Kungani Siqabulana? Lokho Okushiwo Yisayensi Ngokuncibilikisa

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• Okunye ukuqabula kususelwa kokunamathiselwe
• Okunye ukuqabula kususelwa othandweni lwezithandani
• Futhi okunye ukuqabula kukhuthazwa ngocansi lwakho
• Futhi, ukuqabula (kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo) kuzwakala kumnandi nje
• Okubalulekile

Kuya ngokuthi siqabulana nobani

Abantu bafuna zonke izinhlobo zezizathu. Siqabula uthando, ngenhlanhla, ukubingelela nokuvalelisa. Kukhona futhi yonke into 'izwakala imnandi kakhulu'.

Futhi lapho ume bese ucabanga ngempela ngesenzo sokuqabula, kuyinto exakile, akunjalo? Ukucindezela izindebe zakho komunye umuntu futhi, kwezinye izimo, ukushintshanisa amathe? Kuvela ukuthi kunesayensi ethile ngemuva kwalesi similo esixakile kodwa esijabulisayo.

Kunemibono eminingi yokuthi ukuqabula kwaqala kanjani nokuthi kungani sikwenza. Abanye ososayensi bakholelwa ukuthi ukuqabula kuyindlela yokufunda efundwayo, ngoba cishe amaphesenti ayishumi abantu awaqabuli nakancane futhi aqabulana kakhulu ngenhloso yothando noma yezocansi. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi ukuqabula kungokwemvelo futhi kusekelwe kubhayoloji.

Bheka ezinye zesayensi ngemuva kokuqabula kwazo zonke izinhlobo bese ubona ukuthi ucabangani.

Okunye ukuqabula kususelwa kokunamathiselwe

Ukuqabula kubangela ukusabela kwamakhemikhali ebuchosheni bakho, kufaka phakathi ukuqhuma kwehomoni i-oxytocin. Kuvame ukubizwa ngokuthi "i-hormone yothando," ngoba kuvusa imizwa yothando nokunamathiselwa.

Ngokuya ngocwaningo lwango-2013, i-oxytocin ibaluleke kakhulu ekusizeni abesilisa ukuba babambane nomlingani wabo futhi bahlale bodwa.

Abesifazane babhekana nesikhukhula se-oxytocin ngesikhathi sokubeletha nokuncelisa, kuqinisa isibopho somama nengane.

Ekhuluma ngokondla, abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ukuqabula kwaqhamuka enkambisweni yokondla ngokwanga. Njengezinyoni ezondla amaphuphu azo, omama babevame ukondla izingane zabo ngokuhlafuna.

Okunye ukuqabula kususelwa othandweni lwezithandani

Uyazi ukuthi uphakeme uzizwa kanjani uma uphikisana nezithende ngothando olusha futhi uchitha isikhathi ushaya nabo? Lowo ngumphumela we-dopamine endleleni yomvuzo wobuchopho bakho.

I-Dopamine ikhishwa uma wenza okuthile okuzwakala kukuhle, njengokuqabula nokuchitha isikhathi nomuntu omkhangayo.

Lokhu kanye namanye "ama-hormone ajabulisayo" kukwenza uzizwe uthambile futhi uthokozile. Lapho uthola kakhudlwana la mahomoni, kulapho umzimba wakho uwafuna kakhulu. Kwabanye, lokhu kungabonakala kakhulu ekuqaleni kobudlelwano - ikakhulukazi uma isikhathi sakho esiningi sichithwa ekukhiweni kwezindebe.

Uma ungagcina ijubane elingaguquguquki lokuqabula ngemuva kwalezi zinhlayiya zokuqala, ungaqhubeka nokujabulela izinzuzo zalawo mahomoni ajabulisayo.

Ungase ube nobudlelwano obenelisa ngokwengeziwe. Ocwaningweni luka-2013, imibhangqwana ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside ebihlala iqabula ibike ukwaneliseka kobudlelwano.

Futhi okunye ukuqabula kukhuthazwa ngocansi lwakho

Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi okunye ukuqabula kuqhutshwa ngokuphelele ucansi futhi kukude ne-platonic.

Ucwaningo lwakudala lukhombisa ukuthi kwabesifazane, ukuqabula kuyindlela yokukhulisa oshade naye. Iphinde ibambe iqhaza elibalulekile esinqumweni sabo sokushaya amashidi.

Abahlanganyeli besifazane bathe mancane amathuba okuthi baye ocansini nomuntu ngaphandle kokuqabulana kuqala. Baphinde babika nokuthi umuntu angaqabula kanjani angenza noma aphule amathuba ophathina wakhe okufika esisekelweni sesithathu.

Kuphinde kwaboniswa ukuthi abesilisa bayaqabula ukwethula ama-hormone ocansi namaprotheni enza abalingani babo besifazane bakwazi ukwamukela ucansi.

Ukuqabulana komlomo nolimi kusebenza ngokukhethekile ekukhuphuleni izinga lokuvusa ucansi, ngoba kukhulisa inani lamathe akhiqizwayo futhi ashintshaniswa. Lapho ushintshanisa kakhulu, kulapho kuvulwa khona okuningi.

Futhi, ukuqabula (kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo) kuzwakala kumnandi nje

Ungabonga iziphetho eziningi zezinzwa ezindebeni zakho ngengxenye yazo ekwenzeni ukuqabulana kube mnandi kakhulu.

Izindebe zakho zinokuphela kwemizwa kunezinye izitho zomzimba wakho. Uma ubacindezela kolunye uhla lwezindebe noma ngisho nesikhumba esifudumele, kuvele kube kuhle. Hlanganisa lokho ne-cocktail yamakhemikhali ekhishwe ngesikhathi sokuqabulana, futhi uthole iresiphi eqinisekile ukukunikeza konke ukuzizwa.

Kanye ne-oxytocin ne-dopamine ekwenza uzizwe uthandwa futhi ujabule, ukuqabula kukhipha i-serotonin - elinye ikhemikhali elizizwa lihle. Iphinde yehlise amazinga e-cortisol ukuze uzizwe ukhululeke ngokwengeziwe, okwenza isikhathi esihle nxazonke.

Okubalulekile

Ukuqabula kuzizwa kukuhle futhi kwenza umzimba kahle. Kungasiza abantu bazizwe bexhunyiwe futhi baqinise izibopho zazo zonke izinhlobo.

Mane ukhumbule ukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu ofuna ukuqabulwa noma ukubona ukuqabula ngendlela owenza ngayo. Akukhathalekile ukuthi ubingelela umuntu omusha, ufaka i-bestie, noma ungena kwi-smooch sesh ngentshisekelo yezothando - kufanele ubuze njalo ngaphambi kokwenza i-smooch.

Futhi ungakhohlwa ukwenza inhlanzeko yomlomo enhle ngomlomo omusha, ofanele ukwanga.