Abesifazane abayi-7 Babelana Ngeseluleko Sokuzithanda Esizedlula Zonke Abasithola Kubobaba Babo

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Uma kuziwa ekunqobeni izimpi zesithombe somzimba, sivame ukucabanga omama abaphambili-okuyinto enengqondo njengoba omama bavame ukubhekana nezinkinga ezifanayo zokuzithanda obhekana nazo. Kepha kukhona omunye umuntu ovame ukuba lapho futhi, okukhuthaza ukuthi wenze konke okusemandleni akho futhi akuthande ngale ndlela oyiyo: ubaba wakho.

Kulezi zinsuku, obaba—kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bemvelo, abatholwa, ngokushada, noma labo abathatha indima yokuba ngobaba—babaluleke kakhulu kunangaphambili emadodakazini abo. Banethonya elinamandla emsebenzini wendodakazi yabo, ubudlelwano, nokukhetha kwempilo, ngokocwaningo olwenziwa uLinda Nielsen, Ph.D., uprofesa wezengqondo yezemfundo nentsha e-Wake Forest University kanye nombhali wezincwadi. Ubudlelwano bukaBaba-Indodakazi: Ucwaningo Lwanamuhla Nezinkinga. Isibonelo esisodwa? Abesifazane kulezi zinsuku banamathuba aphindwe kathathu okulandela abo ekababa indlela yomsebenzi. Futhi akugcini ngemisebenzi; abesifazane abanobaba abahilelekile nabo mancane amathuba okuba babe nezinkinga zokudla, futhi maningi amathuba okuba benze kangcono esikoleni, kusho uDkt. Nielsen.

Amadoda anombono ohlukile—futhi nakuba singanqonqozi iseluleko sikaMama, ngezinye izikhathi isikhuthazo esinamandla, iseluleko, noma amazwi ongaphila ngawo avela kubaba wakho. Yebo, kwesinye isikhathi amadoda axhumana ngokuhlukile, ngakho-ke izeluleko zawo zingeza ngendlela engajwayelekile, kepha futhi kungaba yilokho okudingayo ukukuzwa. Ukuhlonipha ubaba omdala othandekayo, sicele abesifazane abayisishiyagalombili ukuthi babelane ngezeluleko abazitholile ezibasizile ukuthi bafunde ukuthanda imizimba yabo, bathuthukise amathalente abo, futhi bazizwe bebabazekayo ngabo.

Bona ubuhle ngaphansi kwakho konke okunye.

"Ngisemusha ngangizama ukwenza izimonyo futhi ngisakhumbula ngehla ezitebhisini nokuphendula kukababa. Wabukeka emangele wathi, 'Umuhle noma kunjani, kodwa kungani ugqoke lonke lolo pende? njengomama wakho-awudingi ukwakheka ukuze ube muhle. ' Bobabili abazali bami bafaka ukuzethemba kwangaphakathi nangaphandle kimi, kepha ubaba wami uyayithanda le ndlela yokwenza izinto ngendlela ephathekayo. "-UMeghan S., eHouston

Thola amakhono akho bese uthola ukubizwa kwakho empilweni.

"Lapho ngineminyaka engu-14, ubaba wayengishayela ekhaya futhi wangibuza ukuthi ngangike ngacabanga yini ngalokho engangifuna ukukwenza ekuphileni kwami ​​lapho ngikhula. Ngathi ngangingazi. Wabe esengitshela ukuthi wayecabanga ukuthi mina." ngibe ngumhlengikazi oncomekayo ngokuya ngemvelo yami yozwelo, ukuzwela, nengqondo esheshayo. Amagama akhe anomusa angisizile ukuba ngizibone nginjalo, futhi nginqume ngalo lolo suku ukulandela leyo ndlela. Sengibe ngumhlengikazi iminyaka engama-26 manje- umsebenzi engiwuthanda ngempela-futhi uyisizathu. "-U-Amy I., Arvada, CO

Sebenzisa okuthile okulimazayo ukuze ubuye ngamandla.

