Izinqumo eziyi-16 Zonyaka Omusha Zokuthuthukisa Impilo Yakho Yocansi

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• 1. Cuddle Okuningi
• 2. Thatha Ikilasi Locansi
• 3. Thenga Izingubo Zangaphansi Ezintsha Okwakho Ubumnandi
• 4. Hlala Umbhede Isikhathi Eside
• 5. Pump Pump Your Yoga Practice
• 6. Hlolelwa
• 7. Zama Ngomuntu Ohlukile Embhedeni
• 8. Thuthukisa iLube Yakho
• 9. Ukushaya indlwabu ngaphezulu
• 10. Zama Ukungashadi
• 11. Thatha Ikilasi Lomdanso
• 12. Hlela Isikhathi Sokungangeni Izingane
• 13. Buyisa i-Foreplay emuva
• 14. Yabelana Ngamaphupho Akho
• 15. Thenga Obhodisi Abalingana Ngempela
• 16. Thinta Izindawo Ezintsha
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Usuvele ufihliwe ingqondo nomzimba ezinqumweni zonyaka wakho omusha, kepha kuthiwani ngempilo yakho yezocansi? "Izinqumo kulula ukuziphula ngoba ngokuvamile sithembisa ukufeza izinguquko ezingabalulekile ngempela kithi," kusho umeluleki wezemfundo yezocansi ozinze eNew Jersey u-Melanie Davis, Ph.D., Certified Sexuality Educator, umbhali we Bheka Ngaphakathi: Ijenali Yabesifazane. "Abesifazane abaningi banquma ukunciphisa isisindo, kodwa ukube amakhilogremu angeziwe bekuyiyona nkinga yangempela, ngabe asekho manje. Mhlawumbe into esifuna ukuyishintsha ngempela indlela esizizwa ngayo nasemzimbeni wethu." Ukuba nempilo engcono yocansi akusho ukwenza imizamo kuphela ekamelweni lokulala, kepha nokunakekela impilo yakho yezocansi nokuzethemba komzimba. (P.S. Futhi cabangela le mibono yokuzixazulula.)

Bheka okungakusebenzeli empilweni yakho yezocansi, bese uzibophezela ekwenzeni intuthuko eyodwa ngenyanga. "Ukwehlukanisa izibopho ezithile mayelana nezinhloso zakho zocansi kungasiza lezi zinqumo ukuthi zinamathele ekugcineni," kusho uJenn Gunsaullus, Ph.D., isazi sezokuhlalisana kwabantu kanye nomeluleki wobudlelwano eSan Diego. Angazi ukuthi uzoqala kuphi? Bheka lezi zinqumo eziyi-16 zokuthuthukisa igumbi lakho lokulala nokuzethemba komzimba.

1. Cuddle Okuningi

Ukunethezeka nesithandwa sakho kunezinzuzo ezingapheli zezempilo: Kukhulula i-oxytocin-ihomoni yokuzizwa ujabule-enyusa injabulo iyonke, inciphisa ingcindezi, futhi yehlise umfutho wegazi. I-Oxytocin nayo iyi-hormone ebophayo, ngakho-ke ukugonwa kuzokukwenza uzizwe usondelene nendoda yakho. Futhi, kuyindlela yokuxhumana nomlingani wakho: "Ukuxhumana okungakhulumi ngamazwi kungaba yindlela enamandla kakhulu yokuthi kumlingani wakho, 'Ngiyakuthola,'" kusho uDavid Klow, owelapha umshado nomndeni eChicago. “Ukugona kuyindlela yokuthi, ‘Ngiyazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani.’ Kusivumela ukuthi sizizwe saziwa ngumlingani wethu ngezindlela amagama angakwazi ukuzidlulisa. "

