Ukwenza Ushintsho Olugqugquzelayo: Izinyathelo ezi-5 zokwenza umkhuba onempilo

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• Ngaphambi Kokuba Uqale
• Kumaki Akho (Okucatshangelwa ngaphambilini)
• Lungela (Ukucabanga)
• Hlela (Ukulungiselela)
• Hamba! (Isenzo)
• Uthole Lokhu! (Isondlo)
• Amathiphu Wokuhlala Kuthrekhi
• Buyekeza kwe-

Ngaphandle koSuku Lomnyaka Omusha, isinqumo sokuthola isimo asivame ukwenzeka ngobusuku obubodwa. Futhi, uma usuqale ngohlelo olusha lokuzivocavoca, inkuthazo yakho ingaxhuma futhi inciphe isonto nesonto. Ngokusho kwabaphenyi basePenn State, lokhu kushintshashintsha kungahle kuwe.

Abaphenyi bahlole izinhloso zabafundi basekolishi lokuzivocavoca kanye namazinga abo wangempela omsebenzi futhi bafinyelela eziphethweni ezimbili eziyinhloko: Okokuqala, isisusa sokuzivocavoca siguquguquka njalo ngesonto. Futhi okwesibili, lokhu kushintshashintsha kuxhunyaniswe ngqo nokuziphatha-labo abanezinhloso ezinamandla zokuzivocavoca bakhombisa ithuba elihle lokulandela, kanti labo abanokuhlukahluka okukhulu kwesisusa babenesikhathi esinzima kakhulu ukunamathela ekuzivocavoca umzimba.

“Kunombono wokuthi uma ufuna ukuqala uhlelo olusha lokufaneleka konke noma lutho, kodwa uguquko luwuchungechunge lwezigaba ezihlukene ezinezindlela ezihlukene zokukuyisa esigabeni ngasinye esilandelayo,” kusho u-Elizabeth R. Lombardo, PhD, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, futhi. umbhali we I-Happy You: Imithi Yakho Yokugcina Yenjabulo. Laba bafundi kungenzeka ukuthi bebekade bezama ukweqa ngaphezulu kwesinyathelo esisodwa noma ngaphezulu kwezinhlanu noma "izigaba" ezidingekayo ukwenza ushintsho lwaphakade.

Konke kumayelana nokugqugquzela, kusho uLombardo. "Ngabe ukhuthazeka kakhulu ukwenza izinguquko ezinhle noma ngabe ukhuthazeka kakhulu ukuhlala kusofa udle amachips?"

Ngaphambi Kokuba Uqale

Bhala izinzuzo zokuzivocavoca ngaphambi kokuba uqale, kusho uLombardo. "Faka kuhlu ukuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba, kwezenhlalo, ukukhiqiza, kanye nengokomoya ozokuzwa-zonke lezi zindawo ziyazuza esimisweni sokujima esijwayelekile." Isibonelo, kwezenhlalo uzizwa ungcono, ungumngani ongcono, ukhiqiza kakhulu, uyondla wena, njll. Funda futhi "uzizwe" nsuku zonke okungenani kanye noma kabili ngosuku ngokuzwakalayo bese uzizwa imizwa ngemuva kwezitatimende zakho, kusho uLombardo.

Ukuqala inqubo entsha noma umkhuba onempilo kudinga ukulandela ngezigaba ezinhlanu ezilandelayo. (Imodeli yokuqala yoshintsho yathuthukiswa ngasekupheleni kweminyaka yama-1970 ngabeluleki bokulutha utshwala ukusiza ochwepheshe baqonde izinkinga zamakhasimende abo zokulutha). Isigaba ngasinye siqukethe izithiyo okungenzeka uhlangane nazo.

Ulungele ukwenza ushintsho impilo yonke? Ochwepheshe babelana ngamathiphu abo amahle ukudlula esigabeni ngasinye ukuze uphume unqobile.

Kumaki Akho (Okucatshangelwa ngaphambilini)

Kulesi sigaba sokuqala awucabangi ngisho nokushintsha indlela oziphatha ngayo.

