8 Ukuzivikela Kushukumisela Bonke Abesifazane Kudinga Ukwazi

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• Ukuzivikela kuyisivikelo
• Gxila ezindaweni ezisengozini
• 1. Isiteleka sesando
• 2. Ukukhahlela komphimbo
• 3. Isithende sesithende sesundu
• 4. Isiteleka sendololwane
• 5. Kushaywa enye indololwane
• 6. Ukuphunyuka 'ekuhlaselweni yi-bear hug'
• 7. Ukuphunyuka izandla zibhajwe
• 8. Balekela ohlangothini lwekhanda
• Ungahlala kanjani uphephile uma ungakwazi ngokomzimba ukuzivikela
• Amathiphu okuphepha
  
• Funda ukuthuthukisa imingcele, ngisho nabantu obaziyo
• Kuphi noma kanjani ukwenza umkhuba

Ukuzivikela kuyisivikelo

Ukuhamba ngedwa ekhaya futhi uzizwe ungakhululekile? Ukuthola i-vibe exakile kumuntu ongamazi ebhasini? Abaningi bethu bake balapho.

Ocwaningweni lwangoJanuwari 2018 lwabesifazane abangu-1 000 ezweni lonke, amaphesenti angama-81 abike ukuthi ahlangabezana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, ukuhlaselwa, noma kokubili empilweni yabo.

Ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi kwakuyiyona ndlela ejwayelekile, kepha abesifazane abangamaphesenti angama-51 bathi bathintwa noma bathwaswa ngendlela engamukelekile, kuyilapho abesifazane abangamaphesenti angama-27 besinda ekuhlukunyezweni ngokocansi.

Noma ngabe wena uqobo lwakho awukaze uzizwe usesimweni esikwenze wazizwa ungaphephile ngokomzimba, ukuqiniseka ngezinyathelo zakho ezilandelayo (nokuthi yini ongayenza ukuzisiza uma kwenzeka isimo esingesihle senzeke) kungenza umehluko.

Ucwaningo oluvela eNyuvesi yase-Oregon luthole ukuthi abesifazane ababambe iqhaza ekilasini lokuzivikela bazizwa sengathi:

• ube namasu angcono okuphepha abekiwe
• bebehlonyiselwe ukubhekana nabantu abangabazi, nabantu ababaziyo, esimweni sokuhlaselwa noma ukuhlukunyezwa okungaba khona
• babenemizwa emihle ngemizimba yabo
• kwakwande ukuzethemba

Ngezansi kunezinyathelo zethu eziyisishiyagalombili zokuzivikela zabesifazane - ezigcwaliswe ngemiyalo - ukukusiza uzizwe unamandla okuzivikela kunoma yisiphi isimo.

Gxila ezindaweni ezisengozini

Gxila ezindaweni ezisengozini zomhlaseli wakho: amehlo, impumulo, umphimbo, nokububula. Hlela zonke izinyathelo ezingezansi endaweni eyodwa noma eziningana zalezi zindawo ukuze zibe nomthelela omkhulu.

Musa ukuqondisa isifuba, ngoba lokho kuvame ukungasebenzi. Ukuhlose ngamadolo kudinga ukukhahlelwa okuthile okungaba yingozi kakhulu kumuntu ojwayelekile.

Sebenzisa wonke amandla akho nolaka ngesikhathi sokubulawa. Yenza kwaziwe ukuthi uyintokazi enamandla. Sebenzisa izwi lakho, futhi. Khulumela phezulu ukusabisa umhlaseli futhi udale ukunakwa uma kwenzeka othile eseduze.

1. Isiteleka sesando

Ukusebenzisa okhiye bemoto yakho kungenye yezindlela ezilula zokuzivikela. Ungasebenzisi izinzipho zakho, ngoba usengozini enkulu yokulimaza izandla zakho.

Esikhundleni salokho, uma uzizwa ungaphephile ngenkathi uhamba ebusuku, thatha okhiye bakho baphume ohlangothini olulodwa lwenqindi lokushaywa kwesando.

Enye indlela yokusebenzisa okhiye bakho ukuwachofoza kumsila wenkomo ukuze uvule umhlaseli wakho.

Ezosebenza:

1. Bamba indandatho yakho yokhiye ngesibhakela esiqinile, njengokuphatha isando, okhiye abasuka ohlangothini lwesandla sakho.
2. Yisa phansi ubheke kulokho okukhombe.

2. Ukukhahlela komphimbo

Uma othile eza kuwe evela ngaphambili, ukukhahlela okungamanzi kungaletha amandla anele okukhubaza umhlaseli wakho, kwenze ukuthi ubaleke.

