Kungani Ngikhetha Izinwele Zami Zemvelo KunamaNqubomgomo Wobuhle Womphakathi

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• Umbono wokuthi izinwele zami “azithandeki” kwakuyinkolelo engakhula nginayo
• Ukukhula "phezulu" kuletha kuphela amathuba amaningi okuba sengozini nobuhlungu
• Ukugoba ubuhle akuyona ubuhlungu. Yisihogo.

Ngokungitshela ukuthi izinwele zami "zazinjenge-pube," babezama nokusho ukuthi izinwele zami zemvelo akufanele zibe khona.

Impilo nokuphila kahle kuthinta ngamunye wethu ngokuhlukile. Le yindaba yomuntu oyedwa.

"Ngigula kabi ngibona izithombe zezinwele zakho ezifana nezenkawu kanye ne-lip st."

Ngomyalezo omfishane ongaziwa ongithethisa ngokuthi ngingowesifazane “omubi” futhi ngiyintatheli, bekuyile ncazelo ethize engangijwayela kabi.

Umlayezo bekufanele ube nesihluku ngamabomu futhi uqonde ngqo.

Ngokomphakathi, izinkantini azifuneki futhi azifuneki. Njengabantu besifazane sihlaselwa yindaba - kusuka ezindabeni zikamagazini kuya ezikhangisweni - ukuthi izinwele zethu zasesidlangalaleni yinto okufanele isuswe.

(Bheka nje izibalo: Kwabesifazane abangu-3 316, amaphesenti angama-85 asuse izinwele zawo zangasese ngandlela thile. Ngenkathi amaphesenti angama-59 athe asusa izinwele zawo zangakubo ngenhloso yokuhlanzeka, amaphesenti angama-31.5 athe asuse izinwele zawo zangakubo ngoba "beziheha" ).

Ngakho-ke ngokusho ukuthi izinwele zami zazifana nezinwele zasesidlangalaleni, babenza iphuzu lokuthi izinwele zami nazo zazicasula ukubukwa - ukuthi kufanele ngibe namahloni ngesimo semvelo sazo.

Njengoba iningi labesifazane abanokubonakala kokutholakala kwezinkundla zokuxhumana lazi, futhi ikakhulukazi kithina abezindaba, ukubanjwa ngama-trolling akuyona into entsha. Ngokuqinisekile ngiye ngabona isabelo sami esifanele senzondo.

Kaningi kunalokho, ngiyakwazi ukukuhleka njengokuklolodela komuntu othile onebhadi.

Kepha ngenkathi ngikhululekile ngama-curls ami ku-32, bekuwuhambo olude lokuthola leli zinga lokwamukelwa komuntu siqu.

Umbono wokuthi izinwele zami “azithandeki” kwakuyinkolelo engakhula nginayo

Izinkumbulo zami zokuqala zezinwele zami cishe zihlala zifaka ukungakhululeki ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo ngandlela thile.

Umuntu engifunda naye ekilasini owangibuza ukuthi ngabe izinwele zami phansi lapho kwafanisa lokho okwakusekhanda lami. Umcwali wezinwele owayengithethisa, njengoba ngangihleli esihlalweni salon, ngokunganaki ngemuva kwekhanda lami ngenkathi besika izihlunu ezaziphenduke zaba ukwesaba.

Abantu abaningi engingabazi - imvamisa abesifazane - ababezizwa belungile ngokuthinta izinwele zami ngoba “babefuna nje ukubona ukuthi ngabe zazingezangempela yini.”

Futhi lezo zikhathi lapho engifunda nabo babefaka izinto ezingahleliwe kuma-curls ami lapho ngihleli ekilasini.

Yize izihlobo zami zazingibelesela ngokuthi ngizofunda ukwazisa lokho izakhi zofuzo ezingibusise ngakho, kwakusekhona igebe elingakhulunywa phakathi kwami ​​nabesifazane emndenini wami.

Ngenkathi mina nobaba sasabelana ngama-curls afanayo, wonke umuntu wesifazane emndenini wami wayedlala izingidi ezimnyama, ezi-wavy zase-Eastern Europe. Yize izithombe zomndeni zikucacisile ukungafani phakathi kwami ​​nezihlobo zami zesifazane, kwaba ngukungazi kwabo ukuthi bangazinakekela kanjani izinwele ezifana nezami okwenze umehluko omkhulu ekhaya.

Futhi-ke ngasala ngicishe ukuba ngithole izinto ngedwa.

