Ucansi oluthe xaxa alulingani nenjabulo eyengeziwe, kusho isifundo esisha

-Delile

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Ngenkathi kungabonakala kucace bha ukuthi ukumane ube matasa kaningi nge-SO yakho akusho ukuthi ikhwalithi yobudlelwano enkulu (ukube nje bekulula!), Sekuyisikhathi eside izifundo zathola ubulili obuningi ukulingana nenjabulo eyengeziwe. Kodwa manje, ngenxa yocwaningo olusha, kune-caveat eyodwa enkulu: Ngenkathi uba ne-frisky kaningi kwenza kukwenze ujabule ngokwengeziwe, uzojabula kakhulu ngemuva kweseshini eyodwa yocansi ngesonto njengoba uzoba ngemuva kwezine. (Ngesikhathi sikhona, bheka Amaphutha Ocansi Ayi-10 Akuhuqa Esakeni.)

Ishicilelwe ephephabhukwini Isayensi Yezenhlalo Nezengqondo, ucwaningo lususelwa ocwaningweni lwemibhangqwana engaphezu kwama-30,000 e-U.S., futhi kungokokuqala ukuthola ukuthi isikhathi esisodwa ngeviki yikho konke okudingayo ukuze uzuze lezo zinzuzo zenjabulo! Ngokumangalisayo, kwakungekho umehluko ekutholweni okusekelwe ebulilini, ubudala, noma ukuthi imibhangqwana yayishade isikhathi esingakanani, kuchaza umcwaningi oholayo kanye nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sezenhlalakahle, u-Amy Muise, Ph.D, ekukhululweni kwabezindaba. (Ngakho-ke amadoda ungakwenzi ufuna ucansi kunabesifazane? Izingqondo zishaywa.)

Kodwa-ke, isixhumanisi sasiqinisile kuphela kulabo abasebudlelwaneni bezothando. Kungani kungaba njalo? Yebo, kubantu abangashadile, ukuxhumana phakathi kocansi nenjabulo kuncike ezintweni eziningi, njengomongo wobudlelwano ubulili obenzeka kubo (ingabe nibangani ngezinzuzo? Ukuma kobusuku obubodwa?) Nokuthi unethezeke kangakanani ucansi ngaphandle kobuhlobo. Ngokuyinhloko, njengoba noma yimuphi umuntu ongashadile angakutshela: Kuyinkimbinkimbi, ngakho-ke akunakwenzeka ukwenza iziphetho uma kukhulunywa ngobuningi bobulili nenhlalakahle.

Ukuthatha? Yebo, ucansi lubalulekile ekugcineni ubuhlobo obuseduze nomlingani wakho, kodwa akudingeki ukwenze nsuku zonke inqobo nje uma wenza isenzo kanye ngesonto. Futhi-ke, ukuxhumana kuhlale kusemqoka, ngakho beka uphawu lo mfana ngaphambi kokuthi uqhubeke: Izingxoxo Eziyisi-7 Okufanele Ube Nazo Ukuze Uphile Ngocansi Olunempilo.

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