Ukuzinakekela Ngokunqamuka Kokuya Esikhathini: Abesifazane aba-5 Babelana ngamava abo

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• Kusho ukuthini ukuzinakekela kuwe, futhi kungani kubaluleke kakhulu ngesikhathi sokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini?
• Yiziphi ezinye zezinto ozenzele ukuzinakekela ngesikhathi sokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini?
• Yisiphi iseluleko esisodwa ongasinikeza umuntu okwamanje onqamuka esikhathini ngenxa yokuzinakekela?

Yize kuyiqiniso ukuthi wonke umuntu unqamuka isikhathi sokuya esikhathini kuhlukile, ukwazi ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani ngempumelelo izinguquko zomzimba ezihambisana nalesi sigaba sempilo kunamandla okukhungatheka futhi ahlukanise. Kungenxa yalesi sizathu ukuzinakekela ngalesi sikhathi kubaluleke kakhulu.

Ukuqonda kangcono ukuthi ukuzinakekela kungakusiza kanjani kulolu hambo futhi uthole ukuthi yini okusebenzela abanye, sicele abesifazane abahlanu abanesikhathi sokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini ukuthi babelane ngamathiphu abo. Nakhu obekufanele bakusho.

Impilo nokuphila kahle kuthinta impilo yawo wonke umuntu ngokuhlukile. Sacela abantu abambalwa ukuthi babelane ngezindaba zabo. Lokhu nakho kwabo.

Kusho ukuthini ukuzinakekela kuwe, futhi kungani kubaluleke kakhulu ngesikhathi sokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini?

UJennifer Connolly: Ukuzinakekela kusho ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ngenza isikhathi sokuhlangabezana nezidingo zami zomzimba, ezingokomzwelo nezingokomoya. Imvamisa abantu besifazane bangabanakekeli bezingane zabo noma abashade nabo, kodwa bathola ukuthi banakekela abazali babo asebekhulile ngenkathi bedlula ukuya esikhathini.

Ngesikhathi sokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini, imizimba yethu iyashintsha, futhi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi sikususe okunye kwalokhu kugxila ekuzinakekeleni kithi. Kungasho ngisho nemizuzu eyi-10 ngosuku ukuzindla noma ukubhala ijenali, ukugeza okuhle, noma ukuthatha isikhathi sokuhlangana nentombi.

UKaren Robinson: Kimi, ukuzinakekela kusho ukwethembeka kimi, ukubhekana nezingcindezi empilweni yami, ukudala imikhuba emisha yokuzibuyisela kulowo engangiyiyo ngaphambi kokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini, ukubeka phambili “isikhathi esithile” sami sokuzilibazisa, nokwenza imisebenzi yokuzola njengokuzindla.

Ukuzinakekela ukuba nomqondo oqondile, ukulala kahle, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ukunakekela impilo yami engokwenyama nengqondo, nokudla okunempilo ukuze unikeze umzimba wami ithuba lokubhekana nezinguquko zempilo yangesikhathi sokuphila.

UMaryon Stewart: Abesifazane badonseleka kakhulu ekusizeni wonke umuntu ezimpilweni zabo, imvamisa bengazinaki izidingo zabo. Ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini yisikhathi lapho badinga, kanye, ukugxila ekufundeni ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zabo uma uhambo olubushelelezi ngokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini yilokho abanakho emqondweni.

Ulwazi olwanele ngamathuluzi okuzisiza, osekelwa ucwaningo, lubaluleke njengokusebenza. Ukufunda ukuthi singahlangabezana kanjani nezidingo zethu futhi sizinakekele ebangeni eliphakathi kuyisihluthulelo sokubuyisa inhlalakahle yethu kanye "nokuqinisekisa ikusasa" lempilo yethu.

Yiziphi ezinye zezinto ozenzele ukuzinakekela ngesikhathi sokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini?

UMagnolia Miller: Kimina, ukuzinakekela ngesikhathi sokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini kwakuhlanganisa nezinguquko ekudleni kanye nokwenza konke okusemandleni ami ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ngilala ngokwanele ebusuku. Ngakuqonda nokubaluleka kokuvivinya umzimba ukuze ngisize ekuqedeni ingcindezi yalokho okwakwenzeka emzimbeni wami. Ngazenza zonke lezo zinto ngemihlakulo.

Mhlawumbe, nokho, into ewusizo kakhulu engangizenzela yona ngaphansi kwesibhengezo “sokuzinakekela” kwakuwukuzikhulumela nezidingo zami ngaphandle kokuxolisa. Uma, ngokwesibonelo, ngangidinga isikhathi ngingedwa kude nezingane zami nomyeni wami, angilethanga noma yiliphi icala kimi kuleso sikhathi.