2. Thatha Ikilasi Locansi

"Ukuthatha isigaba sobulili, njenge-tantric puja noma inkambo yokubopha izintambo, kungakufundisa amasu amasha wezocansi nawokwenza izinkanuko zokuya ekhaya," kusho uGunsaullus. Uma ungakulungele ukubhalisela izihloko ezinjenge- "The Art of the Blowjob," thatha imfundo yakho ezandleni zakho: "Ukuthatha incwadi, idokhumentari, noma ividiyo yokufundisa ngocansi kungakufundisa amaqhinga amasha, futhi, "kusho uCarol Queen, Ph.D., isazi sezocansi kwabasebenzi eGood Vibrations, umbuso ophethwe ngabesifazane futhi osebenza ngamathoyizi ocansi. Uzoqala kuphi? Bheka Izifundo ezi-5 Ozifunde Esigabeni Sezocansi.

3. Thenga Izingubo Zangaphansi Ezintsha Okwakho Ubumnandi

"Isinqumo esihle sikaNcibijane siwukuzizwa uqiniseka ngokwengeziwe, ngakho-ke zama ukugqoka okuthile okukhangayo ukuze uzijabulele," kusho uDavis. "Uma umlingani naye ekujabulela, lokho ku-icing ekhekheni." (Phequlula okwakamuva ngezingubo zangaphansi.)

4. Hlala Umbhede Isikhathi Eside

Noma kungukushesha, zimisele ukungagijimi ngemuva: Izithandani ezichitha isikhathi esiningi zithandana ngemuva kocansi zizizwa zanelisekile ngempilo yazo yezocansi, ngokusho kocwaningo Izinqolobane Zokuziphatha Ngokobulili. "Sigxila kakhulu kuma-orgasms, okubizwa ngokuthi 'umgomo' wezocansi, kangangokuba sivame ukungazinaki izenzo eziseduze ezakha ubulili," kusho u-Amy Muise, Ph.D. EToronto. Nquma ukulandela itayitela okungenani imizuzu embalwa yokuphulula, ukuqabula, nokuganga ngo-2015.

5. Pump Pump Your Yoga Practice

Yebo, ukubeka imilenze yakho ngemuva kwekhanda lakho nokusonta kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezikhundla nakanjani kuzononga izinto, kodwa ngisho nokuguquguquka okucashile okuthola nge-yoga kungakusiza ukuba uye ocansini ezindaweni ezintsha-futhi ukwenze ngokunethezeka. Futhi, ama-yogi anephansi eliqinile le-pelvic futhi, ngenkathi ingezwakali ihehe, ukulawula ukumnika ukuminyanisa kancane kungandisa ukuzwa kwenu nobabili. I-Yoga ikusiza ukuthi ucindezeleke futhi ugxile, nakho-kokubili okungaholela ezikhathini ezingcono phakathi kwamashidi. Udinga ukukholisa okwengeziwe? Bheka Kungani Ama-Yogis Engcono Embhedeni.

6. Hlolelwa

“Kubalulekile ukwazi isimo sakho ngezifo ezithathelana ngokocansi esikhundleni sokulinda kuvele izimpawu ngoba ezinye izifo ezithathelana ngokocansi azibonakali kodwa zingadala imiphumela ehlala isikhathi eside,” kusho uDavis. Xazulula ukuze uzivikele wena nanoma yibaphi ozakwethu ongahle ube nabo. Ukuze kwenzeke lokhu, xoxa ngezenzo zakho zocansi ngokwethembeka nomhlinzeki wakho wezokunakekelwa kwempilo ukuze uxoxe ngokuthi kufanele uhlolwe kangaki nokuthi yini okufanele uyihlolele, usho kanjalo. (Qiniseka ukuthi uhlanganisa lezi zingxoxo ezingu-7 Okufanele Ube Nazo Ukuze Uphile Ucansi Olunempilo futhi.)

