Ngiye Ezinsukwini Zokuqala Ngengxoxo Yevidiyo Ngesikhathi Sokuhlukaniswa kwe-COVID-19 — Nakhu Ukuthi Kuhambe Kanjani

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• I-Set-Up
• Izinsuku Zami Zokuqala Zevidiyo
• Usuku 1: I-Stateside Baker
• Usuku 2: I-American Local
• Idethi yesi-3: I-Londoner ezenzakalelayo
• Izindlela zokuthatha
• Idethi Yokuqala Ebonakalayo Ongayenza Nokungamele Uyenze
• Buyekeza kwe-

Ngeke ngithi nginempilo yokuphola esebenzayo. Mayelana nokuphuma kanye ngiyazama ukujola nabantu, kahle, ngincela kuleyo ngxenye. Ngisho noma ngichithe amahora ngiswayipha ezinhlelweni zokusebenza zokuqomisana, ngike ngilwe kanzima ukuvuma ukuhlangana mathupha. Kuningi umsindo kuzinhlelo zokusebenza zokuthandana. (Futhi, indaba eyiqiniso: Bangakulimaza ukuzethemba kwakho.) Ngaphandle kwalokho, bengilokhu nginguhlobo lomuntu othandana ngephutha — ewela umngane, ahlangane nothile ohambweni, athabathe umngane wakhe yomngane osedolobheni. Le nto yonke ecatshangelwe, yokuqomisana yefomula ibonakala ikhipha ubumnandi nokuzenzakalela kuyo, okungenani kimina.

Noma kunjalo, njengabantu abaningi, ngiyayithanda i- umqondo yokuthandana. Ngithanda ukuthi inketho ikhona. Ngakho lapho iDolobha laseMexico—lapho ngihlala khona manje—lithola ama-oda asemthethweni okuhlala ekhaya ngo-March, angizange ngikhathazeke ngokukhethekile ngokuphela kokuthandana kwami. Kuwo wonke amaphutha abo, ngemuva kwakho konke, izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuphola okungenani ziyindlela enhle yokuphuma endlini futhi uhlangane nabantu abangaba abangane (obekubalulekile kimi, njengomuntu obesenamasonto amathathu ukuhlala edolobheni elisha futhi wayengazi cishe muntu). Ngangesaba ukuthi umjikelezo wami womphakathi okhulayo uzomisa, okungcono kakhulu, futhi wehle, kubi kakhulu. (Bheka: Ukuthi ICoronavirus Ishintsha Kanjani Isimo Sokuqomisana)

Ngakho-ke, ngakha icebo: Ukuziphoqa ukuba ngiphumele lapho (ngokomfanekiso, kunjalo), ngazibekela inselelo yokuthi ngihambe ngezinsuku zokuqala zevidiyo, ngabe sengibeka indaba ngayo (sawubona, uyayifunda), ukuze ungibambe. unesibopho sokwenza empeleni.

Ngenkathi isipiliyoni, kukonke, bekuyisikhwama esixubekile, ngokumangazayo ngazithola sengiyikholwa.

I-Set-Up

Ngithola isandulela sonke sokusetha i-FaceTime enzima kakhulu. Akekho, nami uqobo, obonakala enolwazi ngokuhlukaniswa kombhalo ngothando. Izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuqomisana azijabulisi ngaphansi kwezimo ezijwayelekile kakhulu, kepha imvamisa, inkulumo encane ebuhlungu yokuqala ihlala kuphela imiyalezo embalwa ngaphambi kokuba uvume ukuhlangabeza isidlo sakusihlwa, isiphuzo, noma - sicela ubambe isahlulelo — iphathi yokubuka iSuper Tuesday en Isahluko sase-Mexico City se-Democrats Kwamanye amazwe (umbono omubi wedethi yokuqala, ngiyazi. A...anginazaba. Ngangingafuni ukubuka ukuhlulwa kuka-Elizabeth Warren yedwa, Kulungile?).