Nami ngazethemba emandleni ami okusho cha uma ngizwa ukuthi isikhathi sami nempilo yami kudala ingcindezi engenasidingo. Ngaqala ukubona ukuthi kwakungafanele ngibonise zonke izicelo zami, futhi angisazibophezanga ukusiza omunye umuntu azizwe ekhululekile ngesinqumo sami.

U-Ellen Dolgen: Inqubo yami yokuzinakekela yansuku zonke ifaka phakathi ukuzivocavoca umzimba (ukuhamba nokuqina ukumelana), ukulandela uhlelo lokudla oluhlanzekile nolunempilo, ukuzindla kabili ngosuku, nokufunda ukuthi cha ngakho angilumi okungaphezu kwalokho engingakuhlafuna. Ngizama nokuchitha isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka nabazukulu bami, futhi isidlo sasemini nezintombi zami siyisidingo!

Ngingumlandeli omkhulu wemithi yokuvimbela, ngakho-ke enye indlela yami yokuzinakekela ihilela ukuvakasha minyaka yonke nengcweti yami yokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini nokugcwalisa ishadi lezimpawu zokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini. Ngiphinde ngihlale nginolwazi lwakamuva ngezinye izivivinyo, ezinjengama-mammograms, i-colonoscopy, i-bone density scan, kanye nezivivinyo zamehlo.

UStewart: Ukunqamuka kwami ​​ukuya esikhathini kwaqala lapho ngineminyaka engama-47, engangingalindele nhlobo. Lapho ngiqala ukuzwa ukushisa, ngakususa njengokuhlobene nengcindezi, njengoba ngangidivosa ngaleso sikhathi. Ekugcineni, bekufanele ngivume ukuthi bekungamahomoni ami lapho kudlalwa.

Ngizenze ngaziphendulela ngokugcina idayari yokudla kanye neyokwengeza kanye nezikolo zezimpawu usuku ngalunye. Ngangivele ngivivinya umzimba, kodwa nganginamandla lapho ngiphumula. Ngenxa yocwaningo oluthile engangilufundile ngokuphumula okuhlelekile ekwehliseni ukukhanya okushisayo, nginqume ukuzama ukuzindla okuqondisiwe ngohlelo lokusebenza lwePzizz. Lokhu kungenze ngazizwa ngivuselelekile futhi ngipholile.

Izithasiselo engizikhethile zibuye zasiza ukulawula ama-surges ashisayo nokwenza umsebenzi wami we-hormone ujwayelekile. Ngikwazile ukulawula izimpawu zami ezinyangeni ezimbalwa.

I-Connolly: Ngesikhathi sokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini, ngathatha ukuzindla nsuku zonke futhi ngaqala ukugxila ekudleni ukudla okuphilayo. Ngaqala ukufaka amafutha okuthambisa emzimbeni wami wonke ngemuva kweshawa ngalinye ukumelana nesikhumba sami esomile. Nganginenkinga yokulala ebusuku, ngakho-ke ngazinika imvume yokulala phansi nencwadi ntambama ukuze ngiphumule futhi ngangivame ukulala kancane.

Anginamahloni futhi okuthi ngikhulume nodokotela wami futhi ngaqala ukuthatha i-antidepressant ukubhekana nokudangala okulethwa wukushintsha kwamahomoni.

Yisiphi iseluleko esisodwa ongasinikeza umuntu okwamanje onqamuka esikhathini ngenxa yokuzinakekela?

I-Connolly: Yiba mnene kuwe, futhi ulalele okudingwa ngumzimba wakho oguqukayo. Uma uzizwa unengcindezi, thola umuntu ozokhuluma naye. Uma ukhathazekile ngokufaka isisindo, phakamisa ukuzivocavoca umzimba kwakho unake amakhalori angeziwe okungenzeka ukuthi udla ungazi. Kodwa qiniseka ukuthi uyabekezela wena nomzimba wakho. O, futhi ulale ngokotini! Lezo zithukuthuku zasebusuku zingaba zasendle!

UMiller: Ngangimtshela okokuqala ukuthi ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini yinto eguqukayo hhayi isigwebo sikadilikajele. Izinguquko zokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini zingaba namandla kakhulu futhi zibonakale zingapheli. Lokhu kungenza kuzwakale sengathi ngeke uphinde uzizwe "ujwayelekile". Kepha uzokwenza.

Eqinisweni, uma kufinyelelwe esikhathini sokuya esikhathini, hhayi kuphela ukuthi [abanye besifazane] bazophinde bazizwe "bejwayelekile", kepha [kwabanye] kukhona umuzwa omangalisayo, ovuselelwe wokuzethemba namandla okuphila. Yize kuyiqiniso ukuthi intsha yethu isemuva kwethu, futhi lokhu kungaba yimbangela yokulila nokulahlekelwa kwabanye besifazane, kuyiqiniso futhi ukuthi ukukhululeka kumjikelezo wokuya esikhathini kanye nabo bonke ubunzima bomzimba obuhambisana nakho kuyajabulisa ngokufanayo.

