Izinzuzo Ezimangazayo Zokukhulelwa Kubhubhane

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• Kwakungafanele ngifihle isisu sami
• Akekho umuntu oqagela ukuziphatha kwami ​​okwesibili
• Ngingahlanza ekhaya lami (ngiyabonga kakhulu)
• Ukulala phakathi nosuku lwangesonto kungenzeka empeleni
• Akunasidingo sezingubo zokubeletha ezibizayo
• Ngingabukeka njengodoti oshisayo engiwuzwayo
• Ukuvakashelwa odokotela okusheshayo
• Akukho ukuhamba komsebenzi!
• Akukho okuthinta isisu noma ukuphawula komzimba
• Iseluleko esingacelwanga sokuba ngumzali
• Azikho izivakashi ezingafuneki zangemva kokubeletha
• Ama- $ avings !!
• Ukuthola isikhathi esithe xaxa nendodana yami ngaphambi kokuba umndeni wethu ukhule

Angifuni ukwehlisa izinkinga - kuningi. Kepha ukubheka ohlangothini olukhanyayo kungiholele kwezinye izinzuzo ezingalindelekile zokukhulelwa kobhadane.

Njengabesifazane abaningi abalindele, nganginombono ocacile wokuthi ngifuna ukukhulelwa kwami ​​kuhambe kanjani. Azikho izinkinga, ukugula okuncane kwasekuseni, ukulala okuhle ngaphambi kwesiphepho, futhi mhlawumbe i-pedicure njalo ngesikhashana. Kukholwe noma ungakukholwa, lowo mbono awufakanga ubhadane.

Selokhu kwaqhamuka izindaba zokuthi izwe lethu selizokhiyeka, wonke amaqembu omama engangibalindele ezinkundleni zokuxhumana aqhuma ngokukhathazeka. Futhi kufanele.

INew York ikhiphe izinto ingavumeli ngisho nabalingani ukuba bajoyine omama abazalela izingane egumbini lokubelethisa, futhi noma ngabe lokho kuguqulwa, izibhedlela eziningi bezinciphisa abalingani bokubeletha koyedwa, futhi zibathumela emakhaya ngemuva kwamahora ambalwa nje ngemuva kokubeletha.

Njengomama wesibili owenze lokhu ngaphambili, bengithembele kakhulu ku-doula wami nomyeni wami ukuthi bangidonsele futhi ngomsebenzi. Ngangingawuqondi nakancane umqondo wokuthi kufanele ngilulame ekuzalweni okunzima ngenkathi ngisebenza nengane ememezayo egumbini lesibhedlela elaliminyene ngokuhlanganyela ubusuku bonke ngaphandle komyeni wami eceleni kwami.

Kwakukhona nokukhathazeka ngokuthi abazali bethu bazobona nini umzukulu wabo omusha, noma ukuphepha kokuncika kubo ukusiza nendodana yami eneminyaka emibili emasontweni emva kokuzalwa.

Ngenkathi ukukhulelwa kufanele kube yisikhathi esimnandi esigcwele izithombe zokubeletha kanye nezincwadi zezindaba ezisikhumbuza ukuthi yisiphi isithelo ingane yethu esilingana naso ngosayizi, kwesinye isikhathi bengikhathazeka kakhulu ngokukhathazeka, ngiyakhohlwa uma kufanele.

Ukungisiza ngicindezele futhi ngithuthuke emasontweni okungaqiniseki okuzayo, ngenze umzamo owengeziwe wokufuna izinzuzo ezimangazayo zalesi sipiliyoni esingajwayelekile esisibizayo ukukhulelwa kobhadane.

Kwakungafanele ngifihle isisu sami

Uyazi ukuthi yini eyayiyinhle ngempela? Ukukwazi ukuvumela i-trimester yami yokuqala (esheshayo) ekhulayo iwele emhlabeni (kulungile, yindlu yami nje) ngaphandle kokuzwa isidingo sokuyifaka ku-Spanx noma ukuyifihla ngaphansi kwamajezi angakhanyi kuze kube yilapho sengikulungele ukutshela umhlaba ngomntwana ngisendleleni.

Ngokungafani nokukhulelwa kwami ​​kokuqala, wonke ama-trimester okuqala ngakwazi ukugqoka izingubo ezazinethezekile emzimbeni wami okhulayo, futhi ngingakhathazeki ngokuthi abantu bazoqala ukubeka ukubheja okuyimfihlo ukuthi ngabe ngilindele noma ngidla i-pizza eningi kakhulu.

