Esikushoyo Ngempela Uma Sibiza Abantu Ngamafutha

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• Inganekwane # 1: Ukuba mncane = isimo nengcebo.
• Okuyiqiniso: Isisindo sikhulu kakhulu kunemali.
• Inganekwane # 2: Amafutha = ukuntuleka kokuvelela noma ugqozi.
• Iqiniso: Izinjongo zikhulu kunezinga.
• Inganekwane # 3: Abesifazane abakhuluphele abazazisi, ngakho-ke nathi asifanele sibazise.
• Iqiniso: Ukuzethemba akukalwa ngamaphawundi.
• Inganekwane #4: Abantu abakhuluphele abajabulile.
• Okuyiqiniso: Isisindo asisho lutho mayelana nokuphila kahle.
• Nakhu ukuthi singashintsha kanjani.
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Ziningi izinhlamba ongaziphosela umuntu. Kodwa eyodwa abesifazane abaningi abangavuma ukuthi ukusha kakhulu "ngamafutha."

Kuphinde kuvame ngendlela emangalisayo. Cishe amaphesenti angama-40 abantu abakhuluphele ngokweqile babhekana nokwahlulelwa, ukugxekwa, noma ukuhlazeka okungenani kanye ngesonto, ngokusho kocwaningo olwenziwe ngonyaka ka-2015 kubantu abangaphezu kuka-2 500 yiSlimming World, uhlelo lokuncipha kwesisindo olususelwa e-UK (ngokufana neWeather Watchers yethu ).Lokho kufaka yonke into kusuka ekubeni nabantu ongabazi abajikijele ngenhlamba nokungakwazi ukukhonzwa endaweni yokucima ukoma. Yini enye, phambilini abantu abakhuluphele ngokweqile babike ukuthi ngesimo sabo esinciphile, abantu abangabazi babekwazi ukubheka iso, ukumamatheka, nokubingelela.

Ngokudabukisayo, besingayidingi ngempela inhlolovo ukuze isitshele lokhu. Noma ngubani obeke unyawo ebaleni lokudlala noma oke wakwi-Intanethi uyazi igama elithi "amanoni" wukuthuka-kungakhathalekile ukuthi umuntu ukala kangakanani empeleni. I-Twitter trolls iguqula leli gama njengokuthi u-P. Diddy enze amaphathi ngawo-'90s. Futhi noma ngabe uyisakhamuzi esingesona isiqhwaga futhi esihle semidiya yezokuxhumana, wake wawuthola umuzwa wokwaneliseka omncane lapho i-ex yakho noma i-nemesis yesikole samabanga aphezulu ifaka amakhilogremu ambalwa?

Singase sizitshele ukuthi inhlamba ekhuluphele iwukukhathazeka ngempilo yabantu, kodwa masingazenzisi. Ngabe iziqhwaga ziyabakhathalela ngempela impilo lapho bethuka abantu ngenxa yesisindo sabo? (Ubuxhwanguxhwangu bunemiphumela elimazayo empilweni, ngakho-ke akunjalo.) Futhi ukube bekunjalo, bebengeke yini ababhemayo bagwenywe ngendlela efanayo? Ukubhema kuyingozi empilweni yakho, akunjalo?

Abanye bangaphikisa ukuthi konke kwehla ngezinga lethu lobuhle. Kodwa inkinga yaseMelika ngalabo abakhuluphele idlulela kakhulu, ijule kakhulu kunalokho. Phela, uma konke bekumayelana nalokho umphakathi okubona kukuhle, kungani ungazondi abantu ngenxa yokuqubuka noma imibimbi ngendlela efanayo? Yebo, akufanele sithuke abantu konke, kodwa iphuzu liwukuthi, lokhu kungaphezu nje kwamaphawundi.

"I-fat iyinhlamba enkulu ngenxa yemicabango ekhona," kusho uSamantha Kwan, Ph.D., uprofesa wesayensi yezokuhlalisana kwabantu eNyuvesi yaseHouston kanye nombhali osebenzisana naye. Amafreyimu Wokwakha: Ukuncintisana Kokwakhiwa Kwamasiko Esimanje. Ngokubheka nje ukubukeka kothile, senza ukucabanga ngesimo sakhe, izinga lokugqugquzela, ukulinganisela okungokomzwelo, nokubaluleka okujwayelekile njengomuntu. Futhi kuya ngokujula kunokujula kwezinkambiso zamasiko zobuhle. Nansi imibono emine evamile-kanye nokuthi kungani injalo. Ngoba ukuqonda inkinga kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuyilungisa.

Inganekwane # 1: Ukuba mncane = isimo nengcebo.

