Angikaze Ngisolise I-ADHD Ngingaxhunyaniswa Nobunzima Bami Basebuntwaneni

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• Njengebhola lentambo eliqala ukudilika, isonto ngalinye ngazama ukubhekana nezinkumbulo nemizwa ehlukene ehambisana nokuhlukumezeka kweminyaka edlule.
• Kwakungeyona nje eyejwayelekile, kodwa futhi kwakuyinto eyayikade ikhona wafunda.
• Okubaluleke kakhulu: Izingane ezihlangabezana nokuhlukumezeka ngaphambi kwesikhathi empilweni zinamathuba amaningi okuthi zitholwe zine-ADHD.
• Njengoba abantu abasha abaningi betholakala bene-ADHD, lokhu kuphakamisa imibuzo eminingi ethokozisayo ngendima engadlalwa ukuhlukumezeka kwengane.
• Njengomuntu omdala, angisho ukuthi bekulula. Kuze kube yilolo suku ehhovisi lami lodokotela, ukuzama ukuzulazula lokhu kube nomuzwa wokuthi, kwesinye isikhathi, kungenzeki - {textend} ikakhulukazi lapho bengingazi ukuthi yini okungahambi kahle.
• Ngenkathi kusenocwaningo oluningi okusamele lwenziwe, ngikwazile ukufaka amasu okubhekana nesimo engiwafundile ekwelashweni, okusize impilo yami yengqondo ngokuphelele.

Ngokokuqala ngqa, kwaba sengathi othile ekugcineni ungizwile.

Uma kukhona into eyodwa engiyaziyo, ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka kunendlela ethokozisayo yokuzenzela ibalazwe emzimbeni wakho. Kimina, ukuhlukumezeka engikubekezelele ekugcineni kwavela njengo- “ukunganaki” - {textend} okufana ncamashi ne-ADHD.

Ngenkathi ngisemncane, lokho engikwazi manje njengokuthi ukuzithiba nokuzihlukanisa kwakwenziwa ngephutha kakhulu ngokuthi "ukulingisa" nokuzimisela. Ngenxa yokuthi abazali bami bahlukanisa ngineminyaka emithathu ubudala, othisha bami batshela umama ukuthi ukunganaki kwami ​​kwakuyindlela yokudelela, yokufuna ukunakwa.

Ngikhula, nganginenkinga yokuhlala ngigxile kumaphrojekthi. Nginobunzima ekuqedeni umsebenzi wami wesikole, futhi ngangikhungatheka lapho ngingaqondi izifundo ezithile noma izifundo ezithile esikoleni.

Ngabona ukuthi okwakwenzeka kimi kwakujwayelekile; Bengingazi okungcono futhi bengingaboni ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle. Ngabona ubunzima bami ekufundeni ukwehluleka kimi, nginciphisa ukuzethemba kwami.

Kwaze kwaba yilapho ngikhula lapho ngaqala khona ukubhekisisa ubunzima enganginabo bokuhlushwa, ukulawulwa ngokomzwelo, ukungafisi, nokuningi. Ngangizibuza ukuthi ngabe kungenzeka yini ukuthi kukhona okwengeziwe okwakwenzeka kimi.

Njengebhola lentambo eliqala ukudilika, isonto ngalinye ngazama ukubhekana nezinkumbulo nemizwa ehlukene ehambisana nokuhlukumezeka kweminyaka edlule.

Bekuzwakala sengathi ngiyahamba kancane kodwa ngokuqinisekile ngithunga isiphithiphithi. Ngenkathi ngihlola umlando wami wokuhlukumezeka kwangisiza ukuba ngiqonde ezinye zezingqinamba enganginazo, noma kunjalo akuzange kuchaze ngokuphelele ezinye zezinkinga zami ngokunakwa, ukukhumbula nokunye ukusebenza okuphethe.

Ngocwaningo oluthe xaxa nokuzicabangela, ngabona ukuthi izimpawu zami zazifana nokunaka kwesifo sokukhathazeka (ADHD). Futhi, uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, yize bengingazi okuningi ngesifo se-neurodevelopmental disorder ngaleso sikhathi, okuthile ngakho kuchofoze.

Nginqume ukuyiveza lapho ngiqokwa ukwelashwa okulandelayo.

Lapho ngingena esabelweni sami esilandelayo, nganginovalo. Kepha ngazizwa ngilungele ukubhekana ngqo nalezi zinkinga futhi ngangazi ukuthi umelaphi wami uzoba umuntu ophephile ukukhuluma naye ngendlela engangizizwa ngayo.

Ngihleli egumbini, ngaphesheya kwakhe, ngaqala ukuchaza izimo ezithile, njengobunzima ebengizobhekana nabo lapho ngizama ukubhala, noma ukuthi ngidinga kanjani ukugcina izinhlu namakhalenda amaningi ukuze ngihlale ngihlelekile.

Ungilalele futhi waqinisekisa ukukhathazeka kwami, wangitshela nokuthi engangikuthola kwakujwayelekile.

Kwakungeyona nje eyejwayelekile, kodwa futhi kwakuyinto eyayikade ikhona wafunda.

Kubikwe ukuthi izingane eziye zachayeka kokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlukumezayo kobuntwana zingabonisa indlela yokuziphatha efana naleyo etholwe ine-ADHD.

Okubaluleke kakhulu: Izingane ezihlangabezana nokuhlukumezeka ngaphambi kwesikhathi empilweni zinamathuba amaningi okuthi zitholwe zine-ADHD.

Ngenkathi eyodwa ingabangeli enye, izifundo zibonisa ukuthi kukhona ukuxhumana phakathi kwalezi zimo zombili. Ngenkathi kungaqiniseki ukuthi yikuphi ukuxhumana lokho, kukhona.