Umphumela wayevame ukukhungatheka nezinyembezi. Izinwele zami nazo zadlala indima enkulu ekukhuliseni ukukhathazeka kwami ​​okuningi okuhlobene nomzimba, okwakungaba kubi kakhulu lapho ngikhula.

Kodwa ngibheka emuva, akumangazi nakancane umthelela izinwele zami ezaba nawo enhlalakahleni yami yengqondo.

Ucwaningo lukhombise kaninginingi ukuthi isithombe somzimba nempilo yengqondo kuxhumene. Futhi ngahamba ibanga elide ukwenza izinwele zami zingabonakali kangako, ukuzama nokuphikisana nama-hang-hang ami omzimba.

Ngithulule amabhodlela namabhodlela eDep gel ukuze ngigcine ama-curls ami eyisicaba ngangokunokwenzeka. Iningi lezithombe zami zasesikoleni esiphakeme sekwephuzile zibukeka sengathi ngivele ngaphuma eshaweni.

Noma nini lapho ngigqoke i-ponytail, ngangicwenga ngokucophelela izinwele zezingane ezazisemaphethelweni ekhanda lami. Cishe bazohlala bephindaphinda njalo ukuze bakhe umugqa weziqobosho ezinamandla.

Kube khona ngisho umzuzu owodwa wokuphelelwa yithemba lapho ngiphendukele ku-ayina womzali womngane wami ngenkathi ngilungiselela i-semi-formal. Iphunga lezinwele ezivuthayo lisangikhathaza nanamuhla.

Ukukhula "phezulu" kuletha kuphela amathuba amaningi okuba sengozini nobuhlungu

Lapho ngiqala ukuphola, le nqubo yavula isethi entsha yokukhathazeka komzimba.

Ngoba ngijwayele ukulindela okubi kakhulu, ngichithe iminyaka eminingi ngizama zonke izimo ezihlukile, ezidabukisayo, nezikholisayo ezingenzeka - eziningi zazo ebezixhunyaniswe nezinwele zami.

Sonke sifunde ama-anecdotes amaningi ngabantu abaphoxeka emzimbeni ngophathina babo - umuntu oyedwa, ngombono, okufanele ukuthi uyakuthanda, ngenxa yakho.

Eminyakeni yami yokukhula, ngaphambi kwenkathi yegolide yezokuxhumana nabantu kanye nezingcezu zokucabanga, lezi zindaba zabiwa phakathi kwabangane njengeziqondiso zokwenza nokwamukelwa. Futhi ngangibazi kakhulu, okwakungasizi ekukhathazekeni kwami.

Angikwazanga ukuzibamba ekucabangeni umlingani wami enokusabela okufanayo lapho ngibona izinwele zami ezingcolile, ezingalawuleki, okokuqala ngqa ezinhlotsheni zohlobo lwasekuseni okokuqala ngqa.

Ngicabange isigcawu lapho ngicele othile ukuphuma khona, ngivele ngibenze bahleke ebusweni bami ngoba… ngubani owayengathandana nowesifazane owayenjengami? Noma esinye isigcawu, lapho lo mfana azame ukufaka iminwe yakhe ezinweleni zami, kuphela ukuze baziphazamise kuma-curls ami, kudlalwe njengenqubo yamahlaya.

Umcabango wokwahlulelwa ngale ndlela wangethusa kakhulu. Yize lokhu kungazange kungiyeke ukuphola, kudlale indima enkulu ekwandiseni ukuthi bengingavikeleki kangakanani ngomzimba wami ngenkathi ngisebudlelwaneni bami obubucayi.

Ukungena emsebenzini nakho kwanginika isizathu esithe xaxa sokucindezeleka. Izitayela zezinwele kuphela engangizibonile ezazibhalwe ukuthi “ezobuchwepheshe” zazingafani neze nezinwele zami.

Ngikhathazekile ngokuthi izinwele zami zemvelo zizothathwa njengezingalungile esimweni sobungcweti.

Kuze kube manje, lokhu akukaze kube njalo - kepha ngiyazi ukuthi lokhu kungenzeka kuyilungelo lami njengowesifazane omhlophe.

(Ngiyazi ngokulinganayo ukuthi abantu abaningi abanemibala ezindaweni zobungcweti babe nokuhlangenwe nakho okuhluke kakhulu futhi kungenzeka ukuthi babe ngaphezu kozakwabo abamhlophe.)

Ukugoba ubuhle akuyona ubuhlungu. Yisihogo.

Kungathatha iminyaka emine uku-ayina okuyisicaba ngaphambi kokuthi ngingene ezweni elibi lama-relaxant amakhemikhali.