Akekho umuntu oqagela ukuziphatha kwami ​​okwesibili

Uyazi ukuthi yini futhi ecasulayo ngokujwayelekile mayelana nendawo yokusebenza kanye ne-trimester yokuqala? Ukuhlala uza nezaba zokuthi kungani ungasebenzisi i-toast yokuphakanyiswa komuntu osebenza naye noma ukwenza isampula i-sushi lapho umenyelwa emicimbini nasemisebenzini.

Ngisho, hhayi ukuphuza iwayini lakho olithandayo noma ukuya kuleyo ndebe yekhofi yesibili ongathanda ukuba nayo umzabalazo wokukhulelwa kukodwa, okungenani ku-COVID-19 Life. Akudingeki ngizungezwe yisilingo (futhi ngiphoqwe ukuqamba amanga) njalo uma ngiseduze kwabangane noma engisebenza nabo ukuze ngigcine ukukhulelwa kwami ​​kusongelwe.

Ngingahlanza ekhaya lami (ngiyabonga kakhulu)

O, ukugula kwasekuseni… Yikuphi ukungaphatheki kahle okwanele okwenziwa kulimaze nakakhulu uma kwenzeka etafuleni lakho lama-cubicle.

Ungakwazi ukufaka "ubuthi bokudla" mbumbulu izikhathi eziningi kangaka, ngakho-ke kube kuhle ukukwazi ukuhlala eduze kwesihlalo sami sobukhosi sobumba kuze kube yilapho kudlula izimpawu.

Ukulala phakathi nosuku lwangesonto kungenzeka empeleni

Angazi noma i-juggle yomsebenzi wasekhaya neyomzali nengane encane, noma ukuthi ingabe ukukhathala okujwayelekile kokukhulelwa, kepha angibonakali ngilala ngokwanele. Ngokuzimisela, ngithola amahora aqinile we-9 futhi namanje ngokuyisisekelo i-sloth esingasebenzi ngesikhathi sokudla.

Ngomzimba wami osebenza isikhathi esengeziwe ukukhulisa umuntu, angikwazi ukusho ukuthi ngiyahlanya ngomqondo wokusebenza amahora amaningi "aguquguqukayo" ekhaya ngaphandle kwama-alamu okuqala ahamba ngo-5 ekuseni ekilasini noma ukuhamba kwehora.

Akunasidingo sezingubo zokubeletha ezibizayo

Landelela amabhulukwe? Hlola. Izikibha zikaHubby? Hlola. Ama-Slippers? Hlola kabili. Kwethulwa umsebenzi wakho omusha wasekhaya.

Ngokuzimisela, nokho, ekukhulelweni kwami ​​kokuqala ngachitha imali encane ngigqoka amalokwe amahle, amabhulukwe namahembe. Kepha ngokuvalelwa yedwa, ngikwazi ukusuka ezingubeni zami zobusuku ngiye ezingubeni zami zasemini futhi akekho ozohlakanipha kakhulu.

Akudingeki futhi ukuthi ngikhame izinyawo zami ezivuvukile ezibuhlungu ezicathulweni ezifanele ihhovisi. YEBO !!

Ngingabukeka njengodoti oshisayo engiwuzwayo

Angazi ukuthi lokhu kukhanya okuyimfihlakalo kukuphi lapho abantu belokhu bebhekisela khona, kodwa le ngane ikwenzile impela ubuso bami futhi angizange ngizihluphe ngokuyimboza ngokufihla isikhathi esingaphezu kwenyanga.

Ngokunjalo, izinwele zami zigezwa kanye ngesonto (ngaphambi kocingo lwengqungquthela yevidiyo) futhi izimpande zami zibukeka zingaphezulu komsila kune-ombre-chic.

Nezinzipho zami? Hawu mfana. Ngenze iphutha lokuthola i-shellac mani ebizayo esontweni ngaphambi kokuvalwa, futhi nginqume nje ukuthi ngizamazise iminwe yamaroon enezinhlamvu ezinkulu kanye nama-cuticles akhule kakhulu kusukela lapho.

Ngaphambi kwe-COVID, ngingahlehlisa, kodwa ngizizwa ngikahle ngokuba nokunethezeka kokubukeka ngicobekile njengoba ngizizwa.

Ukuvakashelwa odokotela okusheshayo

Ekukhulelweni kwami ​​kokuqala, ngangivame ukulinda kuze kufike emahoreni ama-2 ngemuva kwesikhathi sami sokubonana ukubona udokotela wami wokubelethisa. Manje? Konke kubekelwe umzuzu ukuze ngibonakale ngezikhathi ezithile ngemuva kokuhlala phansi (egumbini lokulinda elinomzimba / ngokwenhlalo). IBHONASI.

