Masikhulume Ngokuklinya Ngesikhathi Socansi

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• Kuyini Ukudideka Okumnandi?
• Kungani Abantu Bethanda Ukuklinywa Ngesikhathi Socansi?
• I-Physiological Aspect
• I-Psychological Aspect
• Ingabe Ukukhahlela Ngesikhathi Sobulili Kuhlale Kuphephile?
• Ungakufaka Kanjani Ukuchofoza Empilweni Yakho Yezocansi
• Isinyathelo 1: Yazi ukwakheka komzimba wakho.
• Isinyathelo 2: Imvume ngaphambi, ngesikhathi nangemva kwalokho.
• Isinyathelo sesi-3: Khuluma ngemingcele.
• Isinyathelo sesi-4: Gcina umqondo ocacile.
• Buyekeza kwe-

Uma umcabango wesandla somuntu othile entanyeni yakho - noma okuphambene nalokho - kukuvulela, wamukelekile. Ukuklinya ngesikhathi socansi akuyona i-kink entsha. Akuyona into exakile engakaze icatshangwe muntu. Kepha sekuthandwa kakhulu (noma kungene ingxoxo yomphakathi) ngokwengxenye ngenxa yesigameko sangoDisemba 2019 nomfana waseNew Jersey oneminyaka eyishumi nesishiyagalolunye owashona ngengozi ngenkathi enza nomlingani wakhe wokudlala.

Ngokungafani namanye ama-kinks anjengokuboshwa kwezintambo nokudlala unyawo, ukuklinywa kuza nezingozi ezinkulu. Ukwenza kanjalo kuphuca umuntu umoya-mpilo, bese lokho kuza nomsebenzi omkhulu. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuzijwayeza ngesikhathi sokuya ocansini, uma ukhetha ukukusebenzisa nhlobo, ukuqonda izingozi futhi wenze konke okusemandleni ukuzifundisa ukuthi ungakufaka kanjani ngokuphepha.

Lapha, abelaphi bezocansi babelana ngalo lonke ulwazi oludingayo lokuthi ungazijwayeza kanjani ukuklinya ngesikhathi socansi ngendlela ephephile - ngoba ucansi oluphephile ucansi olunolwazi. Ake singene ku-nitty-gritty lapho ukuthakasela kulele khona ngokuklinywa ngesikhathi socansi kanye namaphuzu athile abalulekile okufanele siwakhumbule ngaphambi kokuba sikwenze.

Kuyini Ukudideka Okumnandi?

Ukukhahlela uhlobo lwe-asphyxiation erotic (EA) noma umdlalo wokuphefumula ongenziwa phakathi kocansi noma ucansi oluhlukanisiwe (uma usuqedile uwedwa, kubizwa ngokuthi yi-autoerotic asphyxiation). "Ukudlala ngokuphefumula kuhilela ukunqamula ukutholakala komoya wena, umlingani wakho, noma nobabili ngesikhathi sokwenza ucansi," kusho udokotela wezokwelapha ocwaningweni nodokotela bezengqondo, uKristie Overstreet, Ph.D. Kungukuvinjelwa ngamabomu komoya-mpilo ebuchosheni ngenjabulo yezocansi.

Ukuklinya ngesikhathi socansi kungenye yezindlela eziningi zokuphefumula. Amanye amafomu afaka ukucinana amakhala, ukuvala umlomo, nokubamba umoya. Ukudlala i-Breath (ngazo zonke izinhlobo zayo) kungaphansi kwesambulela sokudlala - noma yimuphi umsebenzi wezocansi onamandla okulimaza kakhulu.

Kungani Abantu Bethanda Ukuklinywa Ngesikhathi Socansi?

"Ukudlala ngokuphefumula kungaholela ekuvuseleleni okukhulu," kusho uchwepheshe wezocansi oqinisekisiwe kanye nochwepheshe wezobudlelwano, u-Ashley Grinonneau-Denton, Ph.D. Yini eyenza umuntu afike kuleso simo sokuvuka iyahlukahluka njengoba kunamazinga ambalwa wokuklinya okufanele awacabangele.