Umqondo wokuzama ukungena kuyo yonke leyo milayezo esabekayo yokuqala ukuhlangabezana nayo ucishe ungithathele lonke uthando lwami. Ngakho-ke ngenkathi ngimatanise nenqwaba yabafana ku-Hinge ne-Bumble, inqubo yokufika kulelo phuzu elithi "ake sixoxe ngevidiyo" ayingijabulisi kangangokuthi ngiye ngezinsuku ezintathu kuphela zokuqala zevidiyo. Futhi oyedwa kuphela walabo owayenomuntu engimfanise naye ngemuva kokuvalelwa yedwa. Noma kunjalo, nangu umonakalisi: Kuze kube manje, kubonakala kufanelekile ukuhlupheka. (Okuhlobene: Ukuqomisana Izinhlelo zokusebenza for Health and Fitness Abathanda)

Izinsuku Zami Zokuqala Zevidiyo

Usuku 1: I-Stateside Baker

Usuku lokuqala lwalunomngani womngani. Masimbize ngokuthi uDave. Uhlala eMaryland, okuyisifunda engingazimisele ukusivakashela njengamanje. Kepha kungukuhlukaniswa, akunjalo? Akufanele size sibone abantu abasemadolobheni ethu, ngisho noma behlala ngaphesheya komgwaqo, ingasaphathwa eyokuthandana nabo. Lokho kusho ukuthi kunjalo wonke umuntu ayithandeki ngokwendawo.

Ngibhekane noDave ovela ku-iPad yami ophahleni lwebhilidi lami, ebengicabanga ukuthi kuzoba ingemuva eliheha kakhulu kunodonga olumhlophe qwa egumbini lami lokulala. Kepha njengoba kuvela, mina noDave siyakuthanda ukubhaka, futhi njengoba engumsizi wezomthetho futhi ngichithe iminyaka embalwa njengentatheli yobugebengu, bekukuningi ebesingakhuluma ngakho. Ingxoxo igeleza kalula. Angazi ukuthi bengilindele ukuthi idethi yokuqala yevidiyo izothatha isikhathi esingakanani, kodwa angizange ngicabange ukushona kwelanga ngokushesha lapho ngiqagela ukuthi ukukhanya kwemvelo kuzongenza ngibukeke kangcono kuvidiyo. Ngenkathi ngifiphala esifanekisweni somthombo ongaziwa embukisweni wobugebengu bangempela, ngawunqamula kabi ngabe sengivalelisa. Ngenkathi singakamiseli usuku lwesibili, uDave wabonakala emuhle, umuntu engingathanda ukuhlanganyela naye empilweni yangempela. Siqhubeke nokuthumelelana imiyalezo ngamaphrojekthi wethu wokubhaka ngokuhlukaniswa okungahleliwe, engikujabulele.

Usuku 2: I-American Local

Usuku lwami lwesibili lokuqala nganginomfana ovela e-U.S. Owayehlala eMexico City. Sizombiza ngokuthi uBrad. Umlando wakhe weHinge uthi ufuna "intombazane engajwayelekile" "engeke ibalekele impikiswano enempilo." Njengokulindelekile, umugqa wami wokuvula ubuhlanya wawuthi, "Hola! Owayengukaputeni wenkulumompikiswano esikoleni samabanga aphezulu ubika emsebenzini." Wathatha isicupho, kwathi lapho sivuma ukuxoxa ngevidiyo ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kamuva, wathumela isimemo sangempela ekhelini lami le-imeyili ngesixhumanisi se-Zoom — nesikhathi sokugcina. Lokhu bekuzoba usuku lwemizuzu engama-30. Ngokushesha ngaphambi kokungena, uthumele umyalezo ukusikisela ukuthi singachithi isikhathi silungiselela ucingo. "Woza njengoba unjalo," esho, "futhi sizonikezana ithuba lokungabaza ukuthi ngokuvamile sizobukeka kangcono ngamaphesenti angu-20-30 ezifundazweni zethu ezingezona ze-apocalypse ezinezinwele ezijwayelekile, izimonyo, njll." Ngavuma—kodwa ngashintsha ngokushesha ngakhipha noma iyiphi ingubo yasendlini engangiyigqokile ngagqoka ingubo empintshayo, emnyama.

Sixoxe ngomsebenzi wethu, ngohambo lwethu, ngezifundo azenzayo njengamanje. Usuku lwethu olusemthethweni luphele ngesifingqo socingo: Ngiyathakazelisa, kusho uBrad, noma okungenani ngikwazi ukuzenza njalo. Ungithola ngimuhle (ngiyabonga, isici se-Zoom touch-up). Kufanele senze usuku olukude ngokwenhlalo, uqobo, wathi (ngenqabile ngenxa yokwesaba ukudluliswa okungenzeka), futhi savuma ukuxoxa futhi maduzane. UBrad wayemuhle. Wayethakasela. Uphakamise ukuthi sizame izidakamizwa ze-psychedelic ndawonye, ​​ngaphandle, ku-Zoom, njengenye indlela yokuhambahamba epaki. (Ngakwenqaba nalokhu, okwadumaza abanye abangane ababengikhuthaza ukuba ngihambe ngiyolanda ucingo futhi ngiqophe ucingo.) Ukube izikhathi zazihlukile, ngangingase ngivume ukuhlangana ukuze ngidle isidlo sakusihlwa, ukuze ngibone ukuthi wayekhona yini ongenayo. Inhlansi yomuntu engakwazi ukudluliswa yi-Zoom. Kepha imibhalo yethu ibilokhu ingajwayelekile selokhu safona, engizozisola ngayo, futhi izingxoxo zethu ziye zadideka kakhulu.

