Lo wesifazane Uwuchaze Kahle Umehluko Phakathi Kokuzithanda Nokuqina Komzimba

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Wonke umuntu unelungelo lokuthanda isikhumba akuso. Lowo ngumyalezo omuhle wonke umuntu angavumelana ngawo, akunjalo? Kepha i-ICYDK, ukuzithanda nokwenza umkhuba omuhle womzimba akuyona into efanayo.

Yize kuvame ukufaniswa, kunomehluko phakathi kokuzithanda nokuzethemba komzimba — imininingwane esanda kwethulwa kumthonya wokuqina komzimba uNicole, weNix Fitness. Ubhale ku-Instagram ukuthi utshelwe ukuthi ukubukeka kahle komzimba "akukona [kwakhe]" ngoba ungowesifazane "ozacile".

"Ekuqaleni, ngangiphatheke kabi futhi ngididekile ukuzwa lokhu," ubhale kanjalo encwadini yakhe. "'Akuwona wonke umuntu onelungelo lokuthanda umzimba akuyo? Kubukeka sengathi awuhlanganisi wonke umuntu' ngicabanga." (Okuhlobene: Kungani Ukuhlazeka Ngomzimba Kuyinkinga Enkulu Kangaka — Nalokho Ongakwenza Ukukuyeka)

UNicole wabe esezibophezela ekwenzeni ucwaningo oluthe xaxa mayelana nokuzethemba komzimba ukuze aqonde ukuthi ukunyakaza kumayelana nani ngempela. (Okuhlobene: Anginawo Umzimba Olungile noma Anginayo Umzimba—Ngiyimina Nje)

"Ngabona ukuthi konke ngangikwenze kabi," ubhale kanje. "Yebo, wonke umuntu unelungelo lokuthanda umzimba wakhe kodwa lokho akukhona ukubukeka komzimba, ukuzithanda. Futhi kukhona umehluko."

Inhloso yangempela yokunyakaza komzimba ukukhuthaza abantu abanemizimba ebandlululiwe (i-curvy, queer, trans, imizimba yombala, njll.) Ukuthi bangagcini ngokuzithanda kepha bazizwe kufanelekile Wokuzithanda, uSarah Sapora, umeluleki ozithandayo nothanda impilo, wasitshela ngaphambilini. Kodwa-ke, njengoba le nhlangano isiba "yanda kakhulu futhi ithengiswa kakhulu," inhloso yayo yasekuqaleni "ithelwe ngamanzi" futhi yathathwa ngezincazelo eziningi, kuchaza uSapora.

Ukuhlanganisa "ukuqina komzimba" kanye "nokuzithanda" ndawonye empeleni akunaki imizabalazo abantu abanemizimba ebandlululwa abaye babhekana nayo iminyaka. "Ukuzethemba komzimba akunakuba nje ngomzimba omncane, oqondile, ongaqondakali, nabamhlophe abakhululeke ngokwengeza amakhilogremu ayi-10 kozimele babo," kusho uStacey Rosenfeld, Ph.D., isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esinelayisense nobungcweti, usitshele muva nje ingxoxo.

UNicole ubonakala efinyelele esiphethweni esifanayo: “Njengomuntu ongazange abe semzimbeni oye wabandlululwa, angikwazi ukubiza umgubho wesisu sami esithambile ngokuthi ‘body positivity’, kumane kuwukuzithanda,” yena. kubhaliwe. "Yize ukungavikeleki kwethu kusasebenza, ngicabanga ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthi siwubone umehluko ngoba ukwehluleka ukwenza lokho, kuqeda amazwi abantu inhlangano eyadalelwa yona." (Okuhlobene: Ungawuthanda Umzimba Wakho bese Ufuna Ukuwuguqula?)

Iphuzu eliyinhloko: Ungazithanda futhi zijwayeze ukulungela komzimba — yazi nje ukuthi lamagama amabili ahlukile kwelinye. Nakuba ukuzithanda kuyinto ongakwazi ukusebenza kuyo ngaphakathi futhi ukhuthaze abanye ukuthi bazilolonge, ukuba nomzimba omuhle kusho ukuba umngane walabo abanemizimba ebandlululwayo, ukubiza amalungelo omzimba uma uyibona, kanye nokubekela inselele imibono ecatshangwe ngaphambili mayelana ubuqiniso yemizimba yabantu.

Empeleni, lokho kusho ukuhlola ukuchema kwakho okuhlobene nomzimba futhi unikeze abanye isikhala sokwenza amazwi abo azwakale, uSapora wasitshela. "Uma ungumuntu ozacile, noma ohambisana 'nokwejwayelekile' emphakathini, qiniseka ukuthi izwi lakho nendaba yomzimba wakho akuwaqedi amazwi nezindaba zalabo abamelene kabi," kuchaza yena.

UKatie Willcox, oyisibonelo, umbhali nomsunguli weHealthy Is The New Skinny, uphakamisa ukuhola ngesibonelo: "Ungenza ingxenye yakho hhayi ngokushumayela, ukwahlulela, noma ukuveza impilo ephelele ku-Instagram, kodwa ngokuba yisibonelo esiphilayo somuntu ozithandayo futhi ophila ngendlela ekhombisa lokho ngaphandle. "

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