Kusho Ukuthini Ukuhlukumeza Othile?

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• Kungani ukwehliswa kwemali kwenzeka?
• Ingabe ukungaziphathi kahle kubathinta kanjani abantu abadlulayo?
• Kungani izabizwana zibalulekile?
• Yini ongayenza ukuvimbela ukungahambi kahle?
• Okubalulekile

Kuyini ukungafani kahle?

Kubantu abangama-transgender, nonbinary, noma ubulili abangavumelani, ukungena ebulilini babo kungaba isinyathelo esibalulekile nesiqinisekisayo empilweni.

Kwesinye isikhathi, abantu bayaqhubeka nokubhekisa kumuntu oguqukayo, ongaqedi, noma ongavumelani nobulili esebenzisa amagama ahlobene nokuthi akhombe kanjani ngaphambi kokushintshwa.

Lokhu kwaziwa njengokuphambanisa.

Ukuhlukumezeka okungekuhle kwenzeka lapho ubhekisa kumuntu ngamabomu noma ungahlosile, uxhumana nomuntu, noma usebenzisa ulimi ukuchaza umuntu ongahambisani nobulili bakhe obuqinisekisiwe. Isibonelo, ukubhekisa kowesifazane ngokuthi “yena” noma ukumbiza ngokuthi “umfana” isenzo sokuphambanisa.

Kungani ukwehliswa kwemali kwenzeka?

Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani ukuhlukunyezwa kwemali kwenzeka.

Isibonelo, abantu bangaqaphela ukuthi umuntu unezici zobulili eziyinhloko noma zesibili futhi benze ukucabanga ngobulili balowo muntu.

Lokhu kufaka phakathi komuntu:

• izinwele zobuso noma ukungabi bikho kwazo
• ibanga eliphakeme noma eliphansi lezwi
• isifuba noma izicubu zesifuba noma ukungabi bikho
• izitho zangasese

I-misgendering nayo ingenzeka ezimeni lapho kusetshenziswa khona izinkomba zikahulumeni. Umbiko weTransgender Law Center ngokushintsha kokumaka ubulili uveza ukuthi kwezinye izifundazwe akunakwenzeka ukuthi ushintshe ubulili bakho kumadokhumende afana nezincwadi zokushayela nezitifiketi zokuzalwa. Futhi kwezinye izifundazwe, kufanele ngabe uhlinzwe ngokukhethekile ukuze wenze kanjalo.

NgokweNational Center for Transgender Equality’s 2015 Trans Transvey yase-United States, bangamaphesenti ayi-11 kuphela abantu okuhloliwe abebhalwe ubulili babo kuwo wonke ama-ID kahulumeni wabo. Amaphesenti angama-67 abengenayo i-ID ngohlu lwabo oluqinisekisiwe lobulili.

Ezimweni lapho omazisi bakahulumeni bedinga ukwethulwa khona - njengasemahhovisi kahulumeni, ezikoleni, nasezibhedlela - abantu abangakashintshi omaka babo bobulili bangabhekana nokukhwabanisa. Ezimweni eziningi, abantu benza ukucabanga ngobulili babo ngokususelwa kulokho okukuhlu kuma-ID abo.

Vele, ukungaziphathi kahle nakho kungaba isenzo sangamabomu. Abantu abanezinkolelo nemibono ebandlululayo ngomphakathi we-trans bangasebenzisa ukungaziphathi njengecebo lokuhlukumeza nokuxhashazwa. Lokhu kufakazelwa yi-US Trans Survey yango-2015, ethole ukuthi amaphesenti angama-46 abaphendulile ahlangabezana nokuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi ngenxa yobunikazi bawo, kwathi amaphesenti ayi-9 ahlaselwa ngokomzimba.

Ingabe ukungaziphathi kahle kubathinta kanjani abantu abadlulayo?

Ukuhlukumezeka okungaba nemiphumela emibi ekuzethembeni komuntu we-transgender kanye nempilo yengqondo isiyonke.

Ucwaningo lwango-2014 kumagazini i-Self and Identity, labuza abantu abangama-transgender mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo ngokungalungiswa kahle.

Abaphenyi bathole ukuthi:

• Amaphesenti angama-32.8 ababambiqhaza abike ukuthi bazizwa benesigcwagcwa lapho bekhulunywa kabi.
• Abantu bobulili obufanayo, nabantu abathathe izinyathelo ezimbalwa kunqubo yenguquko, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi baphathwe kabi.
• Labo ababedukiswe kaningi babenomuzwa wokuthi ubunikazi babo babaluleke kakhulu, kepha baba nokuzethemba okuphansi maqondana nokubukeka kwabo.
• Futhi babenomuzwa omncane wamandla nokuqhubeka ekuzazeni kwabo.