Ezosebenza:

1. Ziqinise ngangokunokwenzeka.
2. Phakamisa umlenze wakho ovelele phansi bese uqala ukushayela idolo lakho phezulu.
3. Nweba umlenze wakho ovelele, shayela izinkalo phambili, unciphise kancane emuva, bese ukhahlela ngamandla, wenze ukuxhumana phakathi kwesikhumba sakho esiphansi noma ibhola lonyawo lwakho nendawo yokububula yomhlaseli.

Okunye: Uma umhlaseli wakho esondele kakhulu, phonsa idolo lakho endaweni ebusayo. Qiniseka ukuthi uzinzile futhi awusengozini yokuwa.

3. Isithende sesithende sesundu

Lokhu kuhamba kungadala ukulimala emakhaleni noma emphinjeni. Ukuze ukhiphe, hamba phambi komhlaseli wakho ngangokunokwenzeka.

Ezosebenza:

1. Ngesandla sakho esilawulayo, shintsha isihlakala sakho.
2. Lwela noma ikhala lomhlaseli, ukugxumela phezulu kusukela emakhaleni, noma ngaphansi kwesilevu somhlaseli, ukugxumela phezulu emphinjeni.
3. Qiniseka ukuthi uyabuyisa isimangalo sakho. Ukudonsela ingalo yakho emuva ngokushesha kuzosiza ukuphakamisa ikhanda lomhlaseli phezulu nasemuva.
4. Lokhu kuzobangela ukuthi umhlaseli wakho adiyazele aye emuva, okuvumela ukuba ubalekele ukubanjwa kwabo.

Okunye: Isundu esivulekile ezindlebeni lingakhungathekisa kakhulu.

4. Isiteleka sendololwane

Uma umhlaseli wakho eseduze futhi ungakwazi ukuthola umfutho owanele wokuphonsa isibhakela esinamandla noma ukukhahlela, sebenzisa izindololwane zakho.

Ezosebenza:

1. Uma ukwazi, ziqinise ngomgogodla oqinile nemilenze ukuze uqiniseke ngokushaya ngamandla.
2. Goba ingalo yakho endololwaneni, uhambise isisindo sakho phambili, bese ushaya indololwane yakho entanyeni yomhlaseli wakho, emhlathini, esilevini, noma ethempelini. Konke lokhu kungumgomo osebenzayo.
3. Lokhu kungadala ukuthi umhlaseli wakho akhulule ukubambelela kwakhe, akuvumele ukuthi ugijime.

5. Kushaywa enye indololwane

Ngokuya ngokuthi umi kanjani lapho uqala ukuhlaselwa, ungahle ube sesimweni esingcono sokuhlukahluka esitelekeni sendololwane.

Ukwenza kusuka ngaphambili:

1. Phakamisa indololwane yakho ekuphakameni kwamahlombe.
2. I-pivot ngonyawo olufanayo bese uvumela okhalweni lwakho ukuba luzungeze, kudale umfutho owengeziwe engxenyeni engaphambili yendololwane yakho lapho ushaya.

Ukwenza ohlangothini nangemuva:

1. Qiniseka ukuthi uyalibona ilitshe.
2. Letha indololwane yakho uphakamise unyawo lwakho oluphambene, ujikeleze okhalweni lwakho bese uphendukela kulitshe, wenza ukuxhumana nengxenye engemuva yendololwane yakho.

6. Ukuphunyuka 'ekuhlaselweni yi-bear hug'

Ezimweni lapho umhlaseli eza ngemuva, uzofuna ukusebenzisa lokhu kuhamba. Gxila ekutholeni phansi futhi udale isikhala ukuze uzikhulule.

Ezosebenza:

1. Goba phambili kusuka okhalweni. Lokhu kugudluzela isisindo sakho phambili, kwenze kube nzima kakhulu ngomhlaseli wakho ukuthi akulande. Ibuye ikunikeze i-engeli engcono yokuphonsa izindololwane ngapha nangapha ebusweni bomhlaseli.
2. Jikela kumhlaseli ngenye yezindololwane zakho bese uqhubeka nokulwa.
3. Lokhu kufanele kukunikeze isikhala sokuphenduka ngokugcwele, usebenzisa okunye ukunyakaza ukulimaza ubuso noma ukushaya imbila. Ngesikhala esenziwe yile minyakazo, ungakwazi ukuphunyuka ubaleke.

7. Ukuphunyuka izandla zibhajwe

Uma umhlaseli wakho evela ngemuva bese ebamba izingalo zakho (lokhu kufana nokwangana nebhere, kepha ngeke ukwazi ukuhamba ngokukhululeka), nakhu okumele ukwenze:

1. Ukusabela kokuqala kufanele kube ukumisa izingalo zomhlaseli wakho ukuthi zingaphakeme ziye ekhanda. Shift okhalweni lwakho kolunye uhlangothi. Lokhu kunikeza ukuvulwa kweziteleka ezigulini ngezimpama ezivulekileyo.
2. Buyisela isandla sakho phezulu ezingalweni zakho bese uphakamisa indololwane yakho ebhekene nayo ukuze uphenduke ukugoqa. Gcina izingalo zakho ziqinile esifubeni sakho njengoba ungena.
3. Hlala ulaka ngamadolo akho nokunye ukuhlaselwa uze ukwazi ukuyeka.