Idethi yesi-3: I-Londoner ezenzakalelayo

Usuku lwesithathu, kuze kube manje, lubonakala luyintelezi. Kwakuyinto yokuzenzakalela, yemvelo kakhulu, ethembisa kakhulu, futhi engenakwenzeka kakhulu: Hhayi nje kuphela ukuthi sihlukaniswe ngokuhlukaniswa, kodwa futhi noLwandlekazi i-Atlantic. Simatanisile noHinge ngoFebhuwari, emasontweni amabili ngaphambi kokuthi ahlele ukuvakashela iMexico City evela eLondon. Kodwa ngosuku afika ngalo lapha kwakuwusuku engaqala ngalo ukukhathazeka kakhulu nge-COVID-19, ngosuku olulandelayo ngemuva kokuthi nginqume ukuthi ngangizophuma ngiye kumuntu wami wokugcina enganginaye nabangane (inothi: lelo sonto, amacala aqinisekisiwe eMexico ayesekhona kumadijithi aphindwe kabili ezweni lonke). Ukuya kosuku nomuntu owayesanda kufika evela ezweni elithintekile kwabonakala kuwumqondo omubi, ngakho ngenqaba ukuhlangana. Wabuyela e-UK ngokungazelelwe, njengoba kwenza abahambi abaningi ngalelo sonto, futhi ngacabanga ukuthi yilokho. Kepha-ke umnqamulajuqu wami walendaba wasondela masinyane futhi ngangisalelwe usuku olulodwa kunhloso yami, futhi ngacabanga, kungani kungenjalo. Mhlawumbe lokhu kungaba yindilinga ehlekisayo ebengiyilindele.

Ngaphandle kokumhlukanisela ngamhlazisa ngemiyalezo ye-Instagram, wavuma, futhi ngokuzenzekelayo saqala ingxoxo yevidiyo ye-Instagram phakathi nosuku lweviki. Ingxoxo yahamba sengathi sesike sahlangana, futhi imizuzu engu-45 yadlula. Sakhuluma ngemindeni yethu, ukuhamba, ipolitiki, ukupheka, kanye nesizungu ngesikhathi sokuvalelwa. Wakhipha ucingo lwakhe ngefasitela ngesikhathi iLondon iqala injabulo yasebusuku yabasebenzi bezempilo ukuze nami ngiyizwe, futhi kwakujabulisa ukubona umoya wakhe ukhanya lapho ejoyina. Ngangidabukile ukunqamula ucingo lwethu lapho iseli lami elaligulela ukufa. ibhethri lefoni lingikhumbuze ukuthi ngidinga ukubuyela emsebenzini. Isikhathi esingaphezu kwesonto kamuva, ikholi yethu yesibili yevidiyo (futhi ezenzekelayo), yathatha amahora amathathu. Sekube khona owesithathu nowesine. 'Anginankinga ngokuvakashela eLondon uma konke sekuphelile,' ngihlala ngicabanga. 'Izaba ezinjani engingazibekela zona?' Leyo hhayi lapho bengilindele ukuthi le vidiyo yokuphola inselele ingithathe.

Izindlela zokuthatha

Ukube imihlangano yethu yokuqala ibisempilweni yangempela, kungenzeka ukuthi ngihambe izinsuku eziningi nomunye walaba bantu. Kepha kubonakala kucace kimi manje ukuthi ukubheka amathumbu okulula kuyindlela engcono yokunquma ukuthi ungaya kanjani phambili lapho uthandana nhlobo. Ngabe uyayizwa imizuzu ukuthi iyadlula, noma ngabe ushintsha izihloko zezingxoxo esimweni sokugeleza futhi wethuke ukuthola ukuthi kudlule isikhathi esingakanani? Ngabe umagange ukuhlela ucingo lwesibili, noma ingabe uzithola uhlehlisa? Ingabe funa ukuphinde ubabone? Ngabe izwakala ilula? Uma impendulo kuyo yonke le mibuzo inguyebo, iya kumjikelezo wesibili. (Okuhlobene: Izinto ezi-5 Wonke Umuntu Okumele Azazi Ngocansi Nokuqomisana, Ngokusho Kwe-Relationship Therapist)

