Ingabe Umlando Wakho Wocansi Uyakuhlupha?

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KungoLwesihlanu ebusuku, futhi izinto ziyafudumala ngaphansi kwezembozo. Izindebe zakhe zikuzo zonke izindawo ezilungile, usho izinto ezifanele, bese kuthi kungazelelwe, i-ex yakho ingena ebuchosheni bakho. Mhlawumbe kube yinto eyenziwe ngumfana wakho. Noma mhlawumbe kubonakala kungenasizathu nhlobo. Futhi ngenkathi umfana wakho engase angazi ukuthi yini eyenzekile, uze uyeke ukucabanga ngelangabi lakho langaphambili, ngeke ubuyele emgqeni.

Ukuqoqwa kwakho kwama-exes - noma ngabe kuhlukaniswe kanjani - kuthinta kanjani impilo yakho yocansi yosuku. Ngemuva kwakho konke, noma ngabe abesilisa bonyaka odlule bangumlando (futhi abaningi, ngokubonga ngakho!), Bakhona lapho. Lelo soka lasekolishi elenze waqaphela ukuthi ikhemistri ingaba seduze okubambekayo futhi loyo mfana ongakwazi ukuphinda ongakwazi ukuvala izandla zakho bobabili banesibopho sokubumba okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho ngaphandle kweminyango evaliwe. Inkinga iwukuthi, abanye bethu banezinkumbulo ezingcono kunezinye uma kuziwa ekunqobeni okudlule. Ngakho-ke nansi indlela yokukhipha izipoki ezivamile zabalingani esedlule, uvumelane nesitch sakho samanje sosuku, futhi ube sesikhathini sokulala.

Isipoki: Amakhono we-XXX yakho yakudala

Bust it: Insizwa onayo iyamangalisa, kodwa insizwa obunaye esikhathini esidlule yayinayo emangalisayo amakhono okulala-ukuthi ufisa sengathi ungaphinde uwathole. Mkhiphe engqondweni yakho ngokukhuluma ngezifiso zakho kuMnu. Manje. Ubulili bungaphezu kwesenzo somzimba, futhi ukwazi ukukhuluma ngobuqotho ngama-turn-ons (noma ukumbonisa lokho okufunayo) kubalulekile, kusho uHolly Hein, Ph.D., umbhali we Ukuphambuka Kwezocansi: Iqiniso Elimangalisayo Elingemuva Kothando, Inkanuko, Nokungathembeki.

Isipoki: Inkumbulo yocansi efanelekile

Bust it: Noma ngabe bekungukuhamba okungahambanga kahle noma ukuphawula owakudala wathi isenzo saphakathi nendawo ongeke ukwazi ukusinyakazisa, izinkumbulo ezingaphansi kokufanele zingangena ngezikhathi ezingathandeki. Uma kuyinto ongeke ukwazi ukuyikhupha ekhanda lakho, kungaba ngoba kusaba amahloni noma kukuhlupha ngempela, yiveze nomfana wakho, kusho uHein. Awudingi ukungena emininingwaneni, kodwa ukuyikhipha kungaba isinyathelo sokuqala sokudedela umcabango. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, uma bekuyinto oyizamile futhi ongayithandi, kuhle kakhulu ukuyigcina ingekho ku-repertoire yakho yekamelo okwamanje. "Lokho ozizwa ukhululekile ukukwenza ngemuva konyaka noma emibili ebudlelwaneni kuhluke kakhulu kunalokho ongazizwa ukhululekile ukukwenza emva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa nje," kukhumbuza uKaren Ruskin, uPy.D., umbhali Ibhukwana Lomshado likaDkt Karen.

Isipoki: I-ex yakho igcwele konke okuphakelayo kwakho ku-Facebook nasengqondweni yakho

Bust it: Mhlawumbe wena naye ninqume ukuhlala ningabangane noma mhlawumbe nizitike nge-cyberstalking kancane. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyini isizathu, unamathele ekhanda lakho. Akumangalisi ukuthi ochwepheshe bayavuma ukuthi uma umvimba kakhulu empilweni yakho yansuku zonke, kulapho ezovela khona ngezikhathi ezikalwe nge-X. "Ngisho noma wazi ukuthi akakufanelanga, umzimba wakho usengakwazi ukulangazelela i-chemistry owawunayo no-ex," kusho uRuskin. Uma lokho kubonakala kunjalo, kungcono ukuthi nakhe ibanga phakathi kwenu nobabili. “Akukona ukuhlambalaza, ukwethembeka,” usho kanje. "Mhlawumbe wena nowakudala ningaba abangani onyakeni noma emibili, kodwa nidinga isikhathi ukuze i-chemistry iphole."

Isipoki: Lowo mfana ongahleliwe ovela esitolo sekhofi uqhamuka emaphusheni angcolile

Bust it: Amaphupho ayingxenye evamile yokuphila kocansi okunempilo, kusho uWagner. "Singabantu futhi izingqondo zethu ngezikhathi ezithile ziya lapho. Uma nje zingaphazamisi isibopho esiphakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho, akuyona into okufanele ukhathazeke ngayo." Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukuzungeza ngoqhekeko oluncane akukaze kube kubi ekamelweni. Kepha uma ngaso sonke isikhathi uthola ukuthi ingqondo yakho izulazula noma kufanele ucabange isithombe somunye umuntu ukuze ajabule, khona-ke kungenzeka kube uphawu lokuthi okuthile akulungile ebudlelwaneni bakho.

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