Isikhathi sokuphela

Isikhathi sokuphuma siyindlela yokukhulisa izingane ukukhuthaza izingane ukuthi ziyeke ukwenza izinto ongafuni ukuthi zizenze. Lapho ingane yakho ingaziphathi kahle, ungayisusa ingane yakho ngomoya ophansi kulo msebenzi bese uyibeka ngesikhathi. Ingane yakho imane iyeke ukwenza isimilo ukugwema ukuya esikhathini. Isikhathi sokuphuma sisebenza kakhulu nezingane, ezineminyaka engu-2 kuye kwengu-12 ubudala.

Uma ufaka izingane ngesikhathi, uzikhombisa ngezenzo ukuthi awukuthandi ukuziphatha kwazo. Kusebenza kangcono kunokumemeza, ukusongela noma ukushaya.

Isikhathi sokuphuma sisusa ingane yakho ekuziphatheni. Kukunika wena nengane yakho isikhathi sokwehlisa umoya futhi uzilawule. Izingane ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nazo zinesikhathi sokucabanga ngalokho ezikwenzile.

Khetha isimilo esisodwa noma ezimbili ofuna ukusebenzela kuzo nengane yakho. Sebenzisa isikhathi sokuphuma ngokungaguquguquki nalezi zimilo. Qaphela ukuthi ungasebenzisi isikhathi esiningi ngokweqile. Yisebenzise kuphela ngokuziphatha ofuna ukukumisa ngempela.

Yazisa izingane ngaphambi kwesikhathi ukuthi uzobe usebenzisa isikhathi sokuphuma. Isibonelo, batshele ukuthi, "Ngokuzayo lapho nilwela amathoyizi, wonke umuntu uzophuma nesikhathi semizuzu emi-3. Ngizokutshela uma imizuzu emithathu iphelile."

Khetha indawo ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Qiniseka ukuthi iyindawo eyisicefe kude ne-TV namathoyizi. Akufanele kube yindawo emnyama noma esabisayo. Uma izingane zakho zisencane, qiniseka ukuthi uyazibona. Ezinye izindawo ezingasebenza zifaka:

• Isihlalo ephaseji
• Ikhona lekamelo
• Ikamelo lokulala
• Umbhede

Lapho izingane zingaziphathi kahle, zinikeze isexwayiso sokuthi ziyeke. Batshele, "Akukho ukushaya. Lokho kubuhlungu. Uma ungayeki ukushaya, uzoba nesikhathi sokuphumula."

• Lapho izingane ziyeka ukungaziphathi kahle, zincome ngokulawula ukuziphatha kwazo.
• Lapho izingane zingayeki ukungaziphathi kahle, zitshele ukuthi ziye esikhathini. Yisho kanye kuphela: "Ukushaya kubuhlungu. Udinga isikhathi sokuphumula."

Cacisa futhi wehlise umoya. Ungathukutheli. Uma umemeza futhi uzulazula, unaka kakhulu imikhuba emibi yezingane zakho.

Ezinye izingane zingangena esikhathini ngokushesha uma uzitshela. Lapho izingane zingazihambeli zodwa, zihole noma uziyise endaweni yokuphumula. Ungamemezi noma ushaye ngesikhathi sokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Beka ingane yakho ngesikhathi sokuphuma isikhathi seminithi eli-1 ngonyaka, kodwa ingabi ngaphezu kwemizuzu emihlanu. Isibonelo, uma ingane yakho ineminyaka emithathu ubudala, isikhathi sokuphuma semizuzu emi-3.

Izingane ezindala zingatshelwa ukuthi zisesikhathini ngaphandle kokuthi zilungele ukubuyela emsebenzini wazo futhi ziziphathe. Ngoba banquma ukuthi bakulungele nini, bafunda ukulawula indlela abaziphatha ngayo.

Uma izingane zakho zingahlali ezindaweni zazo zesikhathi, zibambe lapho. Ungakhulumi nabo noma ubanake.

Uma usetha i-timer futhi ingane yakho yenza umsindo noma ukungaziphathi kahle ngesikhathi, setha kabusha isibali sikhathi. Uma ingane izulazula, hola ingane ibuyele endaweni bese usetha kabusha isibali sikhathi. Ingane kufanele ithule futhi iziphathe kahle kuze kufike isikhathi.

Lapho isikhathi siphelile, vumela izingane zibuyele emisebenzini yazo. Ungafundisi ngokuziphatha okubi. Izingane zigcina zithola umyalezo nesikhathi sokuphuma.

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Iwebhusayithi yaseAmerican Academy of Pediatrics. Iyiphi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuyala ingane yami? www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/communication-discipline/Pages/Disciplining-Your-Child.aspx. Kubuyekezwe ngoNovemba 11, 2018. Kufinyelelwe ngoJulayi 23, 2019.

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