Ngisayikhumbula imvume yami yokuqala: ukubuka ukubuka kwami, ukumangala, ngenkathi ngigijimisa iminwe yami ezintanjeni zami ngaphandle kwesihibe esisodwa. Zase zingasekho iziphethu zasendle ezadubula ekhanda lami nasendaweni yazo, imicu ebushelelezi ngokuphelele.

Ngineminyaka engama-25 ubudala, ekugcineni ngase ngifinyelele ukubukeka engangikulangazelela kakhulu: okuvamile.

Futhi isikhashana, ngangijabule ngokweqiniso. Ngijabule ngoba bengazi ukuthi ngikwazile ukugoba ingxenye yomzimba wami ukuze ivumelane nezindinganiso umphakathi ozibeke "njengobuhle obuhle."

Ngijabule ngoba ekugcineni ngingagcina ngiya ocansini ngaphandle kokudonsa ukubuyisa izinwele zami ukuze ngingazizwa ngingathandeki. Ngijabule ngoba, ngokokuqala ngqa empilweni yami, abantu engingabazi bebengafuni ukuthinta izinwele zami - ngingaphumela obala futhi ngivele ngizihlanganise.

Iminyaka emibili nohhafu, bekufanele ukufaka izinwele zami ekuhlukumezekeni okukhulu futhi ngizwe ikhanda lami livutha futhi linwaya kusuka kumakhemikhali. Kodwa injabulo lapho itholakala ngokwenza okungajwayelekile ngokuvamile iba nemingcele yayo.

Uma ngibheka emuva, manje sengingachaza kuphela lokho okuhlangenwe nakho njengesihogo.

Ngifinyelele umkhawulo wami ngenkathi ngisebenza e-Abu Dhabi. Ngangisanda kuqala indima entsha ephephandabeni elikhulu lesifunda lesiNgisi futhi ngangisezindlini zangasese zabesifazane lapho ngizwa ozakwabo ababili bekhuluma. Omunye wayenezinwele zemvelo ezifanayo ncamashí nami futhi omunye wamtshela indlela izinwele zakhe ezibukeka zimangalisa ngayo.

Futhi wayeqinisile.

Izinwele zakhe zabukeka zingakholeki. Kwakuyisithombe sesibuko sezinwele zami zangaphambili: amakhoyili asendle, aqinile awela emahlombe akhe. Kuphela wayebonakala ekhululeke ngokuphelele uma kunaye.

Ngezwa igagasi lokuzisola lingishaya njengoba ngilandisa isikhathi namandla engangiwasebenzisile nginyanya yona kanye le nto engangiyithanda manje. Ngokokuqala ngqa empilweni yami, ngaphuthelwa ama-curls ami.

Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, ngizoqhubeka ngichithe iminyaka emibili nengxenye elandelayo ngikhulisa izinwele zami. Kuyavunywa ukuthi kunezikhathi lapho ngangilingeka ukuba ngibuyele ekuqondiseni amakhemikhali ngoba izinwele zami zazibukeka kabi kabi.

Kepha lokhu kukhula kwakungaphezulu kakhulu kokungokomzimba. Ngakho ngamelana.

Nginqume nokwenza umsebenzi wami wesikole ngokufunda amabhulogi ezinwele zemvelo. Nginabaningi balaba besifazane abahle engingababonga, kanye nabesifazane abaningi engiye ngenza izingxoxo nabo emphakathini, bonke abangisizile ngafunda ukunakekela izinwele zami.

Uma ngicabanga emuva kumuntu wami wangaphambili nokuthi bengizophendula kanjani kumazwana aqhathanisa ama-curls ami "nezinwele zangasese," ngiyazi ukuthi bengizokhathazeka.

Kepha ingxenye encane yami ibizobona ukuthi ukuphawula bekufanelekile - ukuthi ngandlela thile, ngoba angikwazanga ukuhambisana nezindinganiso zobuhle ezinqunyiwe, bekungifanele lokhu kubi.

Lokhu ukuqaphela okulimazayo.

Manje, noma kunjalo, kepha ukuphawula bekungalimazi kangako, ngisesikhathini lapho ngibona khona ngokucacile ukuthi ukukhetha kwabo amagama kwakungicindezela ekulindelweni kobuhle bomphakathi.

Ngokufunda ukungazinaki lezi zindinganiso ezinobuthi, ngiyakwazi ukukhipha amazwana afana nalawa - kusuka kwabanye nokuzithemba kwami ​​- futhi esikhundleni salokho, sengingakhululeka ngakho konke okwenza kimi, kimi, kusuka sh yami * tty lipstick ezinweleni zemvelo.

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