I-Physiological Aspect

"Ngesikhathi uklinya, ubuchopho bakho buphucwa umoya-mpilo ngokoqobo," kusho uKimberly Resnick Anderson, umelaphi oqinisekisiwe wezocansi futhi ongumsizi kaprofesa wezifo zengqondo e-UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine. "Lokhu kungase kudale isimo esicacile kodwa esine-semi-hallucinogenic." Ukuntuleka komoyampilo ofinyelela ebuchosheni kubangela isipiliyoni iziguli zakhe ezisifanisa nokufiphala ngaphakathi nangaphandle kokuqaphela futhi zivame ukujabulela, uthi.

Bese kuthi, "lapho ukugeleza komoya-mpilo kubuya, umzimba uphefumula ngokoqobo," kusho uGrinonneau-Denton. "Lokhu kukhishwa kuhlanganiswe nokukhululwa kwe-dopamine ne-serotonin [ama-neurotransmitters amabili] okungaholela ekuthokoziseni okuthokozisayo njengoba umzimba usebenza ukwelulama ufinyelele esimweni esidlule somoya-mpilo." (Qaphela: Kokubili nakho kungemuva kokuzivocavoca kwakho okuphezulu.) Ubuchopho buthatha izinhlungu kumongo wocansi bese buhumusha lokho bubuyisele emzimbeni njengokujabulisa. Ngoba, empeleni, ubuhlungu nenjabulo kusebenze izingxenye ezifanayo zobuchopho ezihlotshaniswa nokucupha i-dopamine.

I-Psychological Aspect

Kukhona nengxenye yokudlala amandla. "Uhlobo oluyingozi kangaka lokudlala ngocansi ludinga ukwethenjwa okukhulu kusuka kumlingani ozithobayo kuya komkhulu," kusho uGrinonneau-Denton. Amandla okuphatha noma okunikeza amandla kumlingani wakho angakhulula. Ingakhombisa nokuba sengozini okukhulu. (Okuhlobene: Umhlahlandlela we-BDSM Wabasaqalayo)

Kungani omunye umuntu engahle aminyaniswe kungaba yilezi zici noma inhlanganisela yazo. “Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi wonke umuntu ubamba iqhaza kuwo ngezizathu ezahlukene kanye nezikhalazo,” kusho u-Overstreet. Kusukela emizweni yomzimba kuya ekudlaleni ngothando ngokufa, isizathu esenza umuntu ajabulele ukuklinywa ngesikhathi socansi esomuntu siqu, njenganoma iyiphi intshisekelo yocansi.

Ingabe Ukukhahlela Ngesikhathi Sobulili Kuhlale Kuphephile?

"Ukudlala umoya ovusa inkanuko kungaba yingozi kakhulu," kusho uGrinonneau-Denton. "Ukuphepha nemvume kuhlale kubalulekile. Futhi uma kukhulunywa ngokuvimba imvelo yomoya-mpilo, into sonke esiyidingayo ukuze siphile futhi siqhubeke siphile, izigxobo ngokuqinisekile azibe sezingeni eliphansi."

Ayikho indlela yokubalekela izingozi ezihilelekile emkhubeni wokuklinya. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi uzifaka kuphi ngaphambi kokuzama.

Qaphela: Ukukhomba nokuqonda ubungozi bokwenza ucansi akufani nokuhlambalaza umuntu ngokuveza izifiso zakhe zocansi. Uma ukuminyanisa ngesikhathi socansi kuyinto onentshisekelo yokuyihlola, yenze ngazo zonke izindlela — kodwa kwenze ngokuphepha.

Ungakufaka Kanjani Ukuchofoza Empilweni Yakho Yezocansi

Uma ukhuluma ngokuhlola umkhuba wokuklinya ngokuphepha, nazi izindlela ezithile zokwenza lokho.

Isinyathelo 1: Yazi ukwakheka komzimba wakho.

“Nakuba intamo yayingadalelwanga ukuba ibe buthaka, ukucindezela okukhulu kungadala umonakalo omkhulu uma ungafundile maqondana nalokho okwenzayo ngomqondo ongokomzimba,” kusho uGrinonneau-Denton. Ukuzifundisa mayelana nokwakheka kwentamo kungakusiza ukuthi ufunde ukuthi yikuphi ukubamba okuphephe kakhulu nokuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani ingcindezi.