Esikhathini eside emlandweni, ukukhuluphala kwakuwuphawu lokuceba nokondleka kahle. Kepha maphakathi nekhulu le-19, lokho kwaqala ukushintsha. Umsebenzi waba ngomshini futhi wawunganyakazi, futhi kwakhiwa izitimela, okwenza ukudla kufinyeleleke kalula kuwo wonke umuntu, kuchaza u-Amy Farrell, Ph.D., uprofesa wezifundo zabesifazane, ubulili, nezocansi eDickinson College kanye nombhali wezincwadi. I-Fat Shame: I-Stigma kanye ne-Fat Body Esikweni LaseMelika. “Ngesikhathi ukalo lwezintambo lukhula ezweni lonke, umzimba omncane waba wuphawu lokuphucuka, futhi leyo mibono iye yahlala kithi,” usho kanje.

Okuyiqiniso: Isisindo sikhulu kakhulu kunemali.

"Kunombono ogxile kakhulu ekutheni ukuze uhlonipheke noma uphucuke, awukwazi ukuba namafutha," kusho uFarrell. Silinganisa ikhono lokuthenga ukudla okunempilo njengokunethezeka kwabacebile, futhi ukuba mncane sekube uphawu lwesimo ngoba udinga isikhathi nemali yokuya ejimini uyopheka ekuqaleni. Siyazi ukuthi isisindo sikhulu kakhulu kunemali-kukhona ufuzo, amahomoni, isayensi yezinto eziphilayo, ingqondo. Kodwa ukudumisa ukuzaca ngoba othile usezinqobile zonke lezi zinto kuwukuncoma ngempela umuntu ngokuba nesikhathi esikhululekile sokunikela ekuphathweni komzimba, kusho uFarrell.

Okuningi kwalokhu kunengqondo kubuyela kulokho esakufunda kumabhoklolo ebuntwaneni. "Ukwenza izahlulelo kusebenza kahle ekuhlanganiseni amandla. Uma usesikoleni samabanga aphansi, uma uyingane elite ekilasini, abantu bakunaka ngenkathi uhlekisa izingane ezinamandla amancane kwezenhlalo. Ukhomba bese uthi, 'Labo abantu abaphansi, 'nezinye izingane ziyalalela, "kwengeza uFarrell.

Inganekwane # 2: Amafutha = ukuntuleka kokuvelela noma ugqozi.

Sonke sike sezwa umqondo wokuthi wonke umuntu angalahlekelwa isisindo uma nje bezama kanzima-bedla kancane, bezivocavoca kakhulu. “Abantu bacabanga ukuthi labo abakhuluphele abanawo amandla okushintsha imizimba yabo,” kusho uKwan. "Izinkulumo zethu zamasiko zigcizelela izinkolelo-mbono zokuthi abantu abakhuluphele bayavilapha, abazivocavoci, futhi bamatasa nokusetshenziswa kokudla. Bacatshangelwa njengabantu abangakwazi ukuzithiba, njengabantu abahahayo, abanobugovu nabanganaki." Abantu abakhuluphele bazitika ngezifiso zobugovu, umona, ukuminza, nobuvila kusho umphakathi.

Umlando omkhulukazi, nokho, ukuthi ukukhuluphala kuncane kukho konke abantu baseMelika abaziqhenyayo ngokulwela nokusebenzela impilo engcono. Ngakho-ke yize ukukhuluphala ngokweqile kungumMelika, ukuthwala isisindo "esingeziwe" kusongela imibono emibili yaseMelika kunayo yonke: ukuthi ngokuzikhandla ngokwanele, noma ngubani angathuthukisa ukuma kwabo empilweni, nokuthi bonke abantu baseMelika banalo leli phupho elihlangene laseMelika.

Iqiniso: Izinjongo zikhulu kunezinga.

Okokuqala, kucatshangwa ukuthi wonke umuntu unomgomo ofanayo-wokuba mncane-lapho inhloso ehlakaniphile kufanele ibe nempilo. Ukukhuluphala ngokweqile kuyimbangela yesibili yokufa kwabantu kuleli ikakhulukazi ngenxa yokuthi kwandisa amathuba okuthola ezinye izifo eziyingozi njengesifo senhliziyo, isifo sohlangothi, isifo sikashukela sohlobo 2 neminye imidlavuza. Kodwa olunye ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi akunjalo isisindo lokho kwandisa lobu bungozi njengokungasebenzi, futhi kukhona abantu abakhuluphele ngokweqile abaphile saka kunabantu abazacile. (Bona okuningi: Yini isisindo esinempilo noma kunjalo?)

