile engathunyelwa kuye ohlinzeka ngezinsizakalo ezahlukahlukene kufaka phakathi ukufundwa okunembile kwezokwelapha kanye ne-reiki izikhathi zokuphulukisa. Ngemva kweseshini yocingo naye, wangitshela ukuthi kwakuyingqondo yami eyayingivimbela ukuba ngikhulelwe nokuthi ingane yayizofika lapho ingane isilungile-ngokusobala kuze kube sekwindla ka-2018. Nakuba ekuqaleni ngangizwa kancane. Ngidangele futhi ngaphelelwa isineke, ngazizwa ngikhululeke kakhulu. (Bheka futhi: Ingabe i-Reiki Ingasiza Ngokukhathazeka?)

Ngalandela iseluleko sika-Homar futhi ngasusa zonke izinhlelo zami zokusebenza futhi ngayeka ukuzama ngaleyo nyanga. Kungazelelwe, ukucindezela okukhulu kwasuswa kimi. Ngidle inqwaba yama-salmon avocado maki rolls, ngaya ocansini nobumnandi nomyeni wami kuphela lapho sisemoyeni, ngakhipha izintambo kukhofi wakwaNitro, futhi ngenza nesikhathi samantombazane amantombazane agcwele ama-tacos, i-guacamole, yebo, tequila! Ngokokuqala ngqá onyakeni, ngangilungile ngokuphelele lapho ngifika esikhathini.

Ngaphandle kokuthi ayizange. Ngamangala lapho, ngemuva kwamasonto amabili, ngathola ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa kwami! "Isimangaliso sikaKhisimusi!"Ngamemeza umyeni wami.

Cha, angicabangi ukuthi bekuwumlingo, kodwa futhi angicabangi ukuthi kube ngengozi ukuthi inyanga esayeka ngayo ukuzama sakhulelwa. Ukuphumelela kwethu ngibeka entweni eyodwa enkulu: ukwethembana. Ngokuthembela emzimbeni wami nendawo yonke, ngakwazi ukudedela konke ukwesaba okwakuvimbe ingane ukuba ifike, futhi ngikuvumele ukuba kuvele kwenzeke. (Futhi ngithembe-kwakunokwesaba okukhulu.) Futhi nakuba ochwepheshe bengazi ukuthi kanjani impela ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kungaba nomthelela wenzalo, ucwaningo lokuqala lubonisa ukuxhumana phakathi kokucindezeleka nokuzala, ukusekela konke "uzokhulelwa lapho uyeka ukuzama" into. (Okwengeziwe ngalokho lapha: Lokho Ob-Gyns Abafisa Ukuba Abesifazane Bakwazi Ngokuzala Kwabo)

Ngakho-ke ususa kanjani ukwesaba nokwethemba emzimbeni wakho lapho konke okufunayo ngaphezu kwanoma yini ukukhulelwa manje? Nawa amaqhinga amahlanu angisize ngashintsha indlela engicabanga ngayo.

Phumula.

Izilandeleli zenkathi, amakhithi e-ovulation predictor, kanye nokuhlolwa kokukhulelwa okungama-$20 kungaba nzima kakhulu (futhi kubize), okwenza yonke inqubo ifane nesilingo sesayensi. Njengoba ukucabanga ngokweqile ngokulandela umkhondo kwakungihlanyisa ngokoqobo futhi kudla imicabango yami, ukuthatha izeluleko zikaHomar nokukuvumela ukuthi kuhambe kancane kwakukukhulu kimi. Uma ngabe uke wazama isikhashana, cabanga ukuthatha ikhefu kukho konke ukulandelwa bese uhamba ngendlela umzimba wakho ozizwa ngayo. Akukho lutho olubi ukwedlula ucansi oluthi "uju, ngiyaluvusa" ucansi, futhi kukhona okuthile okukhethekile ngokumangazwa yisikhathi esilahlekile.

Zijabulise ngokwengeziwe.