7. Zama Ngomuntu Ohlukile Embhedeni

`` Kwesinye isikhathi siyabambeka siba sodwa egumbini lokulala futhi singazi ukuthi kufanele siphume kanjani, '' kusho uGunsaullus. Khetha isici sobuntu esihlukile kunendlela ovame ukulala ngayo, bese uzinika imvume yokuzama: Ufuna ukuba nolaka? Ukuzithoba? Ovelele? Ukudlala? Silly? "Ukukhetha isici sobuntu obusha nokucabanga ukuthi ungakufaka kanjani lokho egumbini lokulala kungaletha impilo entsha emisebenzini obukade uyenza isikhathi eside. Iyini i-blowjob esesabekayo, uma iqhathaniswa nethenda?" Uyanezela.

8. Thuthukisa iLube Yakho

Kwesinye isikhathi kube yizinguquko ezincane ezenza umehluko omkhulu: I-lube entsha ingangeza nje ubukhulu obusha emdlalweni wezocansi ngoba kuyisimo esihlukile, kuchaza uGunsaullus. Ungakwazi futhi ukudlala ngama-lubes ane-flavored noma amafutha kakhukhunathi (ungawasebenzisi nje namakhondomu ngoba angenza i-latex ibe buthaka) ukwenza ucansi lomlomo lube mnandi. (Funda ukuthi kungani kufanele ucabangele i-lube yemvelo noma ye-organic.)

9. Ukushaya indlwabu ngaphezulu

Uma ungakwenzi kakade (noma ungakwenzi ngokwanele!), nquma ukushaya indlwabu kulo nyaka. "Abekho abantu ababili abafana ncamashi ngokwalokho abakuthandayo kwezocansi nokuthi baphendula kanjani. Uyazi ukuthi yini encwadini yakho yokusebenza?" UQueen uyakhomba. Thola ukuthi yini ekulethela ku-orgasm ngesikhathi seseshini uwedwa. "Kuyindlela enhle yokufunda lokho okujabulelayo, ukuphumula, ukulala, ukuvula imisipha yethanga," kwengeza uDavis. Uma unomlingani, zama ukuzithokozisa njengendlela yokwakha inkanuko ngesikhathi sokudlala, uyanezela. (Bheka lezi ezinye i-7 Kinky Upgrades for Your Sex Life.)

10. Zama Ukungashadi

"Uma ungashadile futhi uzizwa sengathi udidekile ngokuthandana manje, zibophezele ezinyangeni ezintathu zokungaqomi," kusho uGunsaullus. Kepha sisebenzise kahle leso sikhathi: Hlela isikhathi nabangane, buyela kokuzilibazisa okuvumele ukuthi kushibilike, noma zama ezinye izinto ezikukhulisayo. Ngemva kwezinyanga ezintathu, uzozizwa uqinile futhi ulungele ukuphola ngombono omusha, uyanezela.

11. Thatha Ikilasi Lomdanso

Ukudansa kukunikeza umusa womzimba ongcono futhi kukufundisa ukuhambisa umzimba wakho ngendlela evusa inkanuko, kusho uGunsaullus. Asisho ukuthi udinga ukwenza ukuhlekisa ngemuva kokuqeda izifundo zakho (ngaphandle uma ufuna!), Kepha noma yiliphi ikilasi lokudansa lizokunika ukuzethemba okukhulu endleleni ohamba ngayo. Noma zama ikilasi lezithandani: Ukufunda umdanso omusha nomlingani wakho, njenge-swing noma i-salsa, kuhle ekusebenzisaneni ngokubambisana-futhi ukuthinta inkanuko kungasebenza njenge-foreplay, kusho uGunsaullus. (Bheka: Kungani Ungafanele Ulahle Amakilasi E-Cardio Womdanso.)