Kwabesifazane abaningi, iminyaka yabo yokuyeka ukuya esikhathini ingenye yeminyaka yabo ejabulisa kakhulu futhi ekhiqiza kakhulu, futhi ngingakhuthaza abesifazane ukuba bayamukele le minyaka ngentshisekelo nenjongo.

URobinson: Ungayeki ukuzibheka ngesikhathi esiqondile empilweni yakho okudingeka uzinakekele kakhulu.

I-Dolgen: Zenzele uhlu lwemikhuba yokuzinakekela enengqondo futhi engafinyeleleka. Okulandelayo, thola uchwepheshe omuhle wokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini owenza isayensi nezifundo zakamuva. Lochwepheshe ngumlingani wakho webhizinisi lokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi ukhetha ngokuhlakanipha.

Kungenzeka uzizwe umuhle ngesikhathi sokunqamuka, ukuya esikhathini, nokuyeka ukuya esikhathini uma uthola usizo oludingayo nolulufanele!

UJennifer Connolly usiza abesifazane abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-50 ukuthi bazethembe, babe nezitayela futhi bazithembe kakhulu ngebhulogi yakhe, Impilo Enesitayela Esifanele. Isazi sezitayela somuntu siqu kanye nomxhumanisi wezithombe, ukholelwa ngenhliziyo yonke ukuthi abesifazane bangaba bahle futhi bazethembele kuyo yonke iminyaka. Izindaba ezijulile zikaJennifer nokuqonda kwakhe kumenze waba ngumngani othenjiwe ezinkulungwaneni zabesifazane kulo lonke elaseNyakatho Melika nasemhlabeni jikelele. UJennifer ubelokhu efuna umthunzi ophelele wesisekelo kusukela ngo-1973.

U-Ellen Dolgen ungumsunguli nomongameli we Ukunqamuka Kokuya Esikhathini NgoMsombuluko futhi unguthishanhloko weDolgen Ventures. Ungumbhali, i-blogger, isikhulumi, nempilo, impilo, kanye nommeli wokuqwashisa ngokuya esikhathini. KwiDolgen, imfundo yokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini iwumsebenzi. Ugqugquzelwe yisipiliyoni sakhe esalwa nezimpawu zokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini, uDolgen unikele ngeminyaka eyishumi edlule yokuphila kwakhe ekwabelana ngokhiye bombuso wokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini kuwebhusayithi yakhe.

Eminyakeni engama-27 edlule, UMaryon Stewart isize amashumi ezinkulungwane zabesifazane emhlabeni wonke ukubuyisa inhlalakahle yabo futhi banqobe i-PMS nezimpawu zokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini. UStewart ubhale izincwadi zokuzisiza ezithandwayo ezingama-27, wabhala nochungechunge lwamaphepha ezokwelapha, wabhala izinhlu ezijwayelekile zamaphephandaba amaningi nomagazini nsuku zonke, futhi waba nezinhlelo zakhe ze-TV nezomsakazo. Waphinde wathola iMedical Empire Medal ngo-2018 yezinsizakalo zokufundisa ngezidakamizwa kulandela umkhankaso wakhe weminyaka eyisikhombisa owawuse-Angelus Foundation, awusungula ukukhumbula indodakazi yakhe, uHester.

UKaren Robinson uhlala eNyakatho-mpumalanga yeNgilandi futhi ubloga mayelana nokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini kuwebhusayithi yakhe MenopauseOnline, izivakashi amabhulogi kumasayithi ezempilo, abukeza imikhiqizo ehlobene nokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini, futhi kuye kwaxoxwa naye ku-TV. URobinson uzimisele ukuthi akekho umuntu wesifazane okufanele ashiywe yedwa ukubhekana nesimo ngesikhathi sokuya esikhathini, ukuya esikhathini, kanye neminyaka edlule.

UMagnolia Miller ungumbhali wezempilo nezempilo yabesifazane, ummeli, kanye nothisha. Unothando lwezindaba zabesifazane besikhathi sokuphila kwempilo ehlobene nokuguquka kokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini. Uneziqu ze-master zokuxhumana kwezempilo futhi uqinisekisiwe ekumeleleni abathengi kwezempilo. UMagnolia ubhale futhi washicilela okuqukethwe ku-inthanethi kumasayithi amaningi emhlabeni jikelele futhi uyaqhubeka nokukhuthaza abesifazane kwiwebhusayithi yakhe, Ibhulogi ye-Perimenopause . Lapho ubhala futhi ashicilele okuqukethwe ezindabeni eziphathelene nempilo yamahomoni yabesifazane.