Amathiphu wokuba ngumzali we-ADHD: Do's and Don’ts

-Delile

• Izimiso zokwelashwa kokulawulwa kokuziphatha
• Nquma ngaphambi kwesikhathi ukuthi iziphi izindlela zokuziphatha ezamukelekayo nezingamukeleki
• Chaza imithetho, kepha vumela ukuguquguquka okuthile
• Phatha ulaka
• Okunye "okwenzayo" kokubhekana ne-ADHD
• Dala isakhiwo
• Hlukanisa imisebenzi ibe yizicucu ezilawulekayo
• Yenza lula futhi uhlele impilo yengane yakho
• Nciphisa iziphazamiso
• Khuthaza ukuzivocavoca umzimba
• Lawula amaphethini wokulala
• Khuthaza ukucabanga okukhulu
• Phromotha isikhathi sokulinda
• Kholelwa enganeni yakho
• Thola ukwelulekwa okuhlukile
• Thatha ikhefu
• Zolile
• "Okungafanele kwenziwe" ngokubhekana nengane ye-ADHD
• Musa ukujuluka izinto ezincane
• Ungakhungatheki futhi uqhume
• Ungabi negative
• Ungavumeli ingane yakho noma ukuphazamiseka kulawule

Amathiphu wokuba ngumzali we-ADHD

Ukukhulisa ingane ene-ADHD akufani nokukhulisa izingane ngokwesiko. Imithetho ejwayelekile yokwenziwa kwemithetho nemikhuba yasendlini kungacishe kungenzeki, kuya ngohlobo nobukhali bezimpawu zengane yakho, ngakho-ke kuzodingeka usebenzise izindlela ezahlukahlukene. Kungakhathaza ukubhekana nokunye kokuziphatha okuvela ku-ADHD yengane yakho, kepha kunezindlela zokwenza impilo ibe lula.

Abazali kumele balamukele iqiniso lokuthi izingane ezine-ADHD zinobuchopho obusebenzayo obuhlukile kobezinye izingane. Ngenkathi izingane ezine-ADHD zisengafunda ukuthi yini eyamukelekayo nokuthi yini engamukeleki, ukungezwani kwazo kubenza bathambekele kakhulu ekuziphatheni okungathatheki.

Ukukhuthaza ukukhula kwengane ene-ADHD kusho ukuthi kuzofanela ushintshe indlela oziphatha ngayo futhi ufunde ukuphatha indlela yokuziphatha kwengane yakho. Imithi ingaba yisinyathelo sokuqala ekwelashweni kwengane yakho. Izindlela zokuziphatha zokuphatha izimpawu ze-ADHD yengane kumele zihlale zikhona. Ngokulandela le mihlahlandlela, ungakhawulela ukuziphatha okulimazayo futhi usize ingane yakho ukuthi inqobe ukungazithembi.

Izimiso zokwelashwa kokulawulwa kokuziphatha

Kunemigomo emibili eyisisekelo yokwelashwa kokuphathwa kokuziphatha. Esokuqala siyakhuthaza futhi siyavuza ukwenza okuhle (ukuqiniswa okuhle). Okwesibili ukususa imivuzo ngokulandela isimilo esibi nemiphumela efanele, okuholela ekucinyweni kokuziphatha okungalungile (isijeziso, ngokwemigomo yokuziphatha). Ufundisa ingane yakho ukuthi iqonde ukuthi izenzo zinemiphumela ngokusungula imithetho nemiphumela ecacile yokulandela noma ukungalaleli le mithetho. Le migomo kumele ilandelwe kuyo yonke imikhakha yempilo yengane. Lokho kusho ukuthi ekhaya, ekilasini, nasenkundleni yomphakathi.

Nquma ngaphambi kwesikhathi ukuthi iziphi izindlela zokuziphatha ezamukelekayo nezingamukeleki

Inhloso yokuguqulwa kokuziphatha ukusiza ingane yakho ukuthi ibheke imiphumela yesenzo futhi ilawule umfutho wokwenza lokho. Lokhu kudinga ukuzwelana, ukubekezela, uthando, amandla, namandla engxenyeni yomzali. Abazali kumele baqale banqume ukuthi iziphi izindlela zokuziphatha abazobekezelela nabangeke bazibekezelele. Kubalulekile ukunamathela kule mihlahlandlela. Ukujezisa isimilo ngelinye ilanga nokukuvumela ngokulandelayo kuyingozi ekuthuthukisweni kwengane. Ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi zingamukeleki, njengokugqashuka komzimba, ukwenqaba ukuvuka ekuseni, noma ukungafuni ukucisha ithelevishini lapho utshelwa ukuthi wenze njalo.

Ingane yakho ingaba nobunzima bokufunda nokusebenzisa imihlahlandlela yakho. Imithetho kufanele ibe lula futhi icace, futhi izingane kufanele ziklonyeliswe ngokuzilandela. Lokhu kungafezwa ngokusebenzisa uhlelo lwamaphoyinti. Isibonelo, vumela ingane yakho ukuthi inqwabelanise amaphuzu ngokuziphatha okuhle okungahle kutholakale ngokusebenzisa imali, isikhathi phambi kwe-TV, noma umdlalo wevidiyo omusha. Uma unohlu lwemithetho yasendlini, ibhale phansi bese uyibeka lapho kulula ukuyibona khona. Ukuphindaphinda nokuqinisa okuhle kungasiza ingane yakho ukuthi iqonde kangcono imithetho yakho.