Kunezingxenye ezithile ezibaluleke kakhulu zomzimba ezidlula entanyeni noma eziqonde ngqo entanyeni, kufaka phakathi umgogodla, izintambo zezwi, ingxenye yesimila, imithambo yegazi ekhipha igazi ebusweni, entanyeni, nasebuchosheni, futhi imithambo ye-carotid ehambisa igazi ekhanda nasentanyeni.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usebenzisa izandla zakho, othayi, noma ezinye izithiyo, kungcono ukuzibandakanya emdlalweni wokuphefumula njengomuntu onolwazi. Kulokhu, unolwazi mayelana nokwakheka kwentamo. Gwema ukucindezela okuqondile kuqhoqhoqho [uqhoqhoqho] bese ucindezela izinhlangothi zentamo esikhundleni salokho,” kusho u-Anderson. (Okuhlobene: Amathoyizi Obulili Ohamba phambili Uma Unentshisekelo Yokuzama i-BDSM)

U-Anderson uphakamisa ukuxhuma nochwepheshe emphakathini we-BDSM kungxenyekazi efana ne-Fetlife. Umuntu owazi lo mkhuba futhi okwaziyo (futhi ozimisele) ukukubonisa ukuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani ingcindezi ngobungozi obuncane.

Isinyathelo 2: Imvume ngaphambi, ngesikhathi nangemva kwalokho.

"Ungacabangi ngisho nokudlala umoya ngaphandle kwemvume yawo wonke amaqembu," kusho u-Overstreet. Imvume idinga ukuhlala engqondweni yakho sonke isikhathi; kanye akwanele. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukubuza ngaphambi kokuthi uhlanganyele ngendlela yokuphefumula efana nokuklinya, kanye nokungena ngesikhathi sesigameko ukubona ukuthi nobabili nizizwa kanjani.

Wonke umuntu othintekayo unezwi mayelana nokuthi kwenzekani. Ungacabangi ukuthi ngoba kube nemvume ekuqaleni noma okokuqala ukuthi kuzoba nemvume kuyo yonke indawo noma ngaso sonke isikhathi. (Nakhu kahle ukuthi kuhlanganisani nemvume nokuthi ungayicela kanjani kahle - ngaphambi nangesikhathi sokuzizwisa ucansi.)

Isinyathelo sesi-3: Khuluma ngemingcele.

"Qinisekisa ukuthi uyakwazi ukukhuluma, ucacise ukuxhumana, futhi ulalele ngokuzimisela," kusho u-Overstreet. Udinga ukuzizwa ukhululeke ngokwanele nomlingani wakho ukudala nokuveza imingcele yakho, kufaka phakathi izinkomba zomlomo nezingaqondile. Futhi badinga ukuzizwa bekhululekile ekudaleni nasekuvezeni okufanayo nawe. Wonke umuntu udinga ukuba kubude obufanayo ngaphambi kokuhlanganyela ohlotsheni lokudlala lokuphefumula njengokuklinywa.

"Ungabi nezwi eliphephile nje kuphela, kodwa futhi ube 'nokunyakaza okuphephile' njengokwenza uphawu lokuthula ngesandla noma ukushaya phansi / ukukhahlela unyawo amahlandla amane," kusho u-Anderson. Uma ukhawulela ukuphefumula komuntu, izimpawu ezingasho lutho (ukunyakaza okuphephile) zingaba usizo.

Ukukhuluma nokulalela umlingani wakho kukugcina ukhona. Ungathola ukuqonda okungcono kokuthandayo nokungathandi, okuthandayo nokungakuthandi, futhi wakhe indawo ephephe kakhulu kuyo yonke indawo.

Isinyathelo sesi-4: Gcina umqondo ocacile.

Ufuna ukuba khona (futhi usanguluke) ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi isipiliyoni siphephe futhi sijabulisa ngangokunokwenzeka. Futhi, imvume ngaphansi kwethonya ayivumi ngempela. "Amakhemikhali angaphazamisa ukwahlulela, anciphise ubungqabavu namandla, futhi abangele ukulala noma ukucima - okwenza ukulimala noma ukufa kube lula," kusho u-Anderson. Uma ufuna ukuzijwayeza ngesikhathi socansi, shiya utshwala nezidakamizwa ngaphandle kwesibalo, ukuphepha kwakho nokwomlingani wakho.

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