Izinyathelo ze-7 zokwephula umjikelezo 'Wokuphelela, Ukuhlehlisa Izinto, Ukukhubazeka'

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• Kepha ngokungenakugwenywa, kufika iphuzu lapho lokho kugwema sekuqhubeke isikhathi eside kakhulu - futhi lapho sekuyisikhathi sokukuhlanganisa? Uyabanda.
• 1. Ngehlisa ibha
• 2. Gcina imisebenzi yakho ilingana
• 3. Landelela isikhathi sakho
• 4. Zungeze ngokusekelwa okuhle
• Zijwayeze ukuthi ‘cha’
• 6. Sebenzisa uhlelo lwemiklomelo
• 7. Faka ukucabangela
• Into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule? Awuwedwa.

Sekuyisikhathi sokwehlisa ibha. Phansi… cha, qhubeka. Lapho.

Phakamisa isandla sakho uma lokhu kuzwakala ujwayelekile: Uhlu lwezinto ezizungezayo ezizungeza ubuchopho bakho. Uhlu lude kangangokuba ngisho nomsebenzi olula kakhulu uba nzima futhi uqede konke.

Noma ngihleli lapha ngibhala le ndatshana, ngikhungathekile ngamaphuzu engifuna ukuwaveza nokuthi ngingawaveza kanjani. Kungishiya ngifuna ukuphonsa izandla zami futhi ngibhekane nakho kamuva.

Ukwenza izinto noma ungazenzi ukuzihlelela lapho ulwa nokukhathazeka kungaba nzima.

Yilo mqondo wokugcwala okuphakela eyodwa yamaphethini ajwayelekile abantu abalwa nawo: umjikelezo wokufuna ukupheleliswa-wokuhlehlisa-ukukhubazeka.

Kubantu abaningi, umqondo wokwenza umsebenzi ngendlela engaphelele ungaba yizizathu ezanele zokuthi, “Khohlwa yikho konke!”

Noma ngabe lokho kufuna ukuphelela kubangelwa ukwesaba ukwahlulelwa noma ukwahlulela onakho ngawe, ukukhathazeka kuthanda ukukuqinisekisa ukuthi uma ungeke ukwazi ukwenza konke futhi ukwenze ngokuphelele? Akufanele neze wenze lutho.

Kepha ngokungenakugwenywa, kufika iphuzu lapho lokho kugwema sekuqhubeke isikhathi eside kakhulu - futhi lapho sekuyisikhathi sokukuhlanganisa? Uyabanda.

Futhi kuza umngane omkhulu wokukhathazeka: amahloni. Ihlazo lifuna ukukukhumbuza njalo ukuthi umsebenzi awuzange wenziwe, kuphela ukuqinisa ukuphelela kwakho… nokuqhubekisela phambili umjikelezo.

Ukuzihlelela manje sekungewona nje umsebenzi omkhulu kuphela - manje sekuyinkinga ekhona, njengoba uqala ukuzibuza ukuthi kungaba yini "okungalungile" kuwe uze ulokhu ubambekile.

Ngivila nje? Ngabe ubuchopho bami buphukile? Kungani ngenza lokhu kimi? Yini inkinga nami?

Qiniseka ukuthi awuwedwa. Futhi kunezindlela ezingokoqobo zokunqoba ukukhathazeka ukuze lo mjikelezo ungabi nje kuphela into ongayilawula, kepha kukhona ongakunqoba.

"Into enhle ngemijikelezo ukuthi ingaguqulwa ngendlela efanayo yokujikeleza," kusho uDkt Karen McDowell, umqondisi womtholampilo we-AR Psychological Services.

"Uma ulwa nokulwela ukuphelela, akuvamile ukuthi uhlehlise izinto," esho. "Uma uhlehlisa kancane, awutholi lowo muzwa wokwethuka nokukhubazeka, ngakho-ke umsebenzi wakho ugcina ubukeka futhi uzizwa ungcono kunalokho obekuzoba ngenye indlela."