Bese kuba nomqondo wokuthi isisindo sakho silawulwa ngokuphelele, noma ngabe ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ngokomzimba imizimba yethu ingathanda ukubambelela emafutheni kunokuyiyeka, kusho uFarrell. Futhi lo mqondo wabantu abakhuluphele abangenaso isisusa futhi uthatha ukuthi abantu abakhuluphele kakhulu banesikhathi esiningi samahhala abakhetha ukusichitha kusofa. Eqinisweni, kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi isisindo ngeke nje sigudluke.

Inganekwane # 3: Abesifazane abakhuluphele abazazisi, ngakho-ke nathi asifanele sibazise.

"Siphila emphakathini wokwenza Ushintsho olungcono lapho abantu, kodwa ikakhulukazi abesifazane, kulindeleke ukuthi bachithe isikhathi, imali namandla omzimba nawokomzwelo ukuze bazenze 'abahle," kusho uKwan. "Lena umbhalo wethu wamasiko." Njengoba abezindaba sebesihlasele ngesigamu sekhulu leminyaka elidlule ngombono wokuthi okudingekayo nje ukudla kancane nokuzivocavoca okwengeziwe, lokhu kufanele kusho ukuthi izintokazi ezinkulu azikhathaleli ngokwanele ukuthi zisebenzise amandla nezinsiza zokunciphisa umzimba, akunjalo?

Iqiniso: Ukuzethemba akukalwa ngamaphawundi.

Nakuba ukudla nokuzivocavoca ngokuqinisekile kuyizici ezimbili ezithonya ukuzuza kwesisindo, kunjalo nenqwaba yezinto ezikhona phuma esilawula khona ngokushesha: izakhi zofuzo, isisindo sokuzalwa, isisindo sobuntwana, ubuhlanga, ubudala, imishanguzo, amazinga engcindezi, kanye nesimo senhlalo nomnotho, ngokusho kwe-Institute of Medicine. Abacwaningi babeka ithonya lezakhi zofuzo esisindweni noma yikuphi ukusuka kumaphesenti angu-20 kuya kwangu-70, futhi ucwaningo oluyingqopha-mlando ngeminyaka yawo-'80s lwathola izingane zokutholwa ezikhuliswe ngokuhlukana nabazali bazo begazi zisagcina zinesisindo esifanayo kubo lapho sezikhulile, kunokuba zibe nesisindo esifanayo. kubazali bokutholwa ababakhulisa futhi balolongela imikhuba yabo yokudla nokuvivinya umzimba.

Okubaluleke kakhulu, nokho, ukuthi ukuzethemba akuboshelwe esisindweni, futhi isisindo asisho ngokuzenzakalelayo ukuzethemba okukhulu. Bobabili uKwan noFarrell baveza ukuthi ukuba mncane kwesinye isikhathi kungaba wumphumela wokuziphatha okungenampilo, njengokudla ukudla okuphahlazekayo nokuthatha imithi yokwelapha. Umuntu ondla umzimba nengqondo yakhe ngokudla mhlawumbe uhambisana kakhulu nenjabulo nokwaneliseka kwakhe kunomuntu ozilambisayo wokwehlisa isisindo.

Inganekwane #4: Abantu abakhuluphele abajabulile.

"Sibheka umuntu okhuluphele bese sibona umuntu ongazinakekeli, ngakho-ke akalingani ngokomzwelo futhi akaphilile," kusho uFarrell.

Ucwaningo lwakudala lukhombisa ukuthi sihlobanisa izici ezinhle nalabo abahlangabezana nezindinganiso zobuhle zesiko lethu. “Sivame ukucabanga ngomuntu omncane futhi omuhle njengomuntu onempilo nempumelelo futhi ejabule kakhulu (kungakhathalekile ukuthi lokhu kuliqiniso) kunomuntu ongakhangi ngokwesiko,” kuchaza uKwan. Ubizwa ngokuthi yi-halo nezimpondo umphumela-umqondo wokuthi ungathatha izici ezingaphatheki ngokususelwa ekubukekeni kothile. Eqinisweni, isifundo esiyingqopha-mlando kujenali Izindima zocansi wathola ukuthi abesifazane abamhlophe abancane babhekwa njengabangagcini nje ngokuba nezimpilo eziyimpumelelo, kodwa futhi nobuntu obungcono kunabesifazane abamhlophe abasindayo.

Okuyiqiniso: Isisindo asisho lutho mayelana nokuphila kahle.