Akukho ukuhamba komsebenzi!

Ake silungise into eyodwa - kwangithatha amasonto ukuba ngidabuke ngokulahlekelwa uhambo lomndeni wami olubalele lwaseCalifornia maphakathi noMashi, ngakho-ke ngikuthanda kakhulu ukuhamba. Kepha ngomsebenzi? Ukudlula kanzima.

Akukho lutho olumnandi ngokundiza kabili ngosuku olulodwa ngaphandle komndeni wakho noma abangane, ukuze nje ufike endaweni ethile (ukhathele) wenze umsebenzi. Futhi lokho akubhekwa ngisho nokuvuvukala nokoma okuhambisana nezindiza ezikhulelwe. NGIKULUNGILE ukubona lezi zibopho zomsebenzi zihlehliswa unomphela.

Akukho okuthinta isisu noma ukuphawula komzimba

Noma ngabe kuyingxenye elindelekile, ejwayelekile, futhi emangalisayo yokukhulelwa, ukubuka umzimba wakho ushintsha ngokushesha kungakhathazi, futhi kubangele nokukhathazeka kwabesifazane abaningi.

Yize kungathathwa njengokungekho emthethweni futhi kube luhlaza ukuphawula ngokuthola isisindo sowesifazane - ungalokothi ukhathalele UKUKHATHALELA isisu sakhe - nganoma yisiphi esinye isikhathi sokuphila, ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ngasizathu simbe, yilokho nje abantu abakwenzayo!

Noma ngabe ukuphawula kusobala ukuthi kunencazelo enhle futhi ukuphuphuma kwesisu kuthiwa kuyathandeka, kungakwenza uzizwe uzenyeza nge-AF.

Angicabangi ukuthi ngiqaphele kaningi kangakanani ukuthi abantu bazophawula ngomzimba wami okhulayo ngize ngivele ngiyeke ukubona abantu empilweni yangempela, futhi lapho i-FaceTime noma i-Zoom engeli inginquma ngaphansi kwesifuba, abantu bavele bangalethi.

Yeka ukuthi kuhle kanjani ngabantu ukuthi bangangihloli umzimba ngawo wonke amathuba futhi babuke ubuso bami - hhayi isisu sami - lapho sikhuluma!

Iseluleko esingacelwanga sokuba ngumzali

Kulungile, kunjalo, umamezala wakho nomama bakho nakanjani ngisazokutshela ukuthi kungani bancelisa ibele, umsebenzi wabo ongenazidakamizwa, noma ukuthi ungayisongela kanjani ingane nge-FaceTime. Kepha ukuxhumana okumbalwa kobuso nobuso onakho, isikhathi esincane sokuthola izinkulumo ezincane ezingafuneki ngengane yakho engakazalwa.

Kwathi nje lapho ngicasha, ngayeka ukuzwa izinto ezinjengokuthi, “Oh ngiyethemba lena yintombazane!” noma "Udinga ukuqiniseka ukuthi indodana yakho ihlalisana kahle enkulisa ngaphambi kokuba ingane emibili ifike!" Manje, izikhathi ezimbalwa esinazo zokuxhumana nozakwethu, umndeni noma abangane zigcwele okwangempela esemthethweni izindaba (isb., hhayi ucansi lwengane yami engakazalwa).

Ukhulelwe noma cha, singavuma nje sonke ukuthi ukukhuluma okuncane okuncane kuyindlela enkulu yokuphila kwe-COVID?

Azikho izivakashi ezingafuneki zangemva kokubeletha

Impela, kithina esingabazali besikhathi sesibili noma sesithathu, ukungabi nabantu abaseduze ukujabulisa izingane zethu kanye nezingane ezindala kungumcabango okhungathekisayo. Kepha uma kukhona noma yiluphi uhlaka lwesiliva ekuhlukanisweni nomphakathi, kungukuthi unesizathu esisemthethweni sokugcina izivakashi ezingamukeleki zibe sezingeni eliphakeme kakhulu.

Ngenkathi ezinye izivakashi ziyazi imithetho engashiwongo yokuvakashelwa kwezingane ezisanda kuzalwa (isb.letha ukudla, imizuzu engama-30 noma ngaphansi, geza izandla zakho, futhi ungamthinti umntwana ngaphandle kokuthi utshelwe), abanye abanalo nhlobo ulwazi futhi bagcina sebewumsebenzi omningi ukujabulisa.