Okwamanje angikwazi ukusho ukuthi ukuvalela umuntu oyedwa kuzoholela kunoma yini empilweni yangempela. Kodwa mhlawumbe inzuzo "yokuqomisana" ngokuvalelwa yedwa ukuthi kungenzeka ukuzuza ukusondelana okujulile ngokomzwelo isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba ucansi lwengeze ungqimba lobunkimbinkimbi. Futhi ngubani owaziyo-mhlawumbe, uma lokhu sekuphelile, kuzoba nengqondo ukugcina izinsuku zamavidiyo azungeze. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukuphuma ngezinsuku eziningi zokudla kwakusihlwa kudinga isikhathi esiningi, amandla, nemali (futhi mhlawumbe futhi kuyancipha). Kungani ungahloli amanzi kuqala ungakashebi ngisho nemilenze yakho?

Idethi Yokuqala Ebonakalayo Ongayenza Nokungamele Uyenze

Angiyena uchwepheshe, kodwa ngingakutshela ukuthi lezi zinsuku ezimbalwa zokuqala zengxoxo yevidiyo zingifundise okuningi mayelana nokuthi kanjani (nokuthi kanjani hhayi)ukwenza lokhu kube yinto efanelekile. Ngiyethemba, izifundo zami zingakusiza ukuthi weqe uye phambili ezintweni ezinhle.

1. Ingabe thola indawo ethule, eyimfihlo yokuxoxa. Ukuvula umlandeli ekamelweni lakho kungadala umsindo omhlophe onikeza ubumfihlo obuningi, bese uphumela esinyathelweni sakho sangaphambili, kuvulandi, egcekeni, ukuphunyuka emlilweni, noma ekhoneni elithulile lendawo yangakini nakho kungakunika lokho kuthula kwengqondo.
2. Ungenzi thumela isimemo sekhalenda esinesikhathi sokuphela. Hlela kusengaphambili ngesikhathi "nendawo," okusho i-FaceTime vs. Zoom vs. Google Hangouts vs. HouseParty (qiniseka ukuthi igumbi lakho "likhiyiwe" ukuze abangane abangahleliwe bangagijimi bengaziswanga), kodwa zama ukuthembana ukuthi ingathola ukuthi ungavela kanjani ngaphandle kokudinga ukushaya u- "accept" kusimemo se-iCal.
3. Ingabe cabanga ukuthi uma uhleli ngaphandle, futhi uxoxa kusihlwa, ilanga lingashona kuwe.
4. Ingabe cabanga ngezinto ezikude nomphakathi eningazenza ndawonye cishe. I-Airbnb inokuhlangenwe nakho okusha okuku-inthanethi okukuvumela ukuthi uthathe cishe isigaba se-yoga nge-Olimpiki noma isigaba sokupheka esinomndeni oyizinkulungwane zamamayela kude. I-Google Arts & Culture inezinkulungwane zamamyuziyamu amaqoqo awo "ongakwazi ukuwavakashela" ngokuskena okuphezulu kwemidwebo edume kakhulu emhlabeni kanye nohambo lwama-360 lwamagalari.Uma uhlala emadolobheni ahlukene noma ezindaweni ezingomakhelwane, cabanga ukwenza uhambo lokuhamba nge-FaceTime olukude.
5. Ungenzi gcina ukuthandana nomuntu ngevidiyo ngenxa yesithukuthezi. Uma uzithola udonsa kanzima ukuqhubeka nengxoxo noma wesaba usuku olumisile, cishe kuwuphawu lokuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuqhubeka.
6. Ingabe landelani omunye komunye ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ngaphambi kokuxoxa, uma nobabili nisebenza kungxenyekazi enikeziwe. Lokhu kungakunika iwindi ezimpilweni zomunye nomunye ukuthumelelana imiyalezo nokuhluleka ukukuveza. Kungase kukusize ukwenze nobabili nizizwe nikhululekile, kufane nokuthi senivele nahlangana kunokuthi nizongena kulamakhaza.
7. Ingabe qiniseka ukuthi uzizwa ukhululekile kulokho okugqokile. Nakuba abantu abaningi bejabulela i-Zooming pantless, mina ngokwami ​​angikwazi ukuzithatha ngokungathi sína uma ngizwa sengathi ngigqoke imvunulo, okuyinto ebonakala sengathi kimina uma ngigqoke izinto ezingahambisani nhlobo phezulu nangaphansi. Nakuba ngingeke ngincome ukuya enkingeni yokushefa imilenze yakho ukuze uthole i-FaceTime esifubeni, ngingancoma ukugqoka ngendlela obungenza ngayo uma uphuma ngempela, ukukusiza ukuthi ungene kulowo mqondo.

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