Okokuqala, kunenqwaba yabesifazane abajabule ngokuphelele ngendlela ababukeka ngayo, kodwa abajabule ngendlela abaphathwa ngayo. ngoba yokuthi zibukeka kanjani-yingakho ukukhuluma ngokumelene nokuhlazeka ngamafutha kubaluleke kakhulu ukubeka irekhodi ngqo. Futhi ngenkathi abanye abantu bekhuluphala ngenxa yokuxineka noma ukudangala, abantu babuye banciphise isisindo ngoba abajabule futhi bathola isisindo lapho beneliseke kakhulu. Ngokwesibonelo, isifundo ku I-Psychology yezempilo bathola imibhangqwana eshadile ejabule yathola isisindo esikhulu kunabalingani abangazange baneliseke ngobudlelwano babo.

Futhi futhi, umsebenzi ingaqhubeka ukudlula isisindo. Abantu abazivocavoca ku-reg abacindezelekile futhi bakhathazekile, bayazethemba, banobuciko ngokwengeziwe, futhi ngokuvamile bajabule kakhulu kunabantu abanganyakazi kakhulu. Ngokuya ngempilo engokomzimba, isifundo ku Inqubekela phambili yezifo zenhliziyo bathole ukuthi abantu abalinganayo banamazinga okufa afanayo kungakhathalekile ukuthi ngabe bayisisindo "esinempilo" noma abakhuluphele ngokweqile. Ucwaningo ku I-American Journal of Cardiology yabheka ubukhulu bemisipha, amafutha omzimba, kanye nengozi yabantu yokuthola isifo senhliziyo nokufa. Bathola ukuthi ngenkathi iqembu eliphakeme lemisipha / elinamafutha amancane liyilona elinempilo kakhulu, iqembu "elilingene nelinonile" (amafutha aphezulu kodwa futhi nemisipha ephezulu) liphume isibili, phambili yeqembu elinamafutha aphansi emzimbeni kodwa engenawo umsipha (okwakuthiwa yilabo ababezacile kodwa bengasebenzi).

Nakhu ukuthi singashintsha kanjani.

Kubuhlungu futhi kuyaphoxa ukubona lokhu kucabanga okugxilile esinakho njengesiko. Kodwa kubalulekile ngempela ukukuvuma: “Le mibono iyingozi ngoba yenza kube semthethweni ukucwasa,” kusho uFarrell.

Izindaba ezimnandi? Okuningi kwalokhu kuyashintsha. Izishoshovu zamafutha ezinjengo-yogi uJessamyn Stanley nomthwebuli wezithombe onqunu uSubstantia Jones bashintsha indlela esibuka ngayo imizimba esebenzayo nenhle. U-Ashley Graham, uRobyn Lawley, uTara Lynn, uCandice Huffine, u-Iskra Lawrence, uTess Holliday, no-Olivia Campbell bayisisekelo seqhwa labesifazane abanyakazisa izindinganiso zemboni yokumodela futhi basikhumbuza konke lokho 'okuncanyana' akufanele kube ukuncoma okukhulu-nokubukisa ngomzimba ogcwele akukhona 'isibindi'. UMelissa McCarthy, uGabourey Sidibe, noChrissy Metz ngezinye nje zezinkanyezi eziveza umqondo ofanayo eHollywood.

Futhi ukuchayeka kuyasebenza: Ucwaningo olusha oluvela eNyuvesi yaseFlorida State luthole ukuthi abesifazane kungenzeka ukuthi banake futhi bakhumbule amamodeli amaphakathi nawosayizi ongeziwe uma kuqhathaniswa namamodeli azacile. Futhi ngenkathi izintokazi ezinkulu zisesikrinini, abesifazane ocwaningweni benza ukuqhathanisa okumbalwa futhi baba namazinga aphezulu okwaneliseka komzimba ngaphakathi kwabo. Omagazini, kufaka phakathi Umumo, benza umzamo omkhulu kunanini ngaphambili ukubheka umyalezo esiwenzayo mayelana nokuthi kusho ukuthini ngempela "okunempilo". Futhi into enhle, uma ucabanga isifundo ku- Ijenali Yomhlaba Wonke Yokukhuluphala bathole inkolelo yabantu yokuthi isisindo siyalawuleka, imibono ezungeze ubungozi bangempela bokukhuluphala, nokuthambekela kwabo ekubandlululeni isisindo kwakuhlobene ngqo nokuthi bayayifunda yini futhi bayayibuka imithombo yezindaba eyayinamafutha amahle noma angalungile.

Futhi, lapho kuhamba kahle ukunyakaza komzimba, ikakhulukazi ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, kulapho izwe livezwa khona ukuthi abesifazane bangempela bazo zonke izinhlobo nosayizi badla futhi bazivocavoca kanjani ukuze balondoloze incazelo yabo yobuhle. Usuku nosuku, lokhu kuvamiswa kwento ejwayelekile ngokweqiniso kusiza ukubuyisa amandla lapho abahlukumezi babecabanga ukuthi kufanele kubanjwe amagama ezinhlamvu ezintathu.

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