Masibe ngokoqobo: Yonke inqubo yokuzama ukukhulelwa ikude nobukhazikhazi, ikakhulukazi uma uphila ngomugqa wesikhathi we-ovulation noma ubala phansi okwesabekayo "ukulinda kwamasonto amabili." Kungakho u-Homar ephakamisa ukugxila ekwengezeni ubumnandi obuningi empilweni yakho. "Uma kukhulunywa ngokulinda kwamasonto amabili, ungakubheka ngezindlela ezimbili zokubheka. Kuphakathi kokuthi ungahlala ufriziwe ngokuthi 'kuthiwani uma' noma ungaphila impilo," kusho uHomar. "Ukukhulelwa kuwukuphila, ngakho kungani ungakhethi ukuphila ngokugcwele ngaleso sikhathi? Uma ukugxila kwakho kukuzijabulisa, injabulo, nokuphila, yilokho okuthumela amandla amahle, okungaholela ekukhulelweni okuphumelelayo. "

Yakha umkhuba wokuzindla.

Ukuzindla kwansuku zonke kube ngenye yezindlela eziguqula kakhulu ithuluzi lami lokuphila kahle. Ngisebenzisa uhlelo lokusebenza lokuzindla olulindelekile, olunokuzindla okuthile kwalabo abalungiselela ukukhulelwa, njengokuthi "Ukuthemba Umzimba." Baze badala i-Umhlahlandlela Wokusekelwa Kokukhulelwa Wamahhala okubandakanya ukuzindla nezeluleko zochwepheshe. (Okuhlobene: Izinzuzo Ezi-17 Ezinamandla Zokuzindla)

Umqondisi olindelekile nomhlahlandlela womphakathi u-Anna Gannon uthi uhlelo lokusebenza lusiza abesifazane abazama ukukhulelwa ukuphatha imizwa yabo nokuba khona manje. "Ukuzindla akulona ikhambi, kepha kuyithuluzi," kusho uGannon. "Uvithamini ongaphambi kokubeletha engqondweni yakho." Ukungasho, izifundo zibonisa ukuzindla kungasiza ekuthuthukiseni ukuzala, ukulinganisa ama-hormone, nokunciphisa ukucindezeleka. Win, win, win.

Yondla umzimba wakho.

Okwesikhashana, ngangixakeke ngokulandela ukudla "okuphelele" kokuzala, futhi ngangingakwazi ngisho nokuzivumela inkomishi yekhofi ngezikhathi ezithile. (Okuhlobene: Ingabe Ukuphuza Ikhofi * Ngaphambi Ukukhulelwa Kungadala Ukukhulelwa Kwesisu?) Kepha esikhundleni sokugxila ekubeni "ovundile," ochwepheshe bathi kufanele ugxile ekwenzeni ngcono impilo yakho yonke. U-Aimee Raupp, i-acupuncturist kanye nombhali we Yebo, Ungakhulelwa, ichaza ukuthi ukuzala kwakho kuyisandiso sempilo yakho. "Gubha ukunqoba okuncane njengokuphathwa yikhanda elincane noma ukungazizwa ngikhungathekile, futhi wazi ukuthi ukuzala kwakho kuyathuthuka endleleni," kusho uRaupp.

Cabanga ngekusasa lakho.

Lapho ngizizwa ngingenathemba, ngangicabanga impilo yami nginengane. Ngike ngicabange ukuthi isisu sami sikhula, ngibambe isisu ngigeza, ngithumele uthando. Inyanga ngaphambi kokuba ngikhulelwe, ngathola i-tattoo yesikhashana ethi, "Empeleni ungakwazi," okwangikhumbuza ukuthi umzimba wami ngempela. can yenza lokhu.

"Uma ungakukholelwa, ungakufeza," kusho uRaupp. Utusa ukuchitha isikhathi ekubukeni ngamehlo ngamehlo ngicabanga ngezingubo zezingane, imibala yenkulisa yakho, nokuthi impilo izoba njani ngomncane. "Sihlelelwe ukucabanga ngesimo esibi kakhulu, kodwa lapho ngibuza amakhasimende ukuthi 'Uma uthulisa ingqondo yakho ngokwanele futhi uthintana nenhliziyo yakho, uyakholelwa ukuthi uzoyithola le ngane?' Amaphesenti angu-99 athi yebo.” Kholwa ukuthi kuzokwenzeka nakuwe. (Okuningi: Ungakusebenzisa Kanjani Ukubona Ukufeza Izinhloso Zakho)

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