Ungazivikela Kanjani Ezimweni Ezinhlanu Ezinengozi, Ngokusho Kwezazi

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• Uhamba ngeNdawo Yokupaka Emnyama kanye / noma Yesiketi Ebusuku
• Uyalandelwa, kungaba ngezinyawo noma ngemoto yakho
• Usuku Lwakho Luphusha Ngokungakhululekile
• Uhlukunyezwa Umphathi Wakho noma Omunye Omkhulu
• Uyacatshangelwa noma Uyalandelwa Ekuthuthweni Komphakathi
• Buyekeza kwe-

Kosomabhizinisi abaningi besifazane, ukwethula umkhiqizo –– ukunqwabelana kwezinyanga (mhlawumbe iminyaka) yegazi, umjuluko, nezinyembezi-- ngumzuzu othokozisayo. Kepha kuQuinn Fitzgerald noSara Dickhaus de Zarraga, lowo muzwa wawuhluke ngokweqile lapho umkhiqizo wabo, iFlare, uya emakethe.

"Kubi ukuthi lo mkhiqizo kumele ubekhona," kusho uDickhaus de Zarraga. "Siyakuzonda ukuthi sikulesi sikhathi."

I-Flare, edalwe i-duo, kokubili i-Harvard Business School grads, ngo-2016, "isongo" elihlakaniphile (Buy It, $129, getflare.com) eliklanyelwe ukusiza abantu baphume ezimweni ezingaphephile noma ezingakhululekile. Ogqokile ucindezela inkinobho efihliwe ngaphakathi kwesongo, exwayisa ngohlu lwabathintwayo abakhethwe ngaphambilini (noma amaphoyisa) ngendawo yabo. Isongo lingathumela futhi ucingo lomgunyathi ocingweni lomuntu oyigqokile ukuze akhiphe izaba ezisheshayo zokuphuma esimweni se-iffy. (Konke lokhu kungalungiswa kuhlelo lwabo lokusebenza.)

Laba bobabili abayizisulu zokunukubezwa ngokocansi, bathi badala iFlare ngoba imishini eminingi yokuzivikela ngaleso sikhathi yayenziwa ngabesilisa. "Esikhathini esedlule, ukuphela kwamathuluzi okuzivikela kwakuyikhwela noma i-alamu yomuntu siqu yokwenza umsindo, isifutho sopelepele, isikhali sokulimaza omunye umuntu, noma ukubiza usizo," kuchaza uDickhaus de Zarraga. "Futhi, kuya ngobunikazi bakho, noma uma ungumuntu webala, [lezo zinketho] zingakufaka Okuningi Ingozi."

Kuwo wonke umlando, umthwalo ubulokhu use-womxn kuya ukuvimbela ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi - noma ngabe lokho kusho ukudela utshwala (noma amaqembu ngokuphelele), ukugwema izitayela zezingubo ezingathathwa njengezicasulayo (yize uSarah Everard enikela ngeziphuku ezijulukwayo ngesikhathi ethunjwa e-UK), futhi enza noma yini edingekayo ukugwema noma yiluphi uhlobo lokunakwa - kunalokho kunokwenza izinguquko ezinkulu emphakathini ukuze kuvinjelwe izenzo zobudlova zabenzi bobubi ngokwabo. (Okuhlobene: Ngemuva kukaSarah Everard, Abesifazane Bathola Iseluleko Sokuhlala Bephephile - Kepha Kungabantu Abadinga Ukuziphatha Kwabo Ukushintsha)

Vele, ukusho ukuthi siphila ezweni elinamandla lapho i-womxn ingadingi ukuthenga amasongo okwehlisayo, ukufunda ubuciko bempi obuhlanyayo, noma ukuhlala ucindezela ngezindawo zabo 24/7 kufana nokuvuma ukuthi siphila emphakathini owandulela ubuhlanga . Cishe abayisishiyagalombili kwabangu-10 base-U.S. Abesifazane abaneminyaka yobudala engaphezu kwengu-18 babike ukuthi bahlukunyezwa ngokocansi ocwaningweni olulodwa lwango-2018, kuyilapho ucwaningo lwakamuva lwabesifazane base-UK luthole ukuthi isibalo lapho singacishe sibe ngamaphesenti angama-97. . kukhona ukuhlangabezana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi ngamanani athusayo.) Isihogo, ngisho nje ekhona emsebenzini njengomuntu wesifazane omnyama angaba yimbangela yokudlwengulwa. Empeleni, abesifazane abaMnyama babika ukuthi bahlukunyezwa ngokocansi emsebenzini izikhathi eziphindwe kathathu kunabesifazane abamhlophe, ngokusho kombiko weNational Women's Law Center, okuyinhlangano yamalungelo ezomthetho engenzi nzuzo.

