Ama-Hacks Wokukhulisa Umama nge-MS

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• 1. Musa ukujuluka izinto ezincane
• 2. Musa ukuluma ngaphezu kwalokho ongakuhlafuna
• 3. Khuthaza izingane zakho ukuthi zizimele
• 4. Phazamisa, phazamisa, phazamisa
• 5. Qiniseka ukuthi uthola imemo
• 6. Sebenzisa izikhathi ukufundisa
• 7. Thola izizathu zokuhleka nokumamatheka
• 8. Hlela futhi uxhumane
• 9. Khuluma ngokukhululekile futhi uthembeke ezinganeni zakho
• 10. Vumelana nezimo
• 11. Vuma “ukwehluleka” kwakho, uhleke ngabo, uqhubeke
• 12. Yiba yisibonelo osifunela izingane zakho

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Izingane zami azisezona izingane, azisekho izingane, azisathembele ngokuphelele kimi. Kodwa ngisengumama wabo, futhi basathembele kimi kokuningi. Zisadinga isikhathi, amandla, kanye nomcabango - konke lokhu kungakhawulwa lapho usebenza ne-MS.

Lezi ngezinye ze "hacks" zobuzali engizisebenzisayo ukudlula usuku lonke futhi ngiqhubeke nokuba ngumama ngendlela ecasulayo (ngokusho kwabo) ebengihlala ngikhona.

1. Musa ukujuluka izinto ezincane

Lokhu akuyona into elula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuphatha nezingane eziseduze, kepha ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kungababulali abaqondile kimi. Lapho ngivumela ukuthi ngisebenze, anginakusuka lapho ngibe nosuku olukhulu (ngingekho ubuhlungu bomlenze nokukhathala) ngibe nobuhlungu obukhukhumezayo nemilenze ebuthakathaka.

Bengihlala ngichitha isikhathi esiningi namandla ezintweni ezinjengokuthi izingane zami zigqokeni futhi ngizihlanze ngobubi bazo, kepha ngasheshe ngafunda ukuthi lawa amandla angadingekile. Uma ingane yami eneminyaka eyishumi ifuna ukuyimemezela "Usuku lwePajama," ngingubani mina ukuthi cha? Akukhathalekile kangako ukuthi iwashingi ehlanzekile isalokhu ivuliwe kubhasikidi futhi ayibeki kahle kumadilowa. Kusahlanzekile. Futhi izitsha ezingcolile zisazoba khona ekuseni, futhi lokho kulungile.

2. Musa ukuluma ngaphezu kwalokho ongakuhlafuna

Ngifuna ukukholelwa ukuthi ngingakwenza konke futhi ngihlale phezu kwezinto. Kuvela ukuthi leyo yinkunzi ephelele futhi ephelele. Angikwazi ukukufeza ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi ngiyangcwatshwa, ngigxishwe, futhi ngiqine.

Angiyena umama ongcono ngoba ngibhalisela ukuhambela izisebenzi zempelethi, ngisebenza umbukiso wezincwadi, noma ngisingathe ipikinikini yokubuyela esikoleni. Lezo yizinto ezingenza ngibukeke njengomama omuhle ngaphandle, kodwa akuzona izingane zami ezibukayo. Futhi izingane zami yizo ezibalulekile. Ngifundile ukuthi nje "cha" futhi ngingazizwa ngibophezelekile ukuthatha okuningi engikwazi ukukwenza.

3. Khuthaza izingane zakho ukuthi zizimele

Ukucela noma yiluphi uhlobo losizo bekulokhu kuyinselele kimi. Kepha ngabona masinyane ukuthi ukuzibandakanya nezingane zami “kwimodi yokusiza” kwakuwukuwina / ukunqoba. Kungikhulule kweminye yemisebenzi yami futhi kubenze bazizwa bekhulile futhi behilelekile. Ukwenza izinto ngoba zikhethwe njengemisebenzi yento eyodwa. Ukufunda ukwenza izinto ngaphandle kokucelwa, noma ukumane nje ube wusizo, yisifundo esikhulu sempilo i-MS esiqokomise izingane zami.

4. Phazamisa, phazamisa, phazamisa

Umama wayevame ukungibiza ngokuthi “iNdlovukazi Yokuphazamiseka.” Manje iza kahle. Thola iziphazamiso (zombili wena nezingane). Noma ngabe kumane nje kuveza esinye isihloko noma kukhishwa ithoyizi noma umdlalo, ukuqondisa kabusha izikhathi ezihamba kabi kungisiza ukugcina impilo isemgqeni futhi sonke sijabule.

Ubuchwepheshe buveze amathani wokuphazamiseka. Ngaqala ukufuna izinhlelo zokusebenza nemidlalo ebekela inselelo ubuchopho futhi ngiyidlala nezingane. Nginemidlalo eminingana yokupela isipele ocingweni lwami futhi ngivame ukudonsa izingane (noma omunye umuntu osendaweni engamayadi angama-500) ukungisiza. Kusivumela ukuthi sigxile kokunye (futhi ngokusobala siba nobuchule ngasikhathi sinye). Umqeqeshi we-Fit Brains, Lumosity, 7 Little Words, noJumbline ngezinye zezintandokazi zethu.

5. Qiniseka ukuthi uthola imemo

Phakathi kwenkungu yobuchopho, ubudala obuphakathi, nemisebenzi kamama, nginenhlanhla yokukhumbula noma yini. Noma ngabe isayinela indodakazi yami ama-SAT, noma ikhumbula isikhathi sokulanda noma uhlu lwegilosa, uma ngingayibhali phansi akunakwenzeka ukuthi kwenzeke.

