Kusho Ukuthini I-Polysexual?

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• Kusho Ukuthini I-Polysexual?
• I-Polysexual vs. Pansexual, Omnisexual, kanye ne-Bisexual
• I-Polyamory vs. Polysexual
• Ukuhlola i-Polysexuality
• Buyekeza kwe-

Kulabo abangahambisani nobudlelwano obunamandla, ubungqayizivele, yisikhathi esimnandi sokuphila. Umqondo wobulili obugijima i-gamut awuyona into entsha, njengoba ukwenzile njengoba nje abantu besemhlabeni, kodwa umphakathi wanamuhla usufinyelele endaweni lapho, uma ufuna, ungabeka igama elinembile kunoma yikuphi ukuthambekela kobulili noma ubunikazi bobulili.

Izizukulwane zangaphambili zazingenakho ukunethezeka okufanayo. Yize amatemu anjalo abekhona isikhashana, amalebula amaningi awatholanga ukumelwa noma inhlonipho ebekufanele ngokuphelele - ngokwesibonelo, thatha i-pansexual, ebingaziwa emphakathini jikelele kuze kube yilapho uMiley Cyrus ekhonjwa njenge-pansexual ngo-2015. okufanayo kungashiwo nge-polysexual, igama elaqala ukusetshenziswa ngawo-1920, kodwa azange lifinyelele ezingeni elivamile kuze kube ngu-1974, lapho uNoel Coppage ebhalela indatshana. Ukubuyekezwa kwe-Stereo lapho ebhekisela khona uDavid Bowie, phakathi kwabanye, njengo-polysexual. Ngaleso sikhathi, i-Coppage yafaka leli gama nge-asexual, bisexual, kanye ne-pansexual, okunganembile impela.

Ngakho kusho ukuthini ukuba polysexual, ngempela? Nakhu konke odinga ukukwazi.

Kusho Ukuthini I-Polysexual?

Uma ujwayelene kakhulu - noma kuphela ajwayelekile - ngegama elithi "polyamory," kungase kubonakale sengathi kuhambisana nokuthandana kwabantu abaningi bobulili obufanayo, kodwa akunjalo. Owokuqala wuhlobo lobudlelwano obungashadanga nobunye lapho umuntu ehlanganyela ebuhlotsheni obungaphezu koyedwa, kanti okwakamuva kungukuya ocansini.

"Njengazo zonke izimo zobulili kanye namagama obunikazi bobulili, incazelo okuyiyona yona [yobulili obufanayo] ingase ihluke kuye ngokuthi ubani ozichazayo kanye/noma ozihlonzayo," kusho uthisha wezocansi oyinqaba u-Gabrielle Kassel, ongumhleli we-Bad In Bed: I-Podcast Yezemfundo Yezocansi yaseQueer. "Isiqalo 'i-poly' sisho abaningi noma abaningi. Ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile, umuntu onobulili obufanayo uyavuma ukuthi angakwazi ukuheha ngothando, ngokocansi, kanye / noma ngokomzwelo kwabobulili obuhlukahlukene."

Kukhona nefulegi le-polysexual, elinemivimbo emithathu evundlile yombala: opinki, oluhlaza okotshani, noluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, kusuka phezulu kuye phansi.

Ukubukeka kwe-polysexual akubekwanga etsheni. Kuhluka kumuntu nomuntu, kuye ngokuthi ubani abakhangwa nguye, okuphinde kube yinto engashintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. "Umuntu oyedwa onobungqingili angahehwa ngabantu besilisa, abantu abangahambisani kanambambili, nabantu abathanda ubulili," kusho uKassel. "Ngenkathi omunye umuntu angahehwa ngabantu besilisa, besifazane, kanye nabangewona abambalwa." (Bheka: Kusho Ukuthini Ngempela Ukungabi Umambambili)

Ngamanye amazwi, ayikho enye indlela yokuba ne-polysexual.

I-Polysexual vs. Pansexual, Omnisexual, kanye ne-Bisexual

Kungaba nzima ukuqonda umehluko phakathi kwala magama. Yize zonke ziyizici zocansi futhi zingabelana ngokufana okuthile - okungukuthi, zonke zichaza izimilo zocansi ezisho ukuthi umuntu ukhangwa okungenani ubulili obubili - basahlukene komunye nomunye.

Ubungqingili: Ama-Bisexual ngokuvamile agxila ekuthambekeni kwawo ngokobulili ngaphakathi kobuningi bobulili babo nobunye ubulili, kusho uTiana GlittersaurusRex, uthisha we-polyamorous nesishoshovu, futhi ongumsunguli we-The Sex Work Survival Guide. Ubungqingili bungabonakala njengendlela yobungqingili ngoba buchaza ukukhanga kwabobulili obungaphezu koyedwa.

Ubungqingili: Khonamanjalo, "i-pansexual isho ukuheha ngokocansi kunoma ngubani ngaphandle kokubheka ubulili bakhe ngaphezu kobunambambili besilisa nabesifazane." Lokhu kuheha, kuchaza uKassel, kwenzelwa "abantu kuyo yonke imikhakha yezobulili." Kulabo abathandana nabobulili obufanayo, ubulili abudlali ndawo ekuheheni kwabo umuntu. Kunalokho, babheka ngalé kobulili, bathola ukuthi ukukhanga kwabo kusekelwe ebuntwini bomuntu, ekuhlakanipheni kwabo, indlela ababona ngayo umhlaba, umuzwa wabo wokuhlekisa, indlela abaphatha ngayo abantu, nezinye izici zokuba umuntu ukwabelana nalo Mhlaba nabanye abantu. izidalwa. Ubungqingili bePansexualism buhlukile kobu-polysexuality ngoba abantu abakhomba njenge-polysexual bangakhangwa abanye - kepha hhayi bonke - izinkulumo zobulili, futhi kungahle kuholele lezo zinkulumo ekukhangeni kwabo uma kuqhathaniswa nokuhehwa kothile kungakhathalekile ubulili. (Kuhlobene: Isikhathi 'se-Schitt's Creek' Esenza u-Emily Hampshire Abone ukuthi Uyi-Pansexual)