Iqiniso lokuthi i-womxn idinga ukuzivikela ezimweni ezingathandeki (noma eziyingozi) - ikakhulukazi, nabesilisa - uyancela. Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi, njengoba kuvezwa umbiko weWorld Health Organization, iningi lodlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane lwenziwa ngabesilisa. Empeleni, ucwaningo luphawula ukuthi bekungekho ngisho nedatha eyanele yokubuka udlame lwabobulili obufanayo kwabesifazane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, udlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane abaguquguqukayo noma abangavumelani nobulili lwenyuka ngo-2020, kwashona abantu abangu-44 e-U.S. - okwenza kwaba unyaka owafa kunawo wonke emlandweni, ngokoMkhankaso Wamalungelo Abantu.

Uma sekushiwo lokho, nakuba ukwesaba ukuhlaselwa akufanele kukuvimbele ukuthi uphile impilo yakho, ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuphepha ezimbalwa ezidingekayo nokuzihlomisa ngolwazi lokuzivikela kungakusiza uzizwe ukhululekile.

Lapha, ochwepheshe bahamba ngendlela yokusingatha izimo ezinhlanu ezingaba yingozi ongazithola ukuzo, nokuthi ungaphuma kanjani ngokushesha ngokuphepha.

Uhamba ngeNdawo Yokupaka Emnyama kanye / noma Yesiketi Ebusuku

Ezindaweni lapho uya noma ubuya khona, indawo oya kuyo (njengamagaraji okupaka kanye nezindawo eziningi zokupheka) ezinye zezindawo ezivame ukwedlula zonke, ngokusho kukaBeverly Baker, isazi sokuzivikela kanye nomsunguli we-Asphalt Anthropology eLos Angeles. "Lezi zindawo zidinga ukukhuthala okwengeziwe, njengoba zisesidlangalaleni ngokwanele ukuthi othile akwazi ukufinyelela kuwe, kodwa ngokuvamile ziyimfihlo ngokwanele ukuze uzivumele ukuthi zisebenze ngaphandle kofakazi noma izithikamezo," kuchaza u-Baker.

Lapho engena egalaji noma endaweni yokupaka, u-Baker uhlale eluleka amakhasimende akhe ukuthi askene indawo. Zikhona yini izinsika, izitebhisi, noma izimoto ezinkulu umuntu angazifihla ngemuva? Gwema lezo zindawo, uyeluleka, bese uzama ukupaka eduze ngangokunokwenzeka emnyango noma ophumayo.

"Futhi, lapho ufika, buyisela imoto yakho lapho," uyeluleka. "Lokhu kusho ukuthi awudingi ukuhamba ibanga eligcwele lemoto ukuze ufike emnyango womshayeli futhi ungaphuma ngokubonakala okugcwele kwendawo okuyo."

Amanye amathiphu wendawo yenguquko evela ku-Baker? Beka ifoni yakho phansi, uhambe ngokushesha nangokuzethemba ngokubheka kwakho okubanzi, futhi izandla zakho zikhululeke (kodwa gcina okhiye bakho besebenza ukuze ukwazi ukuvula ngokushesha ugxume emotweni yakho).

O, futhi uma ukhuluma ngalezo zihluthulelo –– kufanele uzibambe njengenkemba phakathi kweminwe yakho ukuhlasela noma ikuphi okuzayo, akunjalo? "Kunenkoleloze yokuthi kudala ukuphatha okhiye bakho phakathi kweminwe yakho kuyisikhali esihle sokuzivikela, kodwa lokhu akulona iqiniso!" Kusho uBaker. "Okhiye bazoqhubeka nomthelela futhi babe sengozini yokukulimaza kakhulu kunokusongela."