"Lapho ngifunda khona esikoleni manje kunabantu abangaphansi kokudlulisa nokungajwayeleki, akukho mphakathi obonakalayo, kanti ngenkathi ukuqeqeshwa kwethu ngokulingana kufaka ividiyo kwizabizwana, akekho noyedwa oprofesa bami noma engisebenza nabo owake wabuza ukuthi yiziphi izabizwana zami," kusho uN. , 27, uthe. "Uma umuntu engikhuluma kabi esikoleni ngivele ngithole lokhu kushaqeka kwengcindezi ebuhlungu emzimbeni wami wonke."

Uma ugebenga umuntu kabi, ubeka engcupheni yokumkhiphela kwabanye abantu. Akukaze kube yilungelo lomuntu noma isibopho sokukhipha umuntu oguqukele ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe. Kuyilungelo lomuntu odlulisayo nelungelo lakhe yedwa ukutshela abanye ukuthi bangama-transgender, kuya ngokuthi uyafisa yini ukuphuma noma cha.

Ukukhipha umuntu othengisayo akugcini nje ngokungahloniphi imingcele yabo, kodwa futhi kungaholela ekutheni lowo muntu abhekane nokuhlukunyezwa nokucwaswa.

Futhi, ukubandlululwa kuyinkinga enkulu emphakathini we-trans. I-US Trans Survey ka-2015 ithole lezi zibalo ezishaqisayo:

• Amaphesenti ama-33 wabantu abadlulisiwe abahlolwe okungenani kokuhlangenwe nakho okukodwa kokubandlululwa lapho befuna ukwelashwa.
• Amaphesenti angama-27 abaphendulile abika uhlobo oluthile lokubandlululwa kokuqashwa, noma ngabe bekuxoshwa, kuphathwa kabi emsebenzini, noma kungaqashwa ngenxa yobunikazi babo.
• Amaphesenti angama-77 abantu abebephume ku-K-12, namaphesenti angama-24 alabo abebesekolishi noma esikoleni sokufundela umsebenzi, babhekana nokuphathwa kabi kulezo zilungiselelo.

Kungani izabizwana zibalulekile?

Kwabaningi - yize kungebona bonke - abantu abadlulisayo, ukuguqulwa kwezabizwana kuyingxenye eqinisekisayo yenqubo yokuguquka. Kungasiza umuntu odlulisayo nabantu ezimpilweni zabo baqale ukubabona njengobulili babo obuqinisekisiwe. Ukuthola okungafaneleki kwezabizwana zomuntu kuyisibonelo esivame kakhulu sokunikela ngokungafanele.

Amabizo amagama esiwasebenzisayo ukuzichaza kumuntu wesithathu esikhundleni segama lethu.

Lokhu kungafaka:

• yena / yena / wakhe
• yena / wakhe / wakhe
• bona / bona / labo
• izabizwana ezingathathi hlangothi ngokobulili, njengeze / hir / hirs

Yize kube khona impikiswano mayelana nokusetshenziswa kwezabizwana ezingathathi hlangothi ngokobulili - ikakhulukazi ukusetshenziswa kwazo / zona / zazo njengesabizwana esisebunyeni ngokuphikisana nobuningi - ukwamukelwa esidlangalaleni kobunye "bona" ​​sekukhule eminyakeni embalwa edlule.

UMerriam-Webster uphume esekela ubunye “ngabo” ngo-2016, kanti i-American Dialectic Society, iqembu lochwepheshe bezilimi, bayivotela njenge- “Word of the Year” yabo ka-2015.

Ngokujabulisayo, konke okudingeka ukwenze ukuze ulunge ukubuza! Qiniseka ukuthi unikela ngezabizwana zakho lapho wenza.

Imvamisa kuba nzima ukucela abantu ukuthi bangisebenzisele izabizwana ezifanele, ikakhulukazi ngoba ngisebenzisa bona / bona. Abantu bavame ukubuyela emuva noma bazabalaze ukwenza ushintsho. Kepha, lapho abantu bekuthola kahle, ngizizwa ngifakazelwa ngempela ebuntwini bami obungenakubalwa. Ngizizwa ngibonwa.

Yini ongayenza ukuvimbela ukungahambi kahle?