Omnisexual: Yize kwehlukile, omnisexual (isiqalo "omni" okusho "konke"), kusafana nokuba pansexual. Lapho umehluko ulele khona kulokhu kuthambekela kobulili okubili "kungenxa yokuqaphela ngokugcwele ubulili bomlingani, esikhundleni sokuba nobumpumputhe bobulili," kusho i-GlittersaurusRex. Lokhu kukwazi kobulili okwehlukanisa ubungqingili nobungqingili ngaphezu kwakho konke. Futhi ukuthanda ubulili obuhlukene kuhlukile ekubeni abantu abaningi abathandana nabobulili obuhlukile ngokuthi abantu abahlonza njengabobulili obuhlukene bangase bakhangwe abantu abaningi - kodwa hhayi bonke - ubulili.

I-Polyamory vs. Polysexual

Yebo, isiqalo esithi "poly" sigcina incazelo yaso yokuthi "abaningi" noma ngabe ukhuluma nge-polyamory noma i-polysexuality, kepha umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwalokhu ukuthi i-polyamory iwukuqondana kobudlelwano, futhi i-polysexual iyindlela yezocansi. Ukuya ocansini yilokho okuheha ngokocansi, kanti ubuhlobo bobudlelwano luhlobo lobudlelwano okhetha ukuzibandakanya nabo.

"Umuntu owenza izinto ezinamakhono amaningi unamandla okuthanda abantu abaningi ngasikhathi sinye, futhi ukhetha ukuzibandakanya ebudlelwaneni obunesimilo, nobuqotho lapho ukuzibandakanya, ukuhlakulela, nokuthanda abantu abaningi ngasikhathi sinye kuvunyelwe (futhi kuyakhuthazeka!)," Kusho uKassel . Noma ngubani, kungakhathalekile ukuthi bathanda ini ngokobulili - kufaka phakathi, kepha kungagcini kwabesilisa abathandana nabobulili obufanayo - angaba yisithunzi. (Okuhlobene: Nakhu Okuthi Ubudlelwano bePolyamorous Empeleni Buyikho - nokuthi Yini Okungeyona)

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, labo abathandana nabobulili obuhlukile bangazithola bekunoma yiluphi uhlobo lobudlelwano, njengoba ukukhetha ubulili nobudlelwano akuhlanganise lutho nomunye, noma ngabe kuhambisana ngezikhathi ezithile.

"Abantu abathandana nobulili obuthe xaxa bangaba indoda eyodwa, i-monogam-ish, i-polyamorous, noma yimuphi omunye ubudlelwano," kusho uKassel. (Okuhlobene: Yini i-Ethical Non-Monogamy, futhi ingabe ingakusebenzela?)

Ukuhlola i-Polysexuality

Njengoba noma yimuphi uchwepheshe wezocansi ezokutshela, ubukhulu bezindlela zokuya ocansini akuyona nje ende kakhulu, kepha ungayisilayisha futhi uyibeke phansi kuyo yonke impilo yakho. (Lo mqondo uyinto encane ebizwa ngokuthi uketshezi kwezocansi.) Yikuphi ukuma okuso eminyakeni yethu yama-20 okungenzeka kungafani nalokhu okhomba kuye eminyakeni yethu yama-30 - futhi kungashiwo okufanayo ngobudlelwano bobudlelwano. Njengoba ukhula njengomuntu, ungaba nelukuluku lokwazi, okuncamelayo kungavela, futhi ngezinye izikhathi lokho kungaholela kwezinye izifiso, kokubili ebuhlotsheni nasezingeni lezocansi. Ngakho-ke, uma ngaphambilini uke wakhomba njengokunye, kodwa uzizwe ubizwa ngegama elithi "polysexual," khona-ke zizwe ukhululekile ukuhlola.

"Njenganoma yikuphi ukuthanda ezocansi, ukuvuswa kwakho kanye nesifiso sakho kunquma ukuthi ungowobulili obufanayo yini," kusho uGlittersaurusRex. Cabangela ukubheka ezincwadini namaphodikasti ahlobene nokuthanda ubulili abaningi, kanye nokulandela othisha abangabazi ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, ukuze ufunde kabanzi futhi ubone ukuthi kubukeka kanjani kumongo.

Vele, akekho umuntu othanda ucansi noma owobudlelwano obungcono kunanoma yimuphi omunye. Kuyavunywa, umuntu angase amsebenzele kangcono othile, kodwa lokho kungashiwo ngezinto eziningi ekuphileni. Kuyindaba nje yokuthi, lapha nalapha, ubone ukuthi yini okulungele kahle izifiso zakho zobulili nobudlelwano, futhi uncike kuyo. (Funda futhi: Kungani Ngenqaba Ukuqamba Ubulili Bami)

Ubumnandi obuningi empilweni bususelwa ekuziphatheni kwakho ngokobulili kanye / noma nobudlelwano, futhi izinkomba ezihlukile zingakunikeza izindlela ezintsha zokuzwa uthando nokwaneliseka kwezocansi. Konke kumayelana nokuhlola ukuthi yini ekwenza ujabule futhi uzivumele udlulele kuleyo njabulo ngisho noma ingena emanzini amasha nangenawashi.

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