Ngokusobala, Ukucabanga Ngomuntu Omthandayo Kungakusiza Ukubhekana Nezimo Ezicindezelayo

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Ngokuzayo lapho uzizwa ukhungathekile, ucabanga nge-S.O yakho. kungasiza. Ucwaningo lwakamuva olushicilelwe ku I-Psychophysiology uphakamise ukuthi ukucabanga nje ngomlingani wakho ngaphambi kokuthola ingcindezi kungehlisa umfutho wegazi kanye nokuba nabo ku-IRL. Ukuhumusha: Awudingi ihlombe lomzimba ukuze uncike-udinga nje ukwazi ukuthi unokwesekwa othandekayo wakho ukuze udlule ezikhathini ezinzima. (Kuhlobene: Umqeqeshi Wokuqomisana uMatthew Hussey Uthi Isibhakela Singafundisa Okuningi Ngobudlelwano)

Nakhu abakufinyelela kuleso siphetho: Ababambiqhaza abangaphezu kwe-100 ababesebudlelwaneni bezothando njengamanje bahlukaniswe ngamaqembu amathathu: Elinye elizochitha isikhathi nomlingani wabo, elinye elizocabanga ngophathina wabo, futhi omunye ozocabanga ngosuku lwabo . Ngemuva kwalokho, iqembu ngalinye licwilise unyawo lwalo emanzini abandayo imizuzu emine ukudala ingcindezi, kwalinganiswa nomfutho wegazi nokushaya kwenhliziyo yabo. Abaphenyi bathole ukuthi zombili iqembu elichitha isikhathi nabalingani balo kanye nalowo ocabanga ngabo likhombise ukwehla okufanayo kwengcindezi yegazi uma kuqhathaniswa neqembu lesithathu. Lokho kusho, kungahle kube nomngcele omncane wokuchitha isikhathi nomlingani wakho enyameni. Iqembu eline-QT yangempela elizibikayo libuhlungu obuncane obuvela emanzini abandayo kunalabo ababecabanga nje nge-boo yabo. (Related: Udinga Ukucindezeleka? Isayensi Ithi Geza Izitsha)

Nansi indlela "iqembu lokucabanga kuphela" elihambisa ngayo imicabango yalo, ukuze ukwazi ukukuzama ngokuzayo lapho impilo yakho igcwele ingcindezi: Leli qembu liyalwe ukuthi livale amehlo alo imizuzwana engu-30 futhi libone ngeso lengqondo isithombe esinemininingwane yomlingani walo noma babo benza okuthile ndawonye, ​​ngokugcizelela ekwenzeni isithombe sengqondo sicace ngangokunokwenzeka.

Futhi uma ungashadile njenge-bill yedola, akukho ukukhathazeka-lokhu akuyona ngempela i-perk egcinelwe imibhangqwana. Nakuba lolu cwaningo belubheke abantu abebesebudlelwaneni bezothando, kungenzeka ukuthi kunabantu abaningi empilweni yakho abenza uzizwe usekelwe futhi uphephile (sawubona, Mama!). Futhi izifundo zangaphambilini zikhombisile ukubaluleka kobudlelwano obungathandeki ekugcineni amazinga oxinzelelo. Olunye ucwaningo lwathola ukuthi ukuzwa izwi likamama wakho kunezinzuzo zokwehlisa ingcindezi ngokuhambisana nokumbona mathupha. Ucwaningo luphakamisa nokuthi ukuzwa ukwesekwa ngabathandekayo banoma yiluphi uhlobo kungasiza ekunciphiseni imiphumela yengcindezi. Ngakho-ke ngesikhathi esizayo unosuku olubi, cabanga ukuchitha isikhathi, ushaya ucingo, noma ucabange nje ngaleso sikhathi lapho wenza leyo nto eyodwa nomuntu omthandayo.

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