Isikhuthazo masher: Isithiyo esikhulu esigabeni sokucabangisisa ngaphambi kwesikhathi ukuqwashisa noma ukuqaphela ukuthi kunenkinga ekhona, kusho uJohn Gunstad, PhD, umsizi kaprofesa wesayensi yezengqondo eKent State University, e-Ohio. "Sonke singayibona inkinga uma kuvela izinkinga (isb. Udokotela exilonga inkinga yezokwelapha, ingubo ayithandayo ayisahambisani), kepha ukukhuthalela ukuthola izindlela zokuziphatha ezincane nezimbi kungaba yinselele." Uzitshela ukuthi uke wakwenza lokhu ngaphambilini futhi awusoze wanamathela kukho esikhathini esidlule ngakho kungani uzihlupha manje?

Ushintsho olungcono lokugqugquzela: Izinto ezimbili ezilula zingasiza ukuqala ushintsho lwakho lokuziphatha okunempilo, kusho uGunstad. "Okokuqala, qala ingxoxo. Khuluma nabangane bakho nomndeni wakho ngempilo, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ukuzincisha ukudla, njll. Ngaphezu kokuba izinhlelo ezinhle zokusekela, bangahle bakunikeze imininingwane oyidingayo ukuze ungene endleleni efanele." Futhi, zivumele uphuphe, uLombardo uyanezela. "Cabanga nje ukuthi impilo yakho ibingaba njani ukube ubungcono, uzacile, futhi unempilo."

Lungela (Ukucabanga)

Uqala ukucabangela ukuthi ungase ube nenkinga okudingeka uyilungise, kodwa usabhekene nocingo mayelana nokuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala.

I-Motivation Masher: Uqala ukucabanga ngokuthi ukwehlisa isisindo nokuzilolonga kungakusiza kanjani ukuthi ubukeke ungcono ngebhayisikili, kepha unezinto eziningi, "kusho uLombardo. Uhlala ucabanga ngezaba zokuthi kungani ungakwazi ukuqala, njengokuthi "Ngifuna kodwa Anginaso isikhathi. "

Ushintsho olungcono lokugqugquzela: Udinga ukubheka izizathu zakho zokushintsha futhi ucabangele izinto ezimbi kanye nezinzuzo ezingase zivele, kusho uLombardo.Isibonelo, uma uqala ukuzivocavoca noma ungeze ekusebenzeni kwakho kwamanje, uzolingana kanjani kuleso sikhathi esengeziwe? Uma kunjalo, thola izindlela zokwandisa isikhathi sakho ukuze ucebe izaba zakho. "Ukuyeka ukucabanga ngokushintsha izindlela zakho kodwa ukwenze kungaba nzima," kusho uGunstad. "Abantu abaningi bathola ukuthi ukuhlonza into efanele ekhuthazayo kungaqala inqubekelaphambili yabo." Kwabanye abantu, kubukeka kukuhle ekuhlanganeni komndeni okuzayo. Kwabanye, kungaba ukunciphisa (noma ngisho nokukwazi ukuyeka) eminye imithi. Thola ukuthi yini ngempela ekucasulayo futhi usendleleni eya esigabeni esilandelayo.

Hlela (Ukulungiselela)

Usezigabeni zokuhlela. Awunqunyelwe ngokuphelele kepha uphokophele ekushintsheni.

I-Motivation Masher: Wenza izinhlelo kepha izithiyo ziyaqhubeka nokuvela, kusho uLombardo. Uma uzoqala ukusebenza nomqeqeshi, mhlawumbe ukwenza isikhathi kube yisithiyo. Noma awukwazi ukuthola ijimu efanele. Awucaci ngemininingwane.

Ushintsho olungcono lokugqugquzela: Kubhale, kusho uLombardo. "Ukubhala izinhloso zakho kusiza ngaphezu kokukhuluma ngakho." Chaza izinyathelo ezithile okudingeka uzithathe nokuthi yini ongayenza ukwenza isinyathelo ngasinye sibe lula. Yiphule ibe izingxenye ezincane. "Esikhundleni sokukhomba ukuncipha kwesisindo esingu-50-lb, hlela izinyathelo ongazilawula endleleni," kusho uLombardo. "Njalo lapho ujima kufanele kuthathwe ngokuthi 'uwine' endleleni."

