Izindlela Eziyi-11 Zokukhulula Intukuthelo

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• Thatha umoya ojulile
• Yisho imantra eduduzayo
• Zama ukubona
• Hambisa umzimba wakho ngengqondo
• Hlola umbono wakho
• Veza ukukhungatheka kwakho
• Yehlisa intukuthelo ngamahlaya
• Shintsha indawo okuyo
• Bona izimbangela bese uthola ezinye izindlela
• Gxila kulokho okuthandayo
• Funa usizo

Ukulinda kolayini abade, ukubhekana namazwi we-snide avela kubantu osebenza nabo, ukushayela ngemigwaqo engapheli - konke kungaba kancane. Ngenkathi ukuthukuthela ngalezi zinto ezicasulayo zansuku zonke kuyindlela ejwayelekile yokuphendula ukucindezeleka, ukuchitha sonke isikhathi sakho ucasukile kungaba yingozi.

Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi ukuvumela intukuthelo ibambe noma ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo kulimaza ubudlelwane bakho bomuntu siqu nobungcweti. Kepha futhi kunomthelela enhlalakahleni yakho. Ukuhlala sifaka ukukhungatheka kwethu kungaholela ekuphendukeni ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, kufaka phakathi njenge-high blood pressure nokukhathazeka.

Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi ungafunda ukuphatha nokulawula ulaka lwakho ngendlela eyakhayo. Ngomunye u-2010 uthole ukuthi ukukwazi ukuveza ulaka lwakho ngendlela enempilo kungakwenza ukuthi ungabi namathuba amancane okuhlaselwa yisifo senhliziyo.

Thatha umoya ojulile

Ekushiseni kwesikhashana, kulula ukungakunaki ukuphefumula kwakho. Kepha lolo hlobo lokuphefumula okungajulile okwenzayo lapho uthukuthele kukugcina kumodi yokulwa noma yokundiza.

Ukulwa nalokhu, zama ukuthatha ukuphefumula okuhamba kancane, okulawulwayo okuhogela kusuka esiswini sakho hhayi esifubeni. Lokhu kuvumela umzimba wakho ukuthi uzitholele khona manjalo.

Ungagcina futhi lo msebenzi wokuphefumula ephaketheni lakho langemuva:

• Thola isihlalo noma indawo lapho ungahlala kahle khona, uvumele intamo namahlombe akho ukuthi akhululeke ngokuphelele.
• Phefumula ngokujulile ngamakhala akho, futhi unake ukukhuphuka kwesisu sakho.
• Khipha ngomlomo wakho.
• Zama ukwenza lo msebenzi kathathu ngosuku imizuzu emi-5 kuya kwengu-10 noma njengoba kudingeka.

Yisho imantra eduduzayo

Ukuphinda ibinzana lokuthoba umoya kungenza kube lula ukuveza imizwa enzima, kufaka phakathi ulaka nokukhungatheka.

Zama ukuphinda ngokunensa, "Thatha umoya," noma "Konke kuzolunga," ngokuzayo lapho uzizwa ukhungathekiswa yisimo. Ungakwenza lokhu ngokuzwakalayo uma ufuna, kepha futhi ungakusho ngaphansi kokuphefumula noma ekhanda lakho.

Futhi ungagcina uhlu lwemishwana efonini yakho ukuze uthole isikhumbuzi esisheshayo ngaphambi kwesethulo somsebenzi esicindezelayo noma umhlangano onzima.

Zama ukubona

Ukuthola indawo yakho ejabulisayo phakathi nokulibaziseka kwendiza noma ukubuyela emuva emsebenzini kungakusiza uzizwe ukhululekile kakhulu okwamanje.

Lapho ulwa nokungezwani okubilayo, zama ukudweba isithombe sengqondo ukuzola umzimba nengqondo yakho:

• Cabanga ngendawo yangempela noma ecatshangelwayo ekwenza uzizwe ujabulile, unokuthula futhi uphephile. Lokhu kungaba ukuthi uhambo lwamatende ezintabeni owaluthatha ngonyaka odlule noma olwandle olungajwayelekile ongathanda ukuluvakashela ngolunye usuku.
• Gxila emininingwaneni yezinzwa ngokuzibona ulapho. Ayini amaphunga, izinto esizibonayo nemisindo yazo?
• Qaphela ukuphefumula kwakho bese ugcine lesi sithombe engqondweni yakho uze uzwe ukukhathazeka kwakho kuqala ukukhuphuka.

Hambisa umzimba wakho ngengqondo

Kwesinye isikhathi, ukuhlala uthule kungakwenza uzizwe ukhathazeke kakhulu noma useqophelweni. Ukuhambisa kahle umzimba wakho nge-yoga nezinye izivivinyo zokwehlisa umzimba kungakhipha imisipha emisipheni yakho.