Thola uhlelo lokusebenza oluhle lokuthatha amanothi bese ulusebenzisa ngokwenkolo. Njengamanje, ngisebenzisa iSimplenote futhi ngiyibekele ukusetha ukuthumela i-imeyili njalo lapho ngifaka inothi, enikeza isikhumbuzi esidingekayo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lapho ngisekhompyutheni yami.

6. Sebenzisa izikhathi ukufundisa

Uma othile ekhuluma ngesineke ngeSegway yami noma ithegi yami yokupaka ukukhubazeka, ngisebenzisa leso sikhathi ukwenza izingane zami zibe ngabantu abangcono. Sikhuluma ngokuthi kunjani ukwahlulelwa abanye abantu, nokuthi kufanele bazame kanjani ukuzwelana nabantu ababhekene nokukhubazeka. I-MS yenze ukubafundisa ukuphatha abanye ngenhlonipho nangomusa kube lula kakhulu, ngoba kunikeza "izikhathi ezifundekayo" eziqhubekayo.

7. Thola izizathu zokuhleka nokumamatheka

I-MS ingangenisa izinto ezithile ezinhle empilweni yakho, futhi kungaba yinto esabekayo ukuba nomzali ogulayo. Ngihlale ngihamba nge-MS "yokusinda" ngokusebenzisa amahlaya, futhi izingane zami ziyamukele nefilosofi leyo.

Noma nini lapho kwenzeka okuthile, kungaba ukuwa, ngichamela ibhulukwe lami esidlangalaleni, noma ukuqhuma okubi, sonke siyabhuduzela ukuthola okuhlekisayo kulesi simo. Eminyakeni eyi-10 eyedlule, ngihlangabezane nezikhathi ebengingazilindele, ezingezinhle, nezinamahloni kunalokho ebengikucabanga, futhi izinkumbulo zomndeni wethu zihlanganisa wonke amahlaya amakhulu aqhamuke kuwo. Ngisho nokuwa okubi kuzoholela endabeni enhle, futhi ekugcineni kube nokuhleka okuthile.

8. Hlela futhi uxhumane

Ukwazi okulindelekile nokuthi yini okuzayo kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kithina sonke.Lapho sifika endlini yabazali bami eholidini lethu lasehlobo, izingane zihlala zinesigidi nento eyodwa ezifuna ukuzenza. Angiqiniseki nakancane ukuthi singafika kubo bonke uma ngingenayo i-MS! Ukukhuluma ngakho nokwenza uhlu lwalokho esizokwazi nokukwenza ngeke kunikeze wonke umuntu okulindelekile. Ukwenza uhlu kube enye yezinto esizenzayo ukulungiselela nokulindela uhambo olulindile. Ivumela izingane zami ukwazi ukuthi zenzani emini, futhi ingivumela ukuthi ngazi kahle ukuthi yini okudingeka ngiyenze ukuze ngiqhubeke nosuku.

9. Khuluma ngokukhululekile futhi uthembeke ezinganeni zakho

Kusukela ekuqaleni, bengivulelekile ezinganeni zami mayelana ne-MS nayo yonke imiphumela emibi eza nayo. Ngibona ukuthi ngabe ngike ngabhekana nengcongolo yabo kanye nodoti wabo iminyaka, okungenani bezwe ngezami kancane!

Yize kungukuthambekela kukamama ukungafuni ukuthwalisa izingane zakho (futhi ngiyakuzonda ukuphuma njengomuntu ocwazimulayo noma obuthakathaka), ngifundile ukuthi akulimazi kakhulu kunokuzama ukuzama ukufihla usuku olubi noma ukuqhuma ezinganeni zami. Babona sengathi ngiqamba amanga kubo, kucace bha futhi kulula, futhi ngincamela ukwaziwa njengomuntu okhalayo kunamanga.

10. Vumelana nezimo

I-MS ingayichaza kabusha impilo yakho ngokuphazima kweso… bese inquma ukuphambanisa nawe iphinde ichaze kabusha kusasa. Ukufunda ukugoqa ngezibhakela nokuzivumelanisa nazo zombili amakhono adingekayo ukuze ube nawo lapho uhlala ne-MS, kodwa futhi ngamakhono amakhulu empilo izingane zami ezizowathuthukisa empilweni.

11. Vuma “ukwehluleka” kwakho, uhleke ngabo, uqhubeke

Akekho ophelele - sonke sinezinkinga. Futhi uma uthi awunankinga, khona-ke yilokho inkinga yakho. I-MS yaletha “izingqinamba” zami eziningi phambili. Ukukhombisa izingane zami ukuthi NGIPHILILE nabo, ukuthi ngingazamukela nokwehluleka kwami ​​ngokuhleka nokumamatheka, kuwumyalezo oqinile kubo.

12. Yiba yisibonelo osifunela izingane zakho

Akekho okhetha ukuthola i-MS. Kwakungekho "ukuhlola ibhokisi elingalungile" esicelweni sempilo. Kepha nakanjani ngiyakhetha ukuthi ngiyiphile kanjani impilo yami nokuthi ngihamba kanjani ngeqhubu ngalinye emgwaqeni ngicabanga izingane zami.

Ngifuna ukubakhombisa ukuthi bangaya kanjani phambili, ukuthi bangabi kanjani yizisulu, nokuthi bangasamukeli kanjani isimo se-quo uma befuna okwengeziwe.

UMeg Lewellyn ungumama wezingane ezintathu. Watholwa ene-MS ngo-2007. Ungafunda kabanzi ngendaba yakhe kubhulogi lakhe, BBHwithMS, noma uxhumane naye ku-Facebook.