4 Amathiphu Wokubhekana Nokubhekana Nokukhathazeka Kwakho Kulezi Zikhathi Ezingaqinisekile

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• Ithiphu 1: Ukulawulwa ngokomzwelo okususelwa ekuphefumuleni nokuzindla
• Ithiphu 2: Funda ukuphatha ukuzimela kwakho
• Amathiphu okuzisiza
  
• Ithiphu 3: Lalela ngokungasebenzi
• Amathiphu wokulalela okungasebenzi
  
• Ithiphu 4: Phila ngokuvumelana nezindinganiso zakho
• Ukuphila ezikhathini eziyinselele akusho ukuthi asikwazi ukwenza ushintsho oluncane ukusiza ukuzulazula ekukhathazekeni kwethu
• Ukuhamba Okungqondo: Ukugeleza Kwemizuzu eyi-15 YeYoga Yokukhathazeka

Ukusuka kwezepolitiki kuya kwezemvelo, kulula ukuvumela ukukhathazeka kwethu kukhuphuke.

Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi siphila ezweni eliya ngokungaqiniseki - kungaba ngokwepolitiki, ngokwenhlalo, noma ngemvelo. Imibuzo enjengale: "Ingabe imibono yami izomelwa kuKhongolose?" "Ngabe izinhlelo zokuvikela imvelo zizokwesekelwa abazukulu bami?" “Ngabe ukungezwani kohlanga kuzoqhubeka nokudlanga futhi kuholele odlameni oluthe xaxa?” Bangabantu nje abambalwa abantu abaningi abazithola bebuza njalo.

Njengodokotela wezengqondo ogxile ekukhathazekeni, ngijwayelene kakhulu nokuthi kubukeka kanjani lapho abantu bengazi ukuthi yini ezolandela.

Ngakho-ke umbuzo uhlala: Sibhekana kanjani ngalezi zikhathi ezinzima?

Ngithola amathiphu amane alandelayo engukungenelela okusebenzayo kakhulu lapho welapha iziguli ezinokukhathazeka. Ngakho-ke ngokuzayo lapho umjikelezo wezindaba noma okuphakelayo kwemidiya yezenhlalo kunamazinga okukhathazeka akhuphukayo, cabanga ukukuzama lokhu.

Ithiphu 1: Ukulawulwa ngokomzwelo okususelwa ekuphefumuleni nokuzindla

Umthethonqubo osuselwa ekuphefumuleni ungasiza ezikhathini "ezishisayo" zomphakathi. Kungakhathalekile ukuthi ubuka izindaba noma uzizwa ukhathazekile ngenkathi usemithonjeni yezokuxhumana, ukuphefumula kwakho kuhlala kukusiza ukulawula ukukhathazeka kwakho kwemvelo (noma intukuthelo).

Ukuphefumula okujulile kungasiza ekudaleni imizwa yokuphepha, noma iqhinga lale ndlela lingukuvumelana kokuzijwayeza. Cabanga ukuzivocavoca imizuzu emi-5 kuye kwengu-10 ngosuku, ngaphezu kwanoma nini lapho uqala khona ukuzwa ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwakho kuqala ukukhahlela.

Kunezindlela eziningi zokuzindla ezingasiza. Ukuze sikusize uqale, cabanga ngalezi zinyathelo ezilandelayo:

1. Lala phansi noma uhlale esihlalweni (ungavala amehlo akho uma ufuna).
2. Adonse umoya konke indlela engenayo.
3. Phefumula, phefumula konke indlela yokuphuma. Ukuqedela ukwehla kwamandla emali / ukwehla kwamandla emali kubaluleke kakhulu lapha.
4. Phinda cishe imizuzu engu-5-10.
5. Zijwayeze ukuphefumula okujulile usuku lonke, ngangokunokwenzeka.

Qaphela: Kungasiza ukucabanga ngebhaluni eligcwala futhi linciphise njengoba ugijima kulo msebenzi wokuphefumula.

Ithiphu 2: Funda ukuphatha ukuzimela kwakho

Kubantu abaqhamuka emiphakathini ebandlululiwe, kungaba lula ukuvumela imiyalezo eminingi yezenhlalo yezombangazwe ethintekayo ibe nomthelela endleleni ozibheka ngayo ukuzihlonipha kwakho. Futhi ukuvumela le milayezo ukuthi ithinte indlela ozibona ngayo kungaholela ekukhathazekeni.

Yize le milayezo ingahle ime, ungazibhekela ukubaluleka kwakho ngokufunda ukukhuluma nawe ngomusa nangesizotha.

Amathiphu okuzisiza

• Phawula imizwa yehlazo - imicabango efana nokuthi "ngimbi" - njengoba ikhuphuka. Ngabe zivela emibonweni engafanele yabanye abangakwazi ngempela noma abangakwazisi? Hlonipha imibono kuphela yalabo obazisayo.
• Khuluma ngomusa kuwe lapho uzizwa uphansi, njengokuthi: "Ngiyazi ukuthi lokhu kubuhlungu njengamanje, kodwa lobu buhlungu abungichazi," noma "Inhloso yami ukuba nomusa kimi kulezi zikhathi ezinzima."
• Ukulandela ukuvezwa kwemiyalezo engemihle, khetha imantra ongakhumbula kalula. Isibonelo, njengowesilisa oMnyama, lapho ngiqala ukuzizwa ngicindezelekile kulandela ukuvezwa kwemiyalezo engemihle yezindaba noma ezinye izinkulumo zobandlululo ngiyaziphinda: “Imibono yabantu abacwasanayo ayichazi ukubaluleka kwami. Ngiyavuma."
• Khetha isilinganiso esinika amandla kusuka kusishoshovu, umholi wokomoya, noma uthisha. Funda lesi sicaphuno nsuku zonke bese uvumela leso sicaphuni sibe yindinganiso yokuthi uhamba kanjani emhlabeni.