Ukulungiselela kumayelana nokugcina kulula, kusho uGunstad. "Kaningi abantu bazofuna ukushintsha imikhuba eminingi ngasikhathi sinye noma bazame ukushintsha indlela abaziphatha ngayo ngaphandle kohlelo olucacile nolugxile. Kunalokho, dala umgomo ocacile nelula okulula ukulandela umkhondo." Isibonelo, kunokuba ubhale umgomo ongacacile we Ngizozivocavoca kakhulu, zibekele umgomo we Ngizozivocavoca kathathu ngesonto. Ukuba nomgomo ocacile kuzokwenza ukuthi uqalise onyaweni olulungile futhi kukuvumela ukuthi ulungise uhlelo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Hamba! (Isenzo)

Uthathe izinyathelo zokuzinyakazisa, kodwa usaqala.

I-Motivation Masher: Uma unesimo sengqondo sokuthi konke noma ungenalutho, kungenzeka ukuthi uwele lapha, kusho uLombardo. "Uma usebenze amasonto ambalwa kuphela futhi ufuna izinguquko emzimbeni wakho, ungadikibala ukuthi awuyitholi imiphumela ngokushesha."

Ushintsho olungcono lokugqugquzela: Yazi ukuthi udinga ukulindela ukuphelelwa isikhathi lapho ungenaso isikhathi sokuzivocavoca. Ziqhenye ngalokho okwenzayo futhi ubheke ukuthi usuhambe kangakanani, kusho uLombardo. "Zivuze ngokudla okungekho kokudla okukukhuthazayo." Izibonelo ezinhle: Bona ibhayisikobho, zithengele umculo omusha, thola ukubhucungwa umzimba, uphume uyodla ukudla okunempilo, uhlangane nomngani wakudala, ugeze amagwebu, noma uchithe amahora amathathu ngoMgqibelo uzihlalele futhi uziphumulele.

Isigaba sesenzo sihilela ukuqala indlela yakho yokuziphatha entsha futhi inzima kakhulu kubantu abaningi, kusho uGunstad. "Khumbula ukuthi ukushintsha indlela yokuziphatha kungumsebenzi onzima, futhi ukudla ukudla okunempilo, ukulala ngokwanele, nokulawula ukucindezeleka kuzokuvumela ukuthi ugxilise amandla akho ekulandeleni uhlelo lwakho."

Uthole Lokhu! (Isondlo)

Isondlo sisho ukuthi ulandela uhlelo lwakho kepha kusenokwenzeka ukuthi uphinde ubuye.

I-Motivation Masher: Kujwayelekile ukuthi abantu bazijwayeze kancane bese bema bese bezibheka njengokwehluleka, kusho uLombardo. Ungathi, Ngangicindezelekile ngangikhumbula ukuzivocavoca kwami, ngakho-ke kungani uzihlupha ngokuqhubeka ngoba kuzophinda kwenzeke…

Ushintsho olungcono lokugqugquzela: Esikhundleni sokuzibiza ngokwehlulekile, kubheke njengokuqoqa idatha, okusho ukuthi udinga ukubona okwenzekile bese uthatha izinyathelo zokukuvimba ukuthi kungenzeki futhi, kusho uLombardo. Isibonelo, bheka ukuthi yini edale ukuthi weqe ukuzivocavoca umzimba noma udle leyo donut bese uthola ukuthi yini ongayenza ngakho ngokuzayo lapho kuvela isimo esifanayo.

Amathiphu Wokuhlala Kuthrekhi

Ukushintsha indlela yokuziphatha kunzima futhi akekho ongavele abambe iminwe alandele uhlelo lokuzivocavoca noma imikhuba yokudla enempilo impilo yakhe yonke, kusho u-Gunstad. "Uzohlangana namaqhubu athile endleleni eya empilweni yakho entsha."

Izindlela ezimbili zingakusiza ukuthi uphumelele. Okokuqala, khumbula ukuthi indlela yokuphila enempilo akusho ukulandela uhlelo amaphesenti angu-100 esikhathi. "Uzongena emikhubeni yakudala-vele ungavumeli ukuthi isiliphu sibe isilayidi." Zitshele ukuthi kulungile ukungapheleli bese umane ubuyele ohlelweni.

Bese ufunda esiliphu. ("Okumangalisayo, ngeke sithuthuke ngaphandle kwabo," kusho u-Gunstad) Cabanga ngezici ezibangele ukuba uphume endleleni. Ingabe kwakuwukucindezeleka? Ukuphatha isikhathi kabi? Ngokukhomba izimbangela zakho, ungakha uhlelo lokuzisebenzela futhi ubuyele emgqeni. Ngemuva kwalokho, shintsha izinhlelo zakho bese usendleleni eya kokuphilile okusha kuwe.

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