Ukuphazamiseka Kokubuka Okubukhali

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• Ziyini izimpawu zokuphazamiseka kothando ngokweqile?
• Yini ebangela ukuthi umuntu ahlakulele ukuphazamiseka kothando ngokweqile?
• Izinkinga zokunamathiselwe
• Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bomngcele
• Umona okhohlisayo
• I-Erotomania
• Isifo se-Obsessive-compulsive (OCD)
• Umona obukekayo
• Kutholakala kanjani ukuphazamiseka kothando obsessive?
• Kuphathwa kanjani ukuphazamiseka kothando obsessive?
• Uyini umbono womuntu onenkinga yothando ngokweqile?

Kuyini ukuphazamiseka kothando ngokweqile?

I- “Obsessive love disorder” (OLD) ibhekisa esimeni lapho ukhathazeka ngokweqile ngomuntu oyedwa ocabanga ukuthi ungathandana naye. Ungase uzizwe unesidingo sokuvikela othandekayo wakho ngokweqile, noma uze ubalawule njengokungathi bayimpahla.

Yize kungekho ukuhlukaniswa okwehlukile kwezokwelapha noma kwengqondo okukhona kwe-OLD, kungavame ukuhambisana nezinye izinhlobo zezifo zempilo yengqondo. Khuluma nodokotela wakho uma ucabanga ukuthi wena noma umuntu omthandayo angaba nalesi sifo. Ukwelashwa kungasiza ekwehliseni izimpawu ngenkathi kuvimbela nezinkinga ebudlelwaneni.

Ziyini izimpawu zokuphazamiseka kothando ngokweqile?

Izimpawu ze-OLD zingafaka:

• ukukhanga okukhulu kumuntu oyedwa
• imicabango eyeqile ngomuntu
• ukuzwa isidingo sokuthi "uvikele" umuntu othandana naye
• imicabango nezenzo ezifanele
• umona owedlulele ngokunye ukuxhumana kwabantu
• ukuzenyeza

Abantu abane-OLD nabo bangakuthatha kalula ukwenqatshwa. Kwezinye izimo, izimpawu zingase zibe zimbi ekupheleni kobuhlobo noma uma omunye umuntu ekulahla. Kunezinye izimpawu zalesi sifo, njenge:

• imibhalo ephindiwe, ama-imeyili, nezingcingo eziya kumuntu onentshisekelo kuye
• isidingo esiqhubekayo sokuqinisekiswa
• ubunzima bokuba nobungane noma ukugcina ukuxhumana namalungu omndeni ngenxa yokuthambekela komuntu oyedwa
• ukuqapha izenzo zomunye umuntu
• ukulawula lapho omunye umuntu eya khona kanye nemisebenzi abayenzayo

Yini ebangela ukuthi umuntu ahlakulele ukuphazamiseka kothando ngokweqile?

Asikho isizathu esisodwa se-OLD. Esikhundleni salokho, ingaxhunyaniswa nezinye izinhlobo zokukhubazeka kwezempilo yengqondo njenge:

Izinkinga zokunamathiselwe

Leli qembu lezinkinga libhekise kubantu abanezinkinga zokunamathisela ngokomzwelo, njengokuntula uzwela noma ukuthanda omunye umuntu.

Izinhlobo zokuphazamiseka kokunamathiselwe zifaka ukungavinjelwa kokuzibandakanya kwezenhlalo (i-DSED) kanye nokuphazamiseka kokunamathisela okusebenzayo (i-RAD), futhi zombili zikhula ngesikhathi sobuntwana kusuka kokuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle nabazali noma abanye abanakekeli abadala.

Ku-DSED, ungahle ube nobungane ngokweqile futhi ungathathi izinyathelo zokuphepha kubantu ongabazi. Nge-RAD, ungazizwa ucindezelekile futhi unenkinga yokuhlangana nabanye.

Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bomngcele

Le nkinga yempilo yengqondo ibonakala ngokuphazamiseka kokuzenzisa okuhambisana nokushintshashintsha kwemizwelo okunzima. Ukungezwani kobuntu bomngcele kungadala ukuthi uthukuthele ngokweqile ukujabula ngokweqile kungakapheli imizuzu noma amahora.

Iziqephu ezikhathazayo nezicindezelayo nazo ziyenzeka. Lapho ucabangela ukukhathazeka kothando ngokweqile, ukuphazamiseka kobuntu kungadala ukushintsha phakathi kothando olwedlulele kumuntu kudelele ngokweqile.

Umona okhohlisayo

Ngokusekelwe ekukhohlisweni (izehlakalo noma amaqiniso okholelwa ukuthi ayiqiniso), lokhu kuphazamiseka kukhonjiswa ngokugcizelela izinto osekuvele kufakazelwe ukuthi zingamanga. Uma kukhulunywa ngothando olweqile, umona ongamanga ungakwenza ukholelwe ukuthi omunye umuntu ubuyisele imizwa yakhe ngawe, noma ngabe ukubeke kwacaca ukuthi lokhu akulona iqiniso ngempela.

Ngokusho kuka, umona wobuqili ungaxhunyaniswa nokuphuza ngokweqile emadodeni.

I-Erotomania

Lokhu kuphazamiseka kungumgwaqo ophakathi kokuphambanisa kothando nokuphambana kothando. Nge-erotomania, ukholelwa ukuthi othile odumile noma onesikhundla esiphakeme senhlalo ukuthandana nawe. Lokhu kungaholela ekuhlukumezeni omunye umuntu, njengokuvela ekhaya noma emsebenzini.