"Ubaba wami ubelokhu engisekela kakhulu. Ukukhula kwami ​​kungenze ngazizwa sengathi ngingenza noma yini. Uphinde wangifundisa ukulandela imizwa yami nenhliziyo yami futhi ngihlale ngithembekile ezimisweni zami. Lesi sifundo sasisiza ngesikhathi ngihlukanisa nomyeni wami ngonyaka owedlule. Ngangazi ukuthi ngenza okulungile, kepha nganginovalo lokuba ngedwa nomama ongayedwa. Lapho ngitshela ubaba wami ngokuhlukana, nganginovalo, kodwa wangiphendula ngokuthi uyangithanda, uhlala njalo lapha kimi, futhi uyazi ukuthi nginamandla ngokwanele ukwenza lokhu."-Tracy P., Lakeville, MN

Funa inhlonipho njengomsubathi futhi njengomuntu wesifazane.

"Ubaba wami wayengeyena umuntu okhuluma kahle kodwa wayehlala njalo enaka engangikwenza. Esikoleni esiphakeme, wayebonisa wonke umdlalo wami we-volleyball nemicimbi yezemidlalo, futhi uma ngike ngasilela kokuthize, esikhundleni salokho ngokungibhebha, wayengisiza ngifunde ukuba ngcono. Sasichitha amahora ngizilolongela ikhono lami le-volleyball phambi kwegceke. Futhi, lapho engicela ukuthi ngidanse emishadweni, wayethi, 'Ngolunye usuku kuzofika insizwa. Abaningi bazo. Okuthanda kakhulu uzodansa kancane futhi akusondeze eduze akunake. Uma beshesha kakhulu, wena uqhubeke."-Christie K., Shakopee, MN

Beka kuqala ezakho izidingo.

"Ngezimpelasonto, sasiya esikhumulweni sezindiza lapho ubaba wami ayethanda ukuhamba ngendiza kwakuyinto ayithandayo. Ngiyakhumbula ukuthi wayengithatha kanjani ngihambe naye bese sihamba, bese sihamba ngendiza. Yena Ngangihlala ngiziqhenya kakhulu ngokuhamba nami. Ngangihlale ngizizwa ngamukelekile futhi ngifunwa ezenzakalweni zakhe, njengomshayeli wendiza kanye nomlingani weqiniso. Isibonelo sakhe sangifundisa ukuqinisekisa ukuthi angikhohlwa ukuzibeka phambili kwesinye isikhathi nokudala isikhala empilweni yami ngezidingo zami. "-Sarah T., Minneapolis

Zama okusemandleni akho bese waneliswa yikho.

"Ubaba wami uhlala engikhuthaza ngisho nangaphezulu kokudlula kwakhe eminyakeni eyi-10 eyedlule. Wangifundisa ukuzazisa nokuzithanda ngoba wayengazisa futhi engithanda noma kungenzekani. Wangifundisa ukuthi ngizame konke okusemandleni ami, kodwa-ke ngilunge ukuba okuncono. Ungifundise ukubona ikhono lami langempela futhi ngingapheli amandla. Ngimkhumbula kakhulu, kodwa ngibonga kakhulu ngefa lakhe lothando."-Marianne F., Martinsburg, WV

Ziqhenye ngalokho oyikho kanye nempumelelo yakho.

"Eminyakeni yami yama-20s ngisuka entombazaneni yasemadolobheni amancane ngaya kosomabhizinisi ophumelelayo, ngisebenza emazweni omhlaba. Umama akazange akusekele engangikwenza. Empeleni waqala ukuncintisana nami wagxeka indlela engisebenza ngayo. Ukuphendula kwakhe kwangenza ngacabanga ukuthi kufanele ngixolise ngempumelelo yami. Bengisafuna ubudlelwane nomndeni wami futhi bengikhathazeka ukuthi kukhona engikwenzayo okungalungile. Ekugcineni ngelinye ilanga ubaba wangidonsela eceleni wangitshela ukuthi uyaziqhenya kanjani nokuthi angalokothi axolise-kumama wami noma komunye umuntu -ngempumelelo engiyidalile."-Theresa V., Reno, NV

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