Ngokuzayo lapho ubhekene nesimo esicindezelayo, zama ukuhambahamba noma wenze umdanso omncane ukuze ugcine ingqondo yakho ingabikhona ekucindezelekeni.

Hlola umbono wakho

Izikhathi zokucindezeleka okuphezulu zingaphazamisa umbono wakho weqiniso, kukwenze uzizwe sengathi umhlaba uzimisele ukukuthola. Ngokuzayo lapho uzizwa uthukuthela, zama ukuhlola umbono wakho.

Wonke umuntu unezinsuku ezimbi ngezikhathi ezithile, futhi kusasa kuzoba isiqalo esisha.

Veza ukukhungatheka kwakho

Ukugqashuka ngolaka ngeke kukusize ngalutho, kepha lokho akusho ukuthi awukwazi ukudlulisa ukukhathazeka kwakho kumngani othembekile noma ilunga lomndeni ngemuva kosuku olubi kakhulu. Futhi, ukuzivumela isikhala sokuveza intukuthelo yakho kuyayivimba ukuthi ingaphuphumi ngaphakathi.

Yehlisa intukuthelo ngamahlaya

Ukuthola amahlaya ngesikhathi esivuthayo kungakusiza ugcine umbono olinganiselayo. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele umane uhlekise ngezinkinga zakho, kepha ukuzibheka ngendlela elula kungasiza.

Ngokuzayo lapho uzizwa ulaka lwakho luphuphuma, cabanga ukuthi lesi simo singabukeka kanjani kumuntu wangaphandle? Lokhu kungahlekisa kanjani kubo?

Ngokungazithathi ngokungathi sína ngokweqile, uzoba namathuba amaningi okubona ukuthi ukucasula okuncane okungabalulekile kusikimu esikhulu sezinto.

Shintsha indawo okuyo

Zinike ikhefu ngokuthatha isikhathi sakho esiseduze kwakho.

Uma ikhaya lakho liminyene futhi likucindezela, isibonelo, hamba ngemoto noma uhambe ibanga elide. Cishe uzothola ukuthi ukuhlomele kangcono ukuhlunga lapho ubuya khona.

Bona izimbangela bese uthola ezinye izindlela

Uma ukuhamba kwakho kwansuku zonke kukuguqula ube ibhola lokufutheka nokukhungatheka, zama ukuthola enye indlela noma uhambe ngaphambi kwesikhathi uye emsebenzini. Unomuntu osebenza naye omkhulu ohlale eshaya izinyawo zakhe? Bheka kuma-headphone akhansela umsindo.

Umqondo ukukhomba nokuqonda izinto ezibangela ulaka lwakho. Lapho usuzazi kahle ukuthi ziyini, ungathatha izinyathelo zokugwema ukuwela kuzwelo kubo.

Uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi ulaka lwakho luqhamukaphi, zama ukuzikhumbuza ukuthi uthathe isikhashana ngesikhathi esizayo lapho uzizwa uthukuthele. Sebenzisa lesi sikhathi ukubheka okwenzekile ezikhathini eziholela emizweni yakho yentukuthelo. Ngabe ubunomuntu othile? Wenzani? Imizwa yakho ibiholela kanjani kulowo mzuzu?

Gxila kulokho okuthandayo

Ngenkathi ukuhlala ebunzimeni bosuku lwakho kungabonakala kuyinto engokwemvelo yokwenza, ngeke kukusize esikhathini esifushane noma eside.

Esikhundleni salokho, zama ukugxila ezintweni ezihambe kahle. Uma ungakwazi ukuthola ulwelwesi lwesiliva osukwini, ungazama futhi ukucabanga ukuthi izinto kungenzeka zihambe zaba zimbi kanjani.

Funa usizo

Kujwayelekile impela futhi kunempilo ukuzizwa uthukuthele uthukuthele ngezikhathi ezithile. Kepha uma ungakwazi ukuzamazamisa isimo esibi noma uhlale uzizwa weqiwa yintukuthelo, kungahle kube yisikhathi sokucela usizo.

Uma intukuthelo yakho ithinta ubudlelwane bakho nenhlalakahle yakho, ukukhuluma nodokotela ofanelekayo kungakusiza ukuthi usebenze ngemithombo yolaka lwakho futhi kukusize ukuthi wakhe amathuluzi wokubhekana kangcono.

UCindy Lamothe yintatheli ezimele ezinze eGuatemala. Ubhala kaningi ngemiphambanandlela phakathi kwezempilo, inhlalakahle, nesayensi yokuziphatha komuntu. Ubhalelwe i-The Atlantic, New York Magazine, Teen Vogue, Quartz, The Washington Post, nezinye eziningi. Mthole ku-cindylamothe.com.