12. Hlela Isikhathi Sokungangeni Izingane

Noma ngubani onezingane uyazi ukuthi isikhathi sangasese siwela eceleni kwendlela. Kepha kubalulekile ukuthi wena nomuntu wakho niphinde nixhumane njengabalingani hhayi nje njengabazali. Zinqumele ukuthola okungenani ihora lesikhathi esifushane isonto ngalinye, u-Davis uyaphakamisa. "Izingane zingadinga ukuya osukwini lokudlala, noma wena nomlingani wakho kungadingeka ukuthi niqashe umuntu ozohlala ukuze nibalekele noma yikuphi, iphuzu ukuthi nibe nesikhathi esingahlukanisiwe nomlingani wakho ukuze nikwazi ukuxhuma kabusha ngokomzwelo."

13. Buyisa i-Foreplay emuva

Bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane bafuna cishe imizuzu engama-20 yokubikezela kwangaphambili-kanti-ke, iningi libika ukuthi umdlalo wabo wangaphambi kokudlala uhlala cishe isigamu salesi sikhathi, kusho ucwaningo Ijenali yocwaningo lwezocansi. Esinye isizathu sokungayeqi: Ukukhohlisa ngaphambi kokwehla kungamsiza ahlale isikhathi eside futhi akuvuse. Indoda evamile ithatha noma yikuphi ukusuka emizuzwini emithathu kuya kweyisikhombisa ukufika kuvuthondaba, kuyilapho owesifazane ojwayelekile edinga noma yikuphi kusuka ku-10 kuye ku-20-lokhu kuxhumana okungabanjwanga kubhekwa njengegebe lokuvuka, kuchaza uLaurence A. Levine, MD, uprofesa eRush University Medical Center.I-Foreplay ingakulungisa: “Abesilisa badinga umzamo owengeziwe futhi abesifazane akufanele bazizwe benamahloni ngokuthi ukukhuthazwa kuyadingeka,” kuchaza u-Levine. Noma ngabe kungukuya ocansini ngomlomo noma ukugqugquzela okwenziwa ngesandla, zama ukugwema ukungena uze usondele kuvuthondaba kusuka ngaphambili.

14. Yabelana Ngamaphupho Akho

Uma ithuba lokuthi imicabango yakhe ilingise ukuphenduka okunamandla kukaChristian Grey yilokho okukuvimbela ekwabelaneni, ungakhathazeki: Imibono eminingi yezocansi ivame kakhulu kunalokho obekucatshangwa ngaphambili, kubika ucwaningo lwakamuva oluvela e-University of Quebec. Ukwabelana ngamaphupho akho kungakulethela ukusondelana, futhi kukwethule enjabulweni entsha. Zama lokhu: Bhala phansi izimo zakho ezinamandla kakhulu bese ucela umlingani wakho ukuthi enze okufanayo, kusho uGunsaullus. Vele uhlole lezi ziphakamiso zendlela yokugcwalisa imicabango yakho yezocansi ngaphandle kokwahlulelwa ngaphambi kokushintsha uhlu.

15. Thenga Obhodisi Abalingana Ngempela

Ingxenye enkulu yokuzizwa u-sexy ukuqiniseka kulokho okugqokile. Ukuhlela ukufaka ubhodisi kuqinisekisa ukuthi amabele akho asekelwa ngendlela efanele, ngisho nakubhodisi abahle, kusho uDavis. Abathengisi oxhumana nabo ngezingubo zangaphansi eziningi noma abasondeza ezitolo bangakujabulela ukukunika okulinganayo, kepha futhi ungaxhumana nomqondisi wethu ku-The Best Bra yohlobo lwakho lwebele.

16. Thinta Izindawo Ezintsha

Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi sinamaphuzu athile okujabulisa akhethekile emizimbeni yethu, kodwa ungase umangale ukwazi ukuthi umfana wakho unezindawo ezithile zokuqalisa lapho-uma ekhuthazwa-ezizomthumela onqenqemeni. Noma ngabe kuyaluma, ukukhotha, noma ukuphulula ngokulambisa, hlola lezi Zindlela Ezi-8 Ezintsha Zokuthinta Umuntu Wakho Ngesikhathi Socansi.

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