Ngezikhathi zokuxokozela kwezombusazwe kanye nolaka, ukuba nomusa kuwe kubaluleke kakhulu - lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma uvela eqenjini lezenhlalo elalikhishwa inyumbazane ngokomlando.

Khumbula, ukukhuluma okungekuhle okuvela kwabanye akuchazi. Wena chaza ukuzihlonipha kwakho.

Ithiphu 3: Lalela ngokungasebenzi

Singabalaleli abaphendulayo, ngoba siyalalela phendula kunokuba ulalele qonda.

Esikhathini sobandlululo olungavunyelwe kanye nama-echo-chambers ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, sihlala sifuna ukuqinisekisa lokho esesivele sikwazi ukuze sigcine ukuqiniseka ngomhlaba osizungezile. Kodwa-ke, ukukhathazeka kungaphakama lapho sihlangana nabantu abanemibono ehlukile kweyethu.

Ngakho-ke sizisingatha kanjani lezi zimo?

Impendulo emfushane ukuzijwayeza ukulalela okungasebenzi. Lokhu kungasetshenziswa kunoma yisiphi isimo, kufaka phakathi lapho uxhumana nabantu abanezinkolelo ezehlukene zepolitiki noma zenhlalo kunezethu.

Amathiphu wokulalela okungasebenzi

• lalela ngokuphelele, ngaphandle kokwahlulela
• ubone ukuthi ukucabanga kwabo kunengqondo yini
• uma kunezimbobo kulogic yabo noma ezinyathelweni ezeqiwe, buza imibuzo elandelayo
• lalela ukuqonda kuqala, uphendule okwesibili

Ithiphu 4: Phila ngokuvumelana nezindinganiso zakho

Kulula ukuphila ngokwezindinganiso zabanye ezimpilweni zethu futhi silahlekelwe umbono wokuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu wena. Kepha ukuthembeka kumanani akho kubalulekile, ikakhulukazi ngezikhathi zokucindezeleka okukhulu kwezenhlalo noma kwezemvelo.

Imvamisa iziguli zami zizobona ukuthi izimpawu zazo zokukhathazeka ngokwengxenye zingumphumela wokuphila ngokuya ngamanani omphakathi noma izindinganiso zomuntu othile empilweni yazo, ngaphandle kokubheka lokho bona ngiyabakhathalela.

Khumbula: Ukuphila ngokuvumelana nezindinganiso akuyona eyenhloso, kepha kunalokho yenza izinto ezikwenza uzizwe kahle. Esikhundleni sokuthi “yilokhu mina kufanele unakekele, ”thola ukuthi yini wena yenza ngikhathazekile mayelana.

Ngemuva kokucabanga, ungaqaphela ukuthi ufuna ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi esikhululekile nomndeni nabangane, uzibandakanya kwezenhlalo noma ubhikishe, uhlanganyela ezingxoxweni zezepolitiki noma ezinhlelweni zokushintsha kwesimo sezulu.

Noma ngabe yini oyithandayo, yenza ngokuvumelana nalokho. Uma ulandela umkhondo, futhi uphila ngokuvumelana nezindinganiso zakho, ungahle ubone ukuthi uzozizwa unokuthula okuningi.

Ukuphila ezikhathini eziyinselele akusho ukuthi asikwazi ukwenza ushintsho oluncane ukusiza ukuzulazula ekukhathazekeni kwethu

Siphila ezikhathini eziyinselele, kepha akusho ukuthi akukho zinguquko ezincane esingazenza ezimpilweni zethu ukusisiza ukuthi sizizwe sikhululeke ngokwethu kanye nezinkathazo zethu ngekusasa.

Esikhundleni sokuvumela impilo yenzeke kithina futhi sigxile kulokho esingakuthandi, singalawula ukuthi sikhetha kanjani ukuzwa lokho esingakuthandi ukusebenzisa le mikhuba. Khumbula, umuntu onganikela kakhulu empilweni yakho yengqondo ekugcineni nguwe.

Ukuhamba Okungqondo: Ukugeleza Kwemizuzu eyi-15 YeYoga Yokukhathazeka

UDkt. Broderick Sawyer ungudokotela wezengqondo emcimbini weqembu, enikeza ukwelashwa okusekelwa ngokwamandla okuhlukumezeka okukhulu, ukucindezelwa okususelwa emijahweni nokuhlukumezeka, ukuphazamiseka kobuntu, ukukhathazeka, ukuphazamiseka okuphoqelela ngokweqile, ukudangala, nokuphazamiseka kokudla. Ubungcweti obukhulu bukaDkt. Sawyer ukucindezela nokuhlukumezeka okususelwa emjahweni, nokufundisa ukuzindla kwengqondo / ngozwela. UDkt.Sawyer uvame ukuhlinzeka ngezifundo ezihlokweni ezahlukahlukene ezenzelwe ukwelashwa nezisuselwa kubuhlanga kubachwepheshe abahlukahlukene bezempilo yengqondo, izishoshovu, nezethameli zezifundo. Ubuye asebenzisane nabahleli bomphakathi ukuthola izixazululo zokudala kubulungiswa bezenhlalakahle, ngokugxila ikakhulukazi ekusetshenzisweni kokuzindla kwengqondo ukuqinisa ukuqina ekucindezelweni kwengcindezelo.