Kunalokho, u-Baker uncoma ukuphatha nokugcina uhlobo oluthile lwesikhali sokuzivikela eduze - nakuba kuncike kakhulu ezingeni lakho lokunethezeka nokuthi yini esemthethweni endaweni yangakini. Lokhu kungafaka isifutho se-pepper noma uhlobo oluthile lwesibhamu se-stun (Thenga It, $ 24, amazon.com), ummese, i-flashlight ene-high-boram (Buy It, $ 40, amazon.com) ukuphazamisa umhlaseli okwesikhashana, noma ngisho nesisindo into esendleleni yakho, njengekhandlela elisindayo, izinto eshalofini lezincwadi, noma isikele. (Okuhlobene: Abathengi Bathi Lo Pepper Spray Usindise Impilo Yabo)

Uyalandelwa, kungaba ngezinyawo noma ngemoto yakho

Uma kukhona okunye okusabisayo ukwedlula ukungena egaraji lokupaka elimnyama, elinomthunzi ebusuku, ukuhamba noma ukushayela wedwa –– futhi mhlawumbe kuyalandelwa. (Okuhlobene: Iqiniso Elibuhlungu Ngokugijima Ukuphepha Kwabesifazane)

Isinyathelo sokuqala uma usola ukuthi uyalandelwa ukumane ujike. "Enye [imoto] kuzodingeka ijike ijike noma ilahle imoto yabo," kuphawula uB Baker.

Uma ukwazi, u-Baker weluleka ukuba uhambe uye endaweni ephephile kunokuba uqhele engozini. "Ungajiki uhambe endaweni engasasebenzi," usho njalo. "Ngena esitolo uma ungakwazi."

Lo mqondo ofanayo uyasebenza uma usola ukuthi imoto ikulandela ngesikhathi ushayela. "Musa ukuya ekhaya uma ulandelwa," kusho uBaker, ebona ukuthi kufanele uhlale ubheke endaweni ephephile lapho ungamema khona usizo (cabanga: isiteshi somlilo, isiteshi samaphoyisa, isitolo noma indawo yokudlela).

Usuku Lwakho Luphusha Ngokungakhululekile

Ngenkathi abahlaseli begxuma ezihlahleni noma emagaraji okupaka kuyinto esabekayo, okunye (ikakhulukazi, iningi) ukuhlaselwa kwenzeka ngezindlela ezisondelene kakhulu, ezijwayelekile: isb.usuku lweTinder olungathandeki. (Okuhlobene: Okungu-6 Okumele Ukwenze Nokungamele Ukuphola Ku-inthanethi Ukuphepha Kwe-inthanethi)

"Uma usesimweni esingakhululekile, funa ummeli," kweluleka uHeather Hansen, uchwepheshe wokuzimela, umhlaziyi wezomthetho kanye nommeli wecala. UHansen uphawula ukuthi lo kungaba yinoma ngubani oseduze, kungaba ngumuntu oshaya enkantini noma osebenza naye, ongakwazisa ukuthi usesimweni esinamathelayo. Kufanele ucele ummeli ukuba afake phakathi usuku lwakho (yithi, uma kufanele uvuke uye endlini yangasese) bese ubuza imibuzo eminingana: "Benza kanjani bonke abantu?" noma "uphuza ini lapha?" kuphakamisa uHansen asikisela.

"Uma umenzi wobubi eqhubeka, obukele angavele abuze ukuthi nenzani nobabili," kuphawula uHansen. "Lokhu kusebenza ikakhulukazi uma obonayo ekhomba ukuthi ungowesilisa kanti umenzi wobubi naye wenza njalo." Ngaleso sikhathi, uHansen ucindezela, (ngethemba) izinketho zakho sezivulekile maqondana nokushiya. Ngenkathi usuku lwakho luphazamisekile, ungakwazi yini ukumaka phansi u-bartender noma othile kusuka kwezokuphepha ukuze angene futhi akusize ukukhiphe? Nakuba uzodinga ukuhlola isimo (wonke umuntu uzosabela ngendlela ehlukile), zama ukwenza imephu izindlela zokuphuma ngokushesha nje lapho othile engena endaweni yesigameko.

Enye inketho (ngokuqonda) ephuma esimweni esingakhululeki ebha noma endaweni yokudlela: oda "ukudubula kwengelosi." Njengoba i-TikTok eyodwa yegciwane evela kumdali @benjispears ichaza, isibhamu empeleni siyikhodi ethi "Ngisenkingeni; ngisize." Yize kungezona zonke izikhungo ezinayo eyodwa (futhi kungabizwa ngokuthile okunye ukuvikela imfihlo yayo kubaphulimthetho), ngokujwayelekile uzobona uphawu oluthunyelwe endlini yangasese oluxwayisa i-womxn ukuthi kuyindlela ongakhetha kuyo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi indawo okuyo ibamba iqhaza, ungangabazi ukuvele uhlabe umkhosi othile esendleleni eya, noma ngaphakathi, endlini yokugezela uma ungaqiniseki.