Chaza imithetho, kepha vumela ukuguquguquka okuthile

Kubalulekile ukuklomelisa ngokungaguquki isimilo esihle futhi udikibalise okulimazayo, kepha akufanele ube ngqongqo kakhulu enganeni yakho. Khumbula ukuthi izingane ezine-ADHD kungenzeka zingazivumelanisi nezinguquko nezinye. Kufanele ufunde ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuthi yenze amaphutha njengoba ifunda. Ukuziphatha okungajwayelekile okungalimazi ingane yakho noma omunye umuntu kufanele kwamukelwe njengengxenye yobuntu bomuntu ngamunye bengane yakho. Ekugcineni kuyingozi ukudikibalisa imikhuba emibi yengane ngoba nje ucabanga ukuthi ayijwayelekile.

Phatha ulaka

Ukuqhuma okunamandla okuvela ezinganeni ezine-ADHD kungaba yinkinga evamile. I- “time-out” kuyindlela ephumelelayo yokuzola wena nengane yakho eyeqile. Uma ingane yakho idlala esidlangalaleni, kufanele isuswe ngokushesha ngendlela ezolile nenquma. “Isikhathi sokuphuma” kufanele sichazelwe ingane njengesikhathi sokuphumula futhi sicabange ngokuziphatha okungafanele okukhombisile. Zama ukungazinaki izindlela zokuziphatha eziphazamisa kancane njengendlela yokuthi ingane yakho ikhulule amandla ayo e-pent-up. Kodwa-ke, ukuziphatha okulimazayo, okuhlukumezayo, noma okuphazamisa ngamabomu okungqubuzana nemithetho oyimiselayo kufanele kujeziswe ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Okunye "okwenzayo" kokubhekana ne-ADHD

Dala isakhiwo

Yenza isimiso somntanakho bese unamathela kuso nsuku zonke. Sungula amasiko ngesikhathi sokudla, umsebenzi wesikole, isikhathi sokudlala nesikhathi sokulala. Imisebenzi elula yansuku zonke, njengokuthi ingane yakho ibeke izingubo zayo ngosuku olulandelayo, ingahlinzeka ngesakhiwo esibalulekile.

Hlukanisa imisebenzi ibe yizicucu ezilawulekayo

Zama ukusebenzisa ikhalenda elikhulu lodonga ukusiza ukukhumbuza ingane ngemisebenzi yabo. Imisebenzi yokufaka amakhodi ngemibala nomsebenzi wesikole ungagcina ingane yakho ingakhungatheki ngemisebenzi yansuku zonke nezabelo zesikole. Ngisho nemikhuba yasekuseni kufanele yehlukaniswe nemisebenzi ehlukile.

Yenza lula futhi uhlele impilo yengane yakho

Dala isikhala esikhethekile, esinokuthula ukuze ingane yakho ifunde, yenze umsebenzi wesikole, futhi ithathe ikhefu ezinxushunxushweni zokuphila kwansuku zonke. Gcina ikhaya lakho lihlelekile futhi lihlelekile ukuze ingane yakho yazi lapho konke kuhamba khona. Lokhu kusiza ukunciphisa iziphazamiso ezingadingekile.

Nciphisa iziphazamiso

Izingane ezine-ADHD zamukela iziphazamiso ezifinyeleleka kalula. Ithelevishini, imidlalo yevidiyo, kanye nekhompiyutha kukhuthaza ukuziphatha ngokuxhamazela futhi kufanele kulawulwe. Ngokuncipha kwesikhathi nge-elekthronikhi nesikhathi esandayo sokwenza imisebenzi yokuzibandakanya ngaphandle kwekhaya, ingane yakho izoba nesikhala samandla akhelwe.

Khuthaza ukuzivocavoca umzimba

Ukuvivinya umzimba kushisa amandla amaningi ngezindlela ezinempilo. Kuyasiza nokuthi ingane igxile ekunyakazeni okuthile. Lokhu kunganciphisa ukungacabangi. Ukuvivinya umzimba kungasiza futhi ekuthuthukiseni ukugxila, kunciphise ubungozi bokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka, futhi kuvuselele ubuchopho ngezindlela ezinempilo. Abasubathi abaningi abangochwepheshe bane-ADHD. Ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi ukusubatha kungasiza ingane ene-ADHD ukuthola indlela eyakhayo yokugxilisa uthando lwayo, ukunaka namandla ayo.