Ngokokuqala ngqa, kwaba sengathi othile ekugcineni ungizwile futhi kwangenza ngazizwa sengathi akukho hlazo engangikuthola.

Ku-2015, ngemuva kweminyaka eminingi ngilwa nempilo yami yengqondo, ngagcina ngitholakele ngine-post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) eyinkimbinkimbi. Kwakungemva kwalokhu kuxilongwa lapho ngiqala ukulalela umzimba wami, futhi ngazama ukuziphilisa ngaphakathi nangaphandle.

Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho ngaqala khona ukubona izimpawu ze-ADHD, futhi.

Lokhu akumangazi uma ubheka ucwaningo: Ngisho nakubantu abadala, kukhona ukuthi abantu abane-PTSD kungenzeka babe nezimpawu ezingeziwe ezingabalwa, zifane ne-ADHD.

Njengoba abantu abasha abaningi betholakala bene-ADHD, lokhu kuphakamisa imibuzo eminingi ethokozisayo ngendima engadlalwa ukuhlukumezeka kwengane.

Yize i-ADHD ingenye yezinkinga ze-neurodevelopmental eNyakatho Melika, uDkt Nicole Brown, ohlala eJohns Hopkins eBaltimore, uqaphele ukwanda okuthile kweziguli zakhe zobusha ezikhombisa izindaba zokuziphatha kepha zingaphenduli emithini.

Lokhu kuholele ekutheni uBrown aphenye ukuthi leso sixhumanisi singaba yini. Ngocwaningo lwakhe, uBrown nethimba lakhe bathola ukuthi ukuvezwa okuphindaphindiwe kokuhlukumezeka besebancane (kungaba ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo) kungakhuphula ingozi yengane yamazinga anobuthi wokucindezeleka, okungaphazamisa nokuzithuthukisa kwabo.

Kwabikwa ngo-2010 ukuthi cishe izingane eziyizigidi ezi-1 zingatholwa ngokungekho kahle nge-ADHD unyaka nonyaka, yingakho uBrown ekholelwa ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukunakekelwa okuhlukumezekile kwenzeke kusukela zisencane.

Ngezindlela eziningi, lokhu kuvula ithuba lokuthola ukwelashwa okuphelele nokusizayo, futhi mhlawumbe nokuhlonza kwangaphambilini kwe-PTSD kubantu abasha.

Njengomuntu omdala, angisho ukuthi bekulula. Kuze kube yilolo suku ehhovisi lami lodokotela, ukuzama ukuzulazula lokhu kube nomuzwa wokuthi, kwesinye isikhathi, kungenzeki - {textend} ikakhulukazi lapho bengingazi ukuthi yini okungahambi kahle.

Empilweni yami yonke, lapho kwakuzokwenzeka okuthile okucindezelayo, kwakulula ukuhlukanisa nesimo. Lapho lokho kungenzekanga, ngangivame ukuzithola ngisesimweni sokungalawulwa, nginezintende ezijulukayo futhi ngingakwazi ukugxila, ngesaba ukuthi ukuphepha kwami ​​sekuzophulwa.

Kuze kube yilapho ngiqala ukubona udokotela wami owaphakamisa ukuthi ngibhalise ohlelweni lokwelashwa kwabahlukumezekile esibhedlela sendawo, ubuchopho bami buzogcwala ngokushesha futhi buvale.

Kwakunezikhathi eziningi lapho abantu babephawula futhi bangitshele ukuthi ngangibonakala ngingenantshisekelo, noma ngiphazamisekile. Kwakuvame ukuthinta ubuhlobo obuthile enganginabo. Kepha iqiniso ukuthi ubuchopho bami nomzimba wami kwakulwa kanzima ukuzilawula.

Bengingazi enye indlela yokuzivikela.

Ngenkathi kusenocwaningo oluningi okusamele lwenziwe, ngikwazile ukufaka amasu okubhekana nesimo engiwafundile ekwelashweni, okusize impilo yami yengqondo ngokuphelele.

Ngaqala ukubheka ukuphathwa kwesikhathi nezinsizakusebenza zenhlangano ukungisiza ngigxile kumaphrojekthi azayo. Ngaqala ukusebenzisa amasu okunyakaza nawokuzinza empilweni yami yansuku zonke.

Ngenkathi konke lokhu kwehlisa omunye umsindo ebuchosheni bami njalo, ngangazi ukuthi ngidinga okunye. Ngihambisane nodokotela wami ukuze sikwazi ukuxoxa ngezinketho zami, futhi ngilinde ukubabona noma yiluphi usuku manje.

Lapho ekugcineni ngiqala ukubona umzabalazo enganginawo ngemisebenzi yansuku zonke, ngazizwa nginamahloni futhi nginamahloni. Yize ngangazi ukuthi abantu abaningi balwa nalezi zinto, ngazizwa sengathi ngandlela thile ngizozilethela lokhu kimi.

Kepha lapho ngivula ngokwengeziwe imicu eminyene engqondweni yami, futhi ngisebenza ngokuhlukumezeka engikubekezelele, ngiyabona ukuthi angizilethelanga lokhu kimi. Esikhundleni salokho, ngangiwumuntu wami omuhle kakhulu ngokuzibonakalisa kimi nokuzama ukuziphatha ngomusa.

Yize kuyiqiniso ukuthi alikho inani lomuthi elingasusa noma liphulukise ngokuphelele ukuhlukumezeka engikutholile, ukukwazi ukuzwakalisa engikudingayo - {textend} nokwazi ukuthi kunegama kulokho okwenzeka ngaphakathi kimi - i- {textend} ibelusizo ngaphezu kwamagama.

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