Ngaphandle kwengcindezi yokwamukela izivakashi, ungathola isikhathi esithe xaxa sokusondelana nengane yakho, isikhathi esithe xaxa sokuphumula noma ukuphumula nje, isibopho esincanyana sokugqoka, ukushawa noma ukugqoka “ubuso bakho obujabulile,” futhi ungathola nokuncelisa okushelelayo isipiliyoni (uma lokho kusezinhlelweni zakho).

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Okokuqala, ngibona ilungelo lami elikhulu lokuthi ngisaqhubeka nomsebenzi ngenkathi abanye abaningi emhlabeni bengenawo. Awekho amasu webhajethi angaqhathaniswa nokulahlekelwa okukhulu kakhulu ontanga yami ababhekene nakho njengamanje.

Kepha uma sizama ukugxila kokuhle kuphela, mina unayo yonge imali eningi ngokuvalelwa yedwa engasetshenziswa ekulahlekelweni komholo othile wasekhaya, kanye nezindleko zokuthola enye ingane.

Izingubo zokubeletha, ukubhucungwa ngaphambi kokubeletha, ukwelashwa kwe-pelvic floor okungafakwa umshwalense wami, ingasaphathwa eyomuthi wami ojwayelekile "wobuhle" - konke lokhu kufinyelela emakhulwini amadola afakiwe njalo ngenyanga.

Futhi ngenkathi izikweletu zami zokudla sezikhuphukile, imali engiyichithayo ekudleni iyancipha kakhulu njengoba ngingazange ngijabulise amaklayenti, ngiphume nge-brunch ngempelasonto, noma ngibuke umyeni wami e-oda ibhodlela elibomvu elibomvu ngoMgqibelo ebusuku.

Futhi, lezi zindleko ezingabalulekile ziyilezi ngokuphelele akwenele ukwedlula ukulahleka kwezezimali kwemindeni edilizwe ngenxa yomsebenzi, kodwa ngithola induduzo ngokucabanga ngezinto ezincane ezingasiza.

Ukuthola isikhathi esithe xaxa nendodana yami ngaphambi kokuba umndeni wethu ukhule

Kumele ngikutshele, ngenkathi ngisekhaya usuku lonke nsuku zonke ngingenankulisa, abangane engisebenza nabo, izinsuku zokudlala, noma izinhlelo kube yinselelo enkulu kithina sonke (indodana yami, ifakiwe), ngibona sengathi isikhathi esithe xaxa nomama nobaba umsizile ukuthi akhule.

Selokhu savalela, isilulumagama sendodana yami siqhume, futhi ukuzimela kwayo kungimangazile ngempela. Kubuye kwaba kuhle kakhulu ukuchitha leso sikhathi esengeziwe ngithanda emndenini wami omncane wabathathu ngaphambi kokushintshela kumndeni omatasa wabane.

Kungashiwo okufanayo ngabangane bami bomama bokuqala. Ungaphuthelwa ubusuku bakho bosuku lokudlela nomlingani wakho, kepha uma ukwahlukaniswa ngokuhlukile kungenzeka kukunikeze noma yini, kungcono kakhulu isikhathi esisodwa nobabili nomndeni wakho omncane.

Lalela, umphumela we-COVID-19 kubantu besifazane abakhulelwe kungenzeka ungakhanyi kangako. Ukukhulelwa sekuvele kuyisikhathi esibucayi kakhulu sokukhathazeka, ukudangala, ukungaqiniseki, ubunzima bezezimali, ukuhlolwa kobudlelwano, nokukhathala, futhi angikwazi ukuthi ngingu hhayi ngilwa nakho konke lokhu nokuningi. Kuyinto evamile futhi evumelekile ukuzizwa ngidabukile ukuthi lesi bekuyisandla esingenabulungiswa esiye sabhekana naso, ngakho-ke angisoze ngafuna ukunciphisa lolo lwazi.

Kepha ngibuye ngabona ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso lethu (elibi) isikhashana, futhi ngenkathi ama-hormone agasayo ekwenza kube yinselele, (kwesinye isikhathi) singakhetha ukuthi sizoyibhekisa kuphi imicabango yethu. Ngilapha ngiyazama Nginamandla okuqinisa ithemba elingeziwe nsuku zonke, futhi ngiqondise amandla ami ezintweni ezincane ezenza lesi simo sikhanye kancane.

Uma unenkinga ekukhulelweni kwakho, uhlukanisiwe noma cha, ukuthola injabulo encane nsuku zonke, khuluma nomhlinzeki wakho wezokunakekelwa kwezempilo mayelana nokuthola usizo oluthile (olubonakalayo).

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