Ukuyekisa imikhuba yakho emibi yokuziphatha nokukhuthaza abanye ukuthi benze kanjalo kuyindlela elula nephumelelayo yokuxhasa abantu abadlulayo empilweni yakho.

Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ongazenza ukuvimbela ukungazinikeli kahle nokuqinisekisa ubunikazi bomuntu:

1. Ungenzi ukucabanga.

Ungahle ucabange ukuthi uyazi ukuthi othile ukhomba kanjani, kepha awusoze wazi ngokuqinisekile ngaphandle kokuthi ubuze.

2. Buza njalo ukuthi yimaphi amagama okufanele uwasebenzise!

Ungabuza abantu ngqo noma ubuze abantu abazi umuntu othile. Noma, ungangena nje kumkhuba wokubuza wonke umuntu izabizwana namagama azisebenzisela wona.

3. Sebenzisa igama elifanele nezabizwanayabantu abadlulayo empilweni yakho.

Kufanele ukwenze lokhu ngaso sonke isikhathi, hhayi kuphela uma beseduze. Lokhu kukhombisa indlela efanele yokubhekisa kubangani bakho be-trans kwabanye abantu. Kuyasiza futhi ukuthi ujwayele ukusho into efanele.

4. Gwema ukusebenzisa ulimi lobulili ukukhuluma noma ukuchaza abantu ngaphandle uma wazi ukuthi yilolo limi olukhethwa umuntu othize.

Izibonelo zolimi lobulili zifaka:

• izihlonipho ezifana "mnumzane" noma "ma'am"
• amagama anjengokuthi “ladies,” “guys,” noma “ladies and gentlemen” ukubhekisa eqenjini labantu
• izichasiso ezilingana nobulili ezifana nokuthi "muhle" futhi "muhle"

Zijwayeze ukusebenzisa le migomo nezindlela zamakheli ezingathathi hlangothi esikhundleni salokho. Ungasho izinto ezinjengokuthi “umngani wami” esikhundleni sika “mnumzane” noma “mama,” futhi ubhekise kumaqembu abantu “njengabantu,” “yall,” noma “izivakashi.”

5. Ungazenzeli olimini olungathathi hlangothi ngokobulili uma wazi ukuthi umuntu ufisa ukubhekiswa kanjani.

Kungabonakala njengokusebenzisa okukodwa okuthi “bona” ukuchaza wonke umuntu ukubheja okuphephile, futhi kwesinye isikhathi leyo empeleni kuyindlela enhle yokuzula esimweni lapho ungaqiniseki ukuthi umuntu ukhomba kanjani. Kepha, kubalulekile ukuhlonipha izifiso zabantu abanolimi oluthile lobulili abafuna ukuthi ulusebenzise.

6. Gwema ukusebenzisa ulimi olungenzi lutho.

Esikhundleni sokuthi: "U-X ukhomba njengowesifazane" noma "Y ukhetha yena / yena / izabizwana zakhe," yisho izinto ezinjengokuthi "X ungowesifazane" noma "izabizwana ze-Y yizona / yena."

Ekupheleni kosuku, yazi ukuthi kuhle ukwenza iphutha lapha noma lapho uma nje ungakwenzi umkhuba lokho. Uma wenza iphutha, vele uxolise bese uqhubeka.

"Uma udinga ukuzilungisa, kwenze bese uqhubekela phambili," kusho uLouis, umuntu oneminyaka engama-29 ongabhali.“Ungaxolisi kakhulu ngaphandle kokuthi yilokho okufunwa omunye umuntu. Akuwona umsebenzi womuntu owedlulayo ukwamukela ukuxolisa kwakho noma akwenze uzizwe ungcono uma ubenza kabi. ”

Okubalulekile

I-misgendering inkinga enzima kubantu be-trans. Ungakhombisa ukwesekwa nozwela ngabantu be-transgender empilweni yakho nasemphakathini wakho ngokuqaphela ukubamba iqhaza kwakho kukho futhi uthathe lezi zinyathelo ezilula ukugwema ukwenza kanjalo.

I-KC Clements is queer, non-kanambambili umbhali ezinze eBrooklyn, NY. Umsebenzi wabo usebenza ngokuzibandakanya kwe-queer kanye ne-trans, ubulili nobulili, impilo nokuphila kahle ngombono oqondile womzimba, nokunye okuningi. Ungahambisana nabo ngokuvakashela i- iwebhusayithi, noma ukuzithola zivuliwe Instagram futhi Twitter.