Kungani Kulungile Ukungawuthandi Umzimba Wakho Ngezinye izikhathi, Noma Usekela Ukuphila Komzimba

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URaeann Langas, oyisibonelo kwaDenver, ungowokuqala ukukutshela ukuthi kube nomthelela omkhulu kanjani ukunyakaza okuhle komzimba kuye. "Nginenkinga yomzimba wami impilo yami yonke," esanda kutshela Umumo. "Kwaze kwaba yilapho ngiqala ukubona nokufunda ngalezi zibonelo ezintsha, ezazikhuthaza ukuzithanda ngosayizi ngamunye, lapho ngaqala khona ukubona ukuthi umzimba wami umangalisa kanjani empeleni."

Yisizathu sokuthi aqale ibhulogi yakhe, ezinikele ekufakazeni ukuthi imfashini iyimfashini, noma ngabe usayizi wakho ungakanani. "Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usayizi 2 noma 22, abesifazane bafuna (futhi bafanelwe) ukugqoka izinto ezibukeka kahle kubo futhi ezibanika amandla," usho kanje. "Ukunyakaza okuhle komzimba kusize kuphela ukuqhubekisela phambili lokho."

Lokho kushiwo, uRaeann ubuye asobala mayelana neqiniso lokuthi uthola ini Kanjani ukuthanda umzimba wakho empeleni ngempela, kunzima kakhulu-futhi ukuba nemicabango emibi nemizwa ngawe kungokwemvelo futhi kuvamile. “Ngicabanga ukuthi kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi nalabo besifazane abahlale bebhala ngokuziqhenya ngemizimba yabo banezikhathi eziningi lapho begcwele ukungabaza,” usho kanje. "Yilokho okwenzayo ngalezo zikhathi okubaluleke kakhulu."

I-blogger yemfashini eneminyaka engu-24 ubudala yalingisa leyo mizwa ekubhaleni kwakamuva kwe-Instagram lapho ivule khona isifuba ngokuthi ukuthanda umzimba wakho kuyinqubo, hhayi into eyenzeka ngobusuku obubodwa. "Baningi abantu besifazane abangibuza ukuthi bangaqala kanjani ukuthanda imizimba yabo, futhi ngihlale ngithi wuhambo impilo yonke," ubhale kanje. "Kumele usebenze ebudlelwaneni bakho nomzimba wakho nsuku zonke."

Amazwi kaRaeann okuhlakanipha akhuthazwa ukuhlangana kwakhe nomthwebuli wakhe wezithombe, uyabelana. “Uthathe isinqumo sokungivulela isifuba ngokuthi unjani endaweni lapho abone khona ukuthi umzimba wakhe uyashintsha nokuthi ubengajabule kanjani ngawo,” usho kanje. "Lokhu kungenze ngacabanga ngendlela abesifazane abazikhandla ngayo nokuthi kunzima kanjani ukulindelwa ukuthanda umzimba wakho manje futhi nakuzo zonke izigaba zayo empilweni. "

Yize kumnandi ukuthi siphila esikhathini lapho sihlale sigqugquzelwa ukuthi sizithande, kodwa okuxakayo, kungaqhamuka nengcindezi enkulu. "Kungumzabalazo oqhubekayo ukwamukela yonke ingxenye yenu," kuqhuba uRaeann. "Uma ukhuluma iqiniso kufana nje nokuba sebudlelwaneni. Ezinye izinsuku zimnandi-uyinto exakile othandweni-kodwa ezinye izinsuku zinzima futhi zidinga umsebenzi omningi."

Njengabantu, sithambekele ekuzigxekeni, kepha yilokho okwenzayo ngemuva ukuba naleyo micabango emibi okufanele ugxile kuyo. "Kunezinsuku eziningi lapho ngizibamba khona ngithi 'Hawu mama, isisu sami sibukeka kabi kule ngubo' noma ngabe siyini," kusho uRaenne. "Kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi uma ngisho into efana naleyo, ngizibekela inselelo yokuthi nami ngikhulume into eyakhayo ukuze nje ngiguqule iphimbo lengxoxo engiba nayo nami."

Ngezansi? Ukuphila kahle komzimba akulona uhambo olulandelanayo futhi akulula neze. Impela, ungahle ushelele ngesinye isikhathi uphinde ubuyele kumiyalezo enobuthi umphakathi obukuthumela impilo yakho yonke. Lokhu akukwenzi uyisehluleki, futhi akusho ukuthi unomqondo ongemuhle. Kusho nje ukuthi ungumuntu futhi lokho kulungile ngokuphelele. Njengoba uRaeann ekubeka: “Qhubeka nokujaha inzondo ngomusa nangothando ngoba amazwi anamandla, futhi ekugcineni uzobona—futhi okubaluleke nakakhulu. ukuzwa- ushintsho. "

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