8. Balekela ohlangothini lwekhanda

Lapho umhlaseli evala ingalo yakhe ngasekhanda lakho ukusuka ohlangothini, umuzwa wakho wokuqala kufanele kube ukugwema ukuminyaniswa.

Ezosebenza:

1. Jikela ohlangothini lomhlaseli ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze ugweme ukuminyaniswa.
2. Ngesandla sakho esikude kakhulu, shaya ummbila ngezimpama ezivuleke ngezandla uze ube nokuhamba okwanele ukuze uvule ikhanda lakho lonke uyeke ukuhlukanisa.

Ungahlala kanjani uphephile uma ungakwazi ngokomzimba ukuzivikela

Kodwa-ke, uma ungazethembi ukuthi uyakwazi ukuphatha umhlaseli ngokomzimba, thatha lezi zixwayiso:

Amathiphu okuphepha

1. Hlala endaweni yomphakathi ekhanyisiwe. Ungayi ekhaya noma ufulathele izixuku. Ngena esitolo noma esitolo sekhofi ucele usizo.
2. Shayela amaphoyisa ucingo. Thola indawo yomphakathi ekhanyiswe kahle bese ushayela u-911 noma abezimo eziphuthumayo zendawo uma uzizwa usengozini.
3. Thatha ukuvikelwa. Noma ngabe i-pepper spray, i-alamu yokuphepha yomuntu siqu, noma i-lipstick taser, amathuluzi okuzivikela angakusiza uzizwe ukhululeke ngokwengeziwe.

Uma uphethe amathuluzi okuzivikela, qiniseka ukuthi uthola ukuqeqeshwa ukuthi uwasebenzisa kanjani. Ungasebenzisa futhi izinto ezijwayelekile njengezikhali, kufaka phakathi isikhwama semali, isikhwama esincane, isambulela, ifoni, ipensela, incwadi, noma idwala.

Noma yini ebuthuntu engasetshenziselwa ukushaya, ukuphonsa, ukugwaza, noma ukujikisa ingasebenza kakhulu.

Funda ukuthuthukisa imingcele, ngisho nabantu obaziyo

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Lokhu kungasenza siyeke ukuqapha. Singaba namahloni kakhulu, sibe namahloni kakhulu, noma sesabe kakhulu ukulimaza imizwa yabanye esingazicabangi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngathi.

Eminye imigomo ebalulekile yokuvimbela ibandakanya:

• Ukuqwashisa. Qiniseka ukuthi uyazi ngemvelo yakho ngangokunokwenzeka. Nciphisa iziphazamiso lapho uhamba usuka endaweni uya kwenye noma ezinye izilungiselelo zomphakathi. Ungahlali ubheke phansi ifoni yakho. Qiniseka ukuthi ungezwa eduze kwakho. Yiba nezikhiye ezilungile. Hamba ngenhloso.
• Imingcele. Kwenze iphuzu ukuzibuza ukuthi kungani umuntu ekwenza ungakhululeki. Khuluma nabo. Akunandaba ukuthi ufuna ubungani noma ubudlelwano busebenze kangakanani, uma bengakwazi ukuhlonipha imingcele yakho, bangumuntu okungafanele ube naye empilweni yakho.

Kuphi noma kanjani ukwenza umkhuba

Noma ngabe umuntu uza kuwe ngaphambili, eceleni, noma emuva, ulwazi oluyisisekelo lokuzivikela lungakubeka endaweni ukuze uzivikele kahle.

Uma ama-Krav Maga noma amakilasi we-muay thai enikezwa endaweni yangakini, cabanga ukubhalisa. I-Muay thai ngumdlalo wokulwa eThailand osebenzisa amasu wokuteleka wokuma. IKrav Maga uhlelo lwesimanje lokuzivikela.

Uma ufuna ukwakha amandla esimweni esiphakeme kakhulu futhi ufunde izindlela zokuzivikela, hlola i-kickboxing yangakini noma ezinye izifundo zobuciko bempi, njenge karate.

Lapho bahlonyiswe ngolwazi oluthile oluyisisekelo lokuzivikela, abesifazane abancane noma abadala, abahlala emadolobheni noma abahlali basemaphandleni, bangathemba ukuphepha nokuvikela kwabo. Akunandaba ukuthi uluphi uhlobo lwekilasi lokulwa noma lokuzivikela olithathayo, ukuzijwayeza kungakusiza ukuthi wakhe inkumbulo yemisipha. Esimweni sendiza noma sendiza, le nkumbulo yemisipha ingaba ngukhiye ekusizeni ukuba ubalekele kumhlaseli.