Ngokuya nge-Comprehensive Psychiatry, abantu abane-erotomania bavame ukuhlukaniswa nabangane abambalwa, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi bangasebenzi.

Isifo se-Obsessive-compulsive (OCD)

I-Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) iyinhlanganisela yemicabango engalawuleki nemikhuba ephoqayo. Lezi zinzima ngokwanele ukuthi zingaphazamisa impilo yakho yansuku zonke. I-OCD nayo ingakwenza ukuthi udinge ukuqinisekiswa njalo, okungathinta ubudlelwane bakho.

Abanye abantu kuthiwa banobudlelwano be-OCD, lapho ukukhathazeka nokuphoqeleka kugxile ebudlelwaneni. Kodwa-ke, lokhu akuyona i-subtype eyaziwayo esemthethweni ye-OCD.

Umona obukekayo

Ngokungafani nomona wenkohliso, umona ongalawuleki ukukhathazeka ngokungacabangi kokungathembeki komlingani. Lokhu kukhathazeka kungaholela ekuziphatheni okuphindaphindayo nokucindezelayo ekuphenduleni ukukhathazeka kokungathembeki. Lezi zindlela zokuziphatha zifana ne-OCD kakhulu kunomhawu wokukhohlisa. Lokhu kungadala ukucindezeleka okukhulu noma kuphazamise ukusebenza kwansuku zonke.

Kutholakala kanjani ukuphazamiseka kothando obsessive?

U-OLD utholakala enokuhlolwa okuphelele kudokotela wezifo zengqondo noma omunye uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo. Okokuqala, bazokuxoxisana ngokukubuza imibuzo mayelana nezimpawu zakho, kanye nobudlelwano bakho. Bazokubuza futhi ngomndeni wakho nokuthi ngabe zikhona yini izifo ezaziwayo zempilo yengqondo ezikhona.

Ukuxilongwa kwezokwelapha okuvela kudokotela wakho oyinhloko kungadingeka futhi ukukhipha ezinye izimbangela. Njengoba ukuphazamiseka kothando okweqile kuhlangana nezinye izinhlobo zokukhubazeka kwezempilo yengqondo, akuhlukanisiwe kwi-American Psychological Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM).

Ngezizathu ezingaziwa, OLD abesifazane abaningi kunabesilisa.

Kuphathwa kanjani ukuphazamiseka kothando obsessive?

Uhlelo oluqondile lokwelashwa lwalesi sifo luxhomeke embangela eyimbangela. Kodwa-ke, kuvame ukufaka inhlanganisela yemithi nokwelashwa kwengqondo.

Imithi ingasetshenziswa ukulungisa amakhemikhali obuchopho. Futhi, lokhu kunganciphisa izimpawu zesifo. Udokotela wakho angancoma okunye kokulandelayo:

• imishanguzo yokulwa nokukhathazeka, njengeValium neXanax
• imishanguzo, njengeProzac, Paxil, noma iZoloft
• ama-antipsychotic
• okusimamisa imizwa

Kungathatha amasonto ambalwa ukuthi umuthi wakho usebenze. Kungase kudingeke nokuthi uzame izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene uze uthole leyo esebenza kangcono kuwe. Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngemiphumela emibi engaba khona, njenge:

• izinguquko zokudla
• umlomo owomile
• ukukhathala
• ikhanda
• ukuqwasha
• ukulahleka kwe-libido
• isicanucanu
• ukuzuza kwesisindo
• izimpawu eziya ziba zimbi

Ukwelashwa kuyasiza futhi kuzo zonke izinhlobo ze-OLD. Kwesinye isikhathi kuyasiza emindenini ukuthi ibandakanyeke ngezikhathi zokwelashwa, ikakhulukazi uma ukuphazamiseka kothando okubangwa kakhulu kusuka ezindabeni ngesikhathi sobuntwana. Ngokuya ngobukhulu besifo kanye nezinto ozithandayo, ungahle uhlanganyele ekwelashweni komuntu ngamunye noma kweqembu. Kwesinye isikhathi uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo uzoncoma zombili izinhlobo.

Izinketho zokwelashwa zifaka:

• ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo
• ukwelashwa kokuziphatha okuhambisanayo
• play therapy (ezinganeni)
• ukwelashwa kokukhuluma

Uyini umbono womuntu onenkinga yothando ngokweqile?

Ngenkathi i-OLD ithola ukunakekelwa okwengeziwe, akuvamile. Kulinganiselwa ukuthi bangaphansi kwabantu abanenkinga.

Uma wena noma umuntu omthandayo enezimpawu zokuphazamiseka kothando olwedlulele, kufanele ubonane nodokotela. Bangakudlulisela kudokotela wezifo zengqondo ukuze basize ekunqumeni ukuthi ngabe une-OLD ngempela yini. Ungaba futhi nesinye isifo sempilo yengqondo.

Lapho kutholakala futhi kwelashwa, i-OLD ingaba nomphumela omuhle. Ukhiye, noma kunjalo, ukungayeki ukwelashwa noma ukwelashwa uma ucabanga ukuthi uzizwa ungcono. Ukumisa ngokungazelelwe ukwelashwa kwakho kungaqinisa izimpawu, noma kubenze babuye.