Lawula amaphethini wokulala

Isikhathi sokulala singaba nzima kakhulu ezinganeni ezine-ADHD. Ukuntuleka kokulala kubhebhethekisa ukunganaki, ukukhathazeka ngokweqile, nokunganaki. Ukusiza ingane yakho ukuba ilale kangcono kubalulekile. Ukuze ubasize baphumule kangcono, beqeda izikhuthazi ezifana noshukela ne-caffeine, nokwehlisa isikhathi sethelevishini. Sungula isiko elinempilo, elizolisayo ngesikhathi sokulala.

Khuthaza ukucabanga okukhulu

Izingane ezine-ADHD azikwazi ukuzithiba. Lokhu kubenza bakhulume futhi benze ngaphambi kokucabanga. Cela ingane yakho ukuthi ikhulume imicabango kanye nokucabanga kwayo lapho kuvela isifiso sokulingisa. Kubalulekile ukuqonda inqubo yokucabanga yengane yakho ukuze uyisize inqande imikhuba yokujaha.

Phromotha isikhathi sokulinda

Enye indlela yokulawula isifiso sokukhuluma ngaphambi kokucabanga ukufundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ime kancane ngaphambi kokukhuluma noma ukuphendula. Khuthaza izimpendulo ezicatshangelwe kahle ngokusiza ingane yakho ngezabelo zomsebenzi wesikole nangokubuza imibuzo ephathelene nohlelo oluthandayo lwethelevishini noma incwadi.

Kholelwa enganeni yakho

Ingane yakho kungenzeka ayiyiboni ingcindezi engabangelwa yisimo sayo. Kubalulekile ukuhlala unethemba futhi ukhuthaza. Ncoma ukuziphatha kahle kwengane yakho ukuze zazi lapho okuthile kwenziwe kahle. Ingane yakho ingahle ilwe ne-ADHD manje, kodwa ngeke ihlale unomphela. Yiba nokuzethemba enganeni yakho futhi ube nethemba ngekusasa layo.

Thola ukwelulekwa okuhlukile

Awukwazi ukukwenza konke. Ingane yakho idinga isikhuthazo sakho, kodwa futhi idinga usizo lochwepheshe. Thola i-Therapist ezosebenza nengane yakho bese uyinikeza enye indawo. Ungesabi ukufuna usizo uma uludinga. Abazali abaningi bagxile ezinganeni zabo kangangokuthi abazinaki izidingo zabo zengqondo. Umelaphi angasiza ukuphatha ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kwakho kanye nokwengane yakho. Amaqembu osizo wendawo nawo angaba yindawo yokusiza yabazali.

Thatha ikhefu

Awukwazi ukusekela amaphesenti ayi-100 wesikhathi. Kuyinto evamile ukukhungatheka noma ukukhungatheka wena noma ingane yakho. Njengoba ingane yakho izodinga ukuthatha ikhefu ngenkathi ifunda, nawe uzodinga amakhefu akho. Ukuhlela isikhathi sodwa kubalulekile kunoma yimuphi umzali. Cabanga ngokuqasha umuntu ogcina ingane. Izinketho ezinhle zekhefu zifaka:

• ukuhambahamba
• uya ejimini
• ukugeza okuphumuzayo

Zolile

Awukwazi ukusiza ingane engathatheki uma wena uqobo ucasukile. Izingane zilingisa imikhuba eziyibona zizungezile, ngakho-ke uma uhlala uzolile futhi ulawulwa ngesikhathi sokuqhuma, kuzosiza ingane yakho ukuthi nayo yenze okufanayo. Thatha isikhathi sokuphefumula, uphumule, futhi uqoqe imicabango yakho ngaphambi kokuzama ukududuza ingane yakho. Uma uzolile, ingane yakho izoba nomoya opholile.

"Okungafanele kwenziwe" ngokubhekana nengane ye-ADHD

Musa ukujuluka izinto ezincane

Zimisele ukwenza ukuvumelana okuthile nengane yakho. Uma ingane yakho ifeze imisebenzi emibili kwemithathu oyabile, cabanga ngokuzivumelanisa nezimo ngomsebenzi wesithathu, ongaqediwe. Kuyinqubo yokufunda futhi kubalwa nezinyathelo ezincane.

Ungakhungatheki futhi uqhume

Khumbula ukuthi ukuziphatha kwengane yakho kubangelwa ukuphazamiseka. I-ADHD ingahle ingabonakali ngaphandle, kodwa ukukhubazeka futhi kufanele iphathwe kanjalo. Lapho uqala ukuzwa ukuthukuthela noma ukukhungatheka, khumbula ukuthi ingane yakho ayikwazi "ukuphuma kuyo" noma "ukuba nje ejwayelekile."

Ungabi negative

Kuzwakala kulula, kepha thatha izinto ngosuku olulodwa ngesikhathi futhi ukhumbule ukukugcina konke kunombono. Okucindezelayo noma okuyihlazo namuhla kuzonyamalala kusasa.

Ungavumeli ingane yakho noma ukuphazamiseka kulawule

Khumbula ukuthi ungumzali futhi, ekugcineni, ubeka imithetho yokuziphatha okwamukelekayo ekhaya lakho. Yiba nesineke futhi unakekele, kodwa ungazivumeli ukuba uhlukunyezwe noma wesatshiswe yimikhuba yengane yakho.