Uma kungekho muntu eduze, noma uzizwa ungakhululekile ukubuza eduze, u-Hansen uncoma ukutshela idethi yakho ephushayo kusengaphambili ukuthi awukhululekile. Futhi-ke, zama ukuthi ungakuthinti ukudla noma isiphuzo sakho uma bekungekho emehlweni akho, noma isikhashana nje, njengoba omunye ubengakuphazamisa. (Okuhlobene: Le ntsha Yakha Utshani Olungasiza Ukuhlonza Izidakamizwa Zokudlwengula Osuku)

Futhi uma izinto zikhula, ungesabi ukusukuma uhambe. "Thola ukugibela uye ekhaya komunye umuntu noma ukhethe isevisi yokwabelana ngokugibela," kusho u-Baker, ephawula ukuthi uma ukhathazekile ngokulandelwa, ungacela abezokuphepha bakuphelezele lapho uya khona (noma ushayele amaphoyisa ukuze akusize).

Uhlukunyezwa Umphathi Wakho noma Omunye Omkhulu

Uma kukhulunywa ngokushushumbisa ama-DM kozakwabo osebenza nabo noma umzuzu onzima nge-VP ephezulu ohambweni lomsebenzi, uHansen ugcizelela umthetho owodwa obaluleke kakhulu (kodwa olula) ngokuhlukunyezwa kwabantu emsebenzini: "Umbhalo konke –– kufaka phakathi zonke izikhathi zokuhlukunyezwa nokuthi uphendula kanjani. Yiba nakho konke okubhaliwe uma ukwazi. "(Uyabona ukuthi, kwezinye izifundazwe, akukho emthethweni ukurekhoda ingxoxo ngaphandle kwemvume kuzo zonke izinhlaka, ngakho-ke gcina lokho engqondweni.)

UHansen uphawula ukuthi ukuthola ummeli kubalulekile, futhi. "Khuluma nomuntu osebenza kwabasebenzi uma umenzi wobubi engumphathi wakho, futhi ukhulume nomphathi wakho uma kungumuntu osebenzela abasebenzi," uyeluleka.

Kepha yini okufanele uyenze okwamanje ukuzivikela nokusabalalisa isimo? Kuyiqili lokho, kusho u-Hansen.” Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngikhuluma nomhlukumezi noma umngane wakho, ngingasikisela ukuthi kugcinwe kuyiqiniso futhi kunenjongo: 'Lapho wenza lokhu/yena enza lokhu, futhi kungenza ngizizwe ngale ndlela.' okuhlangenwe nakho okungokomzwelo kakhulu, uma ungasebenzela ukuphendula kunokuba usabele, uzoba ummeli onamandla kakhulu."

Vele, uma nganoma yisiphi isikhathi wesabela ukuphepha kwakho futhi usengozini ngokushesha, iya ngqo emaphoyiseni - futhi, nobufakazi bokuhlukunyezwa, uma unakho.

Uyacatshangelwa noma Uyalandelwa Ekuthuthweni Komphakathi

Ngokufanayo njengokuthi uma ulandelwa imoto noma ngezinyawo, nezinto zokuhamba zomphakathi, kufanele uqonde endaweni ephephile kunokuba ubalekele engozini, kusho u-Baker. Kodwa kuze kube yileso sikhathi, ukumane ubhekane nanoma ubani omsolayo ukuthi uyakulandela kungasiza - naphezu kokuthi kungase kubonakale kusabisa kangakanani. "Ngikwenzile lokhu ngenhliziyo yami ishaya ngamandla," kuvuma uBaker. "Kodwa nansi into: Izinsongo azifuni ukuqondiswa kanzima. Eziningi zazo ziyakujabulela ukukwenza wesabe. Flip script." UBaker uthi ukusho okuthile emigqeni yokuthi "Ufuna ini?" noma, ngokusobala, "Kungani ungilandela?" kungasiza.

Uma ungakhululekile ukuhlanganyela nomuntu, kulungile, futhi. Shintsha izimoto zesitimela, wehle, bese ulinda elandelayo. "Kungcono ukufika sekwephuzile kunokungakhululeki," kusho u-Baker. Futhi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi lapho uzizwa sengathi usengozini enkulu, kufaka phakathi noma yiziphi zalezi zimo ezingenhla, unganqikazi ukubiza u-9-1-1.

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