Kodwa uzoqala kuphi? Ukwephula umjikelezo, landela lezi zinyathelo eziyi-7:

1. Ngehlisa ibha

Isinyathelo sokuqala sokwephula lowo mjikelezo ukubona ukuthi ezikhathini eziningi, ukwenza imisebenzi kuyinqubo ehamba kancane, futhi engaphelele lapho - futhi lokho kuvamile futhi kulungile impela.

Ngeke kwenzeke konke ngesikhathi esisodwa. Kulungile ukuthatha isikhathi sakho. Kulungile ukwenza amaphutha (ungahlala ubuyele emuva bese uwalungisa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi!).

Ngamanye amagama, kulungile ukuba ngumuntu.

Kulula ukukukhohlwa lokhu, noma kunjalo, lapho okulindelwe kakhulu kithi kucashe ngaphansi nje, kubhebhethekise ukukhathazeka kwethu.

Njengombhali, kungumsebenzi wami ukubhala zonke izinsuku. Esinye sezeluleko ezinhle kakhulu omunye umuntu anginikeze sona ukuthi, “Khumbula, hhayi zonke izingcezu izidingo ukuba yigugu. ” Okusho ukuthi, ungawudubuli uMklomelo wePulitzer ngayo yonke imisebenzi enginayo. Akukho okwakuyoze kwenziwe futhi ngangiqeda ukuphikisana nokuzethemba kwami ​​nsuku zonke. Yeka ukuthi kukhathaza kanjani!

Esikhundleni salokho, ngifunde ukuhlukanisa ukuthi yimiphi imisebenzi efanele isikhathi esiningi nokunakwa, nokuthi yimiphi efanelekile ukwenziwa lula. Lokhu akusho ukwamukela ubuvila! Kusho nje ukuqonda ukuthi umsebenzi wezinga le-B ukude kakhulu nokwehluleka - futhi yingxenye ejwayelekile yempilo.

Ngaphambi kokuntywila emsebenzini wakho, yenza isinqumo sokwehlisa ibha. Zikhulule kulindelo lokuthi kufanele unikele ngamaphesenti ayi-100 wakho kukho konke okwenzayo.

2. Gcina imisebenzi yakho ilingana

UDkt. McDowell uthi: “Ukubhekana nokufuna ukuphelela kudinga ukuphazamisa ukucabanga ngezinto ezingenamsebenzi. “Isibonelo, uma uzama ukuhlela ibhokisi lakho lokungenayo lihleleke, ngeke kukusize uma lokho ukubheka njengomsebenzi owodwa. Thola ukuthi yiziphi izingxenye zalo msebenzi, bese uzithatha ngosayizi bokuluma. ”

Ukweqa imisebenzi ube yizicucu zayo ezincane akugcini nje ngokubenza bakwazi ukulawuleka, kepha kuholela emizweni ejwayelekile yokufeza okuthile njengoba weqa ngamunye ohlwini lwakho.

Ake sikubheke ngale ndlela: Kufanele uhlele umshado wakho. Ungahle ulingeke ukuthi ubhale ukuthi "thola izimbali" njengomsebenzi, ngokwesibonelo, kepha lokho kungadala imizwa yokudinwa.

Kwesinye isikhathi sona kanye isenzo sokweqa okuthile ngaphandle kohlu sifaka ugqozi lokwenza okuningi. Kungakho kungekho msebenzi mncane kakhulu ohlwini lwakho! Kungaba lula njengokuthi, "Abasebenza ngezimbali bakwaGoogle endaweni yami." Yinqamule, uzizwe kamnandi ngokufeza okuthile, bese uphinda okuhle.

Ukunqoba okuncane kwakha umfutho! Ngakho-ke setha imisebenzi yakho ngokufanele.

3. Landelela isikhathi sakho

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi uma umsebenzi usiletha futhi siwakhe waba yibhehemoti, sivame ukubheka isikhathi esisithathayo ukusiqedela. Lapho ucabanga ukuthi umsebenzi odala ukukhathazeka uzothatha usuku lonke, nawe uvamise ukungawuhleleli isikhathi sokuzinakekela.

"Ukulinganisela izinto eziza kuqala kubalulekile," kusho uDkt. Supriya Blair, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo somtholampilo esinelayisense. “Yingakho sifaka isikhathi semisebenzi yomphakathi neyokuzinakekela ngezikhathi zethu zansuku zonke nezamasonto onke. Ukuzibophezela ekuphumeleliseni umsebenzi nomsebenzi wokuzijabulisa kudinga ukuzijwayeza, ukubekezela nokuzizwela. ”

Isikhathi sokulandelela singenziwa lula ngokusebenzisa inqubo ye-'Pomodoro ':

• Khetha umsebenzi ungathanda ukuqeda. Akunandaba ukuthi kuyini, inqobo nje uma kuyinto edinga ukunakekelwa kwakho ngokuphelele.
• Setha isibali sikhathi imizuzu engama-25, ufunge ukuthi uzochitha imizuzu engama-25 (nemizuzu engama-25 kuphela) kulo msebenzi.
• Sebenza kuze kuphele isikhathi. Uma omunye umsebenzi ungena ekhanda lakho, mane ubhale phansi bese ubuyela kulowo msebenzi osuwenziwe.
• Faka umaki eceleni komsebenzi wakho ngemuva kokuthi i-timer icishe (lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ubale inani lesikhathi osichithe usebenza kokuthile!).
• Thatha ikhefu elifushane (emfushane, njengemizuzu emi-5 noma ngaphezulu).
• Ngemuva kwama-Pomodoros ama-4 (amahora amabili), thatha ikhefu elide cishe imizuzu engama-20 noma engu-30.

Ukusebenzisa le ndlela isikhathi esingeziwe kukusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi umsebenzi udinga isikhathi esingakanani, ukwakha ukuzethemba emandleni akho okuqedela umsebenzi wakho ngenkathi kunciphisa nokuphazamiseka.

Iphinde yenze isikhala sokuzinakekela ngokukukhumbuza ukuthi, empeleni, unendawo esilinganisweni sakho sakho!

4. Zungeze ngokusekelwa okuhle

Amandla ngezinombolo! Ukubamba noma yini eyodwa kukodwa kunzima ngaphezu kokwenza kanjalo ngohlelo lokusekela.

Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokuhleleka uma unenkinga ukusebenzisana nomuntu osekelayo, osebenza kanzima, noma ngabe omunye wakho obalulekile, umngane, umzali noma ingane. Ungafinyelela futhi kumelaphi noma umqeqeshi wempilo ukuze uthole umbono odingeka kakhulu.

"Awuwedwa. Kunabantu abangaphandle abangasiza, ”kusho uBriana Mary Ann Hollis, i-LSW, nomnikazi / umphathi we-Learning To Be Free.

“Bhala phansi lokho odinga ukwesekwa ngakho njengamanje, bese eceleni kwalokhu bhala okungenani umuntu oyedwa ongakusiza kulowo msebenzi,” usho kanje. "Lokhu kuzokukhombisa ukuthi akudingeki ukuthi wenze yonke into wedwa."

Zijwayeze ukuthi ‘cha’

Akunakwenzeka ukuthi umuntu oyedwa azibophezele kukho konke impela, kepha sivame ukuzwa isidingo sokujabulisa wonke umuntu.

Ukuthwala imithwalo yemfanelo eminingi kuyindlela eqinisekile yokuthola ukukhungatheka bese ungena emjikelezweni ofanayo wokuzilimaza.

U-Angela Ficken, udokotela wezifo zengqondo ogxile ekukhathazekeni nase-OCD uthi: “Cabanga lapho ungahambisa khona uhlelo lwakho kalula, unikeze abanye amandla, noma ngisho nokuthi cha emicimbini nasemisebenzini engasheshe yenziwe noma ephuthumayo.

“Umqondo wukufaka eminye imikhawulo ohlelweni lwakho. Ukwenza lokhu kungasula ingqondo yakho nesikhathi sakho ukuze ukwazi ukwenza imisebenzi ethile ekulethela injabulo. Kulungile impela ukuthi cha, ”uyanezela.

Wazi kanjani ukuthi yimiphi imikhawulo yakho? Wake wayizwa inkulumo ethi, "Uma kungesiyo 'isihogo yebo, khona-ke kungu-cha"? Ngenkathi kukhona okuhlukile kunoma yimuphi umthetho, lesi yisifanekiso esihle ongasilandela uma kukhulunywa ngokuthatha imithwalo yemfanelo.

Sonke simatasa futhi sonke sinezibopho, ngakho-ke uma kungenjalo unayo ukuthatha iphrojekthi noma ukuthola lowo ojwayelene naye ekolishi ongakaze ukhulume naye eminyakeni eyi-14, bese ungazizwa unecala lokuthi cha.

6. Sebenzisa uhlelo lwemiklomelo

Awumdala neze ukuthi ungazivuza, futhi imvamisa ukusetha imivuzo emincane kungaba enye yezindlela eziphumelela kakhulu zokuzigqugquzela ukwenza imisebenzi yenhlangano yenziwe.

“Gxila ekutheni uzozizwa kanjani lapho ikhaya lakho lihlelekile futhi lihlanzekile, ukuthi kungaba mnandi kanjani futhi kumnandi ukuhlela umshado wakho, uzozizwa unesibopho esingakanani lapho uqeda izintela zakho,” kusho uDkt Nancy Irwin, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo seSeasons ku Malibu.

“Bese uziklomelise ngomsebenzi owenze kahle. Ukuqiniswa okuhle kuqinisekisa ukuthi iphrojekthi elandelayo izohamba kahle futhi ikwazisa ukuthi umkhulu kunenkinga, ”kusho yena.

Usuku ngalunye, ngenza uhlu lwezabelo nemisebenzi yasendlini engifuna ukuyifeza. Zijwayeleke njengoku "khipha udoti" kokubalulekile okufana "nokuhlela okuphelele" noma "ukuthumela ama-invoyisi."

Akunandaba ukuthi ubukhulu bomsebenzi, ngemuva kwalowo nalowo ngiyazelapha. Ngiyahambahamba, noma ngivumele ukubuka imizuzu engu-30 yethelevishini. Lapho ngiqeda uhlu ngingahle ngibe nengilazi yewayini.

Kunginika lezi ziphuzo ezimnandi engizilangazelelayo eziqeda usuku, futhi ziguqula uhlu lwami olukhulu kakhulu lwezinto engizenza zibe ngumdlalo othile!

7. Faka ukucabangela

Ukuhlala uhambelana nomzimba wakho kanye nengqondo yakho njengoba uzijwayeza ukuphula amaphethini kungasiza kakhulu.

Ukuzihlola kubalulekile, ikakhulukazi uma ujwayele ukuthola imininingwane emincane kakhulu. Ukugwema ukuzizwa ukhungathekile, kubalulekile ukuthatha isinyathelo emuva ukuze uzinike amakhefu nezikhumbuzi.

“Ukucabangela kuyisihluthulelo,” kusho uFicken. “Ikhono lokucabanga okulula ukuzikhiphela ngaphandle ukuze uhambe ushaywe umoya noma uhlale phansi. Ukuphuma ezintweni zezakhi kungaba yinto elula yokubuka nokuthakazelisa ukuziletha esikhathini samanje. ”

Ukugcina phansi kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokugcina ukukhathazeka kwakho kubheke. Unganqikazi ukuphefumula lapho uzwa ukukwakha kwakho kokukhathazeka - umzimba wakho nobuchopho kuzokubonga ngokuhamba kwesikhathi!

Into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule? Awuwedwa.

Eqinisweni, ukuphazamiseka kokukhathazeka yizifo ezivame kakhulu zengqondo yase-U.S., Ezithinta abantu abadala abayizigidi ezingama-40 unyaka nonyaka.

Uma ukukhathazeka kwakho kwakha izindonga uma kukhulunywa ngokuhlela impilo yakho noma imisebenzi yansuku zonke, qiniseka ukuthi kunezigidi laphaya ezilwa nezinkinga ezifanayo.

Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi ukuphazamiseka kokukhathazeka kuyelapheka kakhulu, futhi amaphethini akugcina ungena ku-loop engemihle ayaphuka. Isinyathelo sokuqala ukunquma ukuthi